"I'm Dorothy Gale from Kansas"
cherry valley forever
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2025 on Tumblr: Trends That Defined the Year
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Keni
we're not kids anymore.
Love Begins
trying on a metaphor
Mike Driver
if i look back, i am lost
Discoholic 🪩
Andulka
hello vonnie
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shark vs the universe
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@krokorokden
when people who don't partake in fandom culture say "i hate x fans" they are usually talking about autistic children sharing their interests
when people who do partake in fandom culture say "i hate x fans" they are usually talking about genuinely dangerous people to hang around.
obviously both are generalizations but i'd rather trust someone with fandom experience than someone who just seems like they wanna harass kids
"i'm afraid of men due to trauma" it's ok, i understand
"i'm afraid of women due to trauma" it's ok, i understand
"i treat all women as evil and deceptive due to trauma" Go fuck yourself.
why are some fandom jokes about showing nsfw/fetish art to literal children that is not funny that is concerning at the very least
radtwt timeline be like
here's why bioessentialism is necessary, a 🧵
if you like dildos and strap you're not a real lesbian because anything phallic is inherently male
*misogynistic soyjak-esque comic explaining why i only listen to women who agree with me*
I HATE MEN OF COLOR I HATE MEN OF COLOR I HATE MEN OF COLOR I HATE MEN OF COLOR
idgaf if it's "horrorcore" songs about raping corpses are weird. in a bad way. the bad kind of weird.
i hope that one person i am currently thinking about gets trapped in a small dry area where they slowly die of thirst
no matter how low i get never at even at my lowest point will you ever catch me advocating for trump 💀💀
anyone else feel like transmedicalism kind of devolved from "you need dysphoria to be trans" to "if you don't experience dysphoria in the exact same way i do, then you're cis and faking it"??? i mean, i kinda hold some transmedicalist beliefs, like why the fuck would anyone want to be trans if they don't have any form of dysphoria? but even then as someone who passes as ftm (but again…i'm not exactly ftm) i still think that it's super petty for calling a trans man who doesn't conform to every single gender role ever a girl. when a cis guy is gnc you guys cheer him on but when a trans guy does it, it's suddenly a problem?
is this just a problem on tiktok??
puritanism is too normalized in today's society yes but you guys are abusing the word "puritan" that it's getting annoying
no people who find you a weirdo for liking dog parts are not "puritans", jimmy. this is why nobody takes us seriously anymore
Double Standard Dictionary: A Guide to Things That Are Only "Problems" When Women Do Them
Let's have an honest conversation about something that drives me absolutely crazy. You know those little comments and judgments that somehow only seem to apply to women? Yeah, we need to talk about that.
The Professional Edition
When men vs. when women do the exact same thing:
He's assertive → She's aggressive
He's focused → She's cold
He's passionate → She's emotional
He's dedicated → She's obsessed
He's confident → She's arrogant
He's strategic → She's manipulative
He's busy → She's neglecting her life
The Dating Double Standards
The classics that never seem to die:
He's dated around → She has "a past"
He's a bachelor → She's "left on the shelf"
He's selective → She's picky
He's career-focused → She's married to her job
He's a social butterfly → She's attention-seeking
He's "finding himself" → She needs to settle down
He's direct → She's desperate
The Appearance Police
The endless contradictions:
Look professional, but not too try-hard
Be attractive, but not attention-seeking
Wear makeup, but keep it "natural"
Be fit, but not too muscular
Dress well, but not too sexy
Look youthful, but not immature
Age gracefully, but never look old
The Emotion Edition
How it's perceived:
His anger is justified → Her anger is hysteria
His sadness is deep → Her sadness is dramatic
His stress is from hard work → Her stress is from "not coping"
His excitement is enthusiasm → Her excitement is over-the-top
His concerns are valid → Her concerns are paranoid
His anxiety is pressure → Her anxiety is weakness
The Family Chronicles
The never-ending judgment:
He's babysitting → She's just parenting
He's helping around the house → She's doing her job
He's focused on work → She's neglecting family
He needs time to himself → She's selfish
He's weighing his options → She's wasting time
