It really is, I relate so much. Im italian and coming out as non binary isnt an option because there's no gender neutral terms, no gender neutral pronouns, so even in having a supportive family I cant come out to them, because what would change?
And non binary as an identity, not to mention the genders under that umbrella, are not known and there are no words for it. I cant call myself a boygirl or multigender or transmascfem in italian because the words dont exist. I cant even call myself non binary because the word is not a gender identity, it's not something people would know or have heard of or understand.
The people around me know binary trans people exist! Not once have they ever been confronted with ANYTHING even vaguely related to non binary people. Do they know what that is? No clue.
Im not saying binary trans people have it easy in explaining their identity, because no they dont at all, but there's a difference between explaining how your gender identity isnt the binary gender others expect it to be, just the other one, and between going Im actually both the genders you think are mutually exclusive, or neither of the two genders you think exist, or a third gender that youve never even thought could exist, or fluctuating between multiple genders or- etc etc.
A non binary issue is knowing the people close to you support trans people, women and men, but because non binary people are never talked about, you have no idea if they even know of their existence, and that coming out isnt an option *even in a safe space* because even then, no one can help but misgender you anyway. There's no way for anyone to be supportive or acknowledge your identity.
Sorry this turned in a bit of my own feelings getting mixed up, but the core is, to who left those tags and all the other non binary people stuck in binary societies with binary languages, whose native language cannot account for their existence, who can only find their identities and names and language in a second or third language like english: I promise you, you're not alone. We'll make things better, a little at a time <3