Gay Variant 💚

Kyle Strider / 17 / trans boy / he, him, his / pansexual / huge nerd / kin / Kik: Kyle.strider / IG: kyle.p.strider

[valtsv]

multiple myths and folk tales: there are beautiful women in the water. but watch out! they’re actually scary monsters!

me, a wlw:

[heatherwitch]

Travel Witchery

Because why not incorporate witchcraft into every aspect of your life, amiright or amiright?

What to bring…

Pocket/Travel altars! [X] [X] [X] [X]

Travel talisman

Small crystals/Crystal jewelry.

A pendulum.

Your tarot cards/playing cards for the intent of divination.

A witchy journal, or books on witchcraft!

Something to *legally* collect soil, water, plants, and other things from where you travel.

A locket with items/ingredients within it inspired by the spell bottles/jars below:

To aid in safe travels…

Spell for safe travels

Safe travels chant

Travel safely spell

Protection for travellers spell

Safe travels: A magical powder

Safe travels sachet / Safe travels sachet

Spell and charm bag for safe travels

Safe travels spell bottle

Safe travels spell bottle necklace

Safe travels mini spell jar

Safe travels spell jar

Other handy spells…

Spell bottle for good travels

Your own highway spell

Time passing powder

10 magical ways to spruce up your car

Car safety tips

Improvised charms for the travelling witch

Cute travel witch idea

Sigils…

The traveler’s sigil

Safe travels [X] [X] [X] [X]

I am safe while traveling

I am safe when I drive / Safe driving

I experience luck on my travels

To have an awesome adventure

There and back again

[inmediasras]

A friend of mine posted this. Reblog to save a life!

[gnomer-denois]

goodrx.com will find the cheapest pharmacies in your area for your prescriptions and offers a discount program at no cost for some pharmacies (some don’t require the prescription to be cheaper at that pharmacy, it will provide a link to the discount card if it’s needed to get the cheaper price).

[tiocfaidharlulz]

obviously not applicable to here but reblogging for americans because your health care system gives me second hand anxiety for all of you

[rihannasbabymama]

GUESS WHOSE GETTING THEIR ABUTEROL!

[ashtarasilunar]

Goodrx is pretty much solely responsible for me being able to initially try triptans for my migraines, since at the time my insurance didn’t cover them.

[what-is-going-on-even]

I use goodrx for my dog’s seizure medications, it’s a lifesaver, if I didn’t I would be playing $150 a month, when it’s reduced to about $70 a month

[loreleimorningstar-deactivated2]

Publix is also really good and I’ve gotten antibiotics and refills of my anxiety script for free-at max $20

[missmentelle]

This is a big, giant list of Youtube tutorials that will teach you all the basic life skills you need to know in order to be a functional adult. There are a lot of important skills that aren’t included in this list, but this should be enough of a basic guide to get you started and prevent you from making a total mess of yourself. Happy adulting! Household Skills:

How to unclog a toilet without a plunger

How to fix a blown fuse

How to fix a leaky faucet 

How to clean soap scum from your tub and shower

How to escape from a house fire

How to make a budget and stick to it

How to sharpen a knife

How to clean a self-cleaning oven

How to clean red wine stains from carpet

How to clean blood stains from fabric

How to clean grease stains from fabric

How to do a load of laundry

How to iron your clothes

How to test your smoke detectors

Cooking Skills:

How to tell if produce is ripe

How to know if food is expired 

How to properly sanitize a kitchen

How to cook an egg

How to make rice

How to make pasta

How to put out a kitchen grease fire safely

How to use a gas stove

How to use a convection oven

How to cook meat safely

How to use a stand mixer

How to use kitchen knives properly

How to make mashed potatoes

How to make grilled cheese sandwiches 

Health Skills:

How to stop bleeding

How to treat a burn 

How to do CPR (on an adult)

How to do CPR (on a child)

How to do CPR (on a baby)

How to help someone who is choking

How to save yourself if you are choking alone

How to read a nutrition label

How to treat frostbite

How to recognize when someone is having a stroke

How to maintain a healthy sleep schedule

Mental Health Skills:

