don't insult the witch

giving fucks about oxford commas since 1997

[poppies]

bunny tea party

[illmadekn1ght]

every day it gets harder to have a relaxed jaw and decent posture

[brechtian]

ursula k le guin said sci fi/fantasy does not have to be about giant wars or battles of good and evil or galactic disaster; it is best served as a lens through which to examine what is actually intrinsic to the human condition and what, once removed a few layers from our own perceptions & assumptions, begins to fall apart. and she was correct.

[caspercryptid]

I would actually go as far as to say that MOST abuse is unintentional. I think most people will go through their lives without ever experiencing intentional abuse. People are abusive because they're selfish, because they're stressed, because they care more about what society thinks they should do than the impacts of their actions on their children and partners, because they think what they're doing is correct, because they've made it make sense in their own heads, because they think they can fix their victims, they think they can fix their relationships, they think they can stop you from leaving, they think they can make you a better partner to them, they think that means you need to do what they want. We've sort of constructed mental illness in a way that doing this shit to other people counts as a form of mental illness because it is anti social behavior in the literal sense— it is behavior that causes social harm.

I don't say any of this to excuse it. I think everyone needs to be more aware of this because if you think abuse has to be intentional you will never realize you are capable of abusive behavior. You will never realize you are being shitty to the people you love, because YOU know what you mean, YOU know you don't mean any harm. But you're doing harm. You need to pay attention to the impact you have on other people, and you need to do it all the time, Especially when you feel least capable of doing so. Sorry! You live in a society. Get your head out of your ass.

[wolfsteax]

I humbly offer this contribution.

[kosmogrl]

[ndnbutch]

anyway. last night I had a dream that my local lesbian bar was hosting a “motionless dance party”. it was sort of like the inverse of a silent disco—the music is playing out loud but you’re doing all the dancing inside your own head. it was really successful like a lot of lesbians showed up to stand perfectly still in a room together and imagine what dancing would be like.

[enki2]

[androdragynous]

[ID: A tweet by TylerAlterman:

"In the middle of a "forcing party" where friends and I are forcing one another to do the things that we've been avoiding.

So far: [bullet list] A passport has been filed for; An inbox has been zero'd; A personal website has been created; & more.

I recommend this format!"]

[anathemaegg]

call that attending an Executive Function

[wrenhavenriver]

the cat was sleeping cutely so i took a picture and went to show it to my mom and she burst out laughing and pulled out her phone and showed me a near identical one she'd taken a few minutes before

[wrenhavenriver]

self-proclaimed free thinkers when the cat is doing a snooze:

[magical-soup]

There is no such thing as “the evil kill-people disorder that makes you kill people”; it has always been a myth made up by demonization to sell more ableism.

[pyrose-the-flame]

"the evil abuse-people disorder that makes you abuse people" is also a myth, no matter what people on TikTok try to tell you

[depsidase]

[adayinthelesbianlife-deactivate]

[pisceanpharies]

Download the pdf.

[leonardcohenofficial]

pdf link here

[clytemnestraaa]

also side bar, i think its so so weird when ppl act like an author writing a character either a) doing questionable things or b) having bad things happen to them means the author doesn't like the character. that's such a bizarre concept. do you think that's how authors write original fiction... we just invent guys we hate and then we hit them with hammers... and we make up some guys we love and write about them getting smoochies.... is that what you think is happening in a novel?????

[batsandboba]

when i say “girl” randomly as an interjection i’m speaking to the omnipresent all knowing being of Girl. asking her for mercy. taking girl’s name in vain

[femme-4-butches]

Meg Allen's BUTCH series.

[bayesic-bitch]

it seems like in bdsm the "rewards" and the "punishments" look very similar. this concerns me a great deal, because it points to a system of misaligned incentives. if we're not careful, it's even possible that a rational actor could deliberately violate regulations, because the penalties for rule violations are in fact incentivized. one shudders to think of the consequences of such an arrangement

[random-brushstrokes]

Olof Thunman - Sunset on the coast (1926)

[wanderlandjournal]

sunsets in the Swedish countryside