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I love femme fatale. I want to look like I can kick your ass without lifting a finger. I want to be powerful in a nonmasculine way. I want to be untouchable. My femininity is inherently hostile to men who seek to prey upon me. My edges keep away those who would seek to hurt me or my lover. I will protect her.

I hate femme fatale. I don't want to be a "temptation". I hate how women's sexuality is demonized. I don't want to hurt anyone. You cannot remove the fatale from the male gaze. She exists only as a mixture between a fetish and a warning. She is vapid and manipulative and male-obsessed.

May I be a femme fatale but only in an explicitly queer way?

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ouch right in the relatables.

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black queer lady artists

Be Steadwell - Self described “Queer pop” musician. Her style mixes soul with acapella and folk, and her lyrics are usually explicitly gay. Her latest album “Queer love songs” should be on all our pride playlists.

Domo Wilson - 23 year old lesbian rapper/independent artist and youtuber. She released her debut album “hear me now” this year and it’s very emotional and heartfelt. I’d also reccomend checking out her videos!

IAMDDB - I swear this woman is some kind of gay even if I don’t know what. She says everything she does is “for her ladies” Her music has been described as “Trap-Jazz” and her song “Shade” is a current favorite.

Janelle Monae - Bi/Pan concept album mastermind. Her music is very hard to describe, but maybe alt-pop heavily influenced by hiphop? Also she can rap! Just listen to “Django Jane.” She released an album this year titled “Dirty Computer” and a gay accompanying short film of the same name.

Kehlani - Queer contemporary r&b/neo soul artist. Listen to “Honey.” She also did an amazing song with Hayley Kiyoko, as well as some very gay lyrics on other peoples tracks. Her verses in “Playinwitme”, “Body Count” and “Icy GRL” are some examples.

Kelela - Queer Ethiopian-American Alternative r&b/Electronic musician. She’s very inspiring, has a lot of interesting takes on the music industry, and makes awesome music.

Kodie Shane - One of my all time favorite artists, Kodie Shane is like a queer hiphop goddess delivering more and more gay energy upon us every year since she started. Listen to everything she’s ever made. Start with “Sing to her”, it’s her latest single.

Syd/The Internet - Syd is a lesbian r&b artist who also fronts the r&b group The Internet. She regularly uses feminine language in her songs and her mvs are the greatest things ever. Also, look at that cute lil smile!

Tiara Thomas - Tiara is a pop/hiphop/r&b artist. She’ll never label her sexuality because she doesn’t want it to become bigger than her music. Some gay songs are “Retro 1’s” and “I’m still at the bar.”

Tiffany Gouche - Lesbian r&b/soul singer. Her EP “Pillowtalk” is good as hell and she recently released three new singles “Queen Tings”, “Dive” and “Down.”

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„Every portrait that is painted with feeling is a portrait of the artist, not of the sitter.”

– Oscar Wilde (The picture of Dorian Gray)

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a master-list of dark academia posts

Dark Academia Moodboards

sometimes we all need to stay up all night, listening to classical music, discussing art and poetry, drinking red wine, while looking at the moon