How to calm down during a panic attack

How to help someone who is suicidal 

How to meditate 

How to stop self-harming

How to recognize problem drinking

How to choose a therapist

How to deal with disappointment

How to cope with grief

How to raise your self-esteem

Relationship and Social Skills:

How to apologize

How to cope with a breakup 

How to accept criticism 

How to deal with bullying 

How to argue in a healthy way

How to ask someone out

How to break up with someone

How to recognize an abusive relationship

How to rekindle a damaged friendship

How to speak in public

Job Hunting Skills:

How to tie a tie

How to write a resume

How to write a cover letter

How to dress for a job interview (for women/femmes)

How to dress for a job interview (for men/masculines)

How to properly shake hands

How to nail a job interview

Other Skills:

How to sew on a button 

How to hammer a nail

How to change your oil

How to put gas in your car

How to jump-start a car

How to pick a good password

How to back up your files

How to write a cheque

[shadrow]

The smash hit of the summer.

[alexacadia]

I’M SCREAMING!!!!!!!

[slayfulness]

I’m… shook

[livelegatolagrange-deactivated2]

[strongorcbutch-deactivated20220]

Well I heard this with my own ears and now you must also.

[nest-of-bears-blog]

JESUS

[ookumspookumswastakensomehow]

Y’KNOW WHAT THIS SOUNDS LIKE IT BELONGS IN?

[dr-leonard-h-mccoy-meme]

[chekhov-memes]

Tasteful.

[leprachaunsean]

@screaming-bees

[roseyturtles]

I HAD TO WITNESS THIS WITH MY OWN TWO EARS AND THEN HAVE SOMEONE RIDICULE MY FIRST FANDOM WITH IT, ALL ON THE IDES OF MARCH

I HAVE NEVER WANTED TO PUNCH SOMEONE MORE

[oiralinsanity]

I NEVER WANTED TO DANCE SO HARD TO THIS SONG!!!

[asktazzieandfriendsreboot-deact]

FUCKING HELL HOW DID I?!

HOW DID I MAKE THESE BEAUTIFUL HANDS?!

@wolfieskies25 @theniceprincess-tnp @ihaileysenpai @plushy16 @phoenixmeeka

[asktazzieandfriendsreboot-deact]

BOI WOT

[pishposh-haberdash]

Legends say that after u reblog this image you are given the power to hand

[theartblognobodyaskedfor-deacti]

PLEASE DEAR GOD PLEASE

[insomniadraws-deactivated201810]

P l eas e

[romandraconics]

Power of hand

[kur0kitsune]

((HOLY SHIZ????????)) -BlueML

[mcwie]

O h

[circuc0r3]

B R U H

[crazyandcuteartist-deactivated2]

Bro

I believe it 

[ivykrystos]

Brruuuuhhh please!

[virgilmustbemoody]

I need to be able to hand

[ajramblessss]

I want to hand

[short-sapphic]

I’m not taking any chances 

HELP ME HAND

[mysticbaconslice]

haha ya man nice

[ziggyplayedd]

things that made me stop wanting to die that require no effort whatsoever

change the color used to highlight text on your laptop

move the pictures on your wall

stack whatever clutter is in your room into piles even if you don’t have time to clean it all

slightly vary your commute, even just by one street

change where you sit and scroll aimlessly on your phone even if it’s only to the chair in your room instead of your bed

drink water or juice out of a wine glass in the morning because nothing is real

shower with the lights off, without music

buy $3 flowers at trader joe’s—they look bad next to the more expensive ones but they look so good in your room

start typing things you don’t post into your notes. your thoughts can be worth documenting even if you don’t deem them worth sharing

wake up super early just once. you don’t have to make it a habit it’s just extra satisfying to go to bed that night

listen to the entirety of your favorite album from 2015

[sandersstudies]

Almost all of these are about variety. Humans need stimulation! We need enrichment! We literally cannot do the same thing every day!

The other day I was feeling miserable, so I hopped on a bus and rode it all the way back to where I’d started, and my brain, which had finally had some proper stimulation via new environments, was suddenly ready to go again!

This is why taking walks/drives and trying new hobbies are good for you! Don’t turn yourself into a sad zoo animal! You need some pumpkins to roll around in your enclosure!

