the concept and idea ofĀ āyou can always start trying to be a better personā is extremely important to me both in media and irl and i continue to be deeply deeply disturbed by the trend on this site pushing that these ideas in media are bad writing or even morally reprehensible
because theyd rather someone stay terrible or just straight up die than become a better personĀ
from a compassionate point of view itās deeply distressing and from a pragmatic point of view itās outright frustrating
itās fucked up.Ā
What is the most important step a man can take?
The next.
I think part of the pushback about this is the idea that, to āredeemā bad people, their victims must first forgive them for unforgivable acts.
This is false. No one is obligated to forgive you. You can learn from your mistakes and become the best, kindest person on earth, and the people youāve hurt still wonāt forgive you, and youāll have to accept that. And that doesnāt mean you arenāt allowed to grow. Because we arenāt just āpureā or āsinfulā, weāre complex.















