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happy women’s day!, the person more interesting, more mysterious, intriguing, intelligent and capable, the source of life, the woman who is the true meaning of beauty, I want to thank all the women in my life that have given me their love.
I feel like I don't have accurate words for what's going on in Ferguson right now. Besides the obvious call to citizens: It's not just your right, it is your inalienable destiny to obtain justice for the crimes committed against you.
In short...
The police in Ferguson are spraying tear gas and arresting peaceful protesters and reporters (2 reporters so far). Christina Coleman is an NBC Channel 5 news anchor from St. Louis…Son.
LTMC: The first tweet.
A Washington Post reporter.
In America.
fucking christ…
Expectations, Disappointments, and the Good Men Project
I’m both a feminist and an activist. Most of my interests fall between social and behavior change work and violence prevention, which meant my first introduction to the Good Men Project was one of abject delight. What a wonderful idea! Beyond the somewhat eyebrow raising catch phrase on their homepage (“The Conversation No One Is Having”? Um… I guess if you’ve never worked in this field before you’d believe that. But whatevs.), most of the articles hit really close to home for me, and I was thrilled to see something being written by open-minded, feminist-oriented men about becoming better versions of themselves as well as better partners in their relationships. The first article I ever read was an open letter from a Dad to his daughter, wishing that she would have lots of good sex. It was incredible! It was a touching article that covered all the salient points of destroying society’s virgin-whore complex, in addition to articulating what I believe every parent really wants for their child—for them to be unconditionally happy.
BUT…
Recently, (or not so recently, as I have put off writing this blog piece for a while now) I’ve noticed the site has expanded to touch on basically anything and everything that orbits the realm of Men. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, and I am perfectly content to support a forum where men and women can explore what it means to be Good Men through any number of subjects and interests. However, I have noticed the quality of these articles has decreased over time. A lot of it has become hit or miss for me in a very tragic way. What was once a forum I enjoyed reading and quoting as a moral center and place of learning for Men, has now become a place to co-opt issues, explore topics that were more harmful than helpful to important social movements, and erase the struggles and problems of communities who very much need a spotlight, in favor of hetero-cis-male perspectives.
In short, the wind has been taken from my sails.
Let’s take for instance a piece I saw reblogged by a women’s empowerment organization I respect quite a bit. The title “Sexual Violence: It Really Is a Men’s Issue” brought to mind several things the article could have been about, but wasn’t. My hope upon hope was this article would be a behavioral change piece concerning how men could work to overcome their social perceptions, and reduce their often unwitting engagement in rape culture, sexism, and erasure of women’s issues.
But no. Of course it was about how 1 in 5 men report experiencing some type of sexual violence other than rape in their lives, and how that number is both unacceptable and unseen by the public. What the article failed to do is give context to this number (an increasingly common practice for the Good Men Project, I’ve noticed). Where the article truly failed was in its analysis of this number when you consider the shocking amount of Gay and Trans* Men who comprise that percentage of reports. Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) is another issue that permeates these communities but undergoes a rage inducing amount of erasure when they are touted as statistics for the U.S. Male Population in general.
Why does this matter? Because the Queer Community experiences a similar oppression from our justice system to what women experience. “What were you wearing” isn’t a question exclusively asked to women. It is something people in the queer community hear all the time when the authorities are trying to judge just how much responsibility a victim should own for a hate crime they experienced. This is not an attitude Heterosexual Cis-Gendered Men face when seeking legal recourse for abuse. But most of you know this.
I didn’t want to write this to complain about the dying age of the good Good Men Project. I guess I’m writing this as a sort of call to action for activists. The Good Men Project was a great platform with a lot of potential, so I think we could all learn a lot from it moving forward.
I’m not a person who believes men don’t belong in the conversation about Gender Issues. I believe issues that affect me intersect with many other types of oppression that exist in our world. What I'm hoping for is a kind of revolution in how we look at the Women’s Movement. I want more than just good intentions. I want follow-through. I want to see people starting sites like the Good Men Project and staying true to their goal of engaging everyone in conversations about gender, sexuality, and our relationships. I want to see consistency in the promotion of positive masculinity that avoids lapses into things that acknowledge topics we all know are ridiculous! Like seriously, can we finish the teaching moment about “Friend Zoning” already? It is no longer anything but harmful to pander to people who do not understand how that sort of ideology facilitates sexism, rape culture, and the objectification of women.
Let’s not dumb ourselves down because we want to reach an audience that doesn’t really care what we have to say in any event. No more two steps forward, one step back. Engaging "men" in these topics shouldn’t mean inviting them to pretend they understand what it’s like to exist in a rape cultured society as a survivor. We can have a civil discourse about how our differences can be our strengths, and acknowledge that the world provides us all with different experiences in order to help us resolve issues of inequity and discrimination. Let’s be both proud and determined to continue the work we’re doing to support the people in our world who really need it, and not just anyone who has an opinion on the internet.
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At first I didn't get who the red-head was. And the it came to me. She's smoking. She's smokin'. She's the Flame Princess. Duh.
"Anne Bonny and Mary Read were pirates, as renowned for their ruthlessness as for their gender, and during their short careers challenged the sailors’ adage that a woman’s presence on shipboard invites bad luck."
