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Building up complex suggestions from simple ones
Alright, so in the past Iâve written something outlining some of the basic kinds of suggestions that feature repeatedly in hypnoplay (here). Iâve also talked about combining those into more complex effects (here).
Now, Iâm generally one to have a lot of fun with those basic sorts of suggestions, I donât tend to try to go super complex with things. I generally view âcomplexâ suggestions more as combinations of the more basic things strung together anyways.
It is fun at times, however, to take an idea and just dive into it, and keep adding onto it, and building up the complexity of how you use it. So what I thought Iâd do, as a followup to those previous posts ages ago, is to write a few examples of doing this.
To be fair, Iâll probably end at things that you can do in one go if you wanted to anyways, but I just felt like itâd be fun to go through the steady process of doing something and then slowly adding onto it.
Letâs go!
Example #1:
Alright, Iâm going to do this a bit on the fly. Letâs start with a basic blank trigger. With that, we have a subject not really thinking about anything and just existing. Great starting point! XD
Where should we go with this? Well, an easy jumping point is to some sort of doll trigger, by adding looseness and limpness, an unwillingness to move, and focusing more on the passive observer nature of the blank trigger. So we have our subby-sub (sorry, Iâm gonna have fun writing this time :P) as a passive ragdoll when we want. This is already pretty nice, we can hold them, hug them, maybe grope if things are lewd and ok. ;P
Ok, maybe a limp ragdoll all the time isnât ideal. Not only do I not want them to flop everywhere, but having them standing could be useful. So letâs add in a way of doing it with a much harder freeze in place, but otherwise the same. We now have a statue! This is mostly transitionary that Iâm elaboring on because why not. Letâs us do the same things as before, but standing up rather than sitting/lying down.
Obviously, Iâd want to add in being able to pose our cute imaginary subby-sub here. So we add in suggestions that if we move their body itâll move, then stay in the new position, and that if we tell them to move theyâll do so as well. Bam, mannequin, essentially. I think the use is almost self-explanatory, stick them in all sorts of cute and/or sexy poses. ^.^
Next step! Well, we can change their poses now, so letâs also think about clothes. We could add in some programming into our mannequin trigger, thatâll cause them to change into a (specified) outfit, or hairstyle, or whatever, and then return to where they were beforehand. What use is a mannequin if you canât choose what clothes are on it, right? ;) At this stage weâre just adding options and complexity, to get more out of the original purpose of the first few stages of this.
Where to go from here? More actions programmed into our test subject? There are admittedly a ton of ways you can take doll-like suggestions. Make it less passive, and give them back a limited set of thoughts/ways of acting? Make it less blank, and into a bit of a brainwashing type thing, with limited thoughts, or mantras, or feelings going on?
Example #2:
Ok, this time letâs start from something way different, and more explicitly kinky. We have someone weâve just tied up.
First thingâs first, we zonk our test subject, and help them recreate the sensations of the rope (weâll assume rope) that we previously tied them up with. This could be pure sensation play as-is, but I think everyone knows where this is about to go!
Now, we add in the obvious freezing sort of suggestions in combination with the hypno-sensations of the rope. We can tie this to a trigger of us either describing where the rope is, or by touching them along where we want the sensations to be. Hypno-bondage! We can get rid of the rope now, we arenât going to use it anymore. Obvious uses are obvious, a few words or touches and you have a subby-sub who is effectively tied up! XD Now, Iâd break this into the steps of âphantom ropeâ, and then tying it into a trigger. But I wrote it like this and Iâm too lazy to change it so hah. :P
So what are we missing from our hypno-bondage, that we could do in physical bondage? Pull on the ropes, right? Well we can add that in! This is basically some form of hypno-puppeteering, having their body move in response to given stimuli. For example, a good YANK motion could make them feel as though theyâre being pulled towards you. This is just making the experience more complete, but also starts letting us do things that might be a bit difficult with the physical ropes, such as pulling their body in weird ways, without having to worry about injuries, or ropes moving or biting in.
Right, thatâs a pretty complete bondage experience! What can we add now? How about some mental bondage too? That when the rope trigger gets used, it starts limiting their thoughts, or awareness, or just makes their head go all fuzzy and drifty? This just lets us tailor our subby-subs experience to what we want it to be.
Where from here? Add more suggestions tailored to kink? Phantom impact play or such? Tailor it to supplement physical kinky play? Potential for handling brats during scenes where you want them to be able to move, but have some fun control over them? Start going really creative with it? Move from hypno-rope, to hypno-tentacles, or something more unusual, that you can only do via hypnosis?
So those are just two instances where I just went with an idea in a direction, and kept adding. Obviously those arenât the only ways you can take those starting points, or the only ways to get to those end points, but I more wanted to outline a thought process.
What Iâll point out, is each individual step in those examples was simple. Add a basic suggestion here, throw in some sensations or thoughts there, program in a set of actions when triggered. Even though the end result is potentially very complex, each step isnât.
That makes it both easier for you to do, because you arenât trying to do a million things at once, but Iâm sure it makes it easier on the subject as well, as they can get used to it bit by bit, and get more once theyâre no longer having to actively thing about responding to the previous parts. Not to mention, itâs fun experimenting and testing each step. XD
And thatâs it from me for now!
