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disliking your father for personality traits you have yourself but keep firmly repressed
Also on age verification: I have been on this website since 2011. Unless you think I started blogging at age 2, you KNOW I'm an adult.
#the fact that 'can prove access to an online account at least 12 years old' or even 'account to be verified is itself fully 18 years old'#AREN'T accepted methods of age verification is such a telling sign of what the real purpose of age-gating laws is:#data harvesting and deanonymization and the buildout of state-controllable ways to restrict both content and internet access itself en masse (via @shinelikethunder )
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Despite all their issues, I do want to say that the UK government does actually take antisemitism seriously. I will admit that it helps that our prime minister has a Jewish wife and their kids were raised Jewish so he has a unique perspective on the situation, but genuinely I do think Kier Starmer is trying to help.
The problem is, money for security and more policing can only go so far. The government can try to fight antisemitism but without British society admitting it has a racism problem, it's very hard to make meaningful change. The government aren't the ones picking up knives and stabbing us, setting our synagogues on fire, or trying to run us over and in a way, they're caught in the same catch 22 that we are.
If we Jews say we feel (and are) unsafe, we are accused of playing the victim.
If we are killed, it's a false flag.
If we advocate for antisemetism training, we are brainwashing people.
If the government points to publicly available statistics showing Jews are more likely to be attacked than any other minority, they're giving into their Zionist overlords.
If the government raises the issue of antisemitism at all, they're on the pay roll of Bibi.
The cults of the far left and far right have indoctrinated their people to blame us for everything to avoid facing their own deep, toxic failings.
There's an election this week in the UK and the far right and left populist parties are about to do very well because people are so blinded by their own hate and desire for instant gratification and vengeance that they can't even see that they're signing their own futures along with the futures of those who live around them over to ideological zealots with no intention of trying to benefit society.
yidgirl, listen to me. your coarse hair belongs to your mother and her mother and her mother.
your monobrow that boys made you feel alien for in school is an heirloom from the first of your foremothers forced into exile.
your slow metabolism and the weight you carry in your hips and belly are traits inherited from those who nearly starved.
your nose in profile is like the rock of gibraltar.
your crooked smile is the reef that nazi u-boats run aground on.
don’t augment your bodies so you might assimilate more easily. be ugly to them if you must. but your being is undeniable and beautiful.
i love you and i will always defend you.
my yidden transmascs, listen to me. the unrest in your body is a prayer of protection from your grandfather’s grandfather’s father.
the furrow in you brow as you linger in the hall, uncertain of which side of the mechitza is yours, is a mirror of your forefather’s, his fingers worrying his patchy beard and fretting at his too-long sleeves.
your voice cracking in musaf is evidence of things not yet to be, destinies not yet written. yet, there is time still, for you are written here.
the way your nose is tugged down by your lips when you laugh is how we tenderly remove the sheets from our mirrors after shiva concludes. the dead are not gone, never gone, but they will not scorn you as you seek to look upon yourself.
the animal of your body paces in anticipation, for fear of the next blow. may you trust it better than anyone before you, may it receive you kindly as it grows taut and wild, and as familiar as if it were your first meeting.
what kind of man will you be, all told? a knightly lion? a giant killer like david, an angel tussler like yaakov? will you be like yosef, will you be envied for your gentleness and scorned for your clear-sight? you will wear the armor of a general, or a coat of fine colors, or the pure garb of a kohen.
when a zadie chases you down and asks you to make a minyan, go. when a bubbe chases you out of the kitchen to go sit with the fathers and cousins and uncles, you may go. or, you may stay, to help her make stock and knead challah.
do not deform your proud back so they may not have to look at you, and be unnerved. don’t forget your kippah before you go, and and do kiss the mezuzah as you pass through the door.
i love you and i will always defend you.
