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tender grouble
recently, one of our regulars at karaoke got mad when I turned to a friend and said the regular is gay. I thought at first that he was mad bc I told someone he didn't know that he's gay, but instead he said, "I'M NOT GAY, I'M A DUDE WHO LIKES DUDES." and I'm like oh wow
hiii maybe I am back. Let's make my first post (that's not a reblog) back an exercise in me doing storytelling better, but about uh actual thing that happened lol
The TL;DR is: Some people think that Matt Damon having a stunt double who is a 4'9" woman is "emasculating." Why? Also, there's no mirror word for "emasculate" officially; what's up with that?
So I'm in the car, radio on, headed to work, half-listening as I run through the myriad of things I need to get done once I'm in the office. Then my ears perk up as the conversation turns to the Odyssey, and they talk about the Cyclops scene. I love random facts, and I am in a class that's all about how to use cameras and various media for storytelling, so I'm fascinated by the forced perspective used for this scene. Matt Damon's stunt double, also, is apparently a jacked-as-hell 4'9" woman. Her arms look like she could wrestle a bear and a whale at the same time if she had to, and still get home on time for dinner.
Of course, after that tidbit, I've turned my radio up, I'm listening more closely, and I'm loving this information. Devyn Dalton! What a dreamboat!! She's popular now, and she's getting a lot of interviews! Then one of the hosts says, "Isn't it emasculating for a man to be represented by a 4'9" woman?" My face twists in a "You're joking, right?" sneer, and I said out loud, alone in my empty car toodlin' down the highway, "Why would that be emasculating???" (I didn't want it to be rhetorical; I definitely sent a text to the show when I parked my car lol) And I've been sitting with that since. That sentence only works if you already believe a woman doing something impressive in place of a man is, by definition, a loss of manhood. Not like, stealing the scene or even threatening his career, but her being his stunt double is a loss of HIS manhood itself. That's such a massive claim on a throwaway line. That got me to jump down the rabbit hole, looking for a word that should exist--a mirror of "emasculate." If stripping away masculinity leaves a man with nothing, or with femininity, then stripping away femininity should leave a woman with nothing, or with masculinity. There should be a word for that, right? Language is usually pretty efficient about building words for things that happen. But there isn't one. Not REALLY, at least. People are trying--defeminize, desex, unsex--but I don't feel like any of them land the way "emasculate" lands. They don't get spat out as insults; none of them describe a woman losing to a man and calling it a wound to her womanhood. For real, for most folks (who don't live in tumblr-land or run in progressive circles), this wouldn't even blip on their radar. Try it: a woman loses a fight/job/argument to a man, but no one will say he defeminized her. It's not a sentence anyone says or even reaches for. But a man losing a fight/job/argument to a woman? It emasculates him. The first scenario is just any ol' Tuesday to most. It's not unusual. Seemingly, it doesn't even need a word to describe it. And that's my whole gripe!! Language doesn't build a word for a loss that a culture doesn't consider a loss. We have "emasculate" because a man losing to a woman was considered a fall--a critical one that diminished who he was at his core, worth naming and weaponizing. We never built the other word because a woman losing to a man was never a fall; it was just... expected. Or where women were already standing. So when a female radio host (who often prides herself on being a champion of raising up women) says that a 4'9" woman (who can probably fold you in half) is "emasculating" to a male actor, she's telling on the framework running in the background of her life: the patriarchy, the internalized misogyny, all the baggage built into society long before she even opened her mouth. Maybe she's not aware of it. Maybe it's never been brought to her attention. Perhaps she's never asked, "Why?" And maybe many of us have not been aware, not consciously. But I think that's where I want people to sit right now. Not necessarily why she called this "emasculating," but why she felt the need to react and blurt that out in the first place. The reflex, and the system that built it, all underneath.
(and this is still dealing with sex=gender binary framework, which is just simply...not true! 😃 but that's a whole thing to unpack in a different post; I just wanted to ponder the word "emasculating" and why it has no femme-equivalent)
The hard truth about autism acceptance that a lot of people don't want to hear is that autism acceptance also inherently requires acceptance of people who are just weird.
And yes, I mean Those TM people. Middle schoolers who growl and bark and naruto run in the halls. Thirtysomethings who live with their parents. Furries. Fourteen-year-olds who identify as stargender and use neopronouns. Picky eaters. Adults in fandoms. People who talk weird. People who dress weird.