[bpd-hippo]

[palewansickly]

OMG. This. Changes. Everything.

[a-littlebit-ofsunshine-deactiva]

Reblogging for my followers who might have trouble remembering whether or not they’ve taken their medicine!

[nonespark-blog]

OH MY GOD, THIS WILL HELP ME SO MUCH. I GET SO SCARED WHEN I DON’T KNOW IF I JUST TOOK MY MEDS TWICE.

THANK YOU, I’M ABOUT TO CRY.

[backstageleft-deactivated202009]

Let me share with you guys a product that super helps me remember if I took my meds or not (because while the above is great, I still would manage to confuse myself):

They count as soon as you put the top back on. So if I don’t know if I’ve taken my medication for the day, I can check the cap to see how long ago I opened the container! It’s brilliant! 

[rainbowwhimsyart]

JFC THIS IS A GAME CHANGER.

I KNOW THIS IS MY ART BLOG BUT EVERYONE WHO TAKES MEDS SHOULD SEE THIS.

[papi-chulo-bucky]

Don’t forget! ♥️

[rossers-ramblings-deactivated20]

For all my friends who take meds on the regular or anyone in general. A great post.

[lifehacksthatwork]

Amazingly simple :)

[shrylia]

art resource masterpost! (2019)

A list of links to all the art resources I’ve compiled since I was thirteen, from Tumblr/Twitter/googling around. They’re not all specifically drawing-related but I’ve personally found them helpful to my art + actively used or learned from each of them. Links marked with a star (★) are ones I use often, or find the most helpful!

compare heights of human figures

textures

hairstyle photos, search by colour/style/etc.

★ pinterest of tons of character design & anatomy ref boards

models.com: just modelling news/photography but nice for portrait reference + diverse faces

★ tons of tips on drawing: @grizandnorm​ and also @etheringtonbrothers​ (also on twitter and instagram)

tips for drawing backgrounds (layout & perspective) - thomas romain

selective colour tool in photoshop (helps balance out colours) - @genicecream

going from B&W to colour using photoshop curves - @genicecream

quickposes: pose library for figure & gesture drawing practice, timed drawing

wetcanvas: forum for object/still life photo references

tons of varied human poses, can sort by pose type/age/body type/etc. (warning for nudity)

★ lookbook.nu: fashion lookbook, can sort outfits by style, occasion, etc.

timed and randomized photo references for figure drawing (warning: nudity)

easy lineart in photoshop - @okolnir

guide for facial expressions - @lackadaisy

tons of pose photography, categorized by pose - senshistock (deviantart)

more timed photo references: figure drawing, animal drawing, hands and feet, faces

★ PDF of the animator’s survival kit by richard williams: comprehensive book on animation fundamentals

adobe kuler: adjustable colour wheel, creates cohesive 5-colour palettes

★ perspective grid in photoshop - @chuwenjie​

interactive 3d models: human models & wooden figurine

youtube playlist of various art tutorials/speedpaints/etc. - @erinye

integrating lineart into flat colours - @dinduarte

twitter thread of general art resources (technical/fundamental skills) - @jovaline​

tips on drawing backgrounds - @jovaline​

simple nighttime lighting - @japhers​

tips for drawing kissing - @mud-muffin

★ mapcrunch: randomized (or editable) google street view, great for environment photo reference

catalogue of theater costumes sorted by clothing item/time period, great for historical clothing reference

google’s we wear culture: information about & catalogue of fashion/design/art collections

one perfect shot database: film screencaps, can organize by shot 

typefilmgrab: more movie shots

stretches to stop artist back pain (more important than half this list)

dynamic clouds - @amiamihan​

avoiding empty/“dead” spaces in comic panels - @hammpix​ 

tips on simplifying drawings for clarity - @hammpix

guide on making webcomics - @velinxi

twitter thread of storyboard/comic art resources - @nilaffle​

creating depth and distance in backgrounds - @mathiaszamecki​

★ croquiscafe: youtube channel that simulates figure drawing sessions (warning: nudity)

★ large PDF of storyboarding tips - @jimmortensen

another colour picker for harmonious colours

★ google drive folder of art book PDFs (anatomy & figure drawing) - @jijidraws

designdoll (free program for download): adjustable 3d human figures, better quality than online sites

[tyyppicookie]

I’m in love with these adorable nerds

[protect-and-love-cats]

Puma Rescued From A Contact-Type Zoo Can’t Be Released Into The Wild, Lives As A Spoiled House Cat

[honey-bee-holly]

@suz-123 @bolontiku

[bolontiku]

I just reblobbed this and tagged you and suz! 😆😆😆

[angryschnauzer]

Okay but the 2nd to last one at the dog show where the Puma and its Owner are grinning and the other contestants all look very nervous is hilarious. The puma is smiling.

