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I'm back and brought a little surprise gift for easter, something I've been wanting to make for years: a cute beret, resembling the contents of a cracked egg! 🥚
Things you should know:
Base-game compatible.
Low-poly (around 700), thus very gameplay friendly.
Head accessory, can be found under hats category.
For all frames, teen-elder.
Comes in 4 adorable color variations.
That should be everything, easy and free to download and to go, and lastly put into your mods folder! Hope you have a lovely time (no matter if you celebrate easter or not), and I really hope you enjoy my new, sweet CC piece! 🐰
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“I don’t like this song because I can’t relate to it” skill issue. I’m mad at my husband I love my girlfriend I’m a lone cowboy I’m growing old I’m growing up I’m depressed I love my friends I’m perpetually horny I’m drunk at the club I love my husband again
You know what? Forget the discourse. This is no longer my hill to die on.
You wanna ship canonically aspec characters because “aro/ace people can still date/have sex”? Okay, then. LET’S DO IT.
I wanna see an aromantic character with an alloromantic love interest. I wanna see that confession of undying love and the moment when the aro character says they will never feel the same way—not romantically.
I wanna see the asexual character with their allosexual partner. I wanna see that moment when the ace characters tries sex with their partner for the first time because they want to make them happy only to realize that they are 100% sex repulsed.
I wanna see the two demiromantics who don’t even know if what they feel is romantic attraction, but they adore each other and just want to make healthy snacks together and destroy each other at Mario Kart.
I wanna see the two aces who love sensual affection and are figuring out what they define as sexual or not.
I wanna see the romance + sex neutral aroace who happily and consensually does whatever makes their partner happy…but their partner still struggles with feeling undesired.
Oh, babe. You thought shipping an aspec character would be just like shipping an allo character?
i didn't have "i'm broken" teenage asexual angst i had "i'm literally being the only reasonable one about this concept and the rest of you are behaving like fucking freaks" perception issues
a black girl character growing her hair out long breaks more stereotypes than a black girl character having short hair
a black girl character getting to be soft and fragile breaks more stereotypes than a black girl character being strong all the time
a black girl character being protected and comforted by others breaks more stereotypes than a black girl character having no one to look out for her but herself
a black girl character being considered pretty or cute by other characters breaks more stereotypes than a black girl character being considered unattractive
not everything that is empowering for white girls is empowering for black girls
the sexism we face overlaps, but it is not the same
a black girl character growing her hair out long breaks more stereotypes than a black girl character having short hair
a black girl character getting to be soft and fragile breaks more stereotypes than a black girl character being strong all the time
a black girl character being protected and comforted by others breaks more stereotypes than a black girl character having no one to look out for her but herself
a black girl character being considered pretty or cute by other characters breaks more stereotypes than a black girl character being considered unattractive
not everything that is empowering for white girls is empowering for black girls
the sexism we face overlaps, but it is not the same
many people would be happier and feel less broken if we de-centered romantic relationships but idk if queer people are ready for this discussion. simply because if you are traumatized and soft conversion therapy’d out of expressing romantic desire, the idea that romance is not important is traumatic. and then there’s the pervasive family of origin trauma. if your partner fulfills the ache of unconditional love that you never felt growing up, you understandably will want to prioritize that relationship. plus there’s the pervasive sexual shame.
which means that people who are aro and ace kind of have to navigate a soup of other people’s trauma that we trigger by existing, and definitely trigger by taking up space and CERTAINLY trigger by offering observations like this one.
Ways That Fear Can Show Up (Without Saying “Fear”)
When it creeps:
• Foreboding — the air feels wrong before anything actually happens.
• Ominousness — silence that feels almost... purposeful.
• Misgiving — your instincts tugging at your sleeve, whispering, "Don't."
When it hits fast:
• Shock — your brain blanks
• Startled— your heart slams, you inhale
• Panic — thoughts fracture; your instincts beg for escape
When it lingers:
• Tension — jaw locked, shoulders up near your ears.
• Anxiety — background noise that lingers in every thought
• Dread — knowing something bad is coming and having to wait for it.
