i don’t feel. isn’t that the point?

jett. 23. radfem. detrans lesbian.

[dykemind]

When I was a doormat I was a normal woman. My behavior struck no one as odd. I froze when men aggressed me and did not know why. I did not think of myself as spineless. I had anger, but was proud of never losing my temper. I had no sense of how small I was, how stunted. The consequences of female socialization are not immediate and can not be bypassed in an emergency. Female socialization exists for the emergency, to make sure you freeze, to make sure you don’t run or fight back. It is underpinned by beliefs about yourself, other women, and men so deeply held you can’t even recognize that you hold them.

[kielots]

mask off moment 🤭

[genderisareligion]

So many things wrong with this I don’t even know where to start

[anarcho-dworkinist]

It's because they think femininity and womanhood are synonyms. "You're not a woman" is interpreted as "You're not pretty and ladylike enough" because they're genuinely unable to distinguish between these concepts. This is why nonbinary language includes shit like "women and femmes," as if performing femininity gives you some inherent proximity to womanhood. Men are replaced with "masc-presenting folks" because masculine = man. This is the basis for Serano's transmisogyny theory which claims that patriarchy gives "masculine people" systemic power and privilege over "feminine people."

There's nothing actually mask off about it, this is just what they openly believe about womanhood and patriarchy, and they've been hammering it into people's heads for decades. Like to the point where this person would probably be confused about getting called mask off, because yeah, this is actually just their worldview

[wallflowerpetal]

It's because they think femininity and womanhood are synonyms. "You're not a woman" is interpreted as "You're not pretty and ladylike enough" because they're genuinely unable to distinguish between these concepts.

[sapphos-catpanions]

it’s also why they say ”terfs trying to force us back into traditional gender roles can stay mad” when we point out that they’ll always be men.

[ikickmen]

why can women that don't shave be women but i cant if i have a dick😤😤

[campyvillain]

btw if you live in the midwest (a region where a lot of the states are going to have trigger laws or ban abortion completely it looks like) and if it’s possible that you can leave ur state, get to illinois. Illinois isn’t just a state where abortion is permitted, in illinois abortion is strictly a protected right. illinois’ right to abortion is permanent and isn’t going to be changed anytime soon. in illinois your abortion rights are completely confidential. illinois is one of the easiest states to access abortion in and the process is fairly simple, and it’s going to always be legal to do so even as the right to abortion is overturned in other states. it’s very much a safe haven to anyone who needs to flee their state right now. if anyone can provide any resources and links that would be greatly appreciated.

[campyvillain]

here is a post detailing how you can get an abortion in chicago.

it’s extremely in depth and shares a lot of very valuable info if coming here is in your best interest.

[kweza-deactivated20221020]

Kinda just shooting out an idea for you here, but I think I figured out why there's such a large number of people these days who assume they're transgender or non-binary in the western world. Sure some are genuinely having the body dysmorphic disorder, but I think that gender stereotypes went too far and people are defining gender to strictly. For example, if a man doesn't act like a macho badass ala Bruce Campbell or something, they feel they aren't a real man, or a woman if she's not like JLo or Barbie they're not a real woman. So since it was too narrow a definition they threw it aside, assuming they're just trans or non-binary when they're just more nuanced, just like a person should be. Like throwing the baby with the bathwater type situation. We need to allow people to explore what they like without defining them that narrowly, let women get into what's traditionally masculine like fixing machines or something and let men be allowed to get into traditionally feminine stuff like being poets and artists, while not shaming people for liking the typical stuff for their gender.

but the thing is that the person who declares themselves gender non-conforming because they don't fit in the stereotypes of their sex will turn around and embrace the stereotypes of the other just the same. all men i see that are transgender always go back to the most obvious stereotype of what people "think" makes a woman.

they'll get the breast implants and the most feminine clothes and the hair extensions and the obnoxious fake nails. they'll start acting in an exaggerated effeminate manner and pretend to have periods and demand they be considered a woman because they look and feel like one. it's all about replacing one stereotype for another.

people should just let children be children without adding labels to their lives. as a kid i liked cars and didn't want to play with dolls in kindergarten. i wore overalls, had a short haircut and got dirty all the time. that didn't make me any less a girl than i am now.