[sublimesublemon]

[angelwarm]

i hope that one day i will finally be ok….i’ll make a cherry pie when it is all over

[angelwarm]

today is the day

[joshpeck]

reblog the cherry pie to be ok

[wlwgang]

So my dad took away my laptop because I wouldn’t give him the password. I wasn’t even allowed to type it in, he demanded to know the password to my personal computer because he thinks I’m “ doing things I’m not supposed to do. ” My sister is not, and never has been, held to the same standard when it came to passwords on her own phone etc. But my parents always suspect me of being “up to something” and will randomly ask to use my computer/ know the password, and when I say no, they get mad at me. In the past, they have taken away my devices and looked through them, which cased me a lot of anxiety and is part of the reason I don’t like it when people use my computer or go through the camera roll on my phone. Even as I type this, I’m being asked what I’m doing. If you think parents demanding to know the passwords to their child’s personal devices is a breach of privacy please reblog

[scoopstrooptv]

my parents do the same thing it’s torture

[eviltessmacher]

As a parent, you don’t get privacy until you are on your own. My house, my rules, my money, my decision.

Don’t like it?

Too bad.

I am the parent here. I’m not your friend. I’m your father.

[justfunnyreblogs-deactivated201]

Literally kids are not your prisoner??? There’s a difference between being protective and being controlling.

[a-kir-a-deactivated20191025]

“You don’t get privacy until you’re an adult” like what the fuck. You’re one of those piece of shit parents that thinks taking away bedroom doors and making their kids hold sandwich board signs on busy roads is appropriate punishment aren’t you? Children and teens are still fucking people and still deserve respect. If you can’t even respect your child how do you expect to teach them to respect others?

[jewishwitch-deactivated20150710]

AS A PARENT YOU DON’T GET PRIVACY UNTIL YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN. If I suspect you’re doing drugs or talking to someone way older than you or sneaking out at night, your privacy becomes my business. You’re living under MY roof, and I bought that computer, that phone, and pay for the service that runs it. Sorry, Charlie. It’s my job as a parent to make sure you’re safe and I will exercise the UNALIENABLE right to invade your privacy.

[florafen]

The mindset parents have of “my house my rules / I bought you that phonecomputertabletetc so I can go through it” is a huge contributer to anxiety, depression, self harm, and suicide in kids and teens and if anyone is defending, condoning, or practicing that behavior I hope to god they get their kids taken away from them. Nobody deserves to grow up under an iron fist of emotional abuse.

[sleepwalk-living]

dude it’s one thing to be looking out for your kid and another to be like “privacy doesn’t exist because you are vulnerable and i am in a position of power.

being overprotective of your kid is NOT going to help them. it’s fucking savage.

my mom let my sisters and i do whatever we wanted [obvs within reason] and punished us when we did bad shit and we came out just fine. we’re honest people and nothing fucked us up. my friend with overprotective and invasive parents? she sneaks out for a social life. she can’t let people touch her things without almost crying because her dad would confiscate her things as she was using them to make sure she wasn’t selling drugs or sexting. sometimes she compulsively lies about small things and admits to lying later because she knows it’s was stupid to do it in the first place and she developed OCD from her father reprimanding her for not being clean enough [even though she’s a spotless person] she will have anxiety attacks over being in a messy environment because of the panic her dad put into her while growing up. she’s almost twenty and you know what she did? she asked me to cover for her so she could go on a date. SHE IS TWENTY NEXT MONTH AND ASKED ME TO LIE TO HER PARENTS IF THEY ASKED ME WHERE SHE WAS. she was on a date!! dating! because she was afraid her dad would fucking ground her. the sad part is, he probably would have if he found out! they created an environment of distrust and she has to fight it to be able to hang out with people who weren’t even gonna get her in trouble.

yall wanna be like “privacy doesn’t exist for children and teens. no teens can be trusted.” but fact is, you’re gonna force your kid into being untrustworthy because you think it’s healthy to be controlling.

sorry. you’re a shitty parent. unless you have proof or grounds for violating privacy in order to keep your kid safe, you are abusive and controlling and a sack of shit for having 0 respect for your children.

