Me, a Black Fae™

Empress Jace at your service ~ Black ~ AMAB Gay/Nonbinary Boy ~ She/Her pronouns ~ formerly prettyfairyjace

[bears-n-bottoms]

For those who are curious about what I’m talking about…

The dumbass posted this picture on IG two days. Don’t ask why this is Bad™, because I’m tired of explaining why this shit isn’t cool; The Negro Association™ has explained plenty of times why the shit is whack. But if you rly wanna be That Bitch™…

This isn’t about Jongin, specifically, but Auntie Jackie takes you through why wearing dreads as a non-Black person isn’t cute or cool.

And because it needs to be said - I don’t care why you think I’m overreacting, I don’t care what your Black friend (who only exists in your mind) has to say about cultural appropriation, I don’t wanna hear y'all fall over yourselves to say this should be okay because you were too braindead to see someone else wearing dreads get called out for the shit.

And I especially don’t wanna hear from the Pick Me Coon Squad in the back who prioritize white acceptance over people in their own community having an issue with something.

No one said you gotta have a problem with it just because the rest of us do, but pls remember that we are not a Monolith; we can all have differing opinions on what counts as cultural appropriation (it’s 2019, we are not debating if it exists or not, cause it is quite literally observable phenomenon), while ALSO not invalidating each other’s opinions.

Okay?!!?! Okay!!

[wonu-svt-deactivated20190911]

Girl I’m black and no one cares. Get over yourself. Your opinion means nothing

[ladyjaceofthefae]

*sigh*

If you didn't care about my opinion, then why comment?!?!? Hmm?!?!?! No one forced you to read my post, much less comment. A quick flick of the block button would've made my post disappear from the tag, if it was that serious.

Pls go beg your mother for attention if you want it that badly, sweetheart

[sugasfatgf-deactivated20181129]

I try to understand some things in fandoms especially with bts but I just saw a post about older women 30 and older liking bts and saying they have their heart or whatever personally I don't see anything wrong with it but people were being weird about older women simply stating they liked bts too. Do you happen to know why this is a problem

???? I honestly dont know how or why its a problem. Like those 30 year plds can actually buy merch and tickets without hesitation so like… their money goes to bts but like idk lmao

[ladyjaceofthefae]

Because its weird as fuck all for you to be a grown ass adult and talmbout how these people are ~your everything~. Not only are these fans 10+ years of age older than BTS (not a big deal when you're stanning someone Jin's age but Kookie is only 21), but that is behavior exhibited by teenagers cause they don't fucking know better. No one cares when youre 14 and carrying on about Harry Styles cause you grow out of that shit, but when you're over 30?!?!?! No girl, that is not okay.

[sparrf-blog]

i keep thinking about that tribe of baboons where all the alpha males died from eating poison garbage and then the baby boy monkeys were taken care of by the lady monkeys and never got socialized to be aggressive so they all just live peacefully and groom eachother instead of fighting and killing eachother and its been generations of that, it only took 1 wipeout of the aggressive males to change the whole social order of the species i am crying they must be so much happier

[theclassykindoftrasy]

……….I have an idea.

[geoclaire]

don’t we all

[fluffmugger]

You’re missing half the story. When adolescent males from other groups came to join, they learned very rapidly that being an arsehole baboon was not fucking tolerated, and completely stopped the behaviour and integrated with the group.

Arseholes only thrive when you let them. 

[elljayvee]

Only the aggressive males died; the non-aggressive ones didn’t go on garbage dump raids and so they survived just fine. This was about half the adult males in the troop. The suddenly-without-mean-competition males didn’t get aggressive and take over and start being giant jerks; they stayed the same pleasant baboons they had always been.

The researcher studying this troop was asked what he had learned about stopping violence in society and he said “Kill all the aggressive young males” and I think about that a lot.

[star-wars-discousre]

You are LGBT if..

You are lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. That’s it. Aces aren’t LGBT.

[feminismandmedia]

I mean for one your forgetting a bit of that. Like the Q+.

Mod Bethany

[star-wars-discousre]

The full acronym is LGBT.

[smallhorizons]

I love me some ahistorical bullshit

The “full” acronym at one point was “GL”, after lesbians fought against male homosexuality being the “face” of the movement (i.e., the Alliance for Gay Artists (AGA), founded in 1982, was renamed the Alliance for Gay and Lesbian Artists shortly thereafter; and the Gay Activists Alliance never included “Lesbian” in their title).

The “full” acronym at another point was “LGB”, only after bisexual activists campaigned fiercely to be included, and is often still not even included in acronyms

The “full” acronym at yet another point was “LGBT”, only after trans activists campaigned fiercely to be included

Queer was added to the acronym after it was reclaimed and re-politicized by ACT UP off-shoot Queer Nation in the early 1990s. LGBTQ has been a thing since the 90s.

ONE Archives, which is the largest repository of LGBTQIA+ materials in the world and was founded by some of the principle members of the early (1950s-60s) homophile movement, which led to the gay rights movement post-Stonewall, uses the full acronym LGBTQ on their website and also freely uses the word “Queer” interchangeably.

As of 2014, NOW (National Organization for Women) agreed to switch to use of the full LGBTQIA acronym, and it likely isn’t the only large social rights organization to have done so

Many LGBTQ+ magazines use LGBTQ, including One (which has existed in some form since the 1950s) and The Advocate, use LGBTQ or LGBTQIA as the full acronym and regularly use “queer” as a phrase (and, in fact, some articles have welcomed asexual people and their narratives as part of the queer experience).

The acronym is constantly evolving. It’s not static. To claim otherwise is blatant ignorance. The modern-day LGBTQ+ community is a result of decades of political activism, social inclusion, and community outreach. It’s not a rigid structure that operates by a strict set of rules about who can and cannot join.

