Hypnotic abuse is, sadly, fairly prevalent in the hypno community, owing to many factors. As such, itâs important to be aware of signs both in yourself and in others of hypnotic abuse.
Some of these you might think âbut what about in CNC play?â If youâre doing CNC play, you still shouldnât hit most of these. Your hypnotist will have ensured that you know you can enact your safeties, and they will have discussed them with you ahead of time and acquired your consent (even if they then made you forget giving consent). And even in CNC play, if at any time you donât want something, you should be able to voice that or stop it from happening.
If you find yourself feeling any of these things or talk to someone experiencing these things, please get help or try to provide help and information or direct them to someone who can provide help and information.
Itâs important that we watch out for each other and help, protect, and inform others in the community!
âI feel like I canât say no.â
This frequently comes from eroded safeties and/or the hypnotist not respecting your limits, pushing you into things you donât want. It doesnât matter how small the thing is, if you donât want it but feel like you canât say no, thatâs a problem.
âI try to resist, but I just donât have the energy.â
These are good signs that your resistance has been worn down through a number of means. Likely over time the hypnotist has, one trance at a time, conditioned you to obey them unquestioningly. Youâll still have âI donât want to do thisâ feelings sometimes, but you just donât have the fight left to say no or to not do it.
âI feel foggy all the timeâ
This is fairly indicative of a persistent trance state. If youâre feeling this way, ask yourself âis this what I want?â If the answer is no, get help.
Being unable to come out of trance or disable suggestions when you need to
Ideally, you should always, always, always have shut-offs and release valves that you have control of as part of your safeties. Things that you can think or trigger somehow that will stop everything and let you get out of trance.
If you donât have this, you should. If your hypnotist wonât set it up or discourages it, thatâs a red flag. Someone who cares for your well-being will always want you to be able to stop things if you need to.
Pain or discomfort, particularly when trying to resist or disobey
Iâve seen this less than arousal conditioning, but itâs still not uncommon. Thisâs almost certainly a sign that somethingâs wrong.
Arousal from things you donât want
Itâs a very common tactic to tie arousal to programming and then tie that arousal into listening to files or edging. This is fine if consensual, but with abuse what youâll find is that you wonât necessarily want something, but itâll get you really turned on. That feeling of âI donât want thisâ is the key to identifying the problem. It might be subtle, but if itâs there, the arousal is almost certainly being forced on you.
Signs of resistance or dislike
You might think to yourself âI donât really want this, but master/mistress wants it,â or you might hear similar from a sub. This can be an indication somethingâs being pushed on them against their will.
âI want to stop, but I canât stopâ
Suggestions to addict you to a predator are incredibly common. Usually this involves coming back to them or listening to their files. Many are set up as âif you resist, you come back,â making it even harder to leave. If you find yourself caught in files or always coming back to someone, itâs a good idea to get help from someone you trust. NOT the hypnotist.
Youâll especially notice this when something raises red flags, causing you to leave, but then you come back later.
This is a hard one to pin down and something youâd want to be on guard for. One of the most common places youâll feel it is around removing/deleting files if youâre listening to them, since many abusive hypnotists will give you suggestions to not delete their files. Another could be if you try to block them or delete them from your friends. Still another could be when you try to delete or change a post on your page. (For instance, perhaps they had you put your trigger words on your page or in your profile, and youâre trying to remove them.)
Becoming mindless or submissive from certain words/phrases
Yes, I know, this is a common erotic hypnosis trope. However, sometimes it just doesnât feel right. You say something you never set up or remember being set up as a trigger and it has a powerfully arousing/dropping/submissive effect on them, or you hear something and have a sudden, powerful effect but donât remember anything around it. This is almost certainly a sign of conditioning.
If youâre working with someone and you notice this, itâs a good idea to check in with them outside trance. If it dropped them a bit, be sure to pull them back up. See if they know the suggestion is there. Make very sure they want the suggestion. Potentially take them into trance and check around the suggestion. If you donât, itâs easy to get into dubious consent territory.
Safeties can help here, reminding them of their safeties and to engage them if needed.
Strong effects from words/phrases that you donât remember being suggestions
Very similar to the above, but more focused on memory. If you notice something have an effect but you have no memory of it put in, many people will assume itâs normal. This is likely not normal. More than likely thereâs a trigger or suggestion causing that behavior that someone ensured you didnât know was there.
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