The fundamentals of hypnotising
One thing Iâve tended to notice is newbies tend to be pretty⊠I guess the word would be intimidated by the idea of trancing someone, often because it appears at first glance to be some huge and difficult and highly complex thing. Now thereâs some truth to that, thereâs a lot of info to learn, and you either have to delve into books, or learn scripts and go from there, and that makes it feel like thereâs a lot of memorisation to be had.
On the other hand, Iâve never really felt that itâs that difficult myself. Now, caveat as always, I had the weird intro of only having books to learn from for years before I got to zonk someone, so I knew everything by the time I did get to use it. But, what I personally feel gets lost in all the ways that are available for a newbie to learn how to hypnotise someone are the core fundamentals behind the technique, essentially.
I found that as I read stuff initially, it seemed daunting until a few core concepts clicked in my head, and suddenly it was easy as pie. And those arenât really explained well. Anywhere. So Iâll try to go through what I can think of as the core building blocks, including a few things that took actually doing it to figure out.
Everything you do has an effect: This is probably the biggest, most fundamental thing about anything to do with hypnosis and inductions, in my mind (âŠpun intended). Every little thing you can and will do, has an effect in your subjectâs brain. Most other things Iâll talk about are essentially just this in different ways, but in terms of learning, once you grasp that you can start looking at scripts, or files, or whatever, and just take them apart piece by piece and figure out what each little bit is trying to do to the subject, and you can slowly break down things from being big complex scripts, to little bits of intent and understanding. This alone makes everything easier to understand.
Inductions can be broken down: Going from there, the best way to illustrate that is with inductions. When starting out, you look at an induction script as a big thing to learn wholesale, and it can be daunting. But as you start to break it down it stops being as much. You can generally identify sections of setup, sections that do things, how those sections do things, bits of fluff, and then finally where it pulls everything together. Or to describe it another way, if I look at an induction Iâd generally identify the following things: Key components: These are what the induction is actually trying to do. Broadly, what is the induction doing on an overall level? For example, a lot of confusion inductions give the subject a task to do, to keep their mind busy, while the hypnotist then starts to slip things through and/or break that task/pattern. And then, what does each sub-section try to do? The Elman is the best example, where you have distinct sections that do completely different things, and so each have obvious aims and techniques you can figure out, but even in other inductions, you can figure out where things are being set up and so-forth. Pratter: A lot of inductions have pratter, i.e. bits where itâs basically âFill this in with hypnotic sounding phrases.â Often omitted a bit in scripts, this is where you essentially just improvise and go off of what your heart tells you to zonk them with. Confusion inductions and the countdown section of the Elman feature this a bunch, where youâre almost just filling in space/giving them more things to focus on. Weaving it into a cohesive whole: For more narrative inductions mostly, but thereâll also tend to be parts where the stuff isnât hypnotic, but itâs meant to pull everything together and make it interesting and engaging, or just for the purposes of making all the sub-sections of the induction flow into each other. I always found it far easier to learn inductions when I could figure out âOh, itâs doing this, then this, then this, then this.â and then sort of just have the skeleton in my head to work around, rather than try to memorise an entire script. And once you get the hang of it, understanding it at a fundamental level lets you start building and splicing and creating your own stuff.
Youâre often taking advantage of natural psychological/physiological processes: Thereâs parts of hypnosis where all youâre doing is inducing someone that happens in the brain or body naturally, and taking advantage of it, claiming you made it happen, and weaving it into whatever narrative youâre concocting. Eye fixations are the obvious example. Peopleâs eyes get tired when focusing or following something for a long period of time. So naturally their eyes will get heavy and harder to keep open. Funny how thatâs always a feature of fixation inductions, isnât it? :P
The image you create, the confidence you bring, the expectations you create all matter: The atmosphere you create, and all the things you do outside any hypno-play, matter too, hugely. Thereâs a reason we always drone on and on about faking confidence no matter what, and being optimistic about things not working and such. Half the battle is having the subject feeling like itâll work, and not being nervous or worried. So if they feel like you know what youâre doing, and if youâve talked to them before and made them feel safe, are all big things thatâll help. Iâll go into this a touch more in a second, but this is also where pre-talks and negotiating things properly really make a difference.
Work with your subject: Hypnosis isnât a crazy complex thing you have to get exactly right to work. Honestly, most of the work is done by the subject. My view, as a hypnotist, is Iâm just giving them the environment, security, and some loose guidance, to go into trance. If you get all of that, you can flub your induction to some pretty surprising degrees, and stuff have a hypnotised puddle regardless. Really! (With most subjects, at least.) This goes doubly for people who are very good/easy/experienced subjects, and especially people already familiar with hypnosis and hypnokink. Theyâll know what theyâre after, and maybe know how to get there already, or will get there without much effort. Hereâs where Iâll start going into more things I learnt through experience now. Let them fill in things for you, and work with what they give you. Be flexible. Imagery is the obvious example, but with suggestions too. You can give someone just a framework of how a suggestion or trigger will work, and youâd be amazed at how easily most minds will fill in the rest. Youâll get some cool results, and unexpected things too, and itâs where a lot of the fun in seeing how different people react comes from as well! And, get their input/ok on stuff. The more you get their mind on-board with what youâre doing, the easier itâll be. Iâve seen people talk about idiomotor responses for this, but Iâm blunt and direct, and I literally just take the approach of asking them âIs this ok?â, âDo you think you can do that?â and so-on. Especially with complex things, where me making them will probably involve confirming and checking in at every step.