“I will have an undergraduate class, let’s say a young white male student, politically-correct, who will say: “I am only a bourgeois white male, I can’t speak.” … I say to them: “Why not develop a certain degree of rage against the history that has written such an abject script for you that you are silenced?” Then you begin to investigate what it is that silences you, rather than take this very determinist position-since my skin colour is this, since my sex is this, I cannot speak… From this position, then, I say you will of course not speak in the same way about the Third World material, but if you make it your task not only to learn what is going on there through language, through specific programmes of study, but also at the same time through a historical critique of your position as the investigating person, then you will have earned the right to criticize, you be heard. When you take the position of not doing your homework- “I will not criticize because of my accident of birth, the historical accident” - that is the much more pernicious position.”
— Gayatri Spivak (via fearandwar)
As someone who has overcome substance abuse, I find this decade’s framing of addiction incredibly insulting.
Somewhere along the line, we decided that any repeated behavior, any source of pleasure, any coping mechanism, any habit that isn’t monk-like and productivity-optimized must be labeled an addiction. You like scrolling art before you create? Addiction. You watch comfort shows after work? Addiction. You check your phone in line at the grocery store? Addiction. You drink coffee with breakfast? Addiction. The word has been stretched so thin it barely means anything anymore, except “a behavior I personally disapprove of.”
Addiction is not “I enjoy stimulation.” It is not “I have habits.” It is not “I seek input before I produce output.” Addiction is a specific, devastating pattern of compulsion, harm, loss of control, and often self-destruction. It dismantles relationships. It corrodes trust. It hijacks the reward system so thoroughly that survival itself becomes secondary. It is not equivalent to liking Pinterest boards or needing music to focus.
When everything becomes addiction, nothing is. The language gets diluted, and with it, the gravity of what actual addiction is. People who have clawed their way out of substance abuse know the difference between compulsion and preference, between destructive dependence and deliberate engagement. Collapsing those distinctions into a trendy moral panic about “dopamine” is not enlightened. It’s sloppy. Unserious, even.
There’s also something deeply puritanical about it. The 2020s seem obsessed with pathologizing pleasure. If something feels good, it must be suspect. If it captures your attention, it must be hijacking your brain. If it isn’t explicitly productive, it must be rot. We’ve replaced older moral frameworks with neuroscience-flavored shame, but the tone is the same: you are wrong for enjoying things.
What bothers me most is how casually the word is thrown around in creative spaces. If you gather inspiration through music, images, movement, conversation, suddenly you’re “stimulus addicted.” If you can’t brute-force a novel in a silent white room with no input, you lack discipline. Never mind that many artists throughout history have relied on immersion, community, environment, and cross-media inspiration. Now it’s framed as weakness, as though the only legitimate art is produced under self-imposed sensory austerity.
This framing flattens nuance. There is a difference between avoidance and incubation. There is a difference between doomscrolling to numb out and deliberately engaging with material that fuels your imagination. There is a difference between compulsively chasing a hit and consciously choosing input that enriches your work. But nuance doesn’t trend. Alarmism does.
There’s also a strange individualizing move happening here. Instead of asking why people are exhausted, overstimulated, underpaid, isolated, or burnt out, we zoom in on their coping mechanisms and label them addictions. Instead of examining structural monotony, economic precarity, and social fragmentation, we scold individuals for having “bad dopamine habits.” It’s easier to diagnose people’s scrolling than to confront the conditions that make endless scrolling appealing.
Calling everything an addiction also erases agency. It suggests that people are perpetually hijacked by their brains, incapable of intentional choice unless they purge all sources of easy stimulation. That’s not empowering. It’s infantilizing. Adults are capable of enjoying things without being enslaved by them. Adults can have rituals, comforts, and creative processes without it being pathology.
When I hear the word “addiction” tossed around to describe normal human behavior, it doesn’t sound like insight. It sounds like moral grandstanding dressed up in pop psychology. And for those of us who have actually lived through the wreckage of substance abuse and fought to reclaim control, it feels like watching something serious get turned into a meme.
We deserve better language. We deserve distinctions. We deserve a culture that can tell the difference between compulsion and preference, between harm and habit, between numbing out and nourishing ourselves. Not everything that holds our attention is a disorder. Not everything pleasurable is a vice. And not everything repetitive is an addiction.
good morning everyone!!! Guess what day it is
Today is a Jewish holiday!