[woman-incarnate-deactivated2023]

that “day x of being a girl!” influencer posted a video about how expensive it is to be a girl because… “the hair the nails the clothes”

it actually costs nothing to be born a female

it’s almost like prevailing stereotypes about womanhood are unnatural and exist to profit rich men

[butch-reidentified]

You want to know what's expensive about being female? Tampons, pads, birth control, gynecological exams, getting paid less than men, therapy because of things men did to you, increased medical bills due to improper diagnosis and treatment and lack of medical research involving women, increased medical bills due to things like safety test dummies being male bodied only therefore increasing our risk of injury, increased medical bills due to increased genetic likelihood for several illnesses or due to pregnancy and childbirth, having less energy than men because they've worn you down and made you take care of them and the kids and the house and everybody else so you don't have the energy to pursue extra financial opportunities or even hobbies, women's clothing lasting less time than men's and needing replaced more often, (in many cases) being strapped with a large portion of the bills for your kids' needs (if fortunate enough for the father to stick around/pay child support at all)... should I go on?

[susansontag]

[mithliya]

still stuck on this… if u think ur body is more than just a hole for men to enter and babies to exit then actually u hate ur body

[shamelesslyunladylike]

Keyword here is "designed". We were not designed for anything, we simply evolved in a way that was adapted to our survival first and reproduction second. The use of "design" in this context is a sign of religious/mystical thinking that has no place in a rational conversation.

[radkindoffeminist]

Female bodies have have to adapt over millennia to get better at handing childbirth/pregnancy because we are so fucking bad at it. We give birth to babies which are relatively less developed compared to other mammals because our bodies would not be able to handle a child that big. We die in child birth and if we live then it often fucks our bodies up. Our bodies reject so many eggs for not being perfect because it wants to protect us from that trauma. And that's all before you consider the fact that there are so many forms infertility which affect women meaning that their bodies are literally not ‘designed’ to handle pregnancy.

Pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, and even penetrative sex are things which many women are capable of, but being capable of it does not mean that we have to do it. Our bodies being ‘designed’ to do it, doesn't mean that any woman who cannot or chooses to not do these things is a failure or is going against what they are naturally ‘designed’ to do.

And if you want to use that logic on women then I suppose that we use the same on men: men are designed to penetrate a woman, fertilise an egg, and otherwise be disposable.

[state-issued-foid-deactivated20]

When autistic non-binary women start talking about their "complicated relationship with gender" I go absolutely insane because they literally hit the nail on the head in describing what it's like to be an autistic female, like how we don't properly understand social rules like gender norms and roles, but then they conclude it with "and that's why I'm not a girl!" like actually that's why you and your experiences are completely indistinguishable from the average autistic female, congratulations.

What you had was an amazing, in depth analysis of how gender is inherently social, and as a result, autism is inherently gender noncomforming, but instead you had to be a pretentious fuck with a lot of internalized misogyny and a massive individuality complex.

The absolute worst of it was when I would post videos on TikTok about my lifelong struggles to fit in with girls my age and properly conform to the rigid and confusing standards of femininity. Multiple comments suggested I may be some form of non-binary, perhaps agender or a demigirl.

It's genuinely so sad to see so many autistic women fall pray to our misogynistic online culture that tells them they aren't women for failing to meet the ridiculous and sexist expectations enforced on our sex by patriarchy.

[popepauljohn]

[drinkyourjuiceshelby]

[mxnrique]

[radbuckett]

Laetitia Ky is the woman to save us all and im in love. Also seriously peoples audacity is something else, this is her post about her work as a feminist artist from Ivory Coast. Honestly how dare

[drachenstochter]

Yes, but let's not put this burden exclusively on Ms. Ky. Every one of us needs to speak out as much as we are able. One person, no matter how strong and influential, cannot turn the tide of battle. It takes an army, it takes an ocean. There's only one way to combat this insidious narrative.

Speak up. Speak out.