Sculpture by Erik Christianson.
I’m not entirely sure that the statue really needed to have a tit out.
How dare women try to have nipples.
Actually I’ve seen this before and I can tell you— it’s because these women were bad ass pirates and when they killed someone they’d expose one or both breasts so that when their victim died, (s)he knew that they were killed by a woman.
ACTUALLY Anne Bonny purposely wore loose fitting clothes and displayed her breasts openly at all times during battle - mainly because men were distracted by them, and she took pleasure in killing said men while they were too busy staring at her breasts. Mary Read dressed mainly as a man (after posing as her deceased brother, Mark, for the entirety of her childhood) and both ladies cross-dressed from time to time, hopping between ships. They were known as the ‘fierce hell cats’ due to their ferocious tempers, and were key elements to Captain ‘Calico Jack’ Rackham’s crew - they were the only two known female pirates in the Golden Age of Caribbean piracy. IN FACT, when the ship was captured by the British Navy, Anne and Mary were the ONLY TWO pirates who fought while the males of the crew hid - they were all tried to be hung as pirates but Bonny and Read were both pregnant and were pardoned.
Calico Jack was a lover to Bonny, and as he was to be hung, Bonny’s final words to him were, “Had you fought like a man, you need not be hung like a dog.” Bonny and Read were possibly two of the most badass fucking pirates and they were FEMALE. The more you know.
For ironxelly, forever the Anne Bonny to my Mary Read. ;] ♥
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People want to believe gender is something that’s essential, and people repeat these essentialist ideas all the time. ‘Oh, women do that’ and ‘Oh, men do that’ and the reality is that all women don’t anything. We as individuals do what we do, you know, and sometimes that’s informed by gender and sometimes it’s just who we are. And I think all that just makes people really, really uncomfortable because they don’t want to think about who they are.
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let’s rename the sex positivity movement to the “male fantasies repackaged as empowering for women” movement
Yeah, so that’s some bullshit. I’m a straight guy in a monogamous, super long term relationship. Many of my very close friends…
I… are you doing like… a mansplain/nice guy joke about me here? I feel like we’re having two different conversations right now.
nah essentially what’s happening is i’m informing you that literally no one EVER cares what a man has to say about ANY theory or concept of feminism
literally NOBODY cares i.e. it’s not your place, why are you giving your input, etc etc
Yikes... Hows abouts you work on speaking for yourself instead of an entire movement? Because the only thing that LITERALLY no one cares about is letting your gross 2nd wave beliefs dictate their sex lives. K. Thx.
The best part of waking up is adorable boyfriend and kitten.
Yes, I make pillow forts for my cat. And she totally digs them. What of it?!
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Riding on the Metro
I, like many LA residents, spend a lot of time going from one place to another. For me that mode of transportation is bus or metro--a generally unfriendly place if you have the misfortune of being a woman.
Now, 99.9% of the time I am bothered by anyone while on public transit it is by a man (unsurprisingly). Women don't really bug each other. Being the constant target of unsolicited attention, women sort of have this unspoken rule to just leave one another alone. However, in my experience, this usually means never getting involved regardless of what's happening.
Today, both of these commonalities were turned on their head.
1. While exiting the metro, I was verbally accosted by a woman for ~~~~(drum roll)~~~~ How. I. Was. Dressed.
In a summer dress and cowboy boots.
2. Two girls, who were walking slightly ahead of me, turned around and immediately came to my defense.
The event went something like this:
Woman: Oh, F*ck you. Cowboy boots? In the summer time?! Who the f*ck does that? I bet you think you're some hot sh*t.
Me: ... ... ...?
Lady onlooker A: [after exchanging a glance with me] Psssh. Don't be such a hater. Don't worry girl. I got you.
Lady onlooker B: What the hell, lady. She looks cute! [Then to me] You look cute. Don't even listen. She's just jealous of you.
Me: Thank you. Thank you for this.
Lady onlooker A: Everyone in this city has some sh*t to say. Did you even see her? She looks like a manatee.
Me: I didn't really look...
Lady onlooker B: Just ignore it. You look cute. Seriously.
Me: Thank you. That's really nice of you to say.
I wish I had the presence of mind to really explain how awesome I thought it was to be experiencing first hand women helping women in harassment scenarios. I wish I had told them they were my personal superheroes and to never change.
But all I managed was "thank you."
What's the moral of this impromptu sociological experiment? I want to start being as brave and willing to be involved as those two women I met on the metro today. I want to start being the kind of person who fearlessly comes to defense of women I see in need of support.
AT COS CONFERENCE
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Yup. This. Exactly.
WHEN I HAVE AN ARGUMENT WITH A FRIEND
When it’s friends from back home, we’re just like:
When it’s PC friends:
This blog is like a series of gifs that helps me explain an inexplicable 2 years of my life to people who weren't there and are never gonna go *there*.
https://vimeo.com/45024704
Step one. Open the first video into a tab.
Step two. Pause it.
Step three. Open a new tab and paste in the vimeo link.
Step four. Mute the vimeo video.
Step five. Play both videos.
Step six. Try not to laugh.
