Meh...

Anime/Manga fan (❁´‿`❁) and also a BTS ARMY ; 3

[asaltywoman-deactivated20230601]

Therapist is right though being hit (even with “consent”) is never empowering and she should be encouraged to work on why and what not but that doesn’t work for you op cause you want to be able to hit your wife without consequences (being and treated like the abuser you are)

And the comments are what you expect a bunch of therapist was unprofessional therapist is judging y’all and you can find a kink friendly therapist (uhhh wtf)

[psspsspussy]

Imagine being someone's therapist for years and finding out you were helping her work through her PTSD just because some dude wanted to eliminate her excuses for not letting him hit her.

[femsolid]

Yeah self harming isn't exactly therapy, nor is re-enacting rape scenes, shocking.

[strangeuglywomen]

You get 1000% more ok with urself when u stop wearing make-up and I won't argue with anyone on this it's true

[hxlf-savage]

[dhakcjshkvjbd]

And wearing makeup requires much more than just applying makeup. If you want it to keep looking the same all day, you have to check frequently to see if your eyeliner is smudged, or your lipstick is on your teeth, or you’ve sweated off your foundation.

You have to keep your hair out of your makeup, put on and remove clothing carefully, remember not to touch your face or rest your face on things, not let yourself sweat or cry. Wind and water can ruin your makeup, kisses or caresses from loved ones can ruin your makeup, eating food can ruin your makeup, your cat nuzzling you can ruin your makeup, rolling in sand or grass or soft blankets can ruin your makeup, physical exertion can ruin your makeup. Anything spontaneous and exciting and joyful can ruin your makeup.

Even if you want to keep applying makeup, it’s essential to get to a point where you’re ok with it getting smudged or coming off, because maintaining the perfect face of makeup often comes at the cost of living your life to the fullest.

[antiplondon]

[mikuspeaksthroughme]

The fact people will be like “well it is the oldest profession” like this wasn’t the reality and most of the women were literal slaves

[kaweebo]

Both can be true. 

[antiplondon]

Prostitution being ‘the oldest profession’ is a complete myth. A woman imbedded in an egalitarian hunter/gatherer society doesn’t need to swap sex for food, she has all the knowledge, tools, and resources she needs to feed herself.

For a woman to only be able to feed herself through transactional sex, requires a stratified society with food surplices, which would require agriculture first to create those surplices.

If a woman is swapping sex for any resource (food, clothes, coins), then the making of those resources came first, and as others have already pointed out, here and under other posts, midwifery came earlier than any other ‘profession’.

Saying ‘both can be true’ makes no sense anyway, if some of the first women in prostitution were slaves, then capturing and trading in slaves came first.

[exjade]

THANK YOU, I have always hated how it’s called “the oldest profession,” which carries this implication that the sexual slavery of women is somehow inevitable to the human race. And people say it with such nonchalance like “what can you do bitch? If there’s one thing that’s inherent to humans it’s that women are dehumanized, subjugated commodities!”  

[antiplondon]

It’s a myth created by Rudyard Kipling, an old, white, colonialist, dude!

The oldest profession in the world (or the world’s oldest profession) is a phrase that, unless another meaning is specified, refers to prostitution.  However, it did not start to acquire that meaning until 1889, after a Rudyard Kipling story, and it did not do so universally until after World War I. Formerly, various professions vied for the reputation of being the oldest.

The claim to be the oldest profession was made on behalf of farmers,[1]cattle drovers,[2]horticulturalists,[3] barbers,[4] engineers,[5]landscape gardeners,[6] the military,[7] doctors,[8]nurses,[9] teachers,[10]priests,[11]lay preachers[12]  and even lawyers.[13]

[femsolid]

Paid rape isn’t a profession.

[jenny-jinya]

TW: animal death / injury / death For grandma, who loved pigeons, and for grandpa, who did not but wanted her to be happy. Please hear me out <3 WEBTOON

[kristina100000]

this is surreal.. tw for rape

Opinion | Close the Police Rape Loophole

Dozens of states around the country have vaguely written statutes in place that could be letting police officers get away with sexual assaul

There's No Such Thing as 'Consensual Sex' When a Person Is in Police Custody

On the night of Sept. 15, 2017, Edward Martins and Richard Hall, narcotics detectives with the New York Police Department, pulled over an 18

[braintarts]

Archive of the New Yorker article- 

[elafant]

reblog if you dont have a bra on

[arosuggestions]

We’re not “just friends,” we’re friends. 

Stop defining friendship as less than romance. Stop defining romance as better than friendship. 

Friendship is enough, friendship is beautiful and fulfilling and good. Friendship isn’t less than. No type of relationship is better than another. 

[4achansworld]

Im sorry i can't keep coddling women's feelings, my sister in christ if you have to do 947482836436 makeup steps every day to feel confident and feel like a bad b,, you're probably not that confident and adding on more beauty procedures isn't gonna solve anything.

Spending an hour every morning to do makeup, then be careful all day as to not ruin the makeup and then coming home to double cleanse and do 10 step skincare to 'repair' ur skin from the damage that makeup did is not empowering.

