Sassy Spidey

I just reblog a bunch of stuff. 20 years on this hell of an earth

[realtransfacts]

Transfeminine Presentation Resources Masterpost

(For a transmasc version of this post, click here)

Some of this could also be useful for other feminine people or transneutral people who were camab as well! And of course feel free to add to this post if you have more good links and/or information to share.

& the obligatory disclaimer: transfeminine people can present however they want. There’s absolutely no obligation to do the stuff listed here!

Chest:

Optical Illusions

Bra Sizing

Buying a Bra as a Trans Woman

For flat-chested people

A post about bras

Non-fetish options

Using Socks

Bra inserts: one, two

How To Stuff Your Bra

“Chicken cutlet” bra inserts + Where to buy

GenderMender

TheBreastFormStore + Size Fitting Guide

Amoena

For swimming: one, two, three

Tucking:

What the fuck is a tuck?

How safe is it to tuck?

Advice for tucking

Pain and related issues

Wikihow: How to Tuck

How does Chrissi tuck? Video

Underwear

DIY Gaff

Hair:

Hairstyle Guide

Pinterest hair inspiration: one, two, three, four, five

How to Take Care of Black Girls’ Hair

Egg Treatment

Wig Info

The Do’s & Don’t For Wigs

Wig Buyer Guide

Hair Extensions

Hair Extensions Video

Short hair: one, two, three, four

Voice:

Voice Analyzer App

Eva Voice App

Voice Training with Singing

Voice Traning for Trans Girls Video

Voice Training Regimen

Free Trans Voice Resources

Trans Voice Subreddit

Nails & Makeup:

How To Nail Polish Video

Makeup For Beginners Video

Feminizing Makeup For Trans Women Video

Makeup Tutorials For Black Girls

Hiding Facial Hair Videos: Part 1 and Part 2

How to Cover 5 o’clock Shadow Video

Clothes:

Thrift Stores

Shoes

Dresses

Dressing Like a Grown Ass Trans Woman

Dressing for Broad Shoulders

Tall Girl Resources

Discrete

Butch / tomboy

Sizing: one, two, three

Swimwear

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Other  Masterposts:

Androgynous Presentation

HRT Masterpost

Low Dose Testosterone HRT

Top Surgery Masterpost

Breast Augmentation Masterpost

Chest Binding Masterpost

Tucking Masterpost

Transmasc Lower Surgery Masterpost

Transfem Lower Surgery Masterpost

Feminizing Voice Masterpost

Masculinizing Voice Masterpost

Coming Out Masterpost

Gender Questioning Masterpost

Nonbinary Terminology Masterpost

Pronouns Masterpost

Coping with Misgendering Masterpost

Masterpost for Trans Allies

Choosing a New Name for Yourself Masterpost

Writing Trans Characters Masterpost

Transgender Pregnancy & Fertility Masterpost

Being Trans Without Dysphoria Masterpost

Self Care Masterpost

[fatbratbabe]

Date night with the crush I drunk texted & asked out 🤪

[tieflingkisser]

[desolationlesbian]

farcille isn't "toxic yuri." nothing remotely toxic about them, they both treat each other with a great deal of care and affection and respect. just because marcille is willing to do forbidden necromancy and arguably cannibalism for her wife doesn't make her toxic that's just what you do for a woman with broad shoulders

[demilypyro]

Me when I'm a persona protag and I get the power of the wildcard

[demilypyro]

What Do My Personas Say About Me

[demilypyro]

[demilypyro]

[pavizi]

clock king

[mxjackparker]

Decriminalizing sex work isn't a fix-all. It's not intended to be. What decrim does is protect sex workers from the harms of criminalization specifically. Poverty and violent clients won't disappear because of decrim, and their continued existence doesn't mean decrim fails.

[mxjackparker]

When you tell me there are still young teens getting into sex work in countries like New Zealand that have full decriminalization, that's not an argument that decriminalization is bad! Those teens would be selling sex under the Nordic Model too!

