As an ENTJ what do you appreciate about the other MBTI types?
Combined with the following asks:
What value do you see in the other 16 types that perhaps you yourself do not have or how do these other types factor into your life?
could you give the things you like about each 16 types? :3
Te-doms are the anchors in a relay race, theyāre the ones to cross the finish line and bring home the gold. Their value in my life is providing a very vital piece of encouragement when things get tough and the future looks hazy: āIt can be doneā and this how to best do it.ā Where other types have the tendency to only give encouragement and stop there, Te-doms add actionable steps and contribute their time and energy. Theyāre with you to the very end.
Te-doms are able to provide an objective measuring stick when I want feedback on anything in life from my performance to my odds. For example, if Iām applying to Harvard Business School, I want to know if Iām a competitive applicant. Te-doms are able to assess my academic qualifications, weigh them against the competition, and provide immediate feedback on areas for improvement. Thereās no fuzzy logic, thereās no open-ended answer thatās obscure or ambiguous, and there are no minced words to spare my feelings. Either Iām a competitive applicant or Iām not and if Iām not Iād like to know how I can be. As a Te-dom myself, Iām able to interpret their feedback (which can sound harsh to other types) as well-meaning because in the example above the goal isnāt to sugarcoat my reality or hide my shortcomingsā itās to get me accepted into Harvard. Any type can be blunt and honest, but Te-doms excel in correctly interpreting and leveraging their knowledge of the world around them to complete the mission.
Intellectual scalpels, flexible thinkers, and detail oriented I go to Ti-doms when I need to know how something should ideally work because their minds can create a perfect logic. For example, if weāre putting together a project I seek input from Ti-doms to understand how the best version of the final product should look and work under ideal conditions. From there, I apply my Te (practical knowledge, people management, resource management, and execution) to bring that vision to life with tweaks to incorporate real life conditions and constraints (like time and budget) that Ti often overlooks. For Ti-doms, I often ask: āDoes this make sense?ā Similar to the spell check function in word processing programs, Ti-doms are logic checking types who can comb through a ton of data and flag all the faults. I often throw them all sorts of random ideas, questions, problems, and theories to dissect flaws and identify areas for improvement.
Inferior Fe gives Ti-doms a bad rep as emotionless or rude but Iāve experienced that the majority of them are more authentic than other people precisely because Fe is so low in their stack. They skip the social foreplay and deliver their ideas point blank. The Ti-doms I know are genuinely concerned about disappointing others and will do their best to come through for loved ones, they seem to try harder for other people (ex: in team projects) than for themselves (ex: their own grades).
Social firefighters. Se-doms are incredibly adaptable in response to unexpected events and crazy circumstances, theyāre my human get-of-jail-free cards when shit hits the fan. Every Se-dom I know (every single one, no exceptions) gets thrown into the most obscene and ridiculous situations so theyāve accumulated a vast library of experiences to leverage when dropped into even more tough spots.Ā Iāve seen Se-doms masterfully maneuver through anything from a technical difficulty during a huge school presentation to stabilizing a complete stranger having a violent seizure in the middle of a movie. Itās a highly prized quality to have mental reflexes that avoid locking up when things go south and that can adjust to respond accordingly. I value their ability to navigate difficult situations with a calm and clear head.
This adaptability and strong Se gives them a fearless characteristic because theyāre confident that they can handle whatever life throws at them. Trying new things, going to new places, meeting new people, quickly switching gears, and adopting new techniques arenāt scary and arenāt struggles. I also find hilarious their tendency to panic only after the crisis has passed and theyāve fully processed how awful it was because then we get to hear the best stories when theyāre venting.Ā
Se-doms also have this ability to be fully present and to enjoy the moment for what it is. When weāre out traveling, eating food, seeing sightsā they tend to have genuine appreciation for whatever is in front of them whether itās an intricately prepared dinner or a sweeping view of the mountains. Se-doms have this charming way of making you wish you could see the world through their eyes.
My world doesnāt work without Si-doms. Period. The most valuable and underrated quality of Si-doms is that they care too much to let you fail. This isnāt always obvious through their trademark exasperation at everyoneās irresponsibility but thereās genuine concern underneath the surface that comes through when the situation calls for it. Theyāre the most clutch of all the 16 MBTI types simply because they prepare better than everyone else. Theyāre human safety nets, theyāre guardian angels.
I look to Si-doms for consistency which is a rare quality that many people in this world lack. Consistency translates into reliability and reliability translates into trust. I canāt befriend or love someone I canāt trust so making connections with Si-doms comes naturally. When I think about people with selective motivation, errant behavior, and flakiness, Iām even more appreciative of the stability that Si-doms typically bring because their qualities are often overlooked, devalued, and taken for granted. They not only come through, they do it with little to no fanfare. If you asked why theyāre this way theyād likely reply with an answer that captures the essence of why I appreciate them so much: āif not me, then who?āĀ
I donāt like Ne-doms so I have nothing to write in this section.