Pratter: Ok, pratter and hypnotic language and phrasing and just speaking takes practice. No getting around it. Youâll find it takes practice to get your brain to keep up with your mouth, and to figure out what to say and when, and how to use language patterns and tricks like that. But not only that, hereâs where it ties in with point #1. Your pacing of speech, your choice in words, your speech, your delivery, can all have subtle effects in-of-themselves, and understanding what you can do with that, along with non-verbal cues and such are important too. You can get away with not knowing that stuff, and stuff will still work, but youâll notice it, and pick it up pretty quickly as you try stuff.
Ok thatâs enough from me. :P
Thereâs a bit of stuff thatâs maybe a touch more advanced than the fundamentals, but when I try to break down being a âtist to itâs absolute core, this is about what I get down to. Hope it helps!
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On Becoming a Skilled Subject -- hypnokink article by sleepingirl
Question: Do you think hypnosis requires skill on the part of the subject as well as the hypnotist? If so, how have you developed those skills?
Answer: Definitely. Iâve thought a lot about this question so strap in for this answer.
What Is a Skill?Â
Part of this question makes us talk about the idea of âskill.â What does it mean to be skillful at something? If someone is good at a sport, like volleyball, theyâre not just good at the âskillâ of volleyball. Theyâre good at an enormous amount of things â theyâre skilled at jumping precisely, theyâre skilled at diving on the ground without hurting themselves, theyâre skilled at aiming the ball in a certain way using their entire bodies, theyâre skilled at making snap judgments and analyzing various particular situations quickly, theyâre skilled at communicating briefly and loudly and effectively, theyâre skilled at having a particular awareness of others. Much more, too, and you could even further break down these skills into minutia. We sort of know what makes someone âgoodâ at volleyball, in a physical and mental sense. There are drills that get practiced to make those things easier, more comfortable, and performed unconsciously, to a degree.
So, what does it mean to be skillful at being a subject? On the surface, it might be easy to say things like âresponding easily to phenomenaâ and âbeing able to achieve amnesiaâ. And those are worthwhile goals, but maybe they are sort of missing the point, and we need to dig deeper.
Letâs look again at that last idea in volleyball. Practices are held and drills are done so that all of the variety of skills involved become more effortless, in a sense. When folks talk about subject skills, sometimes they are thinking about things the subject can do consciously, like to be active and âhelpâ when they are in trance. In reality, the goal of becoming âskilledâ at something implies a level of whatâs called âunconscious competence,â based on a theoretical model of four stages of becoming proficient at something. At first, we are unskilled at the act, and we do not necessarily understand why. Then, we learn what we are doing wrong, but lack the experience to fully fix it. Eventually, we grow competence in the area, but have to do so with concentration and effort. Finally, when we become an expert in something, we can perform effortlessly, without thinking about it. Unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, and unconscious competence.
In hypnosis, it is not just part of the goal that we become able to do an enormous variety of things without exerting effort â that in and of itself IS a goal. As hypnotic subjects, we very much want to feel like we arenât âdoing thingsâ consciously. So perhaps on some level, the idea of becoming a skilled subject is about becoming unconsciously competent at an enormous variety of things, including the very skill of being able to detach oneself from a feeling of âeffort.â This can be described in a lot of different ways â for some folks, that is the quintessential or idealistic feeling of trance, or others may describe it as being in flow or âin the zone,â or a variety of other ways that we may discuss it.
We talked about how in volleyball, coaches and players over time have come up with different methods and techniques to train all sorts of skills. The interesting thing is that there are some commonalities between how some teams practice and teach these actions, but also quite a bit of variety. âSettingâ is a key component of a volleyball match â one player has a job of âsetting upâ an attack or spike, usually in a particular way that involves that player using both hands outstretched above their head to essentially catch and throw the ball in a very fast, precise way that doesnât break the rule of holding the ball for too long. This simple task is quite difficult, and has an enormous amount involved in it: Planting oneâs body, keeping knees slightly bent, training eyes on the ball, tilting the hands back at the right angle so that all fingers come into contact at approximately the same time, having give in the wrists to allow it to spring up.
Different coaches may approach all of these skills using many different methods. Some coaches may use metaphor/analogy to teach â âThe hands are like a little trampoline, not stiff but taut and bouncy.â Maybe other coaches use different comparisons, like a cradle, or a basket. Many practices focus on repetition as a way to train to be able to control the ball, but the form that those drills take differs, perhaps between setting against a spot on the wall, setting to a player, setting as high or low as possible, setting while in different positions. There is such a large variety of drills, and each drill trains unique skills for unique scenarios. Players may benefit distinctly from each other; one player may need to work on how they plant their feet while anotherâs wrists are too stiff. Good coaches adapt to fit the needs of the player, cycling through methods and metaphors to find the ones that click and allow the player to progress through the stages of learning.
Skill in Hypnosis
This is all relevant when it comes to hypnosis. Different hypnotic âskillsâ are required, and itâs all about finding something that works for the individual subject. Letâs look at the idea of trance in general. The skill of âgoing into tranceâ is immensely complex, and not as easily broken down as a more physical act like in a sport. To some degree, as a subject, one of the most helpful things we can do is learn more about the nature of hypnotic response and figure out the ways that we process it and break that down a little bit, find what might be tripping us up, find what patterns work for us. It should be noted that it is complicated to discuss specific patterns in a format like this; it is essentially being suggestive about what can be helpful, and there is no real way to avoid that, so weâll proceed by just simply being aware of that.