When it turns physical:
• Shivers — cold crawling up the spine.
• Sweat, dilated pupils, skin gone pale — your own body betrays you.
• Weakness — knees like jelly, grip unreliable.
When it overwhelms:
• Terror — too big to think around.
• Horror — something has gone wrong.
• Paralysis — body refusing orders.
When it distorts reality:
• Paranoia — patterns where there are none.
• Suspicion — every sound feels intentional.
• Unease — the sense of being watched without proof.
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It’s important to ask what your why is—the main thing that gives you a strong sense of purpose and well-being. Once you crystallize this into a personal mission statement, you can find greater fulfillment, develop more confidence, and make more of a positive impact on people’s lives.
What Is Your "Why"?
Your why is your purpose in life, the driving force that keeps you going when times get hard and keeps you diligent when things are going well.
Everyone has a different why, although there are several common threads.
Love, success, legacy, security—these are just some of the main things people might articulate as their why.
Your why might be obtaining financial independence or finding a job that enables you to travel the world. It could be seeking meaningful relationships or pursuing your personal ambitions. Perhaps it’s looking at life with a sense of humor or with a focus on helping those in need. No matter what it is, it can serve as your North Star—a central guiding principle to help you make both everyday and extremely consequential decisions.
Tips for Identifying Your Why
It might seem like a lofty goal to identify your why, but it might be easier than you think. Here are seven steps to take action and find a greater degree of personal and professional purpose:
Ask a lot of questions. Take a Socratic approach to your own life as it stands right now. Start with why you’re even hoping to identify your why in the first place. Ask what your core values are and identify the things that leave you wanting more about your life and the things that fulfill you. Even if you ask a million questions before you firmly identify a crystal clear why, the effort will have been a good use of your time in the long run.
Be kind to yourself. As you ask yourself questions about what your own personal value set is, answers will start to come into view. This leads to a greater degree of self-awareness that can sometimes lead to judgment. No matter what, try to be patient and understanding with yourself as you try to figure out a mission or why statement that works for you. The kinder you are to yourself, the more honest you can be—and the more honest you can be, the sooner you’ll find your why.
Connect with your career. You’ll need to find a way to calibrate your why with the need to earn an income. For some, this is simple—financial security might be their most fundamental why, meaning they’ll find it easy to take any job that promises them security. For others, their why might be something more idealistic, signaling meaningful work might be more important than a high-paying salary. In any case, given everybody spends so much of their time involved in their career, you might want your workday to serve your why, whatever it is.
Help others. Your why is a means to improving not only your own life, but also the lives of others. Ask yourself how your personal mission statement can help you be a better leader for your team, a more caring provider for your family, and a more engaged citizen in your community. Your why should be able to touch every corner of your life and, by extension, every person in it, too.
Recalibrate regularly. You might not know how to live out your why right from the start—for that matter, it’s easy to get distracted from your sense of purpose even if you’ve had a lot of practice. To live your best life, create daily habits to remind you of your why. Add an upbeat playlist or self-help podcast to your morning routine. Check in with yourself throughout the day about how much you feel calibrated with your stated why or central purpose.
Revise your why when necessary. Identifying your why comes with a disclaimer: Real life throws a lot of curveballs, meaning your why might change a lot over the years. Even if your why in the short term is not your why in the long term, it’s useful to keep track of all your whys throughout your life. You might notice you’re trending in a specific direction with these core values, making it easier to define a more holistic and long-lasting why as a result.
Seek out new perspectives. Self-help means seeking out new perspectives and people to inspire you and further cement your why. Look for great leaders and mentors with a firm sense of self to help you develop your own. Read books and seek out content that serves you and boosts your productivity, positivity, and purpose.
Why Identify Your "Why"?
Crystallizing your why into an affirmative life purpose statement helps you solidify what matters most to you.
When you identify your why, you can wake up every morning like it’s New Year’s Day—full of resolution to make positive changes and focus on self-improvement.
Identifying your why will make you happier and help you impact people in a positive way.
The more you know why you do the things you do and the more purpose you feel in every step, the more likely it is you can improve the world as a whole, too.
