stuff&nonsense

20 and going through the motions of living.

[quotemadness]

“You know it’s love when all you want is that person to be happy, even if you’re not part of their happiness.”

— Julia Roberts

[poemswords]

“You have a place in my heart no one else ever could have.”

—

[justgoingthroughthemotions]

Been 3 months since i broke up with a person I'm still in love with. A little effort from him would have saved our relationship. I was tired of putting in efforts for both of us. But I'm not able to move on from him. He was my best friend too. He's moved on and is now very clear that we can never get back together because he says his mind is made up that he and i are incompatible. I understand that it's futile to hope to get back with him, but the heart wants what it wants. How do i forget him and move on? Should i block him everywhere and forget his existence(we have many mutual friends. Is blocking immature?) or still be his friend like he wishes to, even though it hurts me to see him with other people? He is the only guy I've ever liked.

I would really appreciate some help on how to move on. Pls.

#heartbreak #howdoyoumoveon #love #needadvice #lovestory #lovers

[talkgentlytome]

Tag yourself I’m the “Overdressed and Underappreciated”. Artist : http://www.mattadrian.com/ 

[vvillowenna]

If you thought “hm those styles of art AND speech seem very familiar,” you are right because it is the same person that did these

[the-husbando]

Oh my god damn

[alittleheartandruh]

My mum has six brothers. They all live in Pakistan- as does the rest of her family. I went there recently after ten years and saw them all. For the first time in my life, I believe I’ve seen true and undeniable love. All of my uncles are deeply in love with their wives, masha’Allah.

But one of my uncles in particular stood out to me. He is quiet and has a simple life; he lives in a modest home and has six children- four of whom are under the age of seven. They have goats and chickens in their courtyard, and there is constant hubbub. It took me time to realise his commitment to his wife because he is quiet and modest in that too. Slowly I realised that he never ever eats a meal without his wife. He will wait and wait and allow his food to become cold as she runs around and fusses over their children. His eldest daughter, Safiya, will often ask him to eat anyway but he refuses until his wife can eat with him because a meal is not enjoyable without her. He smiles and says ‘I’ve not eaten a roti without her for sixteen years and I don’t intend to start today’. Safiya rolls her eyes and brings her mum over then takes over whatever task her mum was doing.. but it’s evident that she has no problem doing this. The relationship her parents have is something she is very proud of and I know this because of how often she fondly spoke of it.

One night, she made me some chai over a small fire and we chatted until the early morning. She told me about her parents and how much her father values her mother. She was glowing with admiration and pride, and I couldn’t help but feel the same. Every morning before taking the children to school, he tells her mother she is as beautiful as a sparrow and every day she blushes and ushers him away- ‘jao!’ She says as she giggles. Their life is not easy though and Safiya explained to me that her mother can become silent and slow for days, unable to muster much joy. People talk about her in the village she says, but her father focuses only on his wife. In those times, he will ask his eldest children to look after the younger ones while he spends time alone with her. The two of them leave on his motorcycle, her arms wrapped tightly around him and her head resting gently on his shoulder. And then they come back and she slowly recovers.

Safiya told me many things; that she’d never ever heard her father raise his voice to her mother. That every Eid her father takes her shopping to pick a gift for her mother. That he agonises over it like it’s the first gift he’s ever gotten her. That her mother will call her husband at work every day at his lunch time, just to ensure he’d eaten. The list went on. She had a look of still contentment on her face the whole time she spoke of them. My heart surged and in my head I begged Allah to preserve and protect their love.

You know, I once read that the best thing a man can do for his children is to love their mother. But it was so significant to see the impact first hand. My cousins will know what kind of love they deserve after seeing it in their parents. It does not have to be loud and showy. It doesn’t need to be littered with big gestures.. it can be as tender and as simple as wanting to eat every possible meal together.

[killmongersgurl]

[culturistjack-deactivated201804]

I'd very much like to punch a feminist.

I’d never, ever hurt a lady but I’d be happy to punch a feminist. It’d bring me great joy.

[olisaurusrex]

I’m 6’2 and weigh 180lbs

ready when you are

[thattallsummonerguy]

Or if you’d like to have some more options….

I’m 6’4” 228 pounds and have 9 years of combined martial arts training and 3 years of being a Line Backer in football. Just in case you are looking for variety.

[wontbeafraid-deactivated2014041]

what about a lady and a feminist. warning, combatives certified soldier.