So what does it mean to go into trance? One way of looking at this might be the idea of a subject experiencing some sort of change in perception or cognition, and the act of noticing that. Newer subjects often struggle with knowing whether or not they are in trance, not because they arenât, but because just like an athlete, they donât have the muscle memory down of what it feels like to be in an altered âstate.â While on one level you can approach this as being about the little, individualized things that happen (for example, eye fluttering, changes in muscle form in different parts of the body, cognitive changes, etc), on another, itâs about the ability to recognize them. So one model of working on the skill of going into trance is about training oneself to look for those signs, being able to do a body scan and see physical changes, being able to recognize shifts of internal perspectives and cognitive response.
Another element to this is that effective hypnosis has a large component of being convincing; that is, it is about âsellingâ the response to the subject. If we, the subjects are questioning, âAm I in trance?â we want the answer to be yes. Thereâs a few ways that this can play out if we dig into our responses. A subject who is struggling with feeling trance may be questioning reflexively, over and over, and finding that they are unsure, or feeling like the answer is simply âno.â Recognizing that this is what is happening allows us tools to be able to change that. Just like in volleyball, there are plenty of approaches you can take to train all of the different aspects associated with this. Perhaps you want to practice increasing awareness on your questioning, and very actively tell yourself, âYes, I am in tranceâ whenever you feel it happen. Perhaps you want to go a step further by training yourself to repeatedly think an affirmatively-trancey mantra, like âI am deep in trance.â Perhaps you want to distract yourself from questioning by giving yourself other focal points, like training yourself to recenter on the way your eyes feel whenever you feel wandering. Perhaps you want to try to drown out your own internal monologue by âreplacingâ it with the hypnotistâs voice.
There are many different tricks you can use, and all of these become individual skills that will eventually build muscle memory. To recap this model (which is one of many): Identify which goals and skills you desire to build as a subject, attempt to break that down into a variety of components and approaches based on your personal process and any roadblocks you find, try to find some specific tricks and ways to teach yourself lasting, effortless patterns.
Letâs look at another example: Hallucinations. First, letâs make this manageable and talk about kinesthetic hallucinations specifically. Perhaps itâs helpful to identify a specific scenario where you feel like you needed more work; a hypnotist was suggesting sexual feelings to you, and you felt like you failed in some way. That feeling of âfailureâ can be a frustrating one, and common, so one way you might approach this is attempting to reframe that failure as a success to yourself. Look at the situation from another perspective: Did you really feel absolutely no change, or just not the exact sensations? Did you have sexual thoughts, or did you feel excited by the suggestion? Was there an ebb and flow of response instead of something consistent? Did your focus shift to a specific part of your body to âcheck?â These are all responses or shifts, and should be acknowledged.
This skill of reframing is very useful to us as subjects, and can be applied in almost any scenario. Again, itâs the action of noticing and then accepting that act as valid that is valuable, and especially as a process that becomes unconscious. Become skilled at ânoticing,â and then translate that act of noticing to recognition that something is happening, therefore success. By practicing this, you will develop a muscle memory, and you can even further it by accepting a growing feeling of amazement at your own responses. âHow will I respond next? What interesting thing will I notice next? I canât wait! Hypnosis is crazy!â
But how can we more specifically train physiological responses? Well, there might be something to be said for the idea that becoming more familiar with a sensation allows us to more easily recreate it. Letâs narrow our focus down to a suggestion of arousal. Perhaps learning how to become aroused upon suggestion makes us curious about what makes us aroused in other scenarios. Are there specific thoughts that pop up, either precipitating that feeling or following it? Is there something your body does? Does that change based on your situation? As a subject, learning how you experience arousal in many different scenarios allows you to key into aspects of it that you can use while in a trance situation. If you know about how to pair responses Ă la conditioning, great! Maybe thatâs an approach you take, where you look at how you respond and begin to associate it with easily accessible things, like listening in a certain way or shifting focus. This gives you the ability to make that reflexive over time.
âItâs Happening TO Meâ
Itâs important we acknowledge something about the desire to respond hypnotically â oftentimes, as subjects, we donât want to feel like weâre the one leading or controlling our actions. So how does this coalesce with actively training our own skills?
One trick you can use is latching onto experiences, tips, or suggestions that youâve seen elsewhere or experienced. If youâre able to create a feeling that what youâre doing is because of someone else, it can lighten that feeling of responsibility or even effort. For example, you can reframe your practice as a service to your hypnotist, current or next. For another, you could remember something particularly potent that someone said once â like, âThat feeling of depth is just like floating weightlessly, and yet your body is so heavy, pulled down at the same timeâŠâ Recalling trances and utilizing spaces and thought patterns youâve already been in can be effective practice, and allows you to associate your skill with a force outside of yourself, if thatâs something you need. Even using ideas you find elsewhere, for example in this essay or others, can be called upon as a way to distance yourself from the action of the process.
Warming Up and Attention
One last thing worth talking about for now is the idea of âwarming up.â We know that learning skills takes time and practice. But we also know that our ability at something is dependent on a lot of factors â how weâre feeling that day, how long itâs been since we last did it, etc. Itâs normal to go through cycles with skills, and the model leading to unconscious competence shouldnât be seen as a static one; we will shift through it in many ways over time.