Because autistic people shouldn't have to disclose a medical diagnosis to you to avoid being mocked and ostracized for stuff that, at absolute worst, is annoying. Ruthlessly deriding people for this stuff then tacking on a "oh, but it's okay if they're autistic" does absolutely nothing to help autistic people! Especially when undiagnosed autistic people exist.
Like it or not, if you want to be an ally to autistic people, you're going to have to take the L and leave eccentric, weird people alone. Even if you don't know them to be autistic. You shouldn't be looking for Acceptable Reasons to be mean to people in the first place. Being respectful should be the default.
This reminds me of that global warming comic, like
The Problems With My Bedroom: A Saga
Attempt Number 1: When I first moved in i tried having my bed centered on the wall like an adult, The Problem: it's a small room so it took up basically the whole space. the closet is small too so i was able to make drawers for underneath the bed and access them from both sides but the bed was so tall because of the drawers that i needed a step to get up to it which caused the mattress to slide every time i got in or out of bed. FAIL.
Attempt Number 2: i figured no one gets in or our of the bed except me so I don't really need access from both sides so I did this
I pushed it into the corner which i liked better but every time i moved the bed would scoot around, things would fall between the walls and the bed (the number of hours i spent reaching for my phone cord can never be gotten back.) , pillows would sloooowly slip down and push the bed away from the wall, it was a whole thing.
i tried getting things that would keep the bed from skootching away from the wall and they did work but then when stuff still fell it would be even harder to retrieve.
the other problem was that the bed was still up high because of the drawers so every time i'd scoot my butt off the edge, it would pull the sheet off a little bit and after only a couple days I'd have to re-tuck everything. i tried about 20 different solutions for keeping the sheet in place, the only one i found that worked consistently was this thing:
it worked FABULOUSLY but you have to basically flip the mattress over every time you change the sheets so you can reattach all the clips. i did it like 3 times. FAIL.
As i said before the closet is small, so I've used ikea cube things with a back panel attached as drawers to slide under the bed, and that works pretty well except for 2 things:
these are 15 inces deep so my bed frame is 16 when you add the mattress it makes my bed about 30 inches tall so i need a step to climb onto it which means i have to move the step every time i wanna access that set of drawers.
when i originally conceived of the idea my bed was accessible on both sides (see figure 1) so all 4 cubes of each shelf could be accessed fairly easily (the second drawer would only be about 2/3 open but everything inside was still accessible), when it's like it is currently (figure 2) i can access the first 2 cubes no problem, the 3rd if there’s no depression pile or laundry or whatever else in the way (aka: significantly less often than i'd like to admit) and to access the 4th i need to pull it out almost as far as it goes. Now I’ve worked around this by keeping those drawers reserved primarily for seasonal clothes and special occasion items and telling myself that i'll be better about laundry but it’s a work around so its not IDEAL.
Attempt Number 3: now the plan is this:
i flip my bed around and put the pillows end into my closet. the ikea cubes can be stood back up to be used as regular ass drawers as the king of Sweden (probably) intended and which I'll be able to access all of because none of them will be under a bed.
now, eagle eyed readers will have noted that my closet is 55 inches wide, the problem here is that a standard queen bed is 60 inches wide so I'd have to expand the opening a bit which will be a project but I think i can get it done by myself in a weekend or two (or less if I have help) I'll need to do some drywall patching and repaint but there's nothing structural or utilities in the wall so as wall projects go, a pretty simple one. this will take a couple inches of space away from the closet in the bedroom on the other side of that wall but its only my office over there so the only things in that closet are there is crafting supplies which i need to properly organize anyway.
idk what exactly im gonna do with my nightstand and all the shit in there but this isy plan for right now.
unless it's terrible.
is this a terrible plan?
no! it sounds great!
yes, you'll end up hating it.
i think you haven't thought everything through, I'll dm you my concerns
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Ancient lock mechanism
Oh that’s great! There are many pictures of this type of lock around, but when it comes to locks, you need a video/gif to illustrate how it works, right?
This is ye olde pin tumbler lock, an Egyptian (c.2000 BCE) improvement of an older Assyrian (c.4000 BCE) design:
It spread out from Egypt and it was used for thousands of years. The modern ubiquitous Yale lock is also called a pin tumbler, since it’s an elaborate (and tubular) version of the same basic concept.
