things will get better 💗

he/she, 23, main: pinnipetal

[guooey]

[eptck]

you have to be kinder to people with memory issues.

you have to be kinder to people who are slow processors.

you have to be kinder to people who don't understand your jokes.

you have to be kinder to people who forget important dates.

you have to be kinder to people with cognitive decline.

you have to be kinder to people who were always this way, too.

you have to be kind. you have to be kind.

[desinteresse]

Talking to friends with inept parents is crazy. No wonder they’re like this if their parents kept fumbling

[desinteresse]

“I’m having trouble adapting to my adult responsibilities” well no wonder, nobody raised you 😭😭😭

[desinteresse]

Hot tip for future parents: you actually have to guide your kid to adulthood. Feeding them and waiting for them to grow up is not enough since they are not house plants. A little more thought and care is required.

[mosssreblogs]

for those lacking certain "adulting" skills, especially things around the house, check out:

mom, how do i...?

and dad, how do i...?

^ there are tons of other resources but these two will teach you some personal hygiene, home or apartment repairs, easy recipes and basic cleaning techniques, even how to schedule doctor's appointments

if youre a renter i cannot recommend the trans handyma'am enough, mercury is a lifesaver, and her channel and accounts are always accepting new questions

there are so many resources, a lot that you dont have to even ask for, just know how to look 🩷 much love

[aaaangel444]

agridulceart

[guooey]

what if I live without shame

[artbylittlebug]

[torstherapy]

[tinsnip]

Per @spoonstrek

[chestcavityyy]

[dogrotpdf]

girlie you can’t give up now you don’t have the dark green couch of your dreams yet

[dogrotpdf]

this is getting some attention again, so for all of you who are writing “i have the green couch already, can i give up now?!’ the answer is no. the green couch is a metaphor. your one job in this wild and precious life is to dream things for yourself, always: a college degree, more friends, your art in a show, that book you keep promising you’ll finally finish writing, your first trip abroad, a happy life with your loved ones, the day you wake and realise you have new wrinkles and not feeling anything but so, so proud that you have lived long enough for your body to show how far you’ve come. so no, girlie with the dark green couch, you cannot give up. it is time for the next dream

[succubusboyfriend]

are you “adaptable” or are you just willing to subject yourself to existing in low key background-level ambient misery

[succubusboyfriend]

these are different things btw. actual adaptability means not dealing with being miserable long term. and being constantly mildly annoyed/frustrated with a situation but being “able to deal with it” counts as ambient misery. btw.

[succubusboyfriend]

let this be your sign to make your life just a little more livable. get a dollar store trash can for your bedside so Cup City’s invasion plans fall through. block a tag or post that makes you grind your teeth every time you see it. get some grip pads so your bed stops sliding across the hardwood a little bit every time you get in it. tell that person you need a little more support. if you get annoyed at a situation more than a couple times, change it. don’t be content with being miserable.

[demonprincex]

and the more that you start doing this, the better you will get at detecting your own feelings and advocating for yourself! This is an important start to being more of a person in the world if you struggle with that

[thisisalovestry]

file -> phrases that are going to shift something in me forever

[insomniparty]

[golden-letters]

bitch this is all you’re gonna get. this life, this face, this body. you better not ‘maybe in another universe’ your way out of everything. sit your ass down and face this. go make tea and have a picnic and read a goddamn book. kiss your loved ones, send that damn text, and hug your siblings. this is all you’re gonna get.

[ilahikizilcik]

Just watched a documentary about women who use ai boyfriend apps, following three different women, at the festival. Very early on, the first woman said something that caught my attention: The documentary opened at her work, then followed her to her tiny apartment as she prepared and ate dinner with her boyfriend on her tablet. I don't know if that was the intention but the whole sequence gave me the impression that she had no friends. Then it cut to an interview to camera where she said she had never said "I love you" to anyone other than her ai boyfriend, that love was too important to be frivolous with. Later she said she doesn't want to date anyone because even if someone seems perfect at first, gradually the flaws become visible. And I feel like the belief that love ought to be grandiose and perfect makes a lot of people lonelier, even if not to the point of ai boyfriends, by keeping them from appreciating small human connections that might otherwise grow

[caspercryptid]

I feel like not enough people realize that people under enormous strain act really really fucking Weird

[pine-branches]

things humans are known to do when stressed:

-hallucinate

-cry over what seems to be small things

-become furiously angry over what seems to be small things

-hit a self destruct button over and over again

-lose all sense of reality

-becoming straight up unable to communicate

-view every situation as life or death

-experience delusions/become vulnerable to irrational worldviews

-perceive hostility where none exists

-become extremely nauseous and/or throw up

-stop engaging in sleeping/eating/basic hygiene

-stop processing sensory input

-process way too much sensory input all at once

-lash out at others/themselves

-and more!

being able to recognize when a human (ie. you or another person) is so stressed out they cannot think clearly is VERY important for conflict resolution and diffusing emotional crisis. highly recommend trying to train yourself at being able to recognize that state of panic- there is a point in which logic and rationality is useless and you have to address the underlying emotional issue first. knowing that saves everyone a lot of pain and struggle.

[caspercryptid]

Prev and to others struggling with recognizing this but not knowing what to do about it

Distress Tolerance: DBT skills | Worksheet | Therapist Aid

In DBT, distress tolerance skills are one approach to coping with uncomfortable emotions. Rather than trying to change or “fix” a feeling, t

This might help

[kabaks]

Instagram therapy content goes a long way to explain why therapy “doesn’t work” on so many people lmao

[kabaks]

I really don’t want to be a shill for psychiatrists and I agree with a lot of anti psch arguments but its pretty depressing to me that “therapy” is colloquially equated to like active listening and constant confirmation & validation (operative word being ‘constant’) when the most benefit I’ve personally received from therapy has been because an attentive professional has been fixated on figuring out what I actually need beyond head nodding. I think especially ppl who react poorly to having their viewpoints challenged can get stuck in the type of therapy that just chat gpts them and in a way makes them worse by affirming their thought patterns, so that everyone they have a personal conflict with becomes an evil narcissist or what have you

[glowpart2]

Did you guys know that this isn’t your grave and you can get out of this hole? I just found out

[sunwomb]

3 types of self soothing thoughts 

Validation: it’s ok that I hurt and want to feel better

Reassurance: I can handle this pain even though it hurts 

Perspective taking: I’ve had bad days like this before and I’ve made it through them. I can remember my better days and know I’m not always hurting this much