What teens in these circumstances need is typically money, because poverty is the major driving force behind prostitution among youth. In other cases they need information about where to report abuse from their schooling. No legal model around sex work will put an end to poverty or targeted sexual abuse for profit, because this is a much larger issue.

What full decriminalization can do is reduce harm against sex workers whilst we work on ending poverty and patriarchy.

[gazeldhazel]

I haven't had to make a post like this before, but the situation is pretty dire and the landlord management whatever is doing fuck all, so.

I'm currently staying at my sister's place, of which has a mold, ant, and leaking water problem. we've had to deal with ants crawling out of the walls three separate times this week, and it's become too much to deal with. the ants are crawling out of the outlets now. im trying to get money for her to help her move. moving costs plus fees and rent and whatever will probably be a lot so im. on my hands and knees asking for this

Support Hazel

Support Hazel

it's my kofi but that's just because her paypal is locked or something and she doesn't have a kofi. any amount helps. please

$95/$5000

[samcormac]

what’s the rush?

[rainwasheseverythingaway]

The time will pass anyway

[cungleart]

Amy's Kissing Booth

[zinaanqar07]

SADLY, TODAY MAY BE THE LAST DAY MY SISTER SEES LIGHT.

Tonight, she was admitted to intensive care after losing her ability to breathe, now surviving through machines, and I will not forgive anyone who sees this post and does not support me with a single word and ignores me.

[zinaanqar07]

The doctors told me her condition has become extremely critical, and without immediate treatment, she may not survive another night, so I ask, can you help me get treatment for my sister?

[zinaanqar07]

I am begging you from the depths of my heart—please don’t leave us alone in this moment. Donate now if you can, your donation could be the reason my sister stays alive.

Chuffed – Vetted #213

[3liza]

Bra Fitting Graphics

 

[3liza]

fyi

[3liza]

this post has been up for five hours and has two notes. i think tumblr shitcanned it because it has pictures of women wearing bras on it. very cool. no censorship message, just vanishing it

[boxingcleverrr]

AHHHHHH someone put all the info from the now-extremely-hard-to-read, 10+ year old bra post into one nice infograph! THAT POST WAS MY BOOB BIBLE. Yay Boob New Testament!

[edward-cishet-hands]

Something practical for all my fellow boon lovers to help show your boobs some love! Extremely helpful for smaller and very large breasts.

[animentality]

[thydungeongal]

Actually the "combat as random unavoidable obstacles that the party needs to overcome because we need to have combat in this game or else it'll be boring" model of encounter design actually runs counter to modern D&D as well.

Okay so D&D, regardless of edition, is ultimately a resource management game. This is why even 5e has multiple different resources for characters to manage, each with different refresh rates (some refresh on a short rest, some on a long rest), and while whether the system is actually balanced in any meaningful way (it isn't) is a completely different discussion, it's clear that there is an intent to have characters manage these resources through an extended period of time. If you the GM are throwing a prescripted combat encounter at the party every once in a while with no telegraphing you are not really allowing them to exercise agency over how they go about their resource management.

"Ah, I see," you say, having turned into a D&D 3e era adventure designer for Dungeon magazine, "the solution is a combat gauntlet set within an ultimately linear dungeon." Well, no. While it is true that WotC D&D is the most opinionated about combat, all the WotC editions (yes, even 4e, you actually never read the dang rules did you) actually have support for noncombat challenges, often in ways in which they have meaningful interactions with the combat part of resource management: spell slots in 3e and 5e cover both the use of combat and utility spells, 4e allows for draining character combat resources like healing surges outside of combat, and all three games have lots of ways built into them in which characters can be challenged outside of combat.

But alternating between combat and noncombat encounters isn't enough: you need to allow players to weaponize agency to truly make that resource management shine. All potential encounters are heavily telegraphed. Some encounters look like noncombat encounters that can turn into combat encounters if failed. Characters always have the option not to engage and can often look for various routes. There are shortcuts that can be unlocked through the clever use of character abilities and resources.