Cool!
I’d seen the last gif, but I get it so much better after seeing the simpler larger and older version first.
Locks really are the biggest case of “if it aint broke, don’t fix it” like we invented a lock design thousands of years ago like “put little sticks inside the big sticks. Huzzah” and changed like nothing other than the number and material kf the sticks.
In case you lost it - a link to the eSIM donation guide. Even if you feel sick and powerless, you can at least do this. And even if you really, really can't donate, you can always at least share this and remind others.
https://gazaesims.com/esim-purchase-tutorial/
the lowest tier, which costs 9 dollars, offers a week of connection while the very next, 16 dollars, will provide a full month of contact with the world to someone who desperately needs it. this is not some idle step. an entire month is a huge length of time for people who are displaced, terrified, and isolated.
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I am Jewish. I am an anti-Zionist. I am always and forever pro-Palestine.
My grandmother was born in Palestine before Israel existed. My grandmother, who died less than a decade ago (in her 70s) was already older than the settler colonial state of Israel. Judaism exists without Zionism. Zionism goes against the Jewish religion. Zionism is white supremacy.
From the river to the sea Palestine WILL BE FREE
PLATONIC SOULMATES!!!
MULTIPLE SOULMATES!!!!!!
MULTIPLE PLATONIC SOULMATES!!!!!
SOULMATE DOESN'T MEAN JUST ROMANTIC!!!!!
It’s been a hot minute since I have actually made any art, so I figured I would let myself get back into it with something fun.
Rainbow self portrait! At least it’s something lol
Israel bet that the long-term war would produce this terrible silence, consent to genocide, and getting used to the scene... and frankly, they succeeded in that.
I don't know what the end of all this is, the whole world has let them down and is watching their starvation and displacement
PLEASE DON'T STOP TALKING ABOUT GAZA
hey guys friendly reminder from your fave Canadian that esk*mo is a slur so please don’t use it!
I see it usually in the context of “esk*mo kisses” which may pop up when people talk about their ships and their headcanon, but it means “snow eaters” in cree and is a slur against Inuit people so please just don’t use it!
and I would appreciate if u reblogged this because people outside Canada don’t seem to know this for the most part
Also if you want to refer to ‘‘eskimo kisses’‘ and not use that term the Inuit term for it is ‘‘kunik’‘. It’s a traditional greeting usually between relatives or a child and an adult, although it’s a little different from nose kisses so most Canadians call it ‘‘Inuit kiss’‘ and I’ve heard other people call it ‘‘bunny kisses’’. Either way there’s no excuse to use ‘‘eskimo’‘ in this context or another.
Thanks for telling us Americans definitely have no idea, so it’s good information.
Hey so I had a thought… I’ve seen a post floating around to log out of Tumblr on the 18th as like “protest” or whatev, but how about we all just post nudes on the 18th and overload the porn police bots and just break this godless site once and for all. We’ll go out with a bang, it’ll be beautiful.
anon im gonna be real with you. im not posting my nudes
Apparently your post will never be flagged if you mark it with a sfw tag and that’s what the bots are doing.
nice algorithm, staff!
Please don’t fucking log off tumblr on the 17th as a protest. All that’s going to do is give tumblr more reason to shut this place down because of revenue loss.
Please don’t fucking log off tumblr on the 17th as a protest. All that’s going to do is give tumblr more reason to shut this place down because of revenue loss.
This is blatantly untrue
Companies do not experience one day of revenue loss and pull the plug, destroying years of work and firing dozens if not hundreds of employees.
Companies which experience loss in revenue and consumer interest make investments and changes in order to regain their users/customers. That’s why organized protests and boycotts WORK. Tumblr will NOT go down after one bad day or week, but they might be willing to listen to its userbase if we put up an organized protest. (If you don’t believe me, think about how long sites like MySpace and Google+ hang around with fractions of their previous user base, often for years.)
Yahoo paid over one billion dollars for Tumblr, and the website will not go offline because of a one-day event, so in conclusion,
DO log off on December 17th to show Tumblr that you disapprove of its recent content ban and clumsy execution of censorship.
Please reblog this version of the post to stop the spread of misinformation.
