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You are literally disgusting, delete your blog and lock yourself away until you can be less revolting. Stay away from other people, nasty fucking scum.

If you want my come back... you will have to scrape it off of your mothers face...

vorevevooveverov

Slithering around some new transitions

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Party advice

Truth..

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utwo

1968 Ford Mustang GT

keelarr

I had a 67..

wombshaker

one thing i realized a while ago is that some crushes are better left as crushes. sometimes, you only like someone because you don’t know enough about them to dislike them.

your1stpleasurer

This is so fuckin true

keelarr

Infatuation is often misguided until the full scope of the true nature is understood...

sunshineandtacostwoplease

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Taco Tuesday 🌮🌮🌮🌮🌮

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shipwreckedinsc

Ford Bronco

keelarr

If a truck were a redhead this would be it... and I hold redheads in the highest esteem...

surrender2life

“It’s painful, Sir”

“I know it is” When He acknowledges the unpleasant sensation And keeps on going. “take a deep breath now” When He not only sees my pain, but guides me through it. “I can see how much you want to please me” When He shows me how He cherishes my pain. Not by backing off or slowing down, but by letting me know He recognizes it. that He sees the gift of my pain. “that’s my girl” when He reminds me who owns me. “I’m so proud of you” and there’s a meaning to all of it.

submissive-seeking

His presence, our connection, bearing witness to my pain, accepting my gift …

All of these are REQUIRED to lead me to the otherside where the impossible becomes the “I’m Possible”

There is an art to breaking …

cherishedproperty

Obedience

I have a confession. I hate the plug. No, it’s not that I don’t like anal; quite the opposite. I love anal. I have my strongest orgasms from anal. So why do I hate it? It’s not the physical sensation of wearing it that bothers me. It’s a small-ish plug with a narrow neck. Comfortable to wear at work or walking around. And it’s not the act of putting it in, because a little saliva is all I need.

It’s the instruction itself. We have a new rule. I must have my plug with me at all times. And anytime he chooses, he texts me with instructions to put it in. The thing is, I have always hated plug rules. It seems so strange, that I could hate plug rules while loving anal play. But I think I figured it out.

The plug is not sexual. All this time, I’ve been thinking of it as sexual. Then I get an instruction to put it in while I’m at work or running errands or coloring with my daughter. And it feels like such a jarring switch in headspace. It feels like being used as a sexual object when, frankly, I have shit to do. I don’t have the time or mental space to be horny.

But the plug is not sexual. The plug is a reminder that he owns me—that my body is his property, and I am only its caretaker. The plug is no different than his rule that I put my hair in a ponytail before bed. When we are apart, these are ways he reminds me of my place and his control. The purpose is not to turn me on; the purpose is to keep us connected. The purpose is to give me peace.

Once I have the plug in, I feel that connection and peace. After the first couple minutes, I am not usually turned on. But when I move or clench, I feel him with me. There is purpose in what he chooses for me. And yet, when the instruction first comes through, it almost always feels inconvenient. Really? Does it have to be now? Because I’m in between meetings at work or volunteering or doing the laundry or… And I don’t feel sexual.

Sometimes I feel like I just need more time—time to switch my headspace or get in the mood. I want mental space to devote to the task. I want to take the time to really connect with my submission to him. But for him, the obedience is what matters. The obedience is what feeds him. And while I want that mental space, I rarely get it. But what I always forget is that the obedience feeds me, too. Even when I’m not in the mood. Even when I don’t want to. Because it’s not sexual; it’s just part of being his.

Plug instructions can feel like whiplash sometimes. It’s because I’m thinking of it as a sexual act, using one of my holes for his pleasure. But that’s almost never what it really is. It strengthens our connection. And more importantly, It’s an opportunity for me to accept his control and remember my place. I need these opportunities for submission. And he needs my obedience.

instructor144

This is a great piece on the butt plug, one of the more powerful “signifiers” in a D/s relationship. It’s not easy for most people to realize that the plug is not about sex. It’s not a stand-in for his cock. It’s not there to “turn her on.” It is there to keep the girl mindful, all day long, that the relationship “is not a ‘normal’ relationship,” and that her ass, like every other part of her body, mind, and soul, is owned.

daddys-1-babygirl

@masterdaddymark

masterdaddymark

Very few rules a DOM gives to his sub have anything to do with sex. They are in place for the subs benefit, not the DOMS. Fact is it would be “easier” without all the rules and just the sex, but that would be irresponsible for a DOM to do that. They are there out of love and genuine concern. They signify ownership and are there to remind her that someone is watching over her. For her growth and benefit. Rules are not controlling or confining. The fact is they are just the opposite. They are freeing and liberating. They remove stress and burden and allow the sub to concentrate on their personal growth and wellbeing. To allow their mind to quiet as they go about there Day. To remove worry that they are forgetting to do something. Rules remind a sub that they are loved. If I didn’t love or care for Baby Girl I wouldn’t take the time or responsibility to give her rules. Yet, the most important thing rules give a sub is an avenue for them to easily know they are pleasing their MASTER. it brings them great comfort and satisfaction to know that the simplest of chores pleases their MASTER. I never put rules in place in hopes of disobedience so I can punish my sub. They are put in place so that she can grow and so she can serve me and enjoy the satisfaction that her servitude provides her and THAT is what a D/s relationship is really all about. @daddys-1-babygirl

cherishedproperty

This is a really insightful comment. Thank you.

