[quotefeeling]

“Some people have been hurt in their past. So don’t just tell them you love them, show them why they should believe.”

— Charles Orlando

[fragile-limbs]

Solace // Counterparts

[beardedmrbean]

[theman]

I GOT A FUCKING RAISE THE POTATO WORKED WTF

[tattooedzombigirl]

This potato works. Every. Fucking. Time.

[beezelblub]

Bless me with thy potato luck my lord

[aceofheartsssss]

pleaseee help meeee potato lmao everything feels like shittt latelyyy

[zexox]

[babbyygirrrl]

Honestly, I think my problem is that I love too hard. I'm too available, too giving, and too loyal. I need to learn to match the other person's energy and not overdo it.

[deseos-de-la-via-lactea]

source

[cute-catts]

For God's sake, what an adorable cat 🐈

[introvertsnation]

[thoughtkick]

“A quiet mind is able to hear intuition over fear.”

— Unknown

[only-cat-memes]

[braindamaged007-deactivated2024]

[superbabymethod]

serving gunt

[weyounpussyindulgence-deactivat]

It’s her….The Binch

[swforester]

The old grave in the approaching darkness. Mahaiwe Cemetery, Great Barrington MA 12/31/30

[magicbonesjones]

I'm ready 🎃🍂🥮🍁

[dies-irae-et-mortis]

Gothic skeleton moodboard, made for undead kins like myself. 💀

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“The saddest thing about betrayal is it never comes from your enemies.”

— Unknown

[thoughtkick]

“The most important day is the day you decide you’re good enough for you. It’s the day you set yourself free.”

— Brittany Josephina

[tockthewatchdog]

loved one: i have a problem

me a machine built to solve problems: great here’s the solution

loved one: im so fucking emotional about the problem

me: i have the solution

loved one: i get so angry. i’m frustrated

me: i am holding the solution in my hand and showing it to you

lloved one, yelling now: the universe is indifferent

me: solution

[aeide-thea]

#the trick here is that the problem actually has two parts: #one part is the problem itself #the other is the emotional distress and feeling of loneliness generated by the problem

#and counterintuitively you have to take care of that second part FIRST #because otherwise—as you point out—they won’t be able to absorb the solution #so step one is going ‘i love you i’m so sorry this is happening to you i love you’ and listening to them for a while

#and then once they remember that they’re not an island of misery in a sea of nothingness #you hit them with the solution (proposed gently so that it doesn’t seem like you’re trying to shut them up about the problem) #it’s probably going to feel weird to do it but I guarantee you it works

#tl;dr: when someone’s complaining about a problem it’s about an 85% chance that they actually want attention sympathy and kindness #and the actual problem is something they can solve—but only once they’ve fulfilled the immediate need

(via @bill-blake-fans-anonymous)

[gamtosthegreat]

It is the most important lesson in interpersonal communication to learn:

Your friends and loved ones aren’t stupid. They can think of solutions. They have tried different things. They have lived this experience, and you have heard two sentences.

You are there to listen, empathize. If you have lived experience, sympathize.

Problems are often not easy, but at least they don’t have to be lonely.