We can even see this in specific scenes. Oftentimes, weâre familiar with the need to warm up in a scene, and that can take a lot of forms. Sometimes thatâs about the feeling of connection or rapport. Sometimes itâs about achieving a particular feeling of depth. This can easily be discussed as a skill in and of itself, but it also speaks to an aspect of subjectsâ skills that places the focus on another person.
Feeling âwarmed upâ is something that can happen as an individual act, but it also relies heavily on the synthesis of both partners. When one partner gets âin the zone,â it usually creates a space that is welcoming for the other to get there, too. Attentiveness itself, feeling it and expressing it in different ways, is a universal skill in hypnosis, applicable to both hypnotists and subjects. This is so much about communication in all forms, verbal and nonverbal. Being able to show attentiveness is a very hypnotic thing. As subjects, itâs one of the best things we can do to become an active participant in our scenes.
This has much to do with learning the language and grammar that you share with your partner. Not necessarily parroting their speech, but more generally about how they respond and how they communicate to you, and your awareness on that. It may have to do with a change in your body language or tone, eye contact, or specific language use. A little bit of self-awareness at times when you feel very much âin the right spaceâ with your partner (or even a script or file) can be very telling. Becoming skilled at giving attention in different ways can be a method for you as the subject to warm up â it precedes and facilitates a connective experience â and can be very inviting for the hypnotist, which is something that we desire.
In Closing
There are many, many skills that go into being a hypnotic subject, and they are things we can work on and practice. But some of that comes down to how we process our own experiences and frame them, as well as how we learn little tricks to help us along our journeys. It is a constant process of growth and learning, and paying attention to our own responses and the responses of our partners.
This is a very brief look into what might be helpful in becoming skillful at being hypnotized. It also hopefully highlights the need to have these conversations openly when we can â to understand what others do to âpracticeâ and how trance works and is experienced. Be cognitive about your process as a subject and enjoy the rewards of progressing; the simple feeling of being âgoodâ at something is one of the best things there is, and so much of our skills as humans apply in how we interact in trance.
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I hope you enjoyed this piece â it was born out of an anonymous question I received on CuriousCat that I wanted to answer in depth! I had a lot of fun working on it and easily could have gone another few thousand words, but wanted to leave it manageable. You can also find this article in PDF readable form for free (+donation if you like) at my gumroad.
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I have your focus now. Your full attention is now with me, in my words, in my instructions, whispering into you into nothingness and you can feel so deliciously agreeable. How that makes you quiver inside now and how when I tell you to relax. How you started to feel sleepy, the relaxation is so strong and you have no more worries and you crave this close intimacy that youâre starting to drop deliciously deeper.
Your Brain On Hypnosis
The diagram shows that under hypnosis, different parts of the brain are stimulated. Hypnosis can open your mind and lead you to different perspectives. If youâre interested in hypnosis, follow Hypnotism Pro
fun facts
The More You Know!
This making all the rounds, but itâs utterly fascinating.
This is very cool, but it drives me crazy when they donât include the citation! A diagram like this by itself has as much validity as one of those inspirational memes. But I think I found the paper! And itâs a very cool one!
Cojan, Y., Waber, L., Schwartz, S., Rossier, L., Forster, A., & Vuilleumier, P. (2009). The Brain under Self-Control: Modulation of Inhibitory and Monitoring Cortical Networks during Hypnotic Paralysis. Neuron, 62, 862-875.
https://medweb4.unige.ch/labnic/papers/YC_SS_PV_NEURON2009.pdf
âŠheepnosis is reeeeeal <3
Reminds me, I need to read that paperâŠ
Thank you, deeperforme.
Things to Do With Your Submissive â Even if Theyâre Far Away:
Source: consensualdominance.com
Control
1. Require Them to Ask Permission
Want to foster a sense of subordination in your partner and give them a regular reminder of your control over them? Pick some simple thing that they do often, and require them to get your permission before theyâre allowed to do it. Classic choices include permission to get into bed for the night, permission to masturbate, or permission to use the bathroom.
Theyâll feel your control in a very present way every time they ask, and it creates regular points in your day-to-day routine at which itâs convenient to insert more dominance if you so choose: âBefore you get into bed, I want you toâŠâ
Give some thought to how frequent and how urgent the requests will be. Permission to get into bed happens once a day, at a relatively predictable time, and probably isnât a crisis if you donât respond for an hour. Permission to pee requires more consistent availability and a faster response time from you. One simplifying option is to make the rule fail-open: tell them that if they ask and donât get a response from you in some set amount of time, they may consider themselves to have permission.
2. Teach Them a Position
Attracted to the idea of training your partner? Want a way for them to put their discipline and devotion on display? Choose one or more precise postures to train them to adopt on command. There are lots of position guides available online if you want inspiration.
Having each posture be precise is important. Even if thereâs no practical reason why you care exactly where they place their hands when they kneel, picking one option and enforcing it gives them an opportunity to show their devotion through their willingness to pay attention and learn how to do it right. Once they have learned it, it gives them a more intense feeling of control, by getting to arrange their body exactly according to your instructions with little room for interpretation or judgment on their part.