One thing I forgot to include (now in the original post) is that I don’t want him to stop giving these instructions. Even if I don’t always like them, I need them. I need him to control me, and I need it to be real and complete—not just when I’m in the mood. It is my responsibility to him, and serving him is my joy, even when the task itself isn’t.

submissive-seeking

Obedience

keelarr

It is both simple and complex at the same time, the duality of a dom/sub relationship is a beautiful example of complex simplicity... contrary to many impulses in life, in lifestyles involving control, a little less action and a lot more thought is indespensable.

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"I Am Not Nothing" recorded by Delightfulsubgirl with "I Don't Think About You" ad libs. TRIGGER WARNING!!

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Musically far from perfect, my voice was starting to give on me though and I wasn’t sure I could sing many more takes. I’d worked a lot on the full song already. Please listen and watch this video. It is very personal, It is the best way to explain what this means to me though.

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@instructor144 this is a video I put together with a little more of my story about escaping. Maybe it will help some of the anons in abusive relationships.

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@delightfulsubgirl Your voice gave me chills as always and the information on the video gave me tears. I cried out of fear not being able to imagine half of what you went through. This video is educational not only on your past but the signs of abuse in general. Thank you so much for sharing and showing others that they may be In an abusive situation without knowing and they can leave. Thank you for being the amazingly strong woman you show us everyday.

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Thank you @the-mindful-kitten I appreciate that. It is why I share it. Music has the ability to touch the soul in a way nothing else can.

keelarr

Simply beautiful. Stop looking away, stop accepting that it's "their business"... victims of abuse often lose sight of both their worth and their hope... what are we if not protectors of the weak? What are we if not the only hope someone may have?

dominantlife

12 Traits of a True Dom

1. He declines being called Sir, Master or any other grandiose title from the start. Until a relationship has been agreed he knows he’s a human being just like you, on the same level as you. He will owe you that respect and courtesy from the beginning. He declines being called ego-inflating names unless a dynamic has been explicitly agreed by both parties.

2. He looks after your interests. He will be on your side and will want you to be fulfilled in a relationship. He will be prepared to walk away from a relationship, if he believes your needs will be better met by somebody else. In fact he will be more than happy to introduce you to somebody else who will meet your needs better than him, even if that means he will lose you.

3. He doesn’t criticise other people, particularly other doms, behind their backs. He doesn’t feel threatened by other doms and doesn’t see them as competition. He doesn’t belittle or talk bad about other doms or tries to eliminate or undermine “competitors”.

4. He doesn’t try to dominate the conversation or gratuitously lead a group onto something just to prove to everyone and himself how domly he is. He will let other people have their say, without trying to hoard the limelight. He is a true team player who puts the needs and interests of the group before himself. He is interested in the team winning, not him winning.

5. He doesn’t prey on the vulnerable. He doesn’t hang around the entrance of munches or clubs looking for “fresh meat”. He doesn’t try to take advantage of inexperienced submissives and use their lack of knowledge to his advantage. On the contrary, he will protect those new and vulnerable and do what he can to guide them in the right direction.

6. He doesn’t instigate politics, bitching and division between camps. He is not prepared to partake in them and will try to minimise conflict whenever possible. He has a conciliatory tone and tries to build bridges, not burn them, whilst still defending what is right.

7. He’s approachable. He’s friendly and welcoming and accepts everybody as they are. He keeps his ego in check and doesn’t carry himself with a swagger or in a threatening or arrogant manner. He’s not in possession of the truth. He knows an überdom is quite the opposite of a true dom.

8. He admits to his mistakes. He’s happy to say sorry. He knows that being a dom doesn’t mean he’s perfect. He will own up to his errors and will make reparation whenever possible. If he makes a mistake during play he’ll apologise sincerely and make sure it doesn’t happen again.

9. He’s comfortable with a sub who is more intelligent, skilled and capable than him. He knows that being a dom doesn’t mean he has to be the best at everything. He’s quite happy to take instruction from her submissive and let her teach him what he doesn’t know. As an example, he’s happy to take directions from her when he’s driving.

10. He has nothing to prove. He’s comfortable in his own skin and doesn’t need to prove to anybody how “dominant” he is. He doesn’t try to live up to some expectation of what a dom should be. He’s confident and sure of himself and is untroubled by others disagreeing with him and having a different approach to dominance than his. He knows who he is and he doesn’t need to justify himself to anybody.

11. He doesn’t take liberties. He will not boss around a person just because she’s submissive. Nor will he grope her either. He will be clear, transparent and specific about how he wants to play, before anything happens. He will not take advantage of someone being in subspace and therefore more vulnerable. He is polite to waiters, clerks and those in serving professions.

12. He’s trustworthy. He has a strong sense of integrity, responsibility and compassion. He will stick to his agreements and fulfil his end of the bargain. He will tell the truth and behave with honesty, even if that means he loses out. He’s honourable and his word is his bond.

(source: Fetlife/DominantMan78)

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lovesubmissivegirls

Well said..

naughtynurse1964

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