So I was talking about this with @aerin67 before but I wanted to share with the dash one of my favorite headcanons regarding the Orb.
So like, we all know at the tiefling party, Gale's like "oh I probably shouldn't get too excited while my condition is this unstable" etc. And for a while I was like "Oh, yeah that makes sense. The items stopped working so now it's unstable. The reason he hasn't had sex in a year was cos he isolated for safety."
But then I was thinking about how if he fucking dies, it takes TWO DAYS for the Orb to blow up. He can get his heart racing in battle SO fucking much and he never claims that's a danger, even after its destabilization.
So my brain started running with that and was like:
Maybe the Orb is only a danger now because it's been horribly destabilized. Before, it was probably stable enough that he could masturbate in his tower right? Even if he was isolated from other people, if he could masturbate, then he definitely would have.
And then I kept thinkin' more like...Does that mean that he also could have had sex before the destabilization? But he didn't because he hadn't caught feelings yet and by the time he catches feelings, the Orb is destabilized and dangerous.
So I was like...maybe he didn't know for sure it would blow up if he climaxed/had sex/got aroused whatever. But because this was uncharted territory, he didn't want to take the chance. It was a risk he hadn't had time to assess.
What if he's bullshitting you? Not maliciously, but like...the man had his heart broken by a goddess. He's been traumatized by his folly. He's been alone for more than a year. Then he meets someone he starts to have feelings for. He can suppress that easy enough.
But then they start to suggest they have feelings back. And that's terrifying. He's not sure how to handle this development, and he's not sure if he's ready to try again. He needs time to think it over, to decide if it's worth the potential heartbreak, especially considering he is a ticking time bomb. Not only could he get hurt, but so could they.
So at the tiefling party when that person flirts with him, suggests they have affections for him, he makes the excuse about "his condition is too volatile for too much excitement". Not only as a way to warn/remind them of what they're getting involved in, but also...he might be running from his feelings. At least temporarily.
And maybe Elminster bestowing Mystra's charm to stabilize the Orb is what prompts him to take the risk again because he knows the Orb won't blow up. He's had feelings for a while and now he gets to indulge in them safely, and that's valid. But there's still quite a bit of time that passes between then and the Romance/Sex Scene...
I just really like the idea that the reason he finally makes a move is not because the Orb has been stabilized, but because he has. He thought it over and couldn't deny his feelings, and decided it was worth the risk of heartbreak or pain to try love again. The Orb wasn't really the factor at all.