Get wrecked motherfucker 😃
"Steve left Bucky but Bucky would never have left Steve"
STEVE WOULDNT HAVE LEFT HIM EITHER THEY WERENT EVEN DOOMED BY THE NARRATIVE THEY WERE DOOMED BY MARVEL EXECS WHO COULDNT HANDLE PEOPLE CALLING CAPTAIN AMERICA GAY. DONT TRY TO ACT LIKE CIVIL WAR AND ENDGAME STEVE WERE THE SAME GUY WE WERE LIED TO.
sometimes i remember what they did to steve's storyline at the end of endgame and it always makes me want to punch something really fucking hard
i talk about transitioning and all anyone ever says is "I hope you don't regret it" what if instead we said I hope you love it. I hope it's everything you ever wanted. I hope you live the rest of your life in utter bliss. etc etc.
I hope you transition and I hope it's the best thing you ever did and I hope you never look back and I hope you finally feel comfortable in your own skin
having two chapters written of a fanfic and the feeling of being so torn between just posting it NOW and writing while posting or finishing the whole thing and THEN uploading while beta’ing
*having spent all day manhandling logs around on a frosty mountainside in the freezing bloody cold until my legs went all wobbly and I could taste iron in my spit*
Picture Bucky Barnes, surviving the fall from the train, not losing his arm, but breaking every single bone in it, clambering out of the icy river, snapping off a treebranch to make an impromptu splint along with his belt, and staggering up the mountainside to try and get back to the Howlies camp before they leave without him.
(But by the time he gets there he finds that the friendly American soldiers waiting, who bundle him into a plane, are... not actually friendly. The SSR is already rotten, they just didn't know. And so maybe he's flown to London, right behind the Howlies, and put into a cell in the War Rooms, which Steve walks past regularly, and he only loses the arm because the doctor they bring in to look at him is... recent capture Arnim Zola, who decides it's too far gone and should just be cut off.)
And now picture Bucky telling Steve this several decades later.
inspired by this post, here are some headcanons and meta about Steve & Bucky and queerness pre-war.
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Sarah Rogers:
This idea of Sarah's awareness/acceptance of queerness, doesn't necessarily have to be a function of her living in NYC.
If we go with the idea that Steve's parents were Irish immigrants, and Steve was born in 1918... Well that gives Sarah time to have been living in Ireland during the Easter Uprising.
the problem with most movies is that they are not 2014’s “captain america: the winter soldier”. hollywood should try to correct this
Modern research shows the public work together selflessly in an emergency, motivated by a strong impulse to help
“The notion that people panic and run screaming for the exits is a Hollywood fiction,” said Prof Stephen Reicher, an expert in group behaviour at the University of St Andrews.
“Characteristically, people stay and help each other,” he said. “We found this during the 7/7 attacks on the underground and the 1999 attack on the Admiral Duncan pub in London, where people looked after each other even though they feared other bombs.
“In our own research on the Leytonstone tube attack in 2015, there was an amazing level of spontaneous coordination by bystanders: some directed others away from danger. Some distracted the attacker. Some confronted the attacker. Each was able to act because of the others. Heroism was a feature of the group, not just the individual,” he added.
Prof Clifford Stott, a specialist in the psychology of crowds and group identity at Keele University, agreed. Modern research, he said, showed “bystander apathy” was a myth. Instead, strangers often work together in emergency situations with highly sophisticated unity.”
Bystander apathy is a myth invented by the New York Times to cover up that the police were called by several residents of the building, but the cops refused to act. The cops then told the Times that 38 people just watched her die (a seemingly arbitrary number and a physical impossibility based on where the attacks occurred), and the Times ran with it. In fact, Kitty was alive when the cops got there, and was being held and comforted by one of her friends who lived in the building because one of the people who saw her get attacked from across the street called her friend to go get her. Because people care.
You have just been attacked. How likely is it that someone will come to your help? If you remember the infamous case of Kitty Genovese in 19
I will always re-blog this. The story of Kitty Genovese’s murder has gone down in history as a story about everyone watching it happen and doing nothing and none of the story is true.
