[youngerfrankenstein]

To put it very bluntly.

You will always make a better impact helping people who need it than trying to hurt people you think deserve it.

[kr1s71e]

tonight one of my gfs pet me and whispered "good puppy" in my ear and i got so turned on i cried

[festeredhearts]

can I talk to you in the woods about something

[capacity2]

I feel so bad for the annoying women at work. Like I actually feel sick when we’re interacting and I feel the annoyance occurring in my brain like she really doesn’t mean to be this way and she just doesn’t want to feel alone or rejected. you can tell she’s experienced being an outsider everywhere she goes it’s only a matter of time. And it’s not cool chic or edgy but in the ugliest most desperate and dehumanizing way. They always start hopeful. they want to connect and they go searching for someone receptive to her so she can find her people but everyone turns away from her slowly and u hear it in her voice. It’s happening again. she starts hesitating to speak and when she does you hear a shaky child ending every sentence like it’s a question. Testing the waters to know if she’s wrong for even trying. And then I realize I took her smile for granted now that it’s gone.. I have to make it up to her I can’t let something like this continue. Life is so hard for people everywhere, so building a tolerance for being irritated is nothing in comparison especially if the reward is less pain and loneliness in the world I will always be the bestie you have my word

[cyberbaptism]

People who flinch at this or jump to hating on OP have never been completely honest with themselves and it shows. Like, you know this person. You've met this person. The under socialized outcast who everyone thinks is kinda annoying and weird, including you. People think that acknowledging their own annoyance towards someone who's essentially harmless is the same as killing someone and being ontologically bad. Like, as long as you don't shun that person you're good. Actually, that's exactly what OP is fucking talking about. They acknowledge and see that this woman is the way she is and also express sympathy, but because there's no over the top performative moralizing everyone thinks it's mean when it's just a true assessment of the situation. Like, two things can be true at once—yes, this person is annoying and they make me cringe and yes, I'm not gonna be an asshole about it because I know that's not right. I have a sneaking suspicion that the reason everyone got so fired up about this is because they're scared that they might've been the annoying coworker in someone else's story. And guess what you probably were. Yeah. Sit with that. Did you die? Did the discomfort kill you?

[capacity2]

The hysterics was giving 2015 tumblr fr. We’ve all been that hoe nobody likes before

[storyweavingspider]

Tops can be sexually assaulted too, without being penetrated even.

[storyweavingspider]

Like outside of the times I’ve been coercively raped, I’ve had people tell me I couldn’t possibly be the victim in a situation, implicitly because I’m large and a top and the woman who SA’d me that specific time was petite and a bottom.

Even when I was “cis” I had an incident where my gf at the time, a drunk cis white woman, literally spent an hour trying to pin me down and rip off my clothes to fuck me as I was trying to care for her, despite repeated refusals. It reached the point I had to leave the room after escaping her and hold the door shut until she gave up, and any time I mentioned it to others back then the concern was not her trying to sexually assault me, but that if she had succeeded I’d have been at fault for being a Black “man” having sex with a drunk white woman.

Iunno just. Thinking about this and it’s frustrating.

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

my ex-husband would make my life hell if I didn't fuck him, scream at me for hours or days which often led to him hitting me. later, when talking about it with people, it became very clear that a lot of them were thinking, "but you're bigger than him, why did you let him do that?"

he told me point blank that if I called the cops, he'd lie and say I was the abuser. we both knew who they would believe. I was more scared of losing my cool and fighting back than I was scared of being hit. I preferred being hit to the screaming.

it didn't start out like that, of course, he started out by guilting me about the fact that I didn't want to fuck him. I didn't fuck him because he was abusive about other things. it's always stuck with me that sex was essentially the last thing he got abusive about before I left, I think it took him that long and had to start slow because he was protecting his image of himself as a victim.

he had to build that protection up before he could try to actually force me to fuck him. he did not, of course, ever threaten me before I said no. that would've made things too clear to ignore, it was always a day or a week later. it always started as "I feel undesirable because you don't want to fuck me".

you understand that this is rape, right? I waited until now to mention that we were both "cis" at the time because "husband beating his wife" is understood differently than if the genders were the other way around, especially for transfems.

you understand that the difference between being understood as "abused wife" and not "man who probably deserved it" is razor-thin, right?

[goth-princess-gwennie]

I was 17. My cis girlfriend frequently violated my consent and emotionally ma isolated and buawd me into sex I didnt want. When I said I didnt want it I was ignored or made to feel guilty. Swx leaves me feeling disgusting even now. I was an isolated alone trans girl. I didnt even understand I was being raped as I was the top

[limesrabbit]

my ex would constantly abuse my trust and patience by getting herself into horrible situations that i would have to help her out of. basically all to make me feel bad fur leaving. this extended into our sexual interactions as well.

whenever the two of us had sex, it was because she wanted to reinforce her position as the submissive and helpless one. she was actively coercing me into being on top every single time. she probably knew that i couldnt retaliate. because the big scary tranny person would instantly get accused of hurting this delicate unstable girl. not to mention the pregnancy scare she tried to pull on me when i started pushing back against her. despite her being infertile in the first place. she never ever ever communicated straight with me it always had to be some vague guilty-sounding thing even though i never so much as yelled at her a single time. for fear of being persecuted.

im getting in the weeds. the point is that i was never allowed to not top, and i was abused the entire time. its very real. dont let anyone tell you it isnt real.

