purity culture KILLS fandom thats why we have to make sure all victims of sexual assault of any kind know how little people care about them. for #fandom
its rude and against #fandom culture to ever try to stop and think about your actions/your communitys actions. this is why we created a million terms about how you just need to stop looking at it and do nothing
like im the nuancer. i understand that in some cases it really is better to just block and move on. im not against that i dont think you need to start biting everyone who writes a fic you dont like
but i DO think going oh its just a ship. oh its just a kink. etc. and functionally telling people to fuck off about it does a lot to downplay 1. the way societal structures influence the romanticization of topics like abuse, and how that reflects on the people that feed into that, and 2. how unsafe it makes spaces at times, because everyone sees YOU as the aggressive/whiny/anti-sex/etc asshole ruining everybodys fun by asking literally any of them to..... be slightly self aware
like i myself am a victim of stalking. even in its most mild form it was still incredibly traumatizing. do you realize how hard it is sometimes to exist in a space knowing that the people around me's greatest fantasy was the thing that almost ended my life several times over. that if i bring this up im the anti sex puritan who hates everybody. like im not even saying they Cant im very against the idea of actually censoring people doing that even if im still not okay with it im literally just saying Consider Why Youre Doing That And Also Why You Need To Create A Culture Of Ignoring It