took Dorian Grey to work with me today

Study Motivations

The Picture of Dorian Grey

The Secret History characters

General Dark Academia

Dark Academia in various medias masterpost

Favourite love letters

Seeking employment

Perfume associations

Thoughts on writing

do you ever

The Dead Poets Society

Pacific Rim

Donna Tartt

Unintentional talent

i have the urge

adventure-core

reblog if

Guide To Dark Academia

three steps how to become mysterious and weird

become who you’ve dreamed of being

Why people are fond of Dark Academia

Dark Academia Lifestyle

How To Get Your Life Back Together

Dark Academia ask game

On limiting yourself to a single aesthetic

Cute date ideas

Getting into dark academia

Finding Yourself

Dark Notes

Little things to do

How to explore castles

Little ways

Improve yourself through DA

The Problem With DA

Aesthetic Text Posts

i want it to be fall again

Agatha Christie quotes

Work-class academic

i wanna be an anthropologist

Raw Florence & The Machine Quotes

i love wax seals

do we ever get the urge to

If We Were Villains

Date a boy who…

strange discoveries

future me

i deeply desire

the witch trials aren’t a gimmick

i’m sick of not having

keen on rural gothic

An excerpt

i want to write…

I’ve decided to practice witchcraft

hell hath no fury

dreaming about dark academia

regarding Frankenstein

i wish there was a checklist

excerpt

Philip Lombard

menswear

book club

ghostcore

poetry

something to think about

in the mood to be

does anyone feel like

Types Of…

types of academics

The Secret History characters

catholic art

Seasons Girls

decades

types of people as planets

as seasons

Music

Literary playlists

Dark Academia songs

Aesthetics/People as Queen albums

literature playlists

Great DA Blogs

@polymathwrath

@x-carpe-o-noctem-x

@sanguineoath

@thoughtcriminals

@thehistory

@sunkengardens-drowningbooks

notheterohetaireia

The FBS with Greek goddesses

◇ Aphrodite: the lipstick lesbian par excellence. Long silky hair, wears pearls, smells like designer perfume

◇ Hera: she’s a queen and she knows it. Power femme.

◇ Demeter: femme but doesn’t hesitate to get her hands dirty. Ripped from field work.

◇ Persephone: true futch. Half the year it’s flowers and sun dresses the other it’s studs and combat boots. Probably has an undercut.

◇ Artemis: as the OG moon lesbian she has a femme vibe, but overall she’s pretty butch. Wears clothes from the men’s section. Definitely has a men’s haircut.

◇ Athena: power butch. Wears dad’s armour to battle. Rocks fatigues and smart tuxes.

◇ Gaia: literally made out of stone. Can’t get butch-er than that

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Greek goddesses BUT MAKE THEM GAY

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Yall fuckers saying femmes are straight passing when we literally walk around lookin like this

whatsupbeanie

Do you remember anything fun that you’ve made as a kid? I was really proud of this “camera” I made out of a tea box. I filled it with hand-drawn “photographs” and was very disappointed when people and objects wouldn’t reenact them accurately enough at my request.

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This is the cutest damn thing I have ever seen

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green correspondences

i’ve made a list of all kinds of correspondences you can find in nature and in the supermarket, based on the book The Green Witch ☆

♡ WOODS

APPLE — life, longevity, fertility, fairies, the otherworld, afterlife, creativity, love, healing, harmony

ASH — water, strength, intellect, willpower, protection, justice, balance, harmony, skill, travel, weather, wisdom

BIRCH — cleansing, protection, purification, associated with children

CEDAR — healing, spirituality, purification, protection, prosperity, harmony

ELDER — protection, prosperity, healing

HAWTHORNE — fertility, harmony, happiness, the otherworld, fairies, protection

HAZEL — luck, fertility, protection, wishes

HONEYSUCKLE — psychic awareness, harmony, healing, prosperity, happiness

MAPLE — love, prosperity, life and health, abundance

OAK — defense, thunder, strength, courage, healing, longevity, protection, good fortune, fertility

PINE — cleansing, purification, healing, clarity of mind, prosperity, protection from evil

POPLAR — prosperity, communication, exorcism, purification

ROWAN — improving psychic powers, divination, healing, protection from evil, peace, creativity, success, change, transformation

WILLOW — moon, water, love, tranquility, harmony, protection, healing

WITCH HAZEL — protection, healing, peace

YEW — death, spirits, the otherworld

♡ FLOWERS

CARNATION — protection, strength, energy, luck, healing

DAFFODIL — love, fertility, luck

DAISY — love, hope, innocence, associated with children

GARDENIA — love, harmony, healing, peace

GERANIUM — protection, fertility, love, healing, courage

HYACINTH — love, happiness, protection

IRIS — purification, blessing, wisdom, peace, harmony, love

JASMINE — moon, feminine energy, love, meditation, spirituality, harmony, prosperity

LAVENDER — relaxation, sleep, peace, harmony, tranquility, love, purification, healing

LILAC — protection, banishing negative energy

LILY — protection, death and afterlife, rebirth, cycles

LILY OF THE VALLEY — concentration, mental ability, happiness

PANSY — divination, communication, happiness, love

POPPY — tranquility, fertility, prosperity, love, sleep, invisibility

ROSE — healing, divination, tranquility, harmony, love, psychic ability, spirituality, protection

SNAPDRAGON — protection, illusion, deception, reflect negative energy

SUNFLOWER — sun, happiness, success, health, abundance

TULIP — prosperity, abundance, protection, love, happiness

VIOLET — peace, hope, harmony, protection, luck, love, sleep, tranquility, fertility, abundance