[magnetictapedatastorage]

[spoookysapphic-deactivated20161]

I can’t express how upset it makes me that shyness in women is sexualized, anger in women is sexualized, ignorance/ lack of intelligence is sexualized, intelligence is sexualized- being a woman is being sexualized for everything you feel or do.

[ohfortheloveofwomen]

Being a teacher, doctor, librarian, in a school with uniforms, fat, skinny, chubby, disabled, mentally ill, blonde, brunette, red headed. The list is unending. Any and all characteristics, hobbies, fields of work, etc. that women have or partake in…can be found categorized on porn sites.

[aitana-bonmati]

[pinkgreenbreeze]

sorry this completely apropos of nothing, but you reblogged a post about society thinking only dead dv victims are real victims and any woman who fights back and survives is suspicious etc, and the jubilee is right now so it got me thinking about princess diana.

i am 1000000000% certain that, had she lived, she'd be hated now too. she is only beloved because she died. in the run up to her death she was bombarded with tabloid misogyny about being a sex-mad psycho whore. i bet if she was alive today, everyone on social media would despise her for being a privileged aristocratic white saviour bitch and easily gobble up all sorts of misogynistic propaganda. we only view her as a victim because she's 6 feet under. if her death hadn't happened she would find no sympathy or empathy for her situation. she'd be just another worn out karen with a sagging body and too much botox or not enough botox or whatever.

(it feels dumb to care about mega wealthy white women whose entire families' fortunes come directly from the oppression of my own people and country, but, in a way, they're the perfect women: the control specimen in the misogyny petri dish, that we can use to "see" pure misogyny with all the other oppressions stripped away.)

📌

[pinkgreenbreeze]

i’ve been thinking about this ask and anon i think i’m in love with you

[wokestonecraft]

I think people forget just how vilified Diana was while she was alive, since the press completely turned around the moment she died. And to lesser extent, Camilla received the same treatment while Charles was holed up in one of his estates. I mean, Charles is largely seen a bumbling man who likes to talk to plants than someone who very coldly mistreated his much younger wife and left his “beloved” mistress out in the cold of the press attacks. If Diana was still alive, she would absolutely been seen as a crazy hysterical bitch, which is exactly how she was viewed up until the car crash.

[pinkgreenbreeze]

never saw that correction before and now i’m incredibly sad

[femsolid]

A co-worker tells me she has no faith in humanity, that human beings are fundamentally cruel and evil which makes them worthless. She says she doesn't understand why I still want to help people. I tell her it's men who commit the vast majority of cruel acts. She agrees. I say that I therefore don't share her views on humanity, because I still believe in women and want to help women, while men are definitely the problem and a lost cause to me. She replies with, I kid you not, "you're an extremist".

[queen-mayhem]

if you have little girls in your life, make a point to prioritize them. listen to them. don’t interrupt them or let others interrupt them. make sure to compliment them on things besides their appearance. tell them how clever and creative and brave they are. it’s so important.

[feministdragon]

Teaching English to third graders, I used ‘she’ as the default.  The first day I did this, a few weeks into the semester, I noticed the girls noticing.  They sat up in their seats, they paid attention, you could see them going ‘wow’ internally.  

I continued over the course of the class to only use ‘she’ in example sentences. Towards the end of the semester, I assigned a piece of writing, and used ‘she’ in the example piece.  I announced that it was just the example, but the boys (who never listened to instructions) kept coming up to ask me privately if they could also use ‘he’ in the stories.   

The default matters.  People don’t feel comfortable to deviate from the stated norm, especially in a classroom setting where the teacher is the arbiter of ‘correct’.  The boys in my class felt they had to have permission to not use the standard ‘she’.  Imagine how girls feel all the time.

[radicalromanov]

the hatred of radical feminists is so fucking rampant that you can’t even find a humor or cat blog that doesn’t occasionally say “I HATE TERFS” or have “TERFS DNI” in their bio. yet if pressed, nobody knows what the fuck we actually stand for. it’s pathetic. every single “terfs are trash” post on this site is meaningless propaganda.