You may or may not have seen my HH stuff on Tiktok 😭😭
I wanted to post my Hazbin redesigns on here one bc l've literally been neglecting Tumblr and I feel bad and two, they've been getting a ton of love on Tiktok so I wanted to share them here as well!
Ok but like. What the fuck is there to do on the internet anymore?
Idk when I was younger, you could just go and go and find exciting new websites full of whatever cool things you wanted to explore. An overabundance of ways to occupy your time online.
Now, it’s just… Social media. That’s it. Social media and news sites. And I’m tired of social media and I’m tired of the news.
Am I just like completely inept at finding new things or has the internet just fallen apart that much with the problems of SEO and web 3.0 turning everything into a same-site prison?
ALSO you should consider browsing Virtual Pet List and seeing if there are any pet sites you might be interested in playing. There is a whole genre of browser games right under your nose
Getting off of twitter and onto neocities has really healed me and I am so glad to see it is healing other people too ;u; let’s retreat into the self-made digital woods and away from corporate bs pls, I am so tired
In the world of BDSM, we often focus on the trust, communication, and intense emotions shared between dominants and submissives during a scene. However, there is a less-explored aspect of BDSM that can be just as intense and emotionally charged, the feelings of guilt and shame that dominants may experience after a scene. While it may seem surprising, these emotions are more common than one might expect and are entirely valid. Today we will delve into why dominants might feel this way, how they can handle these emotions, and how submissives can provide support when their dominant is struggling.
Dominants may experience guilt and shame for various reasons,
which can include:
Concern for their submissive: A dominant may worry about pushing their submissive too far or causing them emotional or physical distress during a scene.
Society's judgment: Social stigma and misconceptions surrounding BDSM can lead to feelings of shame, as dominants may fear judgment or discrimination.
Personal boundaries: A dominant might question whether they crossed their ethical boundaries or acted in a way that goes against their values.
Insecurity: Dominants can feel insecure about their performance, worried they did not meet their submissive's expectations.
Handling Guilt and Shame:
Self-Reflection: Dominants should take time for introspection. Reflect on the scene and the reasons behind the guilt or shame. Sometimes, these emotions are rooted in irrational fears or self-criticism.
Communication: Open and honest communication with their submissive is crucial. Sharing their feelings can help alleviate guilt and shame, as submissives often provide reassurance and understanding.
Education: Learning more about BDSM, consent, and negotiation can help dominants gain confidence in their actions and choices.
Self-compassion: Dominants should practice self-compassion, reminding themselves that mistakes can happen, and the BDSM community values continuous learning and growth.
Submissives play a vital role in helping dominants cope with post-scene guilt and shame:
Reassurance: Offer verbal reassurance to your dominant that you trust and appreciate their efforts. Let them know that their well-being and growth matter to you.
Non-judgmental listening: Create a safe space where dominants can express their feelings without fear of judgment. Encourage them to share their thoughts openly.
Educate Together: Explore BDSM resources and attend workshops together. This shared learning experience can strengthen your bond and help both parties feel more confident and secure.
Set Clear Boundaries: Establish and maintain boundaries that both parties are comfortable with. This ensures that the dominant has a clear understanding of what is expected and desired.
Remember, guilt and shame are natural emotions that can affect dominants in BDSM, and it is essential to acknowledge and address them. In doing so, dominants and submissives can grow closer, both emotionally and within their BDSM journey. Building trust and understanding in these moments of vulnerability can lead to a deeper and more fulfilling connection between dominants and submissives.
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As with all of my thoughts, please see this disclaimer.
People have this weird belief that if you're critical of a system or tradition, then it must be because you failed to live up to that system or tradition. The idea of having a principled stance, regardless of whether or not *you* personally benefit from society accepting that stance, is foreign to so many people. And this belief is really fucking important for and beneficial to the elites of this country. If you can get the masses to equate criticizing you and the institutions you control with abject personal failure, congratulations, you've just made yourself immune to accountability
Also, as a failure of the education system: we need to spend more time listening to the people our systems leave behind. "Well of course you're critical of this; you failed" should not be a conversation-ender even if it is true.
The second werewolf piece that I'm doing this month. This one is meant to be a bookmark, which I'm looking into printing off sine I already pre-designed the background.
Third in the horror portraits series -- Vecna from Stranger Things! Jamie Cambell Bower, we barely recognized ye.
As with the others, this one also has a print available on inprnt!
Next in my series of Horror Portraits for October 2023 is our fan fav, Jason Voorhees from Friday the 13th! Do you know which movie in the series this mask is based on?
January is the month of werewolves for my art focus this year! This is both the first piece for the month, and for the year! More werewolves coming soon!
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