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Hello person having transgender thoughts but convinced they aren't trans because they don't have the requisite amount of dysphoria they think they need

Hi I transitioned without even thinking I had dysphoria. Like later in hindsight I can go "oh that's probably what it was" but for the first year of my transition I was straight up like "I like being a guy but I like being a girl WAY more" and you can do that!! There is no prerequisite amount of suffering needed to make yourself happier.

punkitt-is-here

Gonna include these tags cuz they're good

luetta

hey bro last night was really fun, i felt my inner flower bloom in your presence. sadly the only butterfly species with a long enough proboscis went extinct long ago. but i saw you ate that fruit cup without cutlery so maybe not all hope is lost

lowerroad

it's a good thing mensah is already married with kids by the start of all systems red because can you imagine trying to make a new longterm relationship work when you have to explain to potential partners that murderbot will be there. no not romantically or sexually. but it is there.

#murderbot

godlessondheimite

In 2026, the chicest thing a gay actor can do is never explicitly come out as gay but also make it abundantly clear that he is. Coming out is too modern. Staying closeted is too old fashioned. But this method merges contemporary freedom with Old Hollywood glamour and allure, and it weeds out the dumbest people who truly don’t get it. I call it the Pascal Method.

nobodys-odyssey

Taylor Swift does this

godlessondheimite

no she doesn’t

nobodys-odyssey

You clearly don't go here or to queer history and signaling, or both, enough to have this conversation and I'm not going to explain it to you. You could have asked questions, you could have done even a modicum of research. You didn't and you made yourself look ignorant. Goodbye.

sanjipussyindulgence

#15 hours ago they posted that??? she’s straight married 😭😭

couponkids

sexycraisinthanos

this is my favorite comic ever i never don’t want to see it on my dash

bgm05

casual pokemon player meme: I would like to have sex with this animal

competitive pokemon player meme: Bro thought he could switch his 252 Spe Borgulon into 252 SpAtk Choice Codpiece 2x Funny Dance STAB Mega Booboobus Peerless Tsunami 💀

motherfucker-unlimited

minttttttttttttttttttttttttttt

uwuppa

#pokemon

manuciruja

awww the like button turns into a rainbow when you press it! that's so cute...hey staff what's with all the trans women you keep nuking?

manuciruja

i think we should be ridiculing them more for this. you don't get to try and go all "queer website" when your staff likes to go on nuking sprees targeting the trans fem users

smadsel

would be remiss not to mention that the rainbow notably straight up just removed the trans flag colors from it. like they’re gone. it’s the progress flag minus the trans flag colors.

smadsel

that’s not the whole flag, now is it

manuciruja

hey staff what the fuck

lovelyl0tte

they flagged this as mature content holy shit

#I noticed this too like.#using an older version when the current progress pride flag with trans colors is widely accepted and used is. telling.

tyy07777

#how is she so beautiful…..#transformers

dogpuppy

squirrelly-13

they got married btw

visit-me-here-in-wonderland

oh you’re not kidding

#good for them??

depsidase

dovesndecay

Brennan, the comrade that you are.

Brennan: "[As you talk about investing in this town] you can watch as their eyes glaze over a little bit --"

Ally: "'Cause they're not staying."

Brennan: "[...] Some of them are talking about San Francisco or Seattle, other far-flung places. In other words, you guys talk about investing in this town ... I think either the kids are like, 'Cool! I'm a Junior. I've got one year left here.' or even if they're not, they're going like 'how long does it take to make a town good?'

You're watching a little bit of youth, and there's something very beautiful in youth in terms of their aspirations. But I think you can see, in the aspirations of many of these young people, there is a single-minded focus on the personal ambitions of their own life.

I will go to where life is good, and when I get there, I will be deemed worthy, and they will welcome me into the place where life is already good without me having to make it good. It is a cultural point of view that is only too familiar to you where they go, "I don't want to get my hands in this place and make it work. It already works somewhere, and someone will open a door and let me in."

dovesndecay

In an under two minute description of college students, he's managed to sum up the entirety of my problem with the all manner of folks who ask why anyone stays in a red state when they could leave.

Because I put my hands in!

dovesndecay

There've been a few responses that take this as "marginalized people should suck it up and stay in a dangerous situation to make it better for others" and that's not what this is about.

This is about one major thing:

Knowing Your Audience.

Is it the college student that's literally a couple of months away from never stepping foot in this town again? The traveling nurse that stays a couple weeks before they go to another coast and another hospital?