So I am not an emergency worker, and I need that to be clear because my sample size is small. I do work at a very large anime convention, so I've been around a few emergencies. Not many. But enough to notice a pattern:
The problem is not bystander apathy (which is not a thing), but bystander confusion. There's this moment where everyone is sort of processing "fuck, that just happened, now what" and loses the ability to think logically about next steps. As soon as one person steps in and says "you there! Do this next step!" the confusion breaks and people begin to react to fix the situation. Literally all it takes is somebody basically going "yep, we all saw that, now let's move."
While the murder of Kitty Genovese was a bullshit homophobic coverup, if you're in an emergency situation where someone needs medical assistance and there's more than one person, you can help a lot by loudly but calmly saying "Does anyone know first aid?," giving a chance for someone to respond, and then singling someone out by something identifiable--"hey, you in the red shirt and Steelers hat"--and telling them to call 911 or your country's equivalent. Even if nobody there knows first aid, as soon as someone sounds like they know what they're doing people will start trying to help.
Also a few things for you to know that I learned many, many years ago as part of my Red Cross first aid training and haven't forgotten:
1) stay calm and encourage the injured person to stay calm.
2) for a stroke, ask the person to raise both arms at the same time, and to smile. If you observe unevenness in either motion, call emergency services IMMEDIATELY. Seconds count.
3) the "cough to stop a heart attack" thing is a myth. Call emergency services immediately and have the person sit down.
4) contrary to what Sherlock would have you believe, you should actually remove belts, suspenders/braces, and tight clothing from an injured person. Yes, if the injured person has breasts this may mean unhooking their bra. Now is not the time for modesty.
5) never, never give a severely injured person water unless instructed to do so by emergency services (spoiler alert: they're basically never going to tell you to do that). It can cause vomiting, and then you have more problems.
6) never move a severely injured person or someone who's hit their head even if they "seem fine." Your kind intention may kill. Wait for emergency services and keep the person calm.
7) never try to restrain a person having a seizure.
8) only move a person having a seizure if they're in immediate, imminent danger (for example, falling right next to a campfire they may seize into). Banging an arm into a chair leg is not imminent danger.
9) "swallowing your tongue" is a myth. Never put anything in a seizing person's mouth.
(Can you tell I had a classmate with epilepsy?)
10) bleeding injuries should be raised above the heart.
And finally,
11) I'd also encourage all of you to get your Red Cross or some equivalent certification. I actually used mine for the first time about six months after I got it, and it did in fact save a life. (And you will notice I said "for the first time." Most of those incidents weren't nearly so dramatic--99% of the time it's been me saying "you there, call 911" and rolling somebody into the recovery position--but every single time I've been damned glad to have it.)
Not to hand it to the Pope but telling world leaders during Holy Week that God isn’t listening is kinda funny.
ok so, I approached my local library with a proposal to donate a mural as a way to A: build portfolio/gain practical experience and B: give back to a beloved public institution. The director was very enthusiastic about it and i've been working on it since the beginning of March. Come with me as I endeavor to paint what is in all honesty an excessive amount of birds
I wanted the birds to look like they were actually in the space so first thing after doing the draft was to do a lighting study
after that I covered the walls in letters in lieu of a projector/vr headset bc i have neither of those :) Then i take a picture of the section of wall and superimpose the lineart over top of it so I can pencil in the lines
et voila
and that was a whole week on it's own so next comes the paintin' >:)
and now, the birds
Birds 1 and 2/14: Red Winged Blackbird, Male and female, Agelaius phoeniceus
Bird 3/14, American Robin, Turdus migratorius
hoo boy, ok *out of breath*
GIVE IT UP FOR BIRD NUMBUH 5, THE CANADIAN GOOSE, Branta canadensis!!!!
this guy took me about 4 days to completely finish, all of those freakingk coverts were a bear to render
speaking of obnoxious coverts:
bird 6/14, Bluejay, Cyanocitta cristata
the friggin stripes almost got me chat, i may not make it