Liminal As Fuck

Agender Queerdo | Hypermobile Spoonie | Autist | Feminist | Socialist | Chef

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with my school teachers it was like “omg they’re so cool i wanna be their friend!” but with university lecturers it’s like “they’re endearing and i love them like cats but are they okay because i think they know too much about 18th century german literature to survive in the world”

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what, you can’t know who friedrich schiller is and also change a tire?

[chromolume]

literally no

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this would have worked better if I personally knew how to change a tire

[questionablemotivations]

There are a lot of times I feel like just…flipping the vegan script.

It’s not ‘polyester’ it’s plastic

It’s not ‘vegan leather’ it’s plastic

Its not ‘faux fur’ it’s plastic

Plastic is a pollutant and causes far more damage to the environment both now and in the future than leather or wool.

Please stop telling me that the Plastic Lyfe is the only life, it is not. My leather shoes will last a decade where pleather is lucky to last 12 months. Leather (and wool) decompose and are renewable. Plastic is neither of those.

[house-of-crows]

THANK YOUUUUUUU~

[kinka-juice]

A single wash cycle of plastic-based fiber (polyester, poly fleece, faux fur) may release 700,000 pieces of microplastic into our waters. Nasty stuff.

[laurdlannister-kingslayer]

aw dangit

[chrisintegration-deactivated202]

Wool is the most environmentally friendly fabric despite being an animal product.

[noisypitta]

Using wool isnt even harming sheep 

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Ok but still don't wear fur though. Fur is gross. Unless you, like, live in the Arctic and you ate the animal you took the fur from. But mink? Fuck no.

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[bemusedlybespectacled]

Gomez gives out better relationship advice than like 90% of dudes.

[obstinate-nocturna]

Gomez Addams is a suave motherfucker who loves his wife more than his own life.

Everyone should want a Gomez. He’s p cool.

[breelandwalker]

Gomez and Morticia Addams actually have a very loving and extremely healthy relationship, both in the old TV show and in the more recent movies. They were also one of the first television couples to be shown to have an active (albeit offscreen) sex life. Their frank attitude towards sexuality was shocking in its’ time, but their relationship and their family dynamic is actually more functional and more…dare I say it…sane than most families portrayed on TV.

The comedy in the show came from the family’s “odd” lifestyle, rather than from infighting and petty bickering, or worse, as was common on other shows of the time, thinly veiled references to spousal abuse. They didn’t make fun of each other or act like their children were creatures from another world. Were they strange and outside of social norms? Yes. Were they united in creating a loving home and being good, supportive parents? Absolutely.

These two support and adore their children, care for an aging mother and an estranged brother, put family before everything, and they love each other, wholly, fiercely, without reserve. They are every bit as much in love after at least a decade of marriage as they were the day they met.

Relationship goals. LIFE goals.

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Just remembered in the second movie when their third child became “normal” for a period and although they were shocked and didn’t know how to handle it, they didn’t mistreat the child or love it any less. They accepted the difference, even though it was hard for them. 

[drnerdlove]

Reblogged for truth.

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❤️❤️❤️

[endreal]

Posts about Gomez and Morticia Addams are almost always uplifting and I’m happy to have them on my dash, but I think my favorite bit about this conversation is what Gomez is actually saying to Fester.

It’s nobody’s surprise that many of the aesthetic and thematic elements of The Addams Family in its various incarnations are influenced by Gothic tradition (not goth, that mostly came later. And not Goth, that was much much much too early), and I think Gomez’s words are a dead bullseye in terms of Gothic mentality.

“Make her feel like she’s the most sublime creature on earth”

The sublime is a recurring theme throughout Gothic literature. Although the word (like “awesome”) has lost a lot of it’s original luster over the intervening decades, sublime doesn’t really mean elevated and lofty (or even heavenly) as it’s often used today, but rather something possessing the power and grandeur to induce awe and veneration in the mind of the beholder. Although less than divine, something sublime possessed a wildness and power that transcended human ability to control…or even to comprehend.

Sublime is standing at the edge of the Grand Canyon leaning as far as you dare over the railing and still not being able to see the canyon floor below. Sublime is warrior-queen Galadriel being tempted by the One Ring. Sublime is waking up in the middle of the night in the heart of a wild thunderstorm.