♡ HERBS

ALLSPICE — prosperity, increasing energy, love, healing, luck

ANGELICA —protection, purification

BASIL — prosperity, success, peace, protection, happiness, purification, tranquility, love

BAY — success, wisdom, divination, making a wish

CHAMOMILE — prosperity, peace, healing, harmony, happiness

CALENDULA — happiness, prosperity, love, psychic powers, harmony

CINNAMON — energy (booster), money, success, action, healing, protection, love, prosperity, purification

CARAWAY — anti-theft, health, mental abilities, protection, fidelity

CLOVE — protection, purification, mental abilities, healing

COMFREY — health, healing, protection, travel, prosperity

DILL — good fortune, tranquility, prosperity, lust, protection

GINGER — energy (booster), kick-starter for love, finances, success

MAJORAM — happiness, protection, love, joy, family

MINT — prosperity, joy, fertility, purification, love, success

MUGWORT — prophetic dreams, divination, relaxation, tranquility, protection, banishing, consecration

NUTMEG —psychic abilities, happiness, love, money, health

OREGANO — love, courage, action

PARSLEY — power, strength, lust, purification, prosperity

ROSEMARY —protection, improving memory, wisdom, health, healing

SAGE —purification, protection, anxiety, wisdom, health, long life

VERBENA —divination, protection, inspiration, abundance, love, peace, tranquility, healing, prosperity, artistic skill, reversal of negativity

YARROW — courage, healing, love

♡ FRUITS

APPLE — health, longevity, love

CHERRY — love

PEAR — health, properity, love

ORANGE — joy, health, purification

LEMON — purification, protection, health

LIME — happiness, purification, healing

GRAPE — properity, fertility

KIWI — fertility, love

BANANA — fertility, strength

MANGO — spirituality, happiness

PEACH — spirituality, fertility, love, harmony

PINEAPPLE — prosperity, luck, protection

PLUM — love, tranquility

MELONS — love, peace

STRAWBERRY — love, peace, happiness, luck

RASPBERRY — strength, courage, healing

BLUEBERRY — tranquility, peace, protection, prosperity

BLACKBERRY — prosperity, protection, abundance

CRANBERRY — protection, healing

♡ VEGGIES

GARLIC — healing, protection, banishing, purification

ONION — protection, exorcism, healing, prosperity

LETTUCE — fertility, peace, harmony, love, protection

CARROTS — fertility, health

PEAS — love, abundance

CUCUMBER — fertility, healing, harmony

POTATOES — fertility, protection, abundance

CELERY — love, tranquility, concentration

SQUASH — abundance, harmony

MUSHROOM — strength, courage, healing, protection

LEEK — protection, harmony

CAULIFLOWER — protection, prosperity

BROCCOLI — protection, abundance

BEANS — love, family, protection

CABBAGE — protection, prosperity

TOMATO — protection, love

genderqueerpositivity

Let's celebrate everything the kink and BDSM communities have done for LGBTQ+ liberation.

Queerness can be about lust, love, or both, but by that same token, kink, leather, and BDSM aren’t exclusively about sex; to a large extent, they’re about community building. While mainstream depictions of BDSM might lead one to imagine it’s nothing but a way for straight couples to reignite sexual passions with spanking and some handcuffs, queer kink lifestyles and the leather community often go beyond sexual intimacy; they are built upon traditions of service, informed risk-aware consent, and chosen family. At the advent of the AIDS crisis, leathermen and leatherdykes were some of the first to take up the responsibility of caring for ailing LGBTQ+ people, throwing parties and BDSM events to raise funds for medical bills, acting as their nurses, and often being among the only people willing to provide human touch and affection to those the world at large treated as lepers. In recent years, the leather community has been recognized by the city of San Francisco for their place at the forefront of AIDS support and safe sex advocacy as well as their unique cultural history.

The “Mother of Pride” herself, Brenda Howard, was a proud member of the LGBTQ+ kink scene, and notably wore a button reading “Bi, Poly, Switch — I’m not greedy. I know what I want.” In the 70s and 80s, lesbian S/M groups like Lesbian Sex Mafia and Samois (whose founders include leather scholars and writers like Gayle Rubin and Patrick Califia) were among the earliest proponents of inclusive and sex-positive feminism. These groups gave queer women a sense of community and sexual empowerment they had been denied from the world at large. To exclude queer leather culture from Pride, therefore, would be to ignore the contributions of communities that were integral in uplifting some of the most marginalized subsets of the LGBTQ+ community.