So think about each body part and decide exactly how it should goâthe feet must be exactly so far apart, the head must be facing like so, the back arched or straight or bowed. Write it down so you donât forget, and then make them practice until they can put every part of their body under your control with a single word from you.
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Nurture
3. Help Them Change a Habit
Want to watch your partner improve themselves under your guidance? Ask them about habits theyâd like to change or improve. Pick one to work on, have them come up with a plan to change it, and then help hold them accountable to their plan.
Accountability could mean a system of rewards and punishments, or could be as simple as their just being required to report their progress to you every week. Knowing that youâre going to have to account for yourself to your dominant later can be a powerful motivator to resist temptation and do what you know you ought to do.
If it fits within the scope of your relationship it is, of course, possible to pick the goal or make the plan yourself, rather than letting your partner make those decisions. I said I was going to keep these ideas simple, though, and being the enforcer for a goal and plan that your partner chose is definitely the simplest approach. It tends to minimize resistance, and make it more likely that the plan is something thatâs realistic for your partner to achieve.
4. Require Them to Practice Affirmations
Maybe there isnât a particular habit that you want to change, but youâd like for them to feel your dominance as a generally uplifting presence in their life. Choose or create an affirmation (âI possess the qualities I need to succeed,â âI overcome my fears,â âI love and approve of myselfâ) and require them to repeat it out loud as part of their morning routine.
The theory with affirmations is that saying positive things aloud will help remind someone to think more positively. Having an affirmation that comes from you will also remind them that you think positively of them, and are rooting for their success.
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Service
5. Make Them Your Personal Shopper
Want to have your partner be practically useful to you even when you canât be together? Give them a budget and a shopping list and let them do the tedious parts of reading reviews, comparing options and placing orders.
This service becomes more valuable the better they get to know your preferences, and it can be wonderfully satisfying for both of you to watch them get better and better at fulfilling your needs with less and less direction from you.
Depending on your dynamic, you could use them just to shop for sexy, kinky purchases or for your regular everyday needs. Having them handle shopping for the toys, barriers, lube, etc, that youâre going to use on them can create a special anticipation. Having them shop for supplies youâre going to use for dates with someone else can be a juicy exercise in objectification.
6. Make Them Your Event/Vacation Planner
Most of us assume that making plans is the dominating partnerâs job, but it doesnât always have to be. If you have an upcoming night on the town together, a vacation, or just a free weekend day, you can give your partner some guidelines (âI want to be outside while itâs light out,â âSushi,â âSomewhere I havenât been beforeâ) and tell them to plan something youâll enjoy.
Planning the details of kinky playtime usually is best kept in your own hands, but you can just give them a time to block out for that (âhave us back to the hotel by seven so that I can enjoy you in privateâ).
Even if you arenât going to have an opportunity to enjoy time together, they can still plan a trip or a day of pampering just for you, researching things they know youâll enjoy and handling the bookings and reservations.
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Objectification
7. Prescribe Their Grooming and Appearance
Want to keep your partner reminded that their body is your possession? Dictate how they make it look. Make their hairstyle and shaving choices for them. Dictate their hygiene and beauty products, or their what kind of clothes they wear. Instruct them on which and how much of each they are to use for different circumstances.
The more specific and ritualistic your requirements, the more theyâll feel like your doll every time they get ready to leave the house.
8. Take Away Their âIâ
Do you have a partner whoâs really more of a plaything than a person? Want to rub it in? Forbid it from using âI,â âme,â or its own name in private communications with you. Have it refer to itself as something like âyour propertyâ or âthis fuckdoll,â and use the pronoun âit.â
Adopting and remembering to use a new form of self-address can take some practice, so this can also provide a fine excuse for discipline as you train your property to speak correctly.
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Devaluation
9. Make Them Write Degrading Things on Their Body
Want to keep your partner squirming throughout the day? Have them use permanent marker (red Sharpie is my favorite) to write messages theyâll find degrading on their own flesh. For an extra edge, have them place the writing where it will be just barely covered by their clothing; so they walk through the world knowing that plain evidence of what a âfilthy pigâ or piece of âcheap trashâ they are is hidden just below the collar of their shirt.
For many people itâs especially intense to have to choose the exact wording themselves, rather than having it dictated by you. âWrite the wretched truth about yourself across your chest before you come see me tonight,â can be a powerful head trip for your partner, and both entertaining and enlightening for you.
10. Make Their Masturbation Dirty
Have a partner whoâs hot for the dirty and disgusting sort of devaluation? Want to make them dirty even when you arenât with them? Tell them that theyâre only allowed to masturbate when sitting on the toilet, or with a pair of your dirty underwear stuffed in their mouth, or with a paper bag over their ugly head. For harsher and more restrictive control, tell them they have to be in a gas station bathroom.
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Conquest
11. Challenge Them
Want to capture the feeling of wrestling for dominance, even when youâre far out of grappling distance? Create dares or challenges between the two of you, with the loser having to pay a forfeit of submission. Who can hold their hand over a candle flame the longest? Who can get the best time or most steps on their fitness tracking app this week? Who can hold off cumming the longest while you talk dirty with one another over the phone?
If you have the kind of conquest dynamic where one party is always the conqueror, stack the challenges in their favor. If you love the uncertainty and the genuine competition of really fighting for control, make the odds more even and let the spoils go to the victor.
Love all of these!
