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TW: FAMILY PROBLEMS or just scroll if you don't wanna read what's probably gonna be a long post.

So I posted a while back in my butch community about my mom and her new bf and how he wasn't a trump supporter. Well it's just gotten so much worse. It's like she's lost her fucking mind. She'd been telling my brother and I that we need to meet him soon pretty much since she told us she was going on a date. They'd apparently started "seeing each other" (talking on facebook) in February, she told us she was going on a date in like March, then moved into his trailer the week after and started telling us we had to meet him soon. They'd apparently got engaged on easter at church, which she has now started going to 4 days a week, and are planning on getting married in November. She also didn't come up to my house for Easter despite me inviting her. And this whole time she's kept arguing with me and my brother in our group chat because we're both not happy about this whole situation and she's been accusing us of not caring about her and her happiness. Well this whole time she'd been giving my dad a deadline on when he has to move out of the house that he co-owns with her (and paid off and had fixed up after getting his disability and the backpay from that) so she and her boyfriend can move back in, despite knowing good and well that our poverty stricken region has little to no housing options and the places that are for rent are $1,000 a month or more.

So my aunt that lives next to my parents house has decided to let him move in there with her and her "roommate/best friend" for a while so my brother and his wife were helping my dad pack up everything in the house (he paid for literally all new furniture and stuff because they were previously using hand me downs of hand me downs) including my brother's and my stuff out of our rooms because neither of us want them to have access to any of our stuff for them to possibly sell when they need money. So our mom decides to text us both individually and in the group chat accusing us of wanting nothing to do with her. She was downright nasty to my brother (he sent me the screenshots of what she said to him) and slightly better but still accusing to me. So we were having it out in the group chat over that today.

Every time she argues with us she rapidly cycles between accusing us of not caring about her and that we treat her like trash to saying she loves us even if we don't love her, despite the several times we've told her that we do still love her but are both just mad and hurt by how she's treating us and our dad. Especially considering our dad is a diabetic and has been an amputee for almost a decade now, the majority of which he's been having bleeding behind one of his eyes and is slowly losing his vision, it had been getting better but the stress of this has made it start back up again and worse. My mother hasn't even cared where he's been going and he hasn't told her. So for all she knows he's well and truly homeless and she's just expecting nobody in the family to care about that, including my brother and I. And it wouldn't be so terrible if my dad had any family in this country but my brother and I. And my brother is living with his wife and in-laws and I live almost 3 hours away so he would have to go through a whole process of switching doctors. She keeps saying that he's never done anything for her and that she deserves to live in that house and on the land more than he does because of it as if he didn't move to a whole other country away from his family and friends over 26 years ago at just 22 years old because they wanted to be together and she didn't wanna move. She keeps acting like she's the only one ever paid for anything for the house or did anything around the house as if my brother and I weren't helping them with bills and groceries once we started working and then minimizing our contributions to the house so she can play the victim.

At this rate I'm gonna just have a stomach full of ulcers. She's pissing me off so badly that I'm out here apologizing to my brother for being an asshole to him when we were kids (I'm autistic and it was almost always violent meltdowns that I can't even really remember anything about but the feeling of being so overwhelmed and angry) like, I kinda came out to my dad because I was telling him about something I said during one of our arguments. (He is actually very supportive of me by the way which I was kind of surprised by since he's also started going to church frequently very recently)

It's just a whole fucking mess and I needed to vent somewhere.

#personal #vent post #family troubles #medical issues #disability #tw mentions of blood

theconcealedweapon

Yes. Of course I'm generous with other people's money. If someone else has billions and I have to worry about whether I can afford a random extra expense, of course I'm going to be more generous with their money than I am with mine. Why shouldn't I be?

probablysomethingtm

Lmao we have to fucking destroy this company are you fucking kidding me with this shit

Google is transforming Search from a list of links into an AI-powered experience filled with conversational answers, autonomous agents, and

probablysomethingtm

Remember that xkcd about how Google searches are shit now? What if we made them even worse for no reason?

probablysomethingtm

I will vote for any candidate who promises to go scorched fucking earth on every tech company. Break every single one of them up into companies based around a single product and then split those in thirds. Weaponize existing antitrust laws to the hilt and pass the most draconian versions of them ever seen on this planet. Nationalize google search specifically. Pass consumer privacy protections strict enough to kill the data harvesting industry for good. Make all of these fuckers go bankrupt for this rent-seeking shit

probablysomethingtm

battlecrazed-axe-mage

We've all gotten just a bit too comfortable being jerks to strangers on the internet I think

battlecrazed-axe-mage

So I've hidden this reply, both because it's obnoxious and because I don't want the person who wrote it being harassed for it, but I need you to understand: I don't know you. We are not friends. This is not fun or cute, we are not sharing a charming joke together. You are just being an asshole.

battlecrazed-axe-mage

literally that is what the post is about, I am saying people should be less eager to jump on any chance to be snarky and rude to total strangers on the internet

sidedere

DID THE JOURNAL FACTORY FUCKING EXPLODE???

