I grew up thinking that if I didn’t look better than the people around me, then other people were gonna talk about me the way my mom talked about them behind their backs. Appearance was always a huge deal to me, even as a child, because of the things my mom used to say. I’m always comparing myself to others, and even catch myself judging others sometimes until I realize that, wait, no. That isn’t okay. They can look however they want and do whatever they want. But it was engraved in my mind that people have to look a certain way to be valid, and that’s just fucked up. So, please, whether you have children or not, do not put others down to compliment someone else. It doesn’t only hurt them, but the person you are “complimenting” too.