Almost all true, loving relationships that continue to get stronger and coordinated over many years didn’t just begin in such a surreal manner. All couples have problems. They could go days, weeks, months, and quite a few years together experiencing that treasured excitement and passion of a newly developed love for one another. Then on day, just the slightest awareness of a subtle annoyance can trigger ones mind to begin a new partition set aside for the continuous scrutiny towards the opposing partner. Instant false realization kicks in triggering the thoughts of your lover being this stranger that has so many despising assets yet to be discovered. This is the exact moment in the relationship that the ending of “The Honeymoon Phase” takes place and beginning of this lifelong alliance of two adults making the decision to grow together, learn together, discover together, conquer together, and accept defeat together proceeds to manifest a frequently perpetuate moment of irritability and angst towards one another. Little things such as not partaking in household routines. Or even signs of sadness or discomfort displayed in a way your partner can accept as a stress call for unnecessary attention or an urgent emotional cry for help. Expressions like these may create an unfortunate malevolent assumption that whatever particular trait being displayed from one partner is truly just a deliberate and absolutely unacceptable behavior deriving from this lover you USED to be so fond of. Take a moment to assess the situation from three views. yours, his, and a completely unbiased observer. Start by taking a chance to unravel his reasoning. what thing caused this unlikable personality to manifest. Sure you can take it personal and assume that you’re possibly the reason for his unattractive presence. And this is where most of the short lived yet destined to be relationships go the wrong direction towards hatred and regret. All because of the destructive word “assumption”. Nine times out of Ten, two people will caring on a rediculously irrelevant argument for too long until it completely destroys all chances of revival. Insults and violence begin to possess these two and they will live a very crooked and rotten life together and even proceed to caring this attitude with you into your workplace, children’s schools, and just around your children in general. constant nitpicking and mumbled snide comments against each other. There’s only two options at this point right? Separate, or suffer. I’ve mentioned in my previous Valentines Day post how my parents were very obvious about there unpleasantness together. But 27 years later as I write this post, they are still together and I cannot tell you how or why that is for SURE possible. But what I can tell you is that I know my Mother is in love with my father, and she would stay by his side no matter what problems arise. I know this because I see her cry when he’s not around. I’ve heard the sadness displayed in her words when she mentions she wants to spend her day off in the coming days with him.. Even if it’s just to relax and do absolutely nothing. Anything done together can make a magnificently positive impact on the bond. So that makes the pathway appear for the third option. Eternal Love, a feeling that is too difficult to define. A love that will last forever. True, eternal love is the most powerful thing known to anyone and anything. No power is stronger. An unbreakable bond between two soulmates destined for each other. It can never wither or die. The greatest power to ever exist. An endless, neverending, ETERNAL love. The one and only path towards the completion of your pursuit of happiness, and the beginning of open trust and communication between each other. You both will experience subtle dislikes amongst each other. But that’s the best part of being able to create this beautiful alliance together and feeding your own soul from the life lessons and from experience knowledge. you two will ALWAYS have do’s and don'ts of each other. It’s ok for you to have the tomāto to his tomäto. Just grow from the experience and together step into the next chapter of life. help each other out in ways that you’ve learned to display properly. Don’t repeat the same display that you’ve spent numerous times with the incorrect responses causing the repetitive, negative domino effect that destroys anything and everything in its metaphorically heart breaking path.
I love you babe. I just want you and I to see eye to eye for more than just one topic. I know I can be a hard person to read and you embrace my aura of darkness as a result of something our inner home life has caused. And that isn’t usually the case but when the response or sometimes hurtfully displayed criticism are given to me during this time of my own emotional process.. I will (as well as most people including yourself) feed off of that subtle negative impact and feel defensive. The more we both continue with the turn-taking of attitude, the more we will start to believe that you and I are not meant to be and that second thoughts of commitment are appearing to show more probability.
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