[ghostedarmy-deactivated-deactiv]

My dad threatens to take my door away from me for having it closed. I’m a seventeen year old female, and he has threatened to take away my door.

[2oulle22-lover]

when i was a teenager, i wasn’t allowed to have a cellphone, so my father would hand me a little bag of change and force me to call home from a payphone every single time i left somewhere and again when i arrived at the next place. that means if i went to the mall, i called when i got there. then if i wanted to go across the street to the Walmart i had to call and tell him so. then i had to call again when i got to the Walmart! if i had a bunch of stuff to do, i could go through the entire bag of change in one weekend - if i could even find enough payphones to call him from. his explanation for this lunacy was that he wanted to be able to find me anytime, anywhere. he also liked to randomly show up at my job to make sure i was there, and the first time i spent the night at my best friend’s after i got a car, he drove past the house no less than eight times, and called no less than four times. one of those calls was to ask where i was because my car wasn’t visible from the road - and when i explained the turnaround i was parked in was behind the house, he told me we’d “better not go anywhere or have friends over”. like, what the hell were we going to do? have a drunken orgy while my friend’s grandma was sitting in the next room? we ended up playing chess in the front parlor all night with all the lights on and the curtains open so he could see us if he drove by.

and what, exactly, did i do to deserve this? not a fucking thing. i didn’t drink, didn’t smoke, didn’t sneak out, didn’t do drugs, didn’t skip school, nothing. in 13 years of public school, i had one detention - for being late too many times. that’s it. i never did a single thing to make him think i was untrustworthy and i got stalked for it.

when i graduated high school, my father told me if i was going to go to art college on his dime, he was going to have a say in the classes i took and what i did with my free time - he even went so far as to tell me if he ever dropped by the campus, i’d better be in my dorm doing homework or in class, and if i got a grade he didn’t like, he was going to pull me out of school, bring me home, and basically keep me a prisoner with no phone, no tv, no visits with friends until i graduated from the local community college. faced with another four years of stalking and abuse, i moved out and worked in a factory until i could be considered an independent student, then went to the art college i’d always wanted to - on my terms.

my father died last May and i hadn’t talked to him for a year, hadn’t seen him for two, and before that i hadn’t had any communication with him at all for four.

the moral of the story for you “my house, my rules, you don’t get any rights” parents is: stop treating your children like shit or you’re going to die alone, and you’ll deserve it.

[shrineart]

My father didn’t do it to this extreme but he listened in on my calls, he constantly accused me of having sex or doing pot.

Guess what parents?

Most kids that got constantly accused of bullshit that I KNEW? INCLUDING MYSELF? Ended up doing those things because “Fuck it, might as well if they’re not going to believe me!”

For me, I had sex way before I planned to (19. I was planning on waiting til marriage). Why? Because fuck it, he acted like I was trying to be a whore all the damn time, I was going to do whatever I damn well pleased.

I moved out at age 19. I have never moved back in. I barely talk to him. I talk almost exclusively to my mom.

When I moved out he said I’d be pregnant by the end of the year.

I’m 30. I have no kids. I don’t plan on having kids. Ever. Because I watched every other person in my family have kids when they couldn’t afford them and I’m not doing that to a child.

When I lived with my parents I had nearly all A’s, I had an 8pm curfew at the age of 19, I was never allowed to leave town, leave state, anything like that for school trips or what have you. When I was in college I wasn’t allowed to go to any colleges more than 30 minutes away. My parents didn’t trust others and they instilled that in me and it took me YEARS to fix it.

My therapist pinned down exactly what that does to it a kid too. It’s isolating. You’re isolating your kid. You’re telling them you don’t trust them. You’re telling them you inherently think they’re bad.