Ne-doms are human heart attacks and the cause of all my gray hairs. What I both like and dislike about Ne-doms is their tendency to procrastinate on everything always, cause an immense amount of anxiety that theyāre going to screw things up, and then come through spectacularly at the very last second every single time. They somehow always make it happen as if they live in a constant state of last minute everything. Iād rather just have the happy ending without the heart attack but itās a packaged dealā you have to accept the chaos with the flashes of brilliance because the former produces the latter.Ā
Their real value in my life is the ability to provide multiple perspectives and alternatives especially in times of trouble. For Ne-doms, the questions are: āWhat am I missing? What have I overlooked?ā and āWhat are my other options?ā Itās the brainstorming and troubleshooting skills that I value because it produces solutions off the beaten path. Itās the mental flexibility that makes them highly adaptable to change, responsive to new inputs, and easy to work with because you can cut them loose and theyāll get it done with minimal direction.
Ni-doms are human magnifying glasses. I value that they can get to the core of the matter, person, or situation quicker than everyone else then relay the information back because they want to solve the issue as fast as possible. I use them as mirrors for my own Ni because itās important to have other people confirm or modify the conclusions Iāve arrived at. Itās a sanity check. Itās a, āyou see what Iām seeing too, right?ā I often request Ni-doms to turn their Ni towards me because I trust their insights on my thoughts and behavior. I want to know what they think about who I am, how I project myself, decisions Iāve made, and mistakes I can avoid in the future. We tend to be blind to the faults of those we love and I lean hard on Ni-doms to provide objectivity.
My favorite quality about Ni-doms is that because theyāre adept at beating everyone to the punch they have the tendency to pre-emptively remove obstacles before they become problems. Whenever a trip, party, gathering, situation, or anythingĀ is running smoothly I always have a sneaking suspicion that itās that way because the Ni-doms worked silently behind the scenes to clear the path for the rest of us.
Fe-doms in my life have a prominent and distinct āleave no man behindā vibe. One of my favorite qualities about them is that they donāt easily give up on people. You get the sense that they love you too much to let you quit even when youāre ready to give up on yourself. Where other people might quickly get annoyed and move on, Fe-doms have the patience to help those who are struggling to get back on their feet. Thereās an underrated guardian complex with Fe-doms and they wonāt let you down because whatās important to you is important to them.
The biggest problem I used to have with Fe was its tendency to emphasize tone and delivery over actual content in communication. Fe-doms felt oppressive because it seemed like being nice and keeping the peace were more important than telling the truth. What Iāve learned since then is that a clear, logical, and excellent message will not be accepted by another person if that other person feels attacked, patronized, or diminished in any way. When Iām in a rush to accomplish a goal I can often overlook the importance of keeping the team happy, healthy, and intact because Iām so focused on getting to the finish line. Over the years Fe-doms have emphasized (and/or nagged) to drive the point home that an army thatās unhappy, unhealthy, and demoralized becomes ineffective. Beating people down and burning them out jeopardizes the future especially if these same people are needed again. Fe-doms embody the quote: āIf you want to go quickly, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.ā This was not only important in refining my skills as a leader and mentor but itās made me a better person.
My favorite quality about Fi-doms is that theyāre able to appreciate people and things that donāt fit neatly into the mainstream; the weird, the strange, and the unique. They can find value where other people might be inclined to overlook, dismiss, or discard. I admire that Fi-doms are extremely protective of the underdog, the weak, the defenseless, and the outcast. Theyāre not always reactive when unkind words or actions are targeted at them, but when itās directed towards people who canāt defend themselves Iāve seen them transform into hardened gladiators. As someone who has peer counseled troubled kids, Iāve repeatedly seen firsthand the calming effect an Fi-dom has on someone whoās felt out of place his or her entire life. Thereās something very natural and organic about how Fi-doms interact with people who donāt quite fit in; it never feels forced, fake, or pushy. It feels welcoming and safe. Thereās aĀ ācome as you areā vibe to them.
Fi-doms arenāt distracted or impressed by objective measures of success like money, cars, clothes, or social status. Whether or not I make $20,000 a year working at Target or $200,000 a year working in consulting Iām treated exactly the same. They donāt care if Iām driving my old Toyota with the missing hubcap and busted bumper from 10 years ago or my metallic white Mercedes coupe today. Whether Iām the coolest kid on the playground or the weirdest loner in the classroom I can expect to receive the same amount of love and attention from them as long as my behavior is aligned with their personal value system. Fi-doms arenāt easily swayed by public opinions, in fact, theyāre almost completely immune to them so I know theyāll give me the benefit of the doubt in the event of toxic gossip or malicious rumors. They embody that, āI donāt give a fuck what other people think or say about you. This is how I feel about you. Youāre good with meā philosophy. This makes them tremendously loyal friends.