That's right: even WotC D&D thrives in a dungeon. It's a very different kind of dungeon than a classic old-school dungeon (WotC D&D is more opinionated about combat than TSR D&D, so combat becomes even more of an expectation; WotC D&D doesn't really work that well with wandering monsters, so there need to be other ways to model time pressure), but the structure of the dungeon is still very much the optimal model to allow players to engage with resource management while allowing for agency.

And once you knock down those illusory walls of a dungeon and put a different coat of paint on them, your "dungeon" can be transformed into any location-based adventure. A fey forest? A dungeon. Breaking into the evil lord's castle? A dungeon. The sewers under the city? A dungeon. The streets of the city after the portal to the Hell Dimension has been opened and there's Pandemonium on the streets? A dungeon.

[100-manslayer]

I think a good way to describe WoTC vs TSR dungeon design philosophy/ethos/whatever is what I call the Crawl/Dive Spectrum. Crawls are methodical, often slow, and often think of the dungeon as an ecosystem to be understood; Dives are heady, action packed, and often think of the dungeon as a puzzle to be solved. One thing both sides of the spectrum do share is a sense of dynamicism, that your/your player's characters are actively changing the environment even by just being there or the dungeon will force them to alter the environment.

I also think that it's important to think of them within a spectrum, as most games will usually have some allowances for playing around: A Dive might be much more methodical, and a Crawl might have the dungeon be a puzzle. In the middle is what I call a Delve where anything is on the table and can switch up quick. You could be doing a straightforward Dive and at the halfway point it could shift into a crawl.

And on your last point, I think a good illistrative point comes from video games. Bethesda's Elder Scrolls and Fallout have the same primary loops, but an Elder Scrolls uses places like crypts as their coat of paint and Fallout uses bombed out Skyscrapers, but at the end of the day they both contain treasure chests and secrets within. Zelda (specifically MM, TP, and SS) has what I call the pre-dungeon segment which also contains puzzles, encounters, and other obstacles to even make it into the Dungeon proper which essentially acts as a dungeon itself (and a good way to stage the dungeon proper).

[moorock]

hi everyone, i'm an autistic transfem who has been living on and off in backpacker hostels for the past few years and i also had to get off HRT a few months ago and that isn't fun at all because i literally have more pressing health problems. i had to leave my cats at the pound (they're fine they got adopted by a vet but i'm not).

ive been planning an escape route for like. a year now. and i need a ton of money to pull it off.

by a ton i mean like $1000 is doable and $3000 is comfortable so just shovel money at me for the next few months so that in august or so i can get this done and then i will have irl community and healthcare.

i have occasional gigs as a sensitivity reader and that plus solid support from a very small handful of close friends (who are impoverished themselves) is keeping me housed by some definition of that term but i really need to up my game so i'm not just sitting here aging and dying in severe isolation. ive basically been in solitary confinement for like three years it fucking sucks

ko-fi/paypal link

[strawhatsufi]

everyone please throw money at her shes my best friend

[moorock]

The first few days of this were really promising but I haven't gotten anything in a few days now.

[maidslime]

tl;dr: transfem desperately in need of donations

I'm a disabled trans woman who writes smut, makes zines, does photography, does sex work, and recently started streaming games. But because of a recent hate campaign by a bunch of terfs, I have been banned from PayPal and venmo and can't really make money off of those things anymore. I've been struggling for months looking for a job, but being disabled it's been hard to find something.

I'm in desperate need for money for the two bills above, and rent, and meds, and groceries. If there's any way I can get help with these things I'd be eternally grateful. Anything you can give is a huge help.

cashapp: $thecatgirlprincess

DM me for zelle. If absolutely necessary I might be able to share my husband's paypal in dms.

[maidslime]

I could really use money for groceries :/

[onenarat]

Ok, so, I have a question: Is this crazy of me to say that there is some weird toxic yaoi happening between these 2 in the back of his 2000 Honda civic in the burger King parking lot (its the only place where a diplomat from Duchy of Tulips can afford food in Concordia)