[niggazinmoscow]

Wait what those are not photos??!! Soooooo incredibly talented and skilled.

[wintertidewater-deactivated2025]

[angrybutchrights-deactivated202]

we can’t even talk about how lesbians have been persecuted in history without TW making it about them. they expect us to change our language to dehumanize lesbians so trans women don’t get their feelings hurt lmao.

[cristalplanetheart]

[liberaljane]

You want to ban abortion? We will learn to do it ourselves.

Self managed abortion with pills is safe, effective and unstoppable. Learn more: https://reproaction.org/campaign/self-managed-abortion/

Digital illustration of an Asian woman sitting backwards in a chair. She’s wearing a purple matching suit, bright glittery butterfly boots, and has long black hair with butterfly clips. On the floor are pieces of state legislation and there’s two text bubbles. The first questions, ‘you want to ban abortion?’ Which is responded with ‘we will learn to do it ourselves.’

[ripbasedterfysun]

This is exactly how guys behave.

[transatlantic-accent]

I’m actually so sick of this Johnny Depp / Amber Heard case, everyone is on his fucking side despite mountains of evidence to the contrary. People are so willing to Stan their poor lil man that they will look past him sending aggressive and offensive texts, doing shit loads of drugs and alcohol that made him more aggressive, is a confirmed wifebeater, cutting off his own finger, and on and on and on. Like fine if u don’t believe her, but they are so harsh on every aspect of her down to saying her clothes and glasses were imitating Depp, saying everything she does is manipulation, while excusing everything from him, just so they can say that women are abusive.

[thelesbiancitizen-deactivated20]

It’s imperative for women to learn to recognize when we are self-censoring to avoid hurting a man’s feelings. If speaking up about our experiences and our feelings is offensive to a man, then let him be offended. Speak up for what we know to be true for ourselves and for our sisters.

Men are depending on us staying silent out of fear so we don’t recognize how much more we have in common with each other than with them.

[sespursongles-deactivated201906]

That article where a law professor argues that battered women are morally entitled to kill their abusers has an interesting quote: “ Men can kill women with their bare hands, and they do. Women almost never kill men that way. They can’t. […] While very few women kill abusive men who are asleep or passed out, it’s “unfair” to charge them with first degree murder, Sheehy argues. “It’s not fair to characterize it as the most heinous form of murder, because it may be their own route to survival. ” There have probably been feminist analyses of this already, but it’s worth discussing how the concept of self-defence, especially in domestic violence cases, was designed by men to benefit men. In my country at least, your attack is only considered “legitimate self-defence” if it is a) necessary, b) immediate, c) proportionate. A concept of self-defence that only applies if you hurt or kill someone while they are attacking you, and if you hurt or kill them using the same weapons as them (your bare hands, if that’s what they are using) only benefits people who are likely to be attacked by people of similar size and physical strength, and is utterly useless to women.

When a bigger, stronger male beats up his much smaller wife, it’s almost impossible for her to kill him in self-defence (immediately and proportionately ie with nothing but her fists), and yet it’s the scenario through which she can hope to be acquitted or get a light sentence. That’s not a coincidence. The other two scenarios (and she will be despised if she picks either) are for her to  1) kill him later (when he can’t use his physical advantage, eg when he’s asleep or has his back turned on her), but it won’t be self-defence because it won’t be immediate. (In the Jacqueline Sauvage case, one of the main arguments against her was that she shot her husband in the back at a time when he wasn’t actively beating her up) 2) use a weapon, but it won’t be self-defence because it won’t be proportionate. Obviously this condition also benefits men, because when a woman gets punched by her husband and she punches him back, it’s seen as a proportionate response but it shouldn’t be, because her punch (typically) won’t do nearly as much damage as his. Anything else she does (like use a weapon) to try and hurt him as much as he hurt her will be considered a disproportionate response and will mean it wasn’t self-defence.

The idea that killing your abuser in a honest face-to-face fight with your bare hands is honourable and forgivable, but killing your abuser in any other way is shameful and wrong, utterly benefits men and protects men. It’s also why poison was historically reviled as a ‘female weapon’ and as the most cowardly way to kill someone. Poison has been described as “a great equalizer” - no wonder men hated it. Men have always hated, and will keep hating, shaming, and outlawing, any form of attack through which women can compensate our disadvantage in strength and size, and they will keep praising as the only valid method of self-defence, the method that presents the smallest risk of being effectively used by women against them.

[cyberpunknoire]

Holy fucking shit

[kittiesatemypronouns]

I love this analysis. It’s very sound.

[questioning-gender-theory]

I think its worth pointing out that part of the reason behind self defense having to be immediate is that the theory is that if its not immediate, then you could have gotten away and called the police. Removing that part of the definition would almost certainly end up justifying things like ongoing gang violence, retaliation etc.

This is one of the reasons I believe domestic abuse needs to be governed by different laws than other violence. There is a tendacy to think every attack is the same but they aren’t. In the context of DV the above clause is not true; if you live with someone, then them not currently attacking you does not mean you can get away to call for help. It changes the whole dynamic of violence and that needs to be reflected in the law.

[femsolid]

In fact it is when women try to or even succeed at getting away that the man is most likely to kill them.