you said it yourself: you're looking to vent it LITERALLY ANYWHERE

so vent it somewhere private. or at least not literally aimed AT another person, a total stranger at that

Like, this reblogger sounds so insanely self centered in their reblog. notice how both options focus on how being rude would affect THEM. "B has no consequences for me so it's perfectly fine to do"

(the only reason I didn't show their username in the screenshot is because, given how self victimizing they sound in their reblog, I believe that, if I did show their username, suddenly online stuff wouldn't seem so inconsequential to them and they'd accuse me of sending harrassment their way and putting them in danger)

battlecrazed-axe-mage

You said it better than I could. Of all the inane and ridiculous things I've seen in my notes because of this post, "I NEED to say fuck you to strangers or I will literally die" is certainly one of them

loonyphantomtree

Also, this is fucking tumblr. Vent on your own personal blog, make angry blog posts, reblog posts that share the same ideas. It's the same as shouting into a fucking void. Literally nobody needs to be a bitch to strangers on the internet for no reason.

theconcealedweapon

maarvarq

Always bear in mind that there is absolutely no legitimate evidence that Luigi was actually the one who killed the insurance company guy.

theconcealedweapon

Of course he wasn't. He was at a party with me that day.

tiny-space-whale

No but like literally, actually. All bits aside.

He didn't do it.

The cops very clearly planted evidence on him because they had to make an arrest because all eyes were on them and whoever actually did the deed was making them look stupid.

Why would the real killer hero have kept the weapon on his person and traveled two states over while carrying it and a manifesto in his bag, conveniently turning the crime into a federal matter? The same guy whose bag they found in a park, filled with monopoly money? Why did the police turn off their bodycams, take Luigi's stuff, drive a block away, turn their bodycams back on, go back into the restaurant, and then arrest him?

From the moment of his arrest, even left-of-center media has been presuming his guilt without examining anything (e.g. calling him "the killer" instead of "alleged" or "accused") and then when I say he didn't do it, the nearest person chimes in with some quip that tells me they think he did do it but should go free anyway. Don't get me wrong, I would have the same attitude if he had done it. But he didn't. It makes me feel like the only sane person in the world, even among my staunchly leftist friends.

elierlick

Rare photos from trans history: Olympic runner and Zdeněk Koubek styles Cinda Glenn’s hair, 1936. Koubek was one of the first trans men to gain international fame after he transitioned in 1935.

bemusedlybespectacled

this is inspiring weirdly complex emotions in me. like, it’s the fucking 1930s. I can hear the mid-atlantic newsreel voice. the fact that it plays coy with why he knows so much about women’s hairstyles, but like, as a funny surprise, not as shock and horror. the fact that it never deadnames him or uses incorrect pronouns. the fact that he looks like Mickey Rooney. idk it’s just making me feel feelings.

renthony

I was 12 when the first of my siblings was born, so I have very vivid memories of the way my mother was excluded from a lot of spaces because people find children annoying.

If you think "children should not be allowed in this space," you HAVE TO reckon with the fact that you are now excluding parents (and very often women specifically) who don't have access to childcare. You are isolating people who are poor, or rural, or single parents, or any number of other factors that might prevent someone from having on-demand childcare. You are cutting them off from being able to exist in public. You are denying parents and children the ability to fully participate in society.

My mom spent several years only leaving the house to buy groceries or take me to school, and even then, people would still come up to her to complain TO HER FACE about how she shouldn't bring a crying toddler to Walmart. Entitled strangers would literally try and demand that my mom leave and come back without the kids.

"Why can't your husband watch them?" Because he was at work, usually working extreme amounts of overtime so we didn't get evicted, because landlords don't like it when you stop paying rent.

"Why can't you send them to daycare?" Because that costs money.

"Why can't your teenager stay home with them and babysit?" Because I also deserved to be able to leave the house for something other than school, and taking me to the grocery store was how my mom taught me to manage a household budget, shop sales, and meal plan.

"Don't bring your kid in public if you can't CONTROL them and make them stop crying!" Kids cry when they're upset, and being dragged around a store is upsetting! Don't be an asshole! Children are human beings who are still learning how the world works, and they don't have a lot of agency. You'd cry, too.

"Spank them until they learn to stop crying!" That's just straight-up child abuse, Jesus Christ.

What the fuck was our family supposed to do? Never go to the grocery store? Starve because strangers couldn't handle a toddler existing in public?

renthony

I am incredibly fucking disturbed at the way this post has brought people out of the woodwork who really want to tell me all about how hitting kids isn't actually abuse, how they think babies are the spawn of Satan, and how being confined to the home is an acceptable punishment for women who dare to have children. People have told me all about how they think children should be banned from airplanes, that I'm being inconsiderate to childfree people, that allowing crying babies in public is ableist against people with sensory issues (I have those, too, and so do many children, which is often WHY THEY ARE CRYING, jackass), and that people who have children are "irresponsible" and "selfish."

I have blocked multiple people who went on tirades about how I'm a "horrible breeder" who is "contributing to overpopulation" and how I and my "spawn" deserve to be trapped at home. (I am infertile and my foster kid is an adult now, so I don't know what breeding and spawn they think they're talking about.)

