hmm, gross.

don't touch my food. 27 | cis | she/her | bi | ace

[laclefdescoeurs]

View from the coast towards the sea with foam-capped waves, Skagen, 1902, Michael Ancher

[expressions-of-nature]

Loch Shin, Scotland by Roman Popelar

[thatsbelievable]

[dragosballz]

movie called technically blonde where she goes to trade school instead

[odditycollector]

Good news everyone I have accidentally discovered the stupidest fucking conceivable way to make myself to do chores

It goes like this…..

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My car: *low gas light on*

Me: I mean, I COULD stop at the gas station on the way home… OR! I could just NOT do that and deal with it tomorrow

Me: but what if I get stuck in a time loop starting tomorrow and every day I wake up and my car is on empty that would be so annoying

Me: uggghhh FINE I will stop at the gas station.

****LATER THIS EVENING:****

My sink: *has all my bowls and tea mugs in it*

Me: okay I don't actually care about this problem for tonight I am not planning on eating soup or tea

Me: …yeah but if i do end up being stuck in a time loop starting tomorrow it is going to SUCK to have only dirty tea cups in the morning forever

Me: uuuuughhhh okay clean sink it is

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I hate this. My brain must have an extremely low opinion of me to even try it, and it worked.

But hey, I don't have to try to remember to leave 5 min early tomorrow for a gas run?

[whatbigotspost]

Yessss!! This isn’t just a cute one off brain hack OP found, it’s a form of practicing self-compassion and being your own best friend and that shit WORKS.

If you can establish your future self as someone who you love so much you need to try to plan nice things for and CARE FOR like you would your bestie or partner…it’s a wonderful way to not only find motivation to get shit done when you have the mental wherewithal and physical energy, but it also correlates with alllllll kinds of long term benefits

The best part about practicing it is that if you fuck up at it, you just forgive yourself and try again tomorrow, because that’s the whole point. It’s the antithesis of striving for perfection or feeling shame about fucking up.

I know I tack comments about self compassion on pretty much every other post I reblog related to self care tips, but I learned about it when I was 31-32 and having seen the difference that 8 years of gently trying out PRACTICAL* ways to “love myself” makes, well, I can’t recommend it enough.

It won’t resonate with everyone but for those of us it does, damn it is great.

*I scream “practical” here because a lot because like a lot of neurodivergent folks, when neurotypical people have said “love yourself” to me that means literally nothing…I need somebody to offer me steps and techniques and real world application as to what that actually looks like. 

[totallybemused]

When I was miserable and extremely mentally ill my whole attitude to both my past and future selves was, “fuck that bitch she’s not better than me.” I cannot express how much better my life got when I started practicing the most pathetic, Fisher-Price-ass, training wheels self-compassion.

Still not what you’d call good at it, but no longer miserable most of the time.

[whatbigotspost]

Yes yes yessss ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Sometimes I like to add this in case it helps motivate others, too:

The most important “pet” you’ve ever been entrusted with caring for is the ole meat sack you’re in 😂

[figdays]

Forget-me-not Dice Set // TinyPocketGarden

[rouge-the-bat]

we need less reassuring people by saying "dont worry, thats not weird!" and more "who cares if its weird or not? its not hurting anyone"

do it weird style. freak it up

[beggars-opera]

Rocky Horror is turning 50 next month and people still act like being gay was invented by Ellen in 1997

[beggars-opera]

But honestly! Renowned French poet Théophile de Viau wrote the poetic ode to King James titled "The Duke of Buckingham," containing the immortal lines "One man fucks Monsieur le Grand de Bellegarde/Another fucks the Comte de Tonnerre/And it is well known that the King of England/Fucks the Duke of Buckingham" exactly 400 years ago and people still act like being gay was invented by Oscar Wilde in 1890

[hugh-lauries-bald-spot]

Niankhkhnum and Khnumhotep were buried together in the 25th century BC and people still act like being gay was invented by renowned French poet Théophile de Viau 400 years ago

[insufficientdata]

Gilgamesh and Enkidu "loved each other like man and wife" in 2700 BC and ppl STILL act like being gay was invented by Niankhkhnum and Khnumhotep in the 25th century BC

[lacefuneral]

lug and grug T4T scissor in cave 2.5 million year ago

[littlealienproducts]

Stag Beetle - Glass Art Sun Catcher by GlassArtRoom

[junglejim4322]

So funny when super conventionally attractive people have weird ass tumblr personality disorder and chronic poster syndrome like I’ll scroll through your blog and see some of the weirdest shit anyone has ever said and then get jump scared by a picture of the most beautiful person I’ve ever seen which is then followed by some more of the weirdest shit anyone has ever said

[durn3h]

[himekokosu]

Rose

[poetrylesbian]

I’m glad my mom died

i forgot i asked for book recommendations for a moment and was like jesus christ im not qualified for this

[littlealienproducts]

Charm Necklace - with 14 charms by AlisonStorryJewelry

[feministism]

[malscare]

who's packing me lunch

[valtsv]

i feel like there'd be a particular degree of vulnerability to being headless. to trusting someone with that knowledge and hoping that they don't use it to take the part of you that most people take for granted, the most prominent signifier of your identity, and hold it hostage in order to punish you and/or as a display of power, placing their heel on the monster's neck and holding up its severed visage in victory.

[valtsv]

the green ribbon is a love story if you just look at it from another angle

[sweetd3lights]