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Anyway, leathermen, leatherdykes, and kinky queers belong at Pride. Always have and always will.

For many years I have heard comments from some in the LGBTQ community about those in the leather/kink community. Many

For many years I have heard comments from some in the LGBTQ community about those in the leather/kink community. Many accuse those in the leather/kink community of falling directly into the stereotypical boxes that many cishet people like to try to put queers into. Basically, they think the kinksters are all nasty, perverted, sexually promiscuous, morally bankrupt sluts. To these people, the leather kinksters validate everything the heteros think about queers, and they do so by acting like sexual deviants with no decency or control over their sexual desires.

Usually, the ones making these comments are usually the more “respectable gays”; the gays who try to follow societal norms as closely as possible in order to pass in a culture that greatly values heteronormativity. They graduate from university. They find great jobs. They get married. They buy houses.

They wear Santa hats and take photos with their husband/wife and dog, and print them on the front of holiday postcards that they mail out to everyone in their address book. They have/adopt children. They then bring those children to gay pride marches all over the world, and brand those in the leather/kink community sluts for walking around in jockstraps and harnesses in front of their family.

Obviously there are other types of queers who fall somewhere along this spectrum. Wearing a Santa hat and taking a family photo does not automatically brand someone a “queer sell-out”. Queers are allowed to do such things and still be very much so queer. However, these two extremes represent the opposing sides of many arguments I’ve witnessed in the past few years, especially when they concern whether or not leather people should be allowed at pride events.

How awkward and problematic is it for people to try and police an event such as pride that was started as a rebellion in the first place? And what is it with these queers that are so heavily driven by their need to be accepted that they seem to have forgotten what it truly means to embrace their queer identity?

Many attribute this distaste for leather culture in the queer community to “progress” – marriage equality and civil acceptance seemed to have taken its toll on the hyper-sexualized queer expression of the leather and kink communities.

“Many factors, like gentrification and the fight for marriage equality, have contributed to the rise in homonormality,” said Jeremiah Moss, a writer who journals the evolution of New York City in his blog Jeremiah’s Vanishing New York. “This is a very American melting pot phenomenon: If you assimilate, if you give up what makes you different, you can have rights.”

It seems like those groups of people in our society who are most discriminated against always face this reality at some point: In order to progress, you must sell your soul in some way. In order to move closer toward actual acceptance, you must give up another aspect of your identity. In order to win, you must lose something. In the end, being accepted ends up having absolutely nothing to do with acceptance at all. It’s simply just allowing yourself to be converted.

It’s quite normal for humans to want to make things easier for themselves. Struggling gives us an edge, and makes us resilient and strong in the face of adversity, but no one wants to struggle forever do they? At some point, don’t we want to gain access to all the things that others have? Sure we do, but at what cost?

Recently, while walking around London with my partner, we talked about some of the old queer spaces in cities like New York and London that have since been converted into luxury flats and apartment buildings. And the ones that haven’t been closed and bought out are heavily straight-washed.

How many of us have seen groups of cishet women coming into a gay establishment for a bachelorette party and rolled our eyes so far back into our heads at the thought of having our space completely taken over that we’ve almost passed out? Everyone wants to vogue. Everyone wants to watch Drag Race while snapping their fingers and saying “Werk, queen!” Queer culture is either being completely eradicated or heavily gentrified and commercialized, and all in the name of progress. “Progress is good, but the other part of me wishes it was all still underground”, my partner said.

Is this to say that I feel progress is a bad thing? Not at all. I believe that there is a balance between making progress and sacrificing important aspects of your identity. Leather/kink culture, though not without its faults, is at the core of queer culture. Being a slut in public is at the very core of what being queer stands for – daring to expose the truths and desires that others keep concealed, and refusing to live in shame and silence for the sake of being “normal”. To deny those in the leather/kink community that right is participating in the policing and ultimate destruction of queer culture.

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Haven’t y'all heard?? Polyromantics are simply perfect! 14/10, would shower with all my affection, love, and acceptance!!!

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You are not annoying or difficult if you demand people use your correct name and pronouns. You are not annoying or difficult if you change your name and pronouns multiple times. You are not annoying or difficult if you use neopronouns. Your name and pronouns are important and you have the right to have them respected.