One person asked if I was posting ragebait for fun because "this isn't a real issue." Several have asked if this "really happens" and told me that my "experience isn't universal." (There are multiple parents in the comments who have agreed with me and talked about how hard it is to navigate the world with their kids.)

Children are an oppressed class who are treated like absolute vermin. Parents are given absolutely no support in caring for them. Good parents are set at a disadvantage even when they have all the best intentions, struggling parents aren't given resources to improve their situation or get community assistance, and blatantly abusive parents don't get caught because hitting and screaming and controlling are considered perfectly normal ways to treat a child. Communities would rather shut kids away where they can be ignored and forgotten and mistreated, all for the sin of "being annoying in public."

Youth liberation is vital, regardless of whether you, personally, like kids. You cannot ban children from public. You cannot shut children away in isolation and expect them to grow into happy, healthy, well-adjusted adults who can function in our society. You do not get to demand children be removed from every corner of public life all for your personal comfort.

Children are people.

loonyphantomtree

Also, how the fuck do those people think kids are gonna learn how to act in public if people demand the kids not be in public??? You can't learn how to act in public if you're confined to your house.

save-the-child-qamar

I write to you with a heart breaking, like a mother helpless in the face of her family's suffering every moment. My husband, our only support, is now lying in a critical, life-threatening condition, and every second that passes without treatment is a real danger that we may lose him to.

save-the-child-qamar

But the pain does not stop there… My little children are fading before my eyes. Severe malnutrition has exhausted their fragile bodies, and painful skin rashes cover their skin because of hunger, lack of medicine, and the harsh conditions we endure day after day. They no longer even have the strength to cry.

save-the-child-qamar

I am not asking for the impossible; I am only asking for a chance for my family to live. Please, do not leave us alone in this hell. Share our story, donate, or help in any way you can… your support may be the reason my husband and children survive before it is too late.

chuffed – Vetted#53

yahobloopyie

Something about zutara as a ship feels so raw and intimate to me. It's so wholesome.

cloakedlizard

They have some of the most intimate scenes on the show, Katara being one of the first people he confides in and the first he lets touch his scar, and Zuko understanding her anger and pain in a way no one else does and knowing how to be there for her.

And an understated wholesome aspect of the enemies->friends->lovers dynamic is that as enemies, they see the worst of each other- a side no one else gets to fully see- and yet still love and accept each other and they don't have to hide or try to be someone they're not for others' convenience.

Both Zuko and Katara had to suppress half of who they are and reintegrating that half as a part of themselves only served to bring them closer together because they are fundamentally very similar people, both passionate and empathetic, both deeply caring. Katara had to always be compassionate while Zuko was punished for being so, but they both have it. Zuko could only express his anger and Katara wasn't allowed to let hers out with any level of support, but they both have it. And they both enable the other to finally express that repressed side, making them more than what they were before, more whole, more complete. More themselves through the influence of the other.

It's that cozy dynamic of them knowing each other on a deeper level than anyone else in the world. The two halves of a whole, push and pull, fire and water symbolism is just the tip of the iceberg because their arcs and characters as a whole embody it all the way down.

#like once they're friends katara would be the kind of person to invite him to the gaang's girl's night #it would be girls night + Zuko #so characterizing them as dark and toxic is hilarious to me #whether as friends or lovers they're wholesome all the way through

i-am-a-fish

don't be mean to yourself that's you

i-am-a-fish

you live there

deathtokillian

Yeah, but he is ruining my life

galactic-mayhem

saw this on pinterest but i think it belongs here too

vinnie-vindictive

this will never not be important

nightmaresghost

Definitely waiting for a vampire to come in

kaygarde

Dragon tiles

unusual-suspects

great-and-small

Saddest thing ever is reading an academic paper about a threatened or declining species where you can tell the author is really trying to come up with ways the animal could hypothetically be useful to humans in a desperate attempt to get someone to care. Nobody gives a shit about the animals that “don’t affect” us and it seriously breaks my heart

great-and-small

“No I can’t come out tonight I’m sobbing about this entomologist’s heartfelt plea for someone to care about an endangered moth”

bogleech

This is how I learn there's a moth whose tiny caterpillars live exclusively off the old shells of dead tortoises.

thepastisaroadmap

[Image description: text from a section titled On Being Endangered: An Afterthought that says:

Realizing that a species is imperiled has broad connotations, given that it tells us something about the plight of nature itself. It reminds us of the need to implement conservation measures and to protect the region of which the species is a part. But aside form the broader picture, species have intrinsic worth and are deserving of preservation. Surely an oddity such as C. vicinella cannot simply be allowed to vanish.

We should speak up on behalf of this little moth, not only because by so doing we would bolster conservation efforts now underway in Florida, [highlighting begins] but because we would be calling attention to the existence of a species that is so infinitely worth knowing. [end highlighting]

But is quaintness all that can be said on behalf of this moth? Does this insect not have hidden value beyond its overt appeal? Does not its silk and glue add, potentially, to its worth? Could these products not be unique in ways that could ultimately prove applicable?

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