[salmaciansalix]

I was 22. My cis partner said something transphobic, I responded "well, I mean, I think I'm trans." She said "No." And wouldn't speak to me until we got back to my place. We hadn't been having penetrative sex because she wanted to wait for marriage, and when we got there she said "You're going to fuck me. I want to try it." I asked why, "because you're my boyfriend." So we briefly tried, and after about five minutes she asked to stop. We did immediately, and she left the room. When she came back she said "I forgive you. It's okay."

She held it over me for the next three years we were together. She'd only see me one night a week, when she would routinely guilt and coerce me into having (non-penetrative, so not sex to her) sex with her.

We only broke up because she gave me an ultimatum to start going to church with her and find christ.

[posthumousprincessparts]

PLEASE HELP TWO TRANSFEMS IN DANGER

hi there it's princess/nova back again, i'm really sorry i have to come here like this but me and my wife are still struggling abandoned by our families and unable to reach any of our friends. we've been trying to survive without me being exposed to harassment but at this point we're going hungry. we don't have any income and need help affording food for ourselves and our kitties please if you can, donate. I would be so truly thankful

v3nm0: @Crow-Forgemaster , @Prince-Nova

c@sh@pp: $dragonforgedbutch , $StrayNova

and for people from outside of the USA, i take donations on my F@nsly: @lil_puppy_nova

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

I can't stress enough that she is understating just how dire things are. I know we're all struggling but please, please do what you can.

[wilczak]

Wet Beast Wednesday

[funkyness]

at least can all we agree that the original gay flag with the magic and sex colours is BEAUTIFUL and it should make a comeback

[funkyness]

what’s more iconic than this

[azeroundivided]

What about the final version of the flag by the original creator?

Gilbert Baker added a 9th stripe shortly before his death, with the new stripe representing diversity. He added this stripe in reaction to the 2016 US election. It’s unfortunately not as well known as the 8 and 6 striped versions.

Here’s an image of him sewing together the 9 striped rainbow flag.

[laurasinele]

Happy pride month everyone

[citywidespecialll]

hello i love you what is your favorite meal can i cook it for you

[storyweavingspider]

Tops can be sexually assaulted too, without being penetrated even.

[storyweavingspider]

Like outside of the times I’ve been coercively raped, I’ve had people tell me I couldn’t possibly be the victim in a situation, implicitly because I’m large and a top and the woman who SA’d me that specific time was petite and a bottom.

Even when I was “cis” I had an incident where my gf at the time, a drunk cis white woman, literally spent an hour trying to pin me down and rip off my clothes to fuck me as I was trying to care for her, despite repeated refusals. It reached the point I had to leave the room after escaping her and hold the door shut until she gave up, and any time I mentioned it to others back then the concern was not her trying to sexually assault me, but that if she had succeeded I’d have been at fault for being a Black “man” having sex with a drunk white woman.

Iunno just. Thinking about this and it’s frustrating.

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

my ex-husband would make my life hell if I didn't fuck him, scream at me for hours or days which often led to him hitting me. later, when talking about it with people, it became very clear that a lot of them were thinking, "but you're bigger than him, why did you let him do that?"

he told me point blank that if I called the cops, he'd lie and say I was the abuser. we both knew who they would believe. I was more scared of losing my cool and fighting back than I was scared of being hit. I preferred being hit to the screaming.

it didn't start out like that, of course, he started out by guilting me about the fact that I didn't want to fuck him. I didn't fuck him because he was abusive about other things. it's always stuck with me that sex was essentially the last thing he got abusive about before I left, I think it took him that long and had to start slow because he was protecting his image of himself as a victim.

he had to build that protection up before he could try to actually force me to fuck him. he did not, of course, ever threaten me before I said no. that would've made things too clear to ignore, it was always a day or a week later. it always started as "I feel undesirable because you don't want to fuck me".

you understand that this is rape, right? I waited until now to mention that we were both "cis" at the time because "husband beating his wife" is understood differently than if the genders were the other way around, especially for transfems.

you understand that the difference between being understood as "abused wife" and not "man who probably deserved it" is razor-thin, right?

