My personal metric for fandom has always been this: If more than half of my time in a given space is complaining about the bullshit I'm subjecting myself to in said space, I'm out of there. I don't care if it's legitimate reasons for being angry about shit I see or if it's dumbass reasons, once the scales tip in favor of "I need to tell the internet how wrong they are" instead of "I'm finding my own fun to have", it is just not worth it anymore. It just isn't. That's the point I hit the bricks, I'm out and you will not see me again, because no made up fictional story or fannish experience is worth piling that much crap onto myself and I really think a some people in fandom could really stand to think about whether this whole shebang is worth it for them anymore.
