#TheGent

God is a gentleman, and so am I; guess you can say I take after my Father. A young king, getting fitted for his crown 👑 I talk about what's real and what's true to me.. God • Love • Life • Relationships

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Everything you go through, verifies where you belong.

The trials you face

The relationships you steward

Your faith that has to be stretched

The seasons you endure

The time invested that’s ultimately rewarded

The highs / lows and the crossroads

The people you meet

The gift(s) given to you

The retests you take until you pass

Learning there’s something good to get out of bad things, etc.

What you deal with is what sets you up for what you’re destined to do and who you’re to become. It creates precedence and develops a callus for how high you are to go..

Everything happens for your future, and how you manage your today is what gives you access to new ways of winning your tomorrow.

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We all know the phrase that “hurt people, hurt people..”

But what I’ve also learned is that:

“people only want healing, when they want healing.”

You can’t FORCE deliverance on an individual if they don’t see what they’re in, is hurting them. Many can’t acknowledge what may be hurting or have language to interpret their hurt either, so they’ve found solace and their own version of peace, through “get back.”

Many don’t enjoy the pain they actually feel, but it’s drawn a level of attention from others that weren’t there otherwise, so they’ve made a compromise..

Moral of it all,

You must allow people to feel what they feel, express HOW they express (because it doesn’t have to be how you do it, no matter how perfect you believe you process life,) and when they are fed up and want change? Just be their safe space and allow them to EXHALE! Don’t make it about YOU! When one desires a changed heart, changed mind, changed dialect? They’ll have a desperation to see it through! Just be the stepping stool, for ones’ Changeability!

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Leave your peace, ALONE.

Because your phone has been dry lately..

because you find yourself at the house more or you feel like your life has gotten less and less “experimental” with people? G O O D !

Peace, is what you PRAYED FOR❗️❗️

There’s no need allowing your loneliness to get you locked up in another situationship or battle between your heart and your head. Normalize not welcoming, creating or getting comfortable with CHAOS!!!!

#GoSitDown

#FindUhHobby

#StopFlirtingWithTrouble

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You have every right to fend, for your NO.

Your NO:

No to this, no to that.

No to him, no to her.

No to making that decision, no to participating.

No to faking what doesn’t please you.

No to bending backwards to impress others.

No instead of, “I’ll think about it.”

No to anything that’ll take away from your quiet time and your healing.

No to whatever and/or whoever, WHENEVER you

feel the need to exercise it.

Whenever your no is appealed (please understand,) you have every right to defend it and you don’t owe anyone an explanation for it. You don’t have to “appease” with a lighter answer..

MAKE SURE YOUR NO, IS TRIED AND WON OVER, unless you see reason to surrender it. Other than that? Know, that your NO, is final (period.)

#YouHoldThePower

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My prayer,

Is that those who are single, whether you’re in your purpose right now / at a crossroads or feeling the pressures of life weighing you down, that you come to a resolve in your heart, to truly believe that The Lords’ Time is perfected. Combat the comparison with the right affirmations and get off social media sometimes.

Here’s a strong conviction notice:

(Y’all may not like me, but I still love you):

If you REALLY trust in The Lord like you say and that His Timing IS the “master piece”, then you’d quit chasing the clock YOU have “man”-ufactered.

YOU built that clock that seems to tick faster than normal:

YOU allowed those pressures to in fact, make you feel you’re overlooked.

YOU haven’t reallllly been in your word as you should have, and the enemy has found a gate open to sift you of your faith in God.

YOU see the age and lost sight that God is the giver of the body you have, and can add years if necessary, because of your waiting..

YOU have continued to make excuses for not being where you feel you should be and not wanting to take accountability for the areas that you can ultimately control..

YOU keep having such strict preferences, and not being what your preference would actually pursue, (and lowkey you KNOW that). *said it* 🤷🏾‍♂️

YOU keep asking others what meal plan they have and routine they’ve committed to, while still eating chips and ice cream with NO intention to make a change, tomorrow..

YOU keep asking God for accountability partners but when they acknowledge your blemishes, you dismiss them want to condemn them for their rebuke..

YOU keep getting upset with God about a prayer not answered relationally, and He keeps revealing the answer has been in your heart and you keep neglecting its conviction because it requires you to do more work than expected..

YOU refuse to deal with certain traumas because honestly it’s created bonds with friends you’ve found that haven’t healed either, and you both are comfortable, and you’re afraid to let them go because healing would require you to…

Sometimes, (a lot of times),

The Holy Spirit is saying, It’s YOU! ☝🏾 you, you, you.

But I’ll stop here..

He is, Forever Faithful. ✨

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Allow each other to learn, in REAL TIME.

What’s true, (and very unfortunate), is that many of us haven’t had the privilege of being in HEALTHY and/or whole relationships, and once we get a taste of them? The one(s) who we’re in that relationship with, must have the Grace to willingly give to the one that’s in unfamiliar territory.

Dismiss the “not a real man / real woman” complex, because someone doesn’t know everything about relationships. *shakes head*

It’s simply a rarity, and it takes time for many to TRUST THEMSELVES, to trust someone else that has brought life and hope back into their hardened heart.