[goth-princess-gwennie]

I was 17. My cis girlfriend frequently violated my consent and emotionally ma isolated and buawd me into sex I didnt want. When I said I didnt want it I was ignored or made to feel guilty. Swx leaves me feeling disgusting even now. I was an isolated alone trans girl. I didnt even understand I was being raped as I was the top

[limesrabbit]

my ex would constantly abuse my trust and patience by getting herself into horrible situations that i would have to help her out of. basically all to make me feel bad fur leaving. this extended into our sexual interactions as well.

whenever the two of us had sex, it was because she wanted to reinforce her position as the submissive and helpless one. she was actively coercing me into being on top every single time. she probably knew that i couldnt retaliate. because the big scary tranny person would instantly get accused of hurting this delicate unstable girl. not to mention the pregnancy scare she tried to pull on me when i started pushing back against her. despite her being infertile in the first place. she never ever ever communicated straight with me it always had to be some vague guilty-sounding thing even though i never so much as yelled at her a single time. for fear of being persecuted.

im getting in the weeds. the point is that i was never allowed to not top, and i was abused the entire time. its very real. dont let anyone tell you it isnt real.

[salmaciansalix]

I was 22. My cis partner said something transphobic, I responded "well, I mean, I think I'm trans." She said "No." And wouldn't speak to me until we got back to my place. We hadn't been having penetrative sex because she wanted to wait for marriage, and when we got there she said "You're going to fuck me. I want to try it." I asked why, "because you're my boyfriend." So we briefly tried, and after about five minutes she asked to stop. We did immediately, and she left the room. When she came back she said "I forgive you. It's okay."

She held it over me for the next three years we were together. She'd only see me one night a week, when she would routinely guilt and coerce me into having (non-penetrative, so not sex to her) sex with her.

We only broke up because she gave me an ultimatum to start going to church with her and find christ.

[sapphireh3arts]

the only difference between me and my gf is she got different hormones in utero. i wish people could see that being trans was really more of a medical thing. your brain Literally feels relieved and balenced once you get hrt into you- it's not just that it starts changing the physical aspects of your body that make you feel better! and its because its really a hormone disorder and your brain and body medically need the correct hormones!

[nonstickbrain]

It really blew my mind how immediate and stark the effect of starting HRT was on my brain, even more than my body.

My executive dysfunction got better, intrusive thoughts all but disappeared, I'm so much more social and outgoing, I can feel my emotions. It's almost like my body had the wrong chemical my whole life

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

We're many years away from good research on the topic, but sex hormones are neuroactive steroids, it's entirely believable that HRT tangibly improves the state of your brain on a biological level.

[posthumousprincessparts]

PLEASE HELP TWO TRANSFEMS IN DANGER

hi there it's princess/nova back again, i'm really sorry i have to come here like this but me and my wife are still struggling abandoned by our families and unable to reach any of our friends. we've been trying to survive without me being exposed to harassment but at this point we're going hungry. we don't have any income and need help affording food for ourselves and our kitties please if you can, donate. I would be so truly thankful

v3nm0: @Crow-Forgemaster , @Prince-Nova

c@sh@pp: $dragonforgedbutch , $StrayNova

and for people from outside of the USA, i take donations on my F@nsly: @lil_puppy_nova

[doyoulovethewayzeylily]

I can't stress enough that she is understating just how dire things are. I know we're all struggling but please, please do what you can.

[madmonksandmaenads]

I wish I could make white people(and not just white Americans) understand how diverse the pre-columbian Americas were. The history, religion, culture, politics was at least as complex as Europe's. There was the full gamut of religions, from monotheists to animists to ancestral religions. There were city building empires, village farmers, nomadic traders, and so many other ways to live. This is all just based on what we know, the fragments left behind and the stories of survivors of an apocalyptic plague. All this before the most extended campaign of genocide in history was waged in an attempt to wipe out those survivors.

Over 500 years spent trying to cut down a whole trunk of human culture.

Do you understand how much poorer our whole species is because of it? Can you imagine where art, religion, and science would be if we still had these vast bodies of knowledge? The stain of the colonial project will never be fully washed clean. We owe more than just the land to those we stole from. We owe them a whole future, a future that could have been brighter for all of us. If only greed and fear weren't allowed to rule this land.

[azulcrescent]

hehe

[wedding-funeral-waitress]

Today I'm feeling: utter rage at the fact tags for transgender pride and identities are filled to the brim with porn bots that steal the likeness of trans women.

[drowsy-corpsegirl]

The Dom should be praised too

[drowsy-corpsegirl]

Take care of your doms. Praise them. Make them feel cared for and loved. Or you don't deserve them.

[drowsy-corpsegirl]

This applies doubly, x10 tbh, to transfemme doms. You NEED to be nice to her, you NEED to let her know she is doing a good job. That transfemme dom might have a lot of issues with her self worth, she may have been used up and left a discarded husk so many times.

Sorry but I got sick of scrolling through the notes on this on desktop and seeing all the red usernames marked by shinigami eyes reblogging this.

I'm a transfemme dom and I'm proud of it. Take care of us. Love us.

[drowsy-corpsegirl]

And then no one reblogged this version

[shutyourmoustache]