And that has huge ramifications on your bond with them.

Hope you’re ready for it.

[rattlecat]

Dear Parents who approve of the lack of privacy until a certain age: You are engaging in child abuse. Emotional child abuse.

Preventing a child from having privacy is a punishable offense in the United States (many countries actually) and you can be penalized for it.

What is that?

Rejecting or ignoring: telling a child he or she is unwanted or unloved, showing little interest in child, not initiating or returning affection, not listening to the child, not validating the child’s feelings, breaking promises, cutting child off in conversation

Shaming or humiliating: calling a child names, criticizing, belittling, demeaning, berating, mocking, using language or taking action that takes aim at child’s feelings of self-worth

Terrorizing: accusing, blaming, insulting, punishing with or threatening abandonment, harm or death, setting a child up for failure, manipulating, taking advantage of a child’s weakness or reliance on adults, slandering; screaming; yelling

Isolating: keeping child from peers and positive activities, confining child to small area, forbidding play or other stimulating experiences

Corrupting: engaging child in criminal acts, telling lies to justify actions or ideas, encouraging misbehavior

If you are an abusive parent, you probably have one of these (if not all) of these red flags:

Routinely ignores, criticizes, yells at or blames child

Plays favorites with one sibling over another

Poor anger management or emotional self-regulation

Stormy relationships with other adults, disrespect for authority

History of violence or abuse

Untreated mental illness, alcoholism or substance abuse

Children who suffer from your abuse, experience these emotional and behavioral issues:

Habits like sucking, biting, rocking

Learning disabilities and developmental delays

Overly compliant or defensive

Extreme emotions, aggression, withdrawal

Anxieties, phobias, sleep disorders

Destructive or anti-social behaviors (violence, cruelty, vandalism, stealing, cheating, lying)

Behavior that is inappropriate for age (too adult, too infantile)

Suicidal thoughts and behaviors

In summary, there is no “my house, my rules”. If you actively promote this type of behavior as parents, you are committing a crime, and you can be fined and imprisoned for it, as well as having your kids taken away, which, if they are experiencing this behavior from you, shouldn’t be your kids to begin with.

Children are not your property, regardless of relation.

If you want to guarantee your children never consider you a part of their life or interact with you ever again, continuing these behaviors will absolutely do that. 

As someone who has a support group of nearly 80 kids ranging from the ages of 14 to 27, I can tell you so many horror stories of parental abuse and the shit it fucks up the kids with as a result. My wife experienced and survived her own form of parental abuse, as have I. 

We do not tolerate it, and neither should your kids.

[inactive---blog-deactivated2018]

okay okay, you ready for a fucking story? because reading through this brought back memories that showcase just how shitty invading your kid’s privacy is!

okay so back when I was 12 (? i think. 7th grade for sure) I started experiencing symptoms of depression. So of course, because I thought it would help, I told my mom. She told me I was just “a hormonal teenager” and that I just needed to get over it. At this point I was suicidal and had expressed that, even at that age I knew that it wasn’t normal. not at all.

So I started isolating myself from my family. I’d only text my friends. That’s when they started going through my ipod because they believed I was “doing bad things”. So I set up a passcode because they were just unlocking and going through it every time I left the room. It stayed in my pocket until I got home, then under the bed. I wasn’t allowed to unlock it myself, they had to know the passcode. I’d go through 20 different passcodes a month because I didn’t want them looking through it. I didn’t even have anything to hide! They made me feel guilty, like I was doing something wrong for texting my friends. The most prominent memory of this is sitting in the chair next to the couch, crying from the anxiety they were forcing me through as they looked through everything. I had no privacy. I wasn’t allowed to have privacy. I no longer texted my friends. The little social interaction I got was from tumblr messages every so often.

My parents created instagram, tumblr etc. accounts so they could watch what i posted and when I posted it. I blocked them. This was he only place I had left to express myself and they were trying to take that away too. They found some app (no idea why this even exists) that allows you to fucking track what your kids do online. I changed the email on all of my social media. I stopped using it if they were in the room. I did everything I possibly could because I just wanted to have 1 fucking place I could express myself without them.