“Make her feel like she’s the most sublime creature on earth”

Gomez isn’t advising Fester to treat a woman he fancies like a princess, or even elevate her to pedestal of angelic nature (who’s idea was it to equate femininity with purity anyway? What a laughable and historically damaging idea. Shame on whatever dead (probably) white dudes promoted that!)

Gomez is advising Fester that if he truly loves a woman he must do everything he can to remind her of how she’s an untameable force of nature who’s grandeur brings him to his knees in awe and terror. Just like Morticia, for Gomez.

I’ll sign off with one of my most favorite quotes of all time, because it feels suddenly very relevant:

“When I find myself surrounded by so much beauty, I feel as if I am the eye of a hurricane.”

- -Sanjay Kulkarni

[heelsandclutches]

Every single relationship will get “boring” after you’ve been together for ages. Love isn’t a feeling, it’s a commitment; to love every day, physically and emotionally. It’s hard afff, it’s not always laughs and smiles and fun. People tend to quit when it stops being cute. “Oh the spark is gone.” No, that’s not how it works. You want somebody to never give up on you and love you unconditionally? Do the same. This isn’t Hollywood, this isn’t romantic happy ever after bs. Love someone when you don’t want to, when they are being a fricken asshole. When they’re being hard to love. That’s thats the realist shit there is.

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A friend of mine recently sent me this post and asked if I would share my thoughts on whether I agreed with it or not. In responding to her question, I found myself mentioning some points that I don’t think I’ve explicitly stated on my blog before, and I felt like they may be worth sharing “out loud.”

This was my response:

Hmm… there are some parts I can relate to. Like the part about being more about commitment and choice and behavior than it is about a feeling that comes and goes.

On the other hand, I don’t really agree with the premise that “every single relationship will get boring” because I have never felt “bored” in my relationship with my wife.

I mean, there’s routine and familiarity. Not every day is “exciting,” but that’s not the same as being “boring.”

I mean, you read this post and it sounds like the person is just trying to tell themselves to just hang in there and keep trudging through a crummy relationship because they’ve made a commitment to do that.

And yeah, I definitely agree that you don’t just give up when things are hard. But the answer isn’t to just slog along like things will never get better. The answer is to hope for better days and positive change, and trust that the person you love is willing to work with you to achieve that positive change together.

My wife and I love each other and we’ve made a commitment to be loyal to each other. And part of true loyalty is having the courage to call someone out when they’re out of line. To remind them that they’re capable of better than how they act on their worst days, and to encourage them to live up to their true potential.

I think that’s really what love is. It’s not a commitment to “love someone when you don’t want to,” because what does that even mean?

It’s a commitment to stick together, grow together, and keep encouraging each other to learn and grow and improve.

That’s why I’ve never been “bored” in my marriage. Because my wife isn’t the same woman she was when I married her. I’m not the same man I was when she married me. We’re not the same people we were last year, or even last week, or even yesterday.

We’re both constantly developing our minds and our talents and our understanding of the world and each other. We’re constantly striving to become the best people we can be. We’re striving to be the kind of people we really want to be. I’m striving to be more like the man my wife already sees in me. And while a lot of that drive comes from within myself, a lot of it is also driven by her love for me and her faith in me and my potential.

So no, it’s not always “smiles and fun,” and it’s not always “cute,” and it’s not always romantic. But it IS always positive, and encouraging, and supportive, because that’s what love IS.

And it’s definitely NEVER boring.

🙂

[trinecomics]

2016-05-28, Pills Rap, by Trine Watkins

Did you like my rap? Just trying to glam my sick life up, you know?

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My only followers are porn bots. 😫

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I am attempting to teach myself Hungarian. I'm making lots of flash cards with the help of Phoebe the cat.

[irritablelifesyndrome]

no terfs on my toilet

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Even though they are shit

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Are there people for whom digestion is not painful?

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These are getting really specific.

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I feel extremely called out by this.

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Don’t you just love how your brain works…

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One of those days...

Hi I’m having one of those days where I really just want to zone TF out and be useless until it’s time for work. My hubby has gone to the beach so there’s no one to encourage me to be something other than a blob. 

I don’t have a solution for this I just wanted to say it.

[whitepeopletwitter]

Even worse in food service/retail

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OMG me and my FoH are soulmates. We’ve never been out socially one single time. But we are besties.

[apolonisaphrodisia]

Release the KRAKEN! Kraken 100% chocolate by @amauryguichon⁣

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Holy balls.

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Yes ma’am, no matter who wins you just took the prize!