[nevergenders]

im tiny, i’m like 5′4 and 130 lbs but u can fight me too

[scumbagsblog]

Reblogging for the last one cuz that’s adorable

[likeits1995]

SO PROUD

[ghost--ranger]

The Fantastic 4 we deserve

[crimezi]

OMG IVE ONLY SEEN THIS POST IN SCREEN SHOTS

[suspiciousgay]

LEGENDARY POST???

[radi0gaga-deactivated20190224]

ITS BACK

[lesmolghost]

I LOVES THIS

[atomicmangomom]

I want to draw them as a super hero group. Is that weird? Lol

[queenofangrymoths]

I’d watch this movie

[iiythe-deactivated20211008]

yo @ marvel

[yuujislaugh]

wOahh

[anxietyproblem]

What's the weirdest thing you've done as a result of social anxiety?

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[vegetamammaries]

I’ve had friends drop me off at places where i don’t live, because i didn’t want to trouble them anymore than i have

[anxiouslydepressedintrovert]

People have gotten my name wrong when ordering food or like anybody at all and I don’t correct them so they think my name Alice when it’s actually Allison

[darksideofmythougts]

I’ve decided to sit in the car during social events so I won’t have to interact with anyone, but I still got weird stares from people walking by, so I would lean my seat all the way back so no one could see me.

[witchy-fandom-poutine-blog]

said i had to go somewhere then walked five miles to my house

[n3x0id]

Stared down someone who was trying to talk to me. QwQ

[onyourstageleft]

Ordered food through the drive thru and then sat in my car in the parking lot to eat

[storm-locked]

Ordered like 20 dollars of food in a drive through, paid for it, was asked to pull up past the window and park so they could bring it out to me when it was done, panicked because I didn’t know where exactly they wanted me to park, drove away and went home 

[sapphirerabbits]

i picked up a 90~100 kg goods trolley bc i didn’t want to inconvenience the person asking if i needed help. i’ve also accidentally ordered 20 chicken nuggets instead of 10, had the name ERI for a drink order, and gotten $2 cashout instead of $10. send help.

[thisexperimentisvalid]

I do that thing where I open my mouth to say something, close it, and repeat until the conversation is over because I don’t want to seem loud or rude.

[coldhands-bookworm]

One time I crawled under tables all the way to the exit on a social event just because it was too much, there were like a dozen tables,younger children started to mimick me,and parents weren’t happy

[potions-and-potters]

Dumbledore: Severus I’m still missing your photo for this year’s faculty newsletter

Severus: my apologies here it is

Dumbledore: you can’t even see half of your face. Maybe one less dramatic?

Severus: of course, headmaster.

Severus:

Dumbledore: I said less dramatic and preferably one where you’re not so alarmed

Severus: 

Dumbledore: did you have a photoshoot or something

Severus:

Dumbledore: what no Severus you are not in a boy band what is this pose wait you’re not in one are y-

Severus:

Dumbledore: are those special effects

Severus:

Dumbledore: cool but still a no

Severus:

Dumbledore: dramatic and very fitting for you but you can’t have fanart as your faculty photo who even is your fan and why don’t I have fanart

Severus:

Dumbledore: bold choice going with the profile, I admit I didn’t think you’d go for it, but you can’t have a dramatic death quote on your photo either this is a school for children they still have hope at least until their first class with you

Severus:

Dumbledore: *sigh*

Severus:

Dumbledore: why is the school on fire

Severus:

Dumbledore: is that a Death Eater meeting

Severus:

Dumbledore: oh my god 

Severus:

Dumbledore: seriously did you have a photoshoot

Severus:

Dumbledore: artsy but no

Severus:

Dumbledore: is that a screenshot

Severus:

Dumbledore: please stop

Severus:

Dumbledore: that’s it I’m taking away your photoshop privileges in the muggle studies computer lab

Severus:

Dumbledore: okay you know what fine that’ll do

Severus:

Dumbledore: no.

Severus:

Dumbledore: where are these all coming from

Severus:

Dumbledore: YOU KNOW WHAT NEVER MIND FORGET I ASKED YOU DON’T NEED A PHOTO

Severus:

[kurosae]

I am a dude with a boyfriend.

We’re both Asian.

We went on a bus and sat in front of two girls.

I kissed behind his ear (and then he punched me in the arm, he’s shy in public) and I heard one of them whisper to the other something along the lines of “We get to see close up yaoi on here!”.

(Neither of us are even Japanese)

I was kinda offended, so I took my boyfriend by the hand and left.

It made us feel very uncomfortable.

I just want to say:

Our love and relationship isn’t for your entertainment.

Nor is it here for you to fetishize and sexualize.

Please just keep your “yaoi xDD” to just fiction, and please do not call us “yaoi”.