They’ve (as far as I know) stopped forcing their way into my shit. They still go through my texts if I leave it unlocked. They hover over me whenever I use the computer. They still threaten to take away my door.

And I just don’t care anymore. About anything. I skip class, I send nudes, I smoke etc. They’re gonna assume I’m doing it anyway, why shouldn’t I?

I spend my time telling my brother not to do anything I’ve done. Telling him to tell me if he feels bad, not our parents. Telling him not to do the stuff I still do. I tell him all this because I’m in ruins and I don’t want him to end up the same way.

[howprolifeofyou]

“my house my rules” is my #1 tipoff that a parent may be abusive to their kids and was a huge scapegoat for my parents doing shit like taking my mattress and bedroom door away for getting a C in school. this shit is abusive and only serves to emotionally scar children and push them away from their parents even more.

[fridayfelts-deactivated20181212]

I’m a parent and this 100% emotional abuse. If you don’t trust your kids, then they won’t trust you. It can be scary to let go then, online and in ‘rl’ but you have to if you want to have people, who at the end of the process of growing up, who are brave and confident in who they are

[kilgore-doubt-deactivated202208]

hey so as a mental health worker I can 100% confirm that the “no privacy until you’re an adult” mindset is abusive and causes trauma to the child which will take years and years to recover from, if ever. Controlling your child’s life in every aspect and not allowing them to become independent of you is abusive.

[princefrillypanties-deactivated]

Man, is this bringing up bad memorizes.

[nillyandthefunkybunch]

DEAR SWEET GOD THANK YOU FOR THIS

[askthepsychicmod]

I didn’t go through this myself, and thankfully I don’t know anyone who did. That doesn’t mean I can’t sympathize with it. I’m grateful my parents aren’t like that, and if I ever get a chance, I’m fully willing to do my part to help children who go through shit (pardon my french) like that.

[stokerbramwell]

Children are not your property

Children are not your property

CHILDREN ARE NOT YOUR PROPERTY

[ducttaperose-blog]

I’d like to add that not only have I experienced both sides of this with divorced parents, but I can clearly tell by how the parents are as to if a partner and I will get along in how they were raised.

I got to the point, since we lived in the middle of nowhere and I didn’t have access to any of the shit they wanted to accuse me of, they’d just take away my stuff. If you don’t eat every bite of dinner there goes your iPod for a month so no music. If your homework isn’t completed on time you can’t have a computer or any communication. I lived with 4 adults and no kids around me until after middle school and I didn’t get a phone till I was 15. Needless to say music and talking through online games was my only solace.

At some point so much of my shit was taken away on a regular basis for little to no reason that I completely detached from material objects, shut myself off, and I started acting like a spoiled brat because nothi no could possibly be taken away from me. My dad still makes fun of me for it which is a whole nother story.

My dad for some reason thinks I developed compulsive lying as a habit when I’m the most blunt person I know. And brings it up every time we talk which is weird as fuck because I’ve never been a liar. My mom asks me every time I make a guy friend if I’m sleeping with him, among a lot of other questions, which is ironic because I’ve only dated and slept with two people and it’s really intrusive.

Im 23, still deal with this shit, and it’s fucked up. Believe your kids, talk to them, don’t blame them for shit that’s your fault. Teach them, spend time with them, give them space to screw up and grow and learn. If you’re not there for them, do you really want something else to fill that void?

If you do, fuck you, don’t breed.

[untroubled-dalliance]

shit i’m crying now bc my stepdad is like this

[welcometothemusicandthemisery]

My mum does some of this and I don’t really know how to react. I just feel numb.

[theprettyweeper]

YALL WANNA HEAR A STORY

So I’m 16 and I live with my grandparents. I wasn’t allowed to get a phone until April of this year, which was great, but they put a frickin tracker on it. They also have my contacts hooked up to either contacts and they probably listen to my phone calls. My aunt lives next door and constantly asks me about who I’m following on Instagram. I have no privacy. I have to use Tumblr on my tablet but I’d get in so much trouble if I used it on my phone. One time I was sitting there on my phone and my aunt ripped it out of my hands and went through it, I had an anxiety attack and she says “why are you freaking out if you have nothing to hide”. They make me f e e l guilty I know I didn’t do anything but still. I can’t wait until I can move out.

