jaded & joyless

~ Lana, 27 | A joke where a person was supposed to be ~

[memewhore]

[turnabout]

these two communicate on a level we cannot understand with current language.

[perception-filter]

staring at the dessert menu and twirling my hair and going "should I be baaaaddd" until the autistic girl I'm eating with says "there is nothing bad about eating dessert. it is a morally neutral action"

[showmedumkitties]

[lenalenouilleisblogging]

I walk down the street. Someone has painted slurs on the window of the town's library because of the Harry Potter books behind the glass. I play a trivia board game. On the literature card, a little joke reads "we almost put a HP related question here, but decided against it". I open youtube to watch a Sims 4 building video. The youtuber opens her vid with a disclaimer that "just because she's building a magic school to go in the magic world DLC doesn't mean she supports 'that woman'". I open Instagram to message someone. The first post I see is a tattoo salon advertising their latest HP tattoo cover-up (it's now a tits-out furry pin-up girl (with a penis)). I turn on the radio. A french feminist author is under fire because she refused to explicitly criticize JKR in an interview.

Then I open tumblr and Good 0mens is trending for the 6th week in a row. Also they gave a movie award to pedocriminal#36281836. I think it's all going great so far

[popclture]

Faye Wong photographed by Cheung Man Wah (1998)

[miamaimania]

Faye Wong in Sing and Play (1998) — Digital collage portraits exploring themes of ecofuturism and cosmic wonder.

[raviolithechicken]

i hate that TERFs have claimed the term “gender-critical”. Like yeah, I too am critical of the concept of gender. I am critical of the very idea that gender exists. I think it was a bad idea! But now, it just means “I am a transphobe”. And it annoys me :/

BTW transphobe in the comments look out guys

[hexagon-club]

OP the only difference between you and a transphobe is that a transphobe is willing to stick to their guns and continue to insist that gender doesn't really exist even in situations where they are expected to pretend that it does. All of us started out trying to be nice and trying to find common ground with trans people, and all of us got called transphobes for it anyway. At a certain point, we all had to admit that we couldn't hold onto our critiques of gender roles and support transgenderism at the same time.

[mich3454fest-deactivated2020110]

Not to be a freak but why isn’t anyone into being.. gentle and not evil in bed

[rosedustd]

Also why is it that sex that isn’t wildly misogynistic or otherwise sadistic and borderline/actually abusive is immediately referred to as “boring”??? What does that say about you as a person?? What does that say about our society?? Also tmi but to be honest if things get too rough my body literally goes numb anyway. The lack of nuance in sensations is boring to me like the what fuck has porn done to people???? The definition of modern “exciting” sex is just beating someone and at least hinting at some sick parody of rape. Just because you have a boner doesn’t mean it’s any less fucked up.

[maslows-pyramid-scheme]

In the 1980s, when many women were graduating with professional degrees, anger against women crackled the airwaves [popular culture recast tender, intimate sex as boring]. We saw a stupendous upsurge in violent sexual imagery in which the abused was female … In a world where both sexes’ guilt and angry fear surrounded the sense that women were getting out of control, the public quickly lost interest in ordinary unharmed nakedness. Presented as more compulsively engaging to the attention of men and, eventually, women, was imagery that played out anxieties from the sex war, reproducing the power inequality that recent social changes had questioned: male dominance, female submission. Female nakedness became inhuman, ‘perfected’ beyond familiarity, freakishly like a sculpture in plastic, and often degraded or violated.

Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth

[luckylittlelana]

My first and only time visiting planet earth and I'm not enjoying it at all, and I don't know how to fix that which stresses me out.

[icehaus]

it’s 2026 i think it’s high time we left mind-body dualism behind us as a species. let’s go into 2027 with the full understanding that we are our bodies and that our consciousness cannot be separated from them thank you

[radfemme-rage]

many radical feminists online genuinely seem to believe that sexual abuse committed by a woman is less severe and fucked than sexual abuse committed by a male, and it shows.

women are capable of being monsters, and you’re invalidating every girl who has been abused by her mother or every woman who’s been sexually assaulted by another woman when your analysis of rape only pertains to men, and you’re willing to give women a pass.

being against sexual violence of women and girls means that you’re against it no matter who the perpetrator is. there is no justification for rape.

[luckylittlelana]

I think this goes for non sexual violence and abuse too. As someone whose main abuser was her mother, I used to get so hurt by women I otherwise liked in this community stanning abusive women because they think it's transgressive or whatever. Like no, actually those things are wrong categorically and you should consider the the implications you're giving when you dismiss or even celebrate the same actions that happened to me. Have some ideological consistency.

[matchagirl]

[aloneandforsakenbyfateandbyman]

Female Vampire (1973)

[fedupradfem]

men: im a misogynist with a porn addiction and i'd like to hit, strangle, degrade and objectify women and get off on it

feminists: go to prison and burn in hell

men: my ✨kink✨ is misogyny, porn addiction, hitting, strangling, degrading and objectifying women uwu

feminists: and that is completely okay. no shaming here. you are brave. <3 we love how empowering and freeing that is for women. <3 we should not question or criticize this at all. go off king. <3

[perfectday1972]

on the set of robert altman’s 3 women via criterioncollection

[spltlvlhous]

[brazenbipolar-blog]

Why Are Libfems… like she almost got the point, but because of sex posi bullshit she spun it the wrong way. It’s SAD that so many women in kink/BDSM are trying to use it as a bandaid coping mechanism for trauma. It’s sad that the men involved in that scene prey upon women they know are vulnerable. It’s not badass by any means. Hypersexuality as a response to trauma shouldn’t be romanticized.

[gonegrrrrrl-deactivated20200821]

???? TrAuma

Is badaSS?????!!!! I puked

[itisthefunpolice]

Here is a video on re-victimization from the sex positivity guru herself. She actually does a good job talking about the topic dispite not recognizing how BDSM is abuse and encourages re-victimization:

[thecoloredcanvas]

Imagine if we treated any other form of trauma like this.

Are you traumatized by being beaten by your alcoholic father when you were a child? Have you tried asking your partner or a friend to get drunk and beat you, so that you can finally be in control of your life and fully recover?

Are you traumatized by spending time in a war zone? Have you tried asking your friends to explode a bunch of shit around you and pretend to be dead so that you can experience the healing powers of consent?

Experienced enslavement and suffering trauma as a consequence? Why not become someone’s human pet and let them lead you around on a leash and make you eat out of a dog bowl and do all their house chores? Don’t you know how liberated and free it will make you feel, to be willingly objectified and subjugated?

Like?

People just say this shit. There are no studies to back it, no logic to support it.

Yet here we are.

[friendlymathematician]

every time i scroll past this i read the first line of the tweet and go yeah, we should look into the connection between males who are into fucked up things and rapists. and then i read the rest of it.