Many dismiss this as not a problem, which I find rude as they have never experienced this so they don’t really have much to say against this.

Thank you for reading.

- Submitted by Anonymous

* ^^^ Sorry to hear that anon D: that’s pretty terrible.

[sweetgrumdrop-blog]

Really? I guess being accepted is just as bad as being hated. I bet of the girls had hissed in disgust he’d be sobbing and ranting about acceptance.

[long-gone-silvers]

Having straight people only see you as fap material isn’t acceptance you fucking homophobic walnut

[dollsome-does-tumblr]

i just read a washington post article on romcoms aging poorly due to the pushiness (and oft-stalkery conduct) of the male characters therein, and it got me thinking about pride and prejudice, and specifically darcy saying, “one word from you will silence me on this subject forever.”

because, like, that’s the seldom-portrayed romantic dream in the patriarchal hellscape that is our world, isn’t it?

a dude being willing to say, “i understand if you don’t feel the same way about me, and i’ll leave you alone forever about this if my attention is unwanted.”

so simple, yet so wonderful in its basic human decency

[adulthoodisokay]

and dudes to this day wonder why women still swoon over darcy

[thathealeygirl]

Note also: Elizabeth turns down Darcy’s first proposal, and in the process, accuses him of doing some stuff he did not do (and also some stuff he totally did).

The next day, he surprises her on her walk. He hands her a letter, asks that she read it, and then takes off.

When this happened to me after I had turned someone down IN REAL LIFE, the letter contained a passionate argument to the tune of “actually you’re wrong and you do like me and you should go out with me” and it was creepy af.

Darcy’s letter to Elizabeth starts with: “Be not alarmed, Madam, on receiving this letter, by the apprehension of its containing any repetition of those sentiments, or renewal of those offers, which were last night so disgusting to you”. He goes on to set the record straight about the stuff he didn’t do (as well as the stuff he did) which is *actually relevant* to Elizabeth. And he, as promised, doesn’t romance her further.

It’s totally bizarre that even now, this can be considered unusually great dude behaviour.

[pluckyredhead]

Darcy’s first proposal: “You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.”

Darcy’s second proposal: “One word from you will silence me on this subject forever.”

His whole arc in the book is about learning to consider other people’s feelings and not just his own, but the fact that it’s expressed via who gets to talk and who is told to shut up is so, so telling. The first time around, he imposes his voice on her whether she wants it or not. The second time, he asks how she feels, and in exchange, offers her the gift of his silence.

And yeah, the fact that dudes still! have! not! learned! this! lesson! is exhausting.

[elidyce]

I have never seen the Keira Knightley version of P&P because they cut a crucial line out of Elizabeth’s initial rejection. In the book, she smacks him down because of ‘your arrogance, your conceit, and your selfish disdain for the feelings of others’. The movie cut the selfish disdain, which is absolutely the most important part of the line. Arrogance and conceit? He already knew about those! He’d already had a conversation with her about pride, specifically his pride, and he was ready to go down with that ship.

But the selfish disdain? That was new information. That was the ‘oh shit’ moment that prompted the long letter, most of which boiled down to ‘look, I genuinely didn’t think it would hurt your sister’s feelings much and I am legit sorry about that but I love my friend and he doesn’t deserve your mother, okay, nobody deserves your mother especially not you and Jane who seem very nice and also here is the long and embarrassing story about why George Wickham’s feelings are not worth my concern or yours ever ever ever’. He may be a socially awkward idiot but he does care about people’s feelings and he wants her to know immediately that he is not the asshole she thinks he is in that regard.

And then they meet again and he practically turns himself inside out to prove that he listened and paid attention and he is being super considerate of the feelings of others at all times bc she was right and he was wrong and he is trying hard to be better about this. So he rescues Lydia not only for Elizabeth, but because he feels bad that he didn’t consider the further damage this asshole could do to other girls, he rescues Bingley and Jane’s romance because he wants to repair the hurt he caused both of them, and then he very humbly proposes again to Elizabeth, with appropriate concern about her feelings. 

The entire second half of the book is ‘Darcy Is More Considerate Of Others Because He Got Called On His Behaviour And Actually Listened’ and that’s the core of his appeal. Not because he’s a jerk in part one (and I’ve seen so many guys use Darcy as an example of Women Love Jerks Not Nice Guys), but because when someone actually explains to the socially inept egg ‘you are being a jerk and hurting people’s feelings’ his response is ‘oh, shit, I didn’t mean to do that, I will work super hard at never doing that again’. And then he follows through and does work super hard at it and makes the change. 

And that is why we all love Darcy.