Folks with one foot already out the door are more likely going to be more concerned with immediate needs and actions, not the long term campaigns that can take months to years to accomplish, IF you accomplish them at all.

So you talk to them about the short-term, the flash actions, and the things that affect them directly.

Or are you talking with the family fighting for the elementary school to treat their dyslexic child well? The retired immigrant couple that plan on dying in that house and are struggling with the bank? The newly married queer couple that just bought that house and have brand new jobs, and want to build their lives in this place?

These folks are often 1) not in a financial position to leave, 2) don't want to leave because that's their community, their friends and families, and they lack that support network anywhere else they go, and 3) are more willing to get involved with (put their hands in!) slower moving projects because they intend to be here for the process and end result. It will affect them, even if it's five years down the road.

You're simply not going to talk to these people the same way about the same things.

"Meet people where they're at" is an oft-repeated statement among organizers because it's infuriatingly true.

whitepeopletwitter

ramshacklefey

No IDs, but these tags got me in a huff:

So ok look. The point is not the flared leg by itself. These cannot be yoga pants. These are, and you have to understand this if you are too young to have worn them, BLUE JEANS. And this was the last years before all jeans were 70% spandex.

They were denim, and they weren't bell bottoms. They hung loose from the knee in a way that would make a wizard envious. We all walked around like we were wearing hakama. And they dragged on the ground. That was important. Ragged cuffs. If your jeans weren't so long that they had ratty cuffs, they were embarrassingly short.

And the thing about denim is that it's a twill weave and it's cotton. So not only does it hold a lot of water, it wicks. Walking around in these suckers on a wet day could get you wet to the knees even if you never stepped in a puddle.

Then you'd go inside and take off your shoes and try to avoid letting your freezing, wet, filthy pant legs touch your skin.

Yoga pants. Hmf.

elodieunderglass

people in cold climates would have a tide line of white marks around their knees (if they were normal height) in the winter.

From wicking up road salt.

taibhsearachd

The visceral memory of that time is something that never leaves you. Everyone's jeans were many inches higher in the back than the front because you kept stepping on the hem and ripping it off. Your lower legs were so very cold. Every new pair of jeans literally enveloped your entire foot, they were so so long re: leg-to-waist ratio. Walking on a rainy day was a legitimate workout. You have no idea.

notbecauseofvictories

sarah i am 30 and lonely in a very big city and i never developed friend-making skills because i liked my solitude but i suddenly?? don't?? anymore?? how do new people work

Establishing meaningful relationships, particularly with people inconveniently not in the same apartment or office building, is hard. It just is. I’ve also found there’s a steady attrition of freely-available friendship as you get older, as people move out of their crowded apartments, shack up, start having children, climbing the ladder into jobs that demand more of their attention and energy, or managing other family obligations.

You realize that you’ve taken for granted how full the world felt, with people and potential. You’re not quite prepared for when you find yourself alone, and someone starts locking doors that you thought would be open forever.

Unfortunately, there is no easy fix to this. The only fix is: you are going to have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and do it all again. And again. And again.

“It” can take a lot of different forms. I know “join a group” is the most trite, annoying advice I can give but—do it. Find a group that you think you might be interested in joining, and join. Book club, running club, esoteric interest of your choice club; go on MeetUp and see what’s in your area, volunteer for stuff. Ignore (for weeks, if not months) the fact that you feel awkward and out of place, and make it a commitment.

And then, when you’ve been part of a group—well, it’s not so weird to ask if Lisa wants to go to a street festival with you. Not if you’ve packed lunches for the homeless with Lisa or laughed about a particular book with Lisa or been running alongside Lisa as you train for the upcoming 5k.

(Maybe Lisa will politely decline. Maybe Lisa will come to the street festival, but then has excuses for the next thing, and the next; she’s too busy to make a good friend right now. And so—you will pick yourself up. You will do it all again.)

Or you can reach out to those people you’ve fallen out of touch with. “Hey, James, if you’re in town let’s grab lunch!” sounds very fake but it’s not if you genuinely want to grab lunch with James. Ask Aiden if they’re doing anything on Thursday, and would they like to come to bar trivia with you? If they’re not in the same city, find some time for calls, or zoom—or hell, go old-fashioned and write letters.

If those ideas sound labor- and time-intensive, hard in the way that making yourself vulnerable always is……yes.

As I said, there’s no easy route to this. Relationships take effort and someone has to go first; someone has to toss the ball and hope another human catches it. You cannot guarantee the catch, that’s out of your power, so the only way to find people is to keep lobbing balls at everybody’s heads and hope they have good reflexes.

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