He's figuring out what he wants → Her clock is ticking
The Office Politics
Things I'm tired of seeing:
Men get mentored → Women get hit on
Men network → Women "sleep their way up"
Men are busy → Women "can't handle it"
Men are thorough → Women are perfectionists
Men delegate → Women are lazy
Men need work-life balance → Women are uncommitted
The Social Scene
The ridiculous expectations:
Be fun but not too wild
Be social but not too friendly
Be smart but not intimidating
Be successful but not threatening
Be independent but not difficult
Be strong but still need help
Be confident but still humble
The Success Paradox
What we're dealing with:
Be ambitious but not threatening
Lead but don't be bossy
Achieve but don't outshine
Negotiate but don't be demanding
Succeed but stay likeable
Excel but remain modest
Win but make it look effortless
The Reality Check
What this actually means for us:
Constant second-guessing
Walking on eggshells
Energy drain from overthinking
Imposter syndrome
Reduced authenticity
Limited self-expression
Unnecessary stress
The Way Forward
What we can do about it:
Call it out
Name the double standard
Question the logic
Point out the inconsistency
Support other women
2. Break the patterns
Reject unfair labels
Define success personally
Set our own standards
Celebrate authenticity
3. Change the narrative
Share success stories
Highlight achievements
Create new networks
Mentor others
To Every Woman Dealing With This
Remember:
You're not "too much"
Your achievements are earned
Your feelings are valid
Your ambitions are worthy
Your standards are important
Your voice matters
Your path is yours
For Women, By Women
It's 2024 and those of us who were actually diagnosed in childhood are still having to remind those who often dominate the online autistic community that diagnosis is not a privilege.
Btw I just wanted to say if you see someone acting delusional (like. Legitimate delusions. Not being misinformed or wrong. Legitimate delusions.) then please mind your own business. It's not your job to reality check them and by doing so you can harm them even further. Unless the person has asked you to reality check them and you're doing what they ASKED you to do, butt out.
When I'm having a delusion about bugs under my skin or something stalking me or literally any other delusion, I don't need someone to tell me "it's not real". I don't care if it's real or not. It's still terrifying to me. Being told "it's not real" doesn't help me, and once the delusion has passed, it makes me feel bad- like I'm just crazy, like my fears and experiences don't matter because they could just be delusions and hallucinations.
This goes for any delusion by the way. You see someone who believes they're God? Cool. Mind your own fucking business. You see someone who believes they have super powers or are an important figure? Cool! Mind your own fucking business.
Now. You may be asking. "Alfie, what if it's my friend and the delusion is stressing them out?"
Comfort them. Treat it like any other problem- if the person prefers advice, give them advice that matches with the delusion. If they just need comfort, do exactly that- tell them you're there for them, etc etc. You're not feeding the delusion- you're comforting your friend when they're stressed and afraid over something.
Don't reality check a delusional person unless you have been asked to by the delusional person.
THIS, I would also like to me personally it's ALSO bad if you affirm my delusions. I don't want someone saying "so true queen" after I tell them the most disgusting thing I've ever said and briefly genuinely believe to be true at the time. HEY THIS ALSO MAKES THINGS WORSE DON'T DO THAT EITHER!!!!!
There are ways to comfort a psychotic person without feeding into shit or denying everything.
once you learn that every form of bigotry is deeply connected and intertwined with misogyny your soul will be free and you'll start to understand everything better
So the activists who are fighting against the other forms of patriarchy are going to fight really hard against misogyny too, yes?
Obviously so (if they aren't doing so, they should). I have a question for you too. Are you asking this in good faith?
once you learn that every form of bigotry is deeply connected and intertwined with misogyny your soul will be free and you'll start to understand everything better
average afab autistic experience in high school
if your activism doesn't include people you don't personally like then i don't think that's activism babe
this is vaguely about calling cheaters "whores" btw don't do that
if your activism doesn't include people you don't personally like then i don't think that's activism babe
