Itâs no secret that we are all human and desire communication and love. Mutual interests and ideologies are what bring people together. None of us are perfect, and the idea of what âperfectionâ is has become subjective and no one has the same idea of perfection.
With that being said, the art of people having flaws, the art of communication, the art of being decent human beings to one another have been lost.
And that brings me to this point:
If you have an issue with someone that you need to sort out, do so in a mature, private conversation. If you believe that you cannot hold a civil conversation with someone without a mediator or two to sort things out, then by all means bring those mediators to the table, but keep it fair for both parties.
Why I say this is because I want to remind everyone that there is nothing wrong with discussing what makes you uncomfortable. People fear the consequences that may arise from discussion, such as a potential severed friendship or even worse, knowing that the other person doesnât care. It hurts when you find this out. This is why communication is important, because you can understand how you and others work, what they think, how they feel.
Is it possible for people to not be honest with others? Absolutely. But if both parties are honest with one another, then the fear of dishonesty shouldnât be there.
This is what communication is about, building trust and understanding other people. You donât have to agree with people, but that doesnât mean the other person doesnât have a right to an opinion or thought too. This brings me to something I truly hate discussing:
Callout Culture: Why It Solves Nothing
Callout culture is⌠sadly, abundant on the internet. With YouTube videos discussing why certain people canât âtake criticismâ or how someone is an awful individual that should be held accountable for their actions. I absolutely hate this mob mentality of jumping at someoneâs throat for making mistakes. I have many reasons why I hate this.
This assumes that the other person has either not learned from their mistakes or assumes that the person is still making those mistakes to this day.
People can change. People are capable of growth. People are capable of learning. When you give someone a chance to redeem themselves, thatâs when their true character shows. You canât expect people to not make mistakes, that makes people scared of trying something new or different.
This makes it difficult for people to address their flaws without feeling like theyâre caught in a no-gain situation.
The moment you call someone out, theyâre put in a situation where no matter what they say, whether it is to defend themselves from the critique they are blasted with or address and apologize for what theyâve done, they WILL NOT be able to satisfy people who expect many different things. When you call someone out, what exactly are you trying to accomplish? Are you trying to help them become a better person by calling them out? Or are you trying to ruin their reputation because you donât like them? Calling someone out only serves as a selfish goal that makes BOTH parties look bad. No one gains anything but distrust from all sides.
And this leads me to my most important point about callout culture:
This creates an idea where people who are perceived as likable are considered god-like idols that canât do wrong and therefore makes BOTH people you like and dislike not feel human.
Just as people should be allowed to learn from their mistakes, people who are loved should be allowed to feel like theyâre human. Some people may have more friends, fame, talent, or fortune than others. But in the process, we forget that these people have human thought, human opinion, and can and will make mistakes along the way. Callout culture doesnât just make things difficult for people whose mistakes are made known to the public, but callout culture can make it difficult for people who are liked to breathe as a human and not as a sculpted idol with an image forged by the public.
You cannot forget that people are human. Start treating others how you want to be treated, and eventually you will receive the communication you desire. You canât control how others speak, but you can control your own actions. Control them by being the first one to set an example.
TL;DR - Communication is key to understanding one another. Jumping at peopleâs throats for mistakes or idolizing people who have yet to make a mistake that people donât like will create a toxic environment where the art of communication and making mistakes will be lost.
If we were perfect, we wouldnât need communication.
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