It takes TIME and INTENTION on both parties to allow growth, and to allow barriers to slowly crack and ultimately crumble..

Please understand that many, (more than are self aware), still wrestle with the little boy / girl that’s been broken and still in need of refuge.

CAN YOU BE ONES’ SAFE PLACE?

CAN YOU CREATE AND KEEP THE ATMOSPHERE FOR THEM LONG ENOUGH, FOR THEM TO RECIPROCATE IT OVER TIME?

Mistakes are inevitable, (even in profound relationships). It’s not easy, and a lot claim to not want to even “deal” with those who’ve been hurt, (and I get it), but healing can come for BOTH OF YOU, in areas unaware if you are able to love, IN love and in patience. It’s a deep conversation, and should be addressed more often..

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For those who know me, know that I’ve been abstinent for a decade now, and when I tell you it hasn’t been easy? 🥵 haha but it’s been nothing less than an investment. 🙌🏾

I wouldn’t really have it any other way, but all I can say is that my wife will be sick n’ tied of me for a bit 🤷🏾‍♂️ or maybe not 😏😂

Every woman I encounter,

doesn’t deserve my bloodline.

Just one. I’m good with one.

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For those who know me, know that I’ve been abstinent for a decade now, and when I tell you it hasn’t been easy? 🥵 haha but it’s been nothing less than an investment. 🙌🏾

I wouldn’t really have it any other way, but all I can say is that my wife will be sick n’ tied of me for a bit 🤷🏾‍♂️ or maybe not 😏😂

Every woman I encounter,

doesn’t deserve my bloodline.

Just one. I’m good with one.

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Just because you made a declaration that you were going to change for the better, doesn't mean your friends are too; they in fact may be the first to scratch off the list..

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Be careful what / who you criticize and talk about,

because before this life is over, God may just allow that same situation you were gossiping about to be YOU everybody else will criticize..

Who you don't LIKE, or whoever you claim to HATE?

God LOVES.

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It amazes me how sometimes the only way people can lift themselves up Psychologically, is by pushing you down Verbally..

I’m starting to believe more and more people like this, simply need proper affection given to them.

Someone didn’t pay them honest attention when they were younger | wasn’t given the right definition of love when raised or similar scenarios, I believe. People who are so defensive or can be overly offensive really just needs someone to hold them; you’ll be amazed who may just breakdown in your presence if you are REALLY willing to be their outlet or access point for help.

Some of us, really just need to be heard, and aggression and/or violence is their only way of getting what they’ve been robbed of.

I don’t know, i just love people too much to allow what’s eating them up inside, to consume them when I can be of any service to their process of healing..

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Dear bro | sis,

Anyone you know that’ll lie | deceive | manipulate another for you, will lie | deceive | manipulate & etc TO you,

FOR someone else..

Keep that in mind..

and..

If your friends are even in that position to do so, BECAUSE it’s to YOUR benefit? Then YOU are the one that needs to be unfriended. Also, if you feel any way because this convicted you?

Good, I hoped that it would offend you.

It amazes me how we want consistency in and from others, but will put those very people or even ALLOW those people to be in a position where they have OUR CONSENT to be disingenuous towards others and have the thought process that they will always “keep it real” with us, because it’s “us”.

Some things should just be common sense.

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Sometimes,

You may have to remind the, as well as prepare.

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You can’t say you love a thing, and not dedicate yourself to learning it. Invest in what you love. Take time, intentional time away to even put it in practice. Figure it out as much as you can, (if you love it like you say you do).

Commit to what you love.

It has a language you need to become acquainted with.

Simple.

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*Walks on stage / looks out into the audience and proceeds*

Good Day:

YOU DO NOT NEED TO HIDE YOURSELF IN ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP TO HEAL! ☝🏾❗️

You heal with as little distractions, as possible. If your heart is broken, you don’t force your brokenness onto someone else, because they have the ability to soothe certain places in you that are still being worked on. 🙅🏾‍♂️

If your character or esteem is attacked?

You don’t attach yourself to someone who simply complimented you, today! It does NOT mean that they were “sent” for your rescue! Only GOD can come and bring deliverance, and reconstruct those low places in your heart and mind.

Go to THE SOURCE! 📖

Has had what you need and if necessary, He will even import those who carry your provision in their possession. It’s not for you to try to navigate on your own!

During the healing process? The #1 thing for you do, is to R E S T! You don’t keep jumping on the ankle you’ve twisted; go somewhere and sit down, already! 🙄

It may be YOU that’s been prolonging your manifestation, and your release from The Lord!

✋🏾 🎤

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The Lord, speaks in Peace.

He speaks in the way where He demands your undivided attention. In a loud arena, He’ll talk to you just enough to where you have to reposition your posture and lean in closer to Him..

Yes, it is on Purpose.

He has you to turn away from the commotion, and will allow distractions to still be present, (and LOUD), so you will make the conscious decision to yield and lend your ear.

If you find yourself in a place where His Word to you isn’t clear, or to where you tend to question if He said what He said, then it’s not about Him speaking up; you have yet to make the commitment to leave where you are:

(That past life / certain friends / family / flings and things / old lifestyle and beyond)..

You must hold yourself accountable for the level of volume you have going on around you.

Only you can do that.

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Boom 🔥🔥