[badsciencejokes]

…I almost killed myself

I put on my sunglasses, to hide my swollen eyes, over my tears. I cried all my makeup off. Went inside to have a milkshake. I don’t know why. I wanted something to drink as I figured out what I would do. I got a soda and a milkshake. Medium. The cashier looked at me and with a line around the corner of the counter he rushed away from the counter “Hold on “ he yelled to a coworker.

I filled my soda and went back and saw him looking all over. I go up and he gets close and says “I made it a large”.

That was seriously enough for me not to do it. His kindness. Someone went out of their way and as I went back in my car to cry I realized I could muster through a few other days. A few more weeks. Then I came down from that panicky high of anxiety, depression, and pain. I finished my shake. And it was enough time to let me feel better. I… I’m alive. I’ll make it through.

Try and be nice today. Tomorrow. Something as much as a smile. It helped so much.

Thank you man at McDonalds.

The milkshake saved my life

[blackheartseverywhere]

I hope you all can read this and remember to be kind

[the-quiet-priestess]

The smallest of gestures can save a life. My Mum answered her phone when I called and I am alive today because of that.

[badsciencejokes]

I’m glad you’re here.

It’s a phone call, a milkshake, a friend.

[badsciencejokes]

I feel like I shouldn’t keep reblogging this but when I do more people see what kindness can do…. I don’t know. Love everyone as yourself.

[nunyabizni]

Nah, keep rebloging it. It gives hope.

[evilerthanthou]

walked sobbing around a city once wearing a summer dress in mid-september thunder and rain. basically dragged myself into LUSH as the smell of the store always made me smile. the shop was empty and dead due to the weather, just this blonde short woman behind the counter who smiled at me. i stared at her feet and asked ‘do you have anything for people who are scared a lot?’ (i was so out of it i had no clue). she showed me two bath bombs, one pink and one blue, and said both were good - i chose the pink, paid for it and left. i then sat at a bus stop clutching the LUSH bag in one arm and my prescription meds in the other - i’d lied and ordered a refill so i could just drift away with sleeping pills. when the bus arrived and i was out of the rain, i decided to have another look at my bath bomb, smell it and what not. opened my bag and saw she’d put the blue one in there for me as well and written on the receipt ‘feel better soon :) hope you like x’. 

no one had ever been so selflessly kind to me before, i didn’t know what to do with it except hang around long enough to use the other bath bomb. 

[maggie-stiefvater-deactivated20]

Actually I’m going to reblog this again because of the truth of the inverse: think of any time you have been casually cruel or petty to someone for humor or because you weren’t in a great mood. 

The power of small gestures goes both ways.

[ageekyreader]

I was 10 the first time I seriously considered suicide. I was home alone and staring at a bottle of pills when some Jehovah’s Witnesses came to the door. No, they didn’t convert me, but it did rattle me. I put the bottle back. Two weeks later I was at that point again and mom called to ask me a question about something. That stayed with me for a LONG time. I was convinced I wouldn’t be lucky enough not to get caught. Which was what I needed to hold on.

No one can be there for everyone all the time. Don’t put that pressure on yourself. But when you have an option to do something nice, even a smile? Go for it. Ya never know.

I’m now 35.

[stardustizuku]

I remember once going into the bathroom in a restaurant. I felt awful because my dad had said something I don’t remember well what. But I remember I was sad and angry and scared and just wanted to die.

I called a friend, which didn’t ease me all that much. She was as depressed as I was, her words wouldn’t help.

But then I got up and a girl looked at me with smiling face. She went a hugged me, telling me everything would be alright.

That was the first time I ever realized what a strangers kindness could be so powerful.

Ever since that day I try to be kind to strangers, because you never know when they need it the most

[justgoingthroughthemotions]

Shiloh Dynasty makes me happy to be alive.

[justgoingthroughthemotions]

It's been more than a week since Jonghyun died and I still can't get over it. I'm not a shawol but it's still painful. He was too young and it still doesn't feel real. I can't imagine what his loved ones and fans are going through right now.

[justgoingthroughthemotions]

It's 1:35 in the morning and I'm up listening to Chase Atlantic - Friends.

[justgoingthroughthemotions]

My sanctuary.

[justgoingthroughthemotions]

Cherry cola by Jon Kuwada ❤❤❤❤❤

New fav bop💋

[justgoingthroughthemotions]

Who said sharing an umbrella with someone in the rain is romantic?

It's the most uncomfortable thing ever. You are trying not to get wet but also trying to make sure the other person gets the fair share of umbrella. And that is only possible if you walk really close together and synchronized walking is no joke people!!