Sadly, body writing is a hard limit for me. Oooo! Maybe some kind of symbol I can get away with for body writing!
I hadnât thought of that loophole....
âIâm finally going to write! I have a great idea!â
LAUGHS LOUDLY
OK but like⊠first sentences donât have to be there forever. I cannot begin to count the number of times Iâve started a story like:
And just write the ideas down until the story starts to shape itself. Then when youâre ready, go back and delete everything before the point where the story actually starts.Â
Writing yourself into an idea is a time-honoured technique, and it works.Â
good advice
the best foreplay starts with the mindâŠ
art by Sleepystephbot!
And now Iâm wet.
I came across @mylockedcollarâs blog yesterday, and using collars as triggers sure seems appealing. Mmmm.
Using collars as triggers and anchors is a great idea that I would really love to popularize! The wonderful thing about locking a suggestion to an article of clothing (âcollarâ is the suggested one here, but you can use a ring or a bracelet or anything that provides a recognizable sensation when donned) is that it provides a clear and bright distinction for the conscious and subconscious mind between their normal waking state and the state you want to induce.
So letâs say you want someone to be a dolly, and in that dolly state you want them to be poseable and vacant and totally thoughtless. Thatâs a state you donât want them to enter accidentally, and you donât want them to be stuck in after the scene is done. So by giving them a âdolly dressâ, and telling them that putting it on makes them a doll and taking it off makes them a human again, youâre setting clear and specific boundaries around the scene that they can recognize. And unlike a verbal trigger, it requires action and volition on their part, so thereâs very little chance of miscommunication on the question of âam I in the mood to become a doll right now?â
Plus, because itâs an anchor thatâs locked to the dress, and one that the subject has to participate in activating, itâs a lot safer to let it be something that works with other people. Someone might reuse a trigger without your permission once youâve told them what it is, but itâs awfully hard to force someone to try on clothing.
Anchors are great safety suggestions for play, and I encourage them strongly! (And a tip of the hat to @daja-the-hypnokitten for evangelizing them long and loud throughout the great hypnokink community!)
Great additions!
Types of Erotic/Kinky Hypnosis Play â A Rough (or Gentle) Starter ListâŠ
**I wrote this for our local Chicago hypno kink group, The Mesmer Group, to help introduce newcomers to our kink, but I figured it might be of interest to others and start some interesting conversations and discussions.
Iâve been half-thinking about these topics for years, but only started writing them down a few days ago, so this is a very rough, first-thoughts list â Iâm wide open to others helping add to, correct, enhance, or otherwise improve this starter list.**
Over the years people new to erotic hypnosis have asked, âWhat is it, and what do you DO with it?â and itâs gotten me thinking about some VERY general, broad-stroke ways we might start to present the possibilities.
This is, of course, a very personally subjective starting point, and open to endless discussion, adjustment, and editing. Naturally my own tastes and experiences led the way â Iâve tried to include as many types and examples as I could think of, but I know thereâs plenty I donât know, and types of play Iâm much less familiar with. And probably some whole areas Iâve completely overlooked.
On any given day, imaginative, creative hypno-kinksters are coming up with new and exciting ways of exploring and playing that donât fit neatly into these simple categories below â and these ad hoc categories themselves are open to interpretation, evolution, change, even removal and replacement. Also there are tons of ideas and examples that will fall under several categories â itâs all very fluid and flexible. If you see ways this core list of 10 categories could be changed or improved, please let us know.
Not everything below is recommended for beginning hypno explorers â some of it is very advanced in technique, risk, or both. And obviously, as hypno kinksters, everything we do should be safely negotiated and consensual under SSC, RACK, or whatever consent and safety paradigm you and your play partners adhere to.
SOME TYPES OF EROTIC HYPNOSIS PLAY
Body / Physical Effects
Physical and sensory manipulation; physical arousal; sensitivity or numbing of body parts; manipulation or control or creation of erogenous zones; tickling, vibrations, pain, pleasure, shocks, invisible touching; sensual connection; sensory deprivation or heightening; freezing; breath play; drug play; massages; adding, enhancing, augmenting body parts; Hands Free Orgasms; and so much moreâŠ
Mind / Mental Effects
Amnesia and memory play (could honestly have itâs own whole separate category); IQ play, including reduction and enhancement; creating new fetishes; creating fixations or obsessions; personality changes; lowered inhibitions or increased exhibitionism; altered perceptions; confusion; mental arousal or desires; Hands Free Orgasms.
Emotional Effects
Creating or enhancing strong emotions such as love, hate, fear, joy, etc. Deepening (or weakening) emotional connections. Obviously, this category flows through nearly every other category.
Transformation play
Personality changes (including lowered inhibitions or âslut/studâ); corruption and innocence; turned into a doll, toy, bimbo, animal, robot, drone, etc; turned into inanimate object, including clothing or furniture or rock, tree, water; feminization, masculinization, sissification, butchification; age regression.
BDSM
Heightening, enhancing, or controlling physical BDSM play, used in conjunction with physical BDSM toys and tools; or creating BDSM-related physical sensations entirely in the mind without actual physical tools; bondage, rope, impact, sharps; heat, shock; creating, enhancing, or intensifying feelings of submission or dominance (or rapidly switching between the two); service play, including pet and pony play.