[star-wars-discousre]

The full acronym is LGBT. Cishets don’t belong in the community. Aces aren’t inherently lgbt. We don’t want our oppressors in our community.

[smallhorizons]

“we don’t want our oppressors in our community” 

as if trans people don’t already have to deal with their oppressors (cis people) being in their community

as if LGBTQIA+ people of color don’t have to deal with LGBTQIA+ white people in the community

as if LBTQIA+ women don’t have to deal with GBTQIA+ men in the community

as if disabled LGBTQIA+ people don’t have to deal with able-bodied LGBTQIA+ people in the community

the LGBTQIA+ community is huge and consists of people with multiply-overlapping identities and privileges. we all (unless you’re a cis, able-bodied, wealthy, white gay man) have to deal with a member of our oppressing class in the LGBTQIA+ community

ETA: “Straightness” is a position of power. Ace people, even if they are in heterosexual relationships, do not necessarily perform “straightness” in ways that are acceptable to the Straight class. 

[i-am-not-a-hero360]

Reblogging because osirisjones is completely hitting the nail on the head.

[lesbianpeachs]

Look though, this is what discourse is: having decades of community history literally laid out and them COMPLETELY IGNORING IT to repeat the same brainwashed, faulty drivel over and over

[ladyjaceofthefae]

Cishet aces don’t experience homphobia and/or transphobia, tho. And that’s what bonds all of us together. Sure an able bodied cis gay man has more privilege than my gay black nonbinary ass, but that privilege doesn’t override the fact that he still faces homophobia.

[kitsuneasce]

Are you absolutely sure of that. Before I came to understand that I identified as genderqueer I was considered a cishet ace. And let me tell you, the amount of times I was bullied, or told that I just hadn’t been fucked properly, or that I was just asking for attention are insane. I’m sure that there are many Asexual people out there who have gone through the same. So until you’ve walked a mile in OUR shoes shut the fuck up about what constitutes phobia. You don’t know our struggles just as we don’t necessarily know yours. LGBTQ+ is about inclusion and finding solidarity and those that have gone through the same things you have. You don’t get to decide who is accepted in our community.

[ladyjaceofthefae]

Firstly, I'm ace. I don't feel comfortable putting that on my social media, because I don't want to have to explain that I'm hypersexual because of trauma in case some asshole (like you) comes at me sideways cause I wrote something sexual in a post.

Secondly, I'm gay (and nonbinary, but that's not really that relevant right now). Do you know many times I've been asked how I know I'm gay if I'm a virgin?!?!?! Or how many times people have told me that I should at least try it with a girl before swearing them off?!?!?!?

Your experiences aren't that different from mine, sis. I might have realized that I was SGA before I was ace, but it's the same shit. The difference between us and cishet aces is that we experience this thing called Systemic Oppression for being LGBT. There's literal laws in place (on top of societal prejudice, mind you) to pressure us into either being CisHet or dying.

Can you name for me any laws that specifically target ace/aro people?!?!?! Cause, ya know, our current administration is hell bent on literally dividing the community and have been attacking trans people since the jump.

[bob-belcher]

[snizzydoesit]

[ablogofmisfitthoughts-deactivat]

When Beyoncé said “if we’re going to heal, let it be glorious” it really stuck with me. And that’s the motto for 2018 and onwards.

[mimi-knight]

No ratings less than an 8.5 are allowed 🤷🏾‍♀️

[shaxaphone]

cute things to call your girlfriend: 1. sugar  2. honey  3. flour  4. egg  5. 1/2lb butter  6. stir  7. pour into pan  8. preheat to 375°

[ladyjaceofthefae]

@lesbangtan

[firelorcl]

me: *pulling petals off flower* he loves me. he loves me not. he loves m-

flower: he’s cheating on you susan

[lqhyung]

[ladyjaceofthefae]

@yuletideyoujin @lesbangtan

[africanaquarian]

i have been in a certain mood lately but i’m not emotionally intelligent enough to fully articulate it

[cosmic-noir]

[oldshows]

[alexazombie]

When you stay out of drama and only focus on your money

[bluntedbeauty10550]

2018 mood

[darkislovelyyyy]

[with-practice]

I-M-P-E-A-C-H-M-E-N-T

[c-bassmeow]

This is so funny I’m going to pee

[nathattack]

every time Trump does anything I’ll reblog this song.

[sprinklingdiamondz]

“You can kiss my black ass” always kills me 💀💀⚰️

[wlwbeauty-blog]

If you think you’re bi for a month or a year or your whole life and then realize you’re a lesbian, that’s fine!!

If you think you’re a lesbian for a month or a year or your whole life and then realize you’re bi, that’s also fine!!

Figuring out your sexuality is a long and complicated process, and things can change. It doesn’t mean you were lying, faking, or anything like that, and if anyone says otherwise they’re wrong and also horrible. Girls who like girls are cool no matter what your history is

[android1000]

[jackburtonsays]

Marriage, nachos, happiness.

I’m with it 👍🏽

[cornerstorepress]

Love, pizza, money

Let’s do this

[khiroshige-deactivated20221210]

Marriage, Love, health? I mean I guess but I just want a job.

[elionking-deactivated20191020]

Marriage, wealth, chipotle

[itsmikuisa]

Marriage health happiness

[ladyjaceofthefae]

Love, marriage, health

[gukied]

[!] Congratulations to BTS for Winning My Heart over and over again

[imthelesbian-archive-deactivate]

not being dramatic or anything but i think i’ve actually spent about 10 months of this year tired and sad

[doctor-lucifer-holmes]

I spent all 12 tired and sad