[thisaccdoesntexistrn]

Me and my older sister have dealt with this basically our entire lives. I will admit she’s gotten the worst of it recently because she expresses her thoughts and is more honest to my father than me. I’m just to fucking scared to tell him to stop. Just last night he used the “my house my rules” and I was so fucking mad. I get nervous being on my phone around him even though I’m doing nothing wrong?? I just try to stay out of my dads way. And like if I’m on the phone he has to know who it is and what we’re taking about or I have to hang up. And my dad admitted to looking through my shit last night?? And he’s threatened to take my door? And I’m scared to talk to him about my suicidal thoughts because I’m scared he won’t believe me. GIVE YOUR FUCKING CHILDREN PRIVACY

[teenage-cumrag]

Privacy is a basic human right, don’t take that from your kids. For fucks sake.

[aceofspades-lena]

I never considered my parents abusive but… Reading this and the list of symptoms of a kid whos been abused I’m… Wow. I’m all of those

I mean, my mom was never as extreme as other people here but she would always… Ask too many questions? For every time I got out she had to know who I was meeting with (name and where I know them from), where I’m going, what im going to do, when I get there, when I go back home, I’m always expected to text her at least when i arrive at the meeting and when I’m on my way back… And while some of these requests are understandable- all of them together are jsut too much. And she would constantly keep asking more everytime she sees me until the meeting, and keep asking about it afterwards for a few days straight.

I stopped going out. As of now I don’t even understand the appeal of irl meeting because I’m so used to it being a bad experience. Needless to say that I don’t really have any irl friends left cuz I never want to meet up and surprisingly enough- people get offended when you don’t want to hang out with them.

And you know, I’m 23 and she’s still doing that? I had to lie and say I’m meeting with my best friend when in fact I went on a date. It was just a few months ago.

I yelled at her one time that I’m never going to get a boyfriend (like she wants me) cuz she’s constantly invading my privacy. She laughed at me.

I mean, at this age I could definitely get a job and eventually move out but you know? I’m too used to it. At this point I don’t know how “others” live. At this point I’ve just accepted that I’m not going to be a social person ever again.

[demonic-angelicc]

Kids are not your fucking property. Kids deserve privacy.

[blindbee]

[avodaco]

me when i get my student loan

[g8dtier]

this is the money cat. reblog in 30 seconds and you will find yourself with more wealth

[strikercorbie]

#this is the only money cat i will reblog because it’s actually doing the manekineko pose151,646 notes (via lolwhutninja)

OMG YOU’RE RIGHT

[nonespark-blog]

and it has its right paw up! the correct paw for this. and from the markings on its ears, it looks like it might be a calico cat. which is the luckiest kind!

[carrionbeast]

extremely lucky cat

[ladynorbert]

I don’t even care if it actually works, I’m mostly reblogging because it’s freaking adorable.

[sweet-cherry-fairy-deactivated2]

cute cat and need money, good post, 10/10

[allthenamesilikearetaken]

in case anyones interested in the other versions

http://www.namaii.com/manekineko/maneki-neko-types.html

[mmusclechan]

Y’know I reblogged this a bit ago and was saved from financial probation and getting kicked out of school because of it, just mere months from graduation. Got a call from the financial aid advisor telling me that they made a mistake with filing my account (or some other sort of clerical error) and said that, basically, they owe me money. Welp.

[winjennster]

Last time I reblogged the money cat, I won two $100 gift cards at work.

[mayorowly]

Give me some money moneycat 🐱 please please 🙏

[perfect-tea-deactivated20210124]

We all could use a little luck now and again. <3

[kotbliny]

[eroscestlavie]

Update I just got an opportunity to make exactly $115 and i’m not kidding so like. Reblog to make $115.

[thecryptkeeper]

[serpentenial-art]

I made this sort of ‘guide’ for self care as an artist a few months ago for my patreon. But I feel like information like this needs to be shared! 

(NOTE: I’m not a doctor, if you have medical questions contact a professional)

[serpentenial-art]

Bringing this back for 2019. Let’s take good care of ourselves this year 💖