Control
Could be folded into BDSM under Dominance: controlling a partner physically, mentally, and/or emotionally, with things like restrictions, compulsions, triggers (post-hypnotic suggestions), mantras. Includes removal of will, increasing obedience, worship, limiting behavior or options. Controlling someone with a remote, music or sounds, pieces of clothing or accessories. Also could include consensual non-consent (CNC) play.
Role playing or storytelling
Creating fictional scenarios and characters to act out fantasies covering nearly everything imaginable. Common examples include things like historical, fantasy, science fiction, workplace, classroom, domestic, religious scenarios; service (maid, butler, admin assistant, etc); rituals, vampires, monsters, demonic possession, cults; science or medical experiments; kidnapping and interrogation scenes. Can also include the creation of mental storytelling âjourneysâ that involve taking a subject on an erotic journey of the mind into alternate worlds.
Edge play
A catch-all for various types of play from other categories, pushed to extremes. Might include brainwashing, total mind erasure, gaslighting, love/hate play, hardcore interrogation and torture. Also might include things like intense fear play, pain play, and body horror involving physical extremes (legally) possible only through hypnosis.
Energy play
Iâm not as knowledgeable about this type of play, but I wanted to include the category to encourage others to share their experiences and examples. Could include the exchange, boosting, altering, sharing, or even siphoning of erotic life or soul energy. I welcome better, more informed or more specific examples.
Relaxation
While possibly still erotic, focusing more on states like bliss, blank and mindless, body relaxation, melting or empty mind, etc â sort of a mental âspa treatment.â
NOW⊠What am I forgetting, missing, or mis-categorizing?
Great info here. Thanks for this, @sebsteerpike!
On Double Binds (A Hypnokinky Article by sleepingirl)
Many are familiar with the concept of âdouble bindsâ either inside or outside of the hypnosis world â even if not by name. There is the well-known example of something like, âWould you like to do this now, or later?â which highlights one aspect of double binds â creating the illusion of choice between two options while underplaying any others. However, as weâll explore, double binds and binds in general are both more complex and more broad than is described by a âthis or thatâ sentence.
In this essay, weâll aim to explore double binds in depth â including their origins, the various perspectives on their applications, and examples of how to be versatile with them â to further our use of them as hypnokinksters. Letâs explore.
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This is really the main thing you need to know about a house before you buy.
(Forgive me a moment of former-lawyer nerdity - there is in fact a famous NY court case, Stambovsky v. Ackley, in which the plaintiff bought a house and only later found out it was supposedly haunted. He then sued the former owner, wanting to undo the sale. Youâd think the former owner could just go, âpffft, no, thereâs no such things as ghosts,â right? But no! Theyâd previously given newspaper interviews saying they believed in the ghost, which meant they were estopped from denying the ghost now, which meant â the judges declared, settling in for a long deliberation â the house was haunted as a matter of law. They let the plaintiff out of the sale. This is all 100% true.)Â
JO!
Iâve reblogged this picture before but not with the story of the legally-haunted house attached to itâŠ
okay, so not only is this way legit, but the courtâs majority opinion was FULL OF GHOST PUNS, thus elevating this to the Greatest Thing Ever To Happen.
first of all can we deal with the greatest sentence ever written by any judge since the beginning of time:
âas a matter of law, the house is hauntedâ
and that is not even touching the puns
âno divination is required to conclude that it is defendantâs promotional effortsâŠwhich fostered the homeâs reputationâ
âplaintiff hasnât a ghost of a chanceâ
âi am moved by the spirit of equityâ
âapplying caveat emptor to a contract involving a houseâŠconjures up visionsâ
âlest the subject of the transaction come back to haunt him and his clientâ
âthe notionâŠis a hobgoblin which should be exorcised from the body of legal precedent and laid quietly to restâ
and then this motherfucker quotes hamlet
âpity me not but lend thy serious hearing to what i shall unfold (william shakespeare, hamlet, act i, scene v [ghost])â
and ghostbusters
âa very practical problem arises with respect to the discovery of a paranormal phenomenon: âwho you gonna call?ââ
god bless that judge
god bless
holy shit this is a real thing
Iâm a big fan of âThe parties are advised to chillâ myself.
@hypno-sandwich
Always Ask before Drop
As you have seen with my previous trance with @hypnomindstorm. I asked for permission to drop her with a drop command. This is very important for a session.
There is a lot of different things that can go wrong if you just jump into a session. Always making sure that the subject is safe and aware that you are about to drop them is very important.
Also if a drop command is there. First make sure that only you can use it. Second make sure that the subject understands that the command to work they need to feel safe. Lastly always ask before you use the command.
Be safe and aware
Thank you readers
Librarian Amanda
We all know it's fun to drop someone or be dropped unawares (provided you have that kind of dynamic/blanket consent). But hypnotists, you need to ask your subject what they're doing before just triggering a drop. Not every brain has safety measures preventing them from dropping when they are unsafe or uncomfortable. If you drop someone in front of their family, or while they are operating heavy machinery, you are creating some terrible consequences that they will have to deal with. While some of us hypnosubs fantasize about being brainwashed and ruining our lives, I'm pretty sure we don't want our relatives institutionalizing us, or to total our cars and potentially harm ourselves and others because you couldn't ask a simple, "wyd?"
Just. Fucking. Ask. I'd rather be safe than dead, wouldn't you?
I love this too much.
