Ok this is something I actually have a lot of feelings about. I need everyone to know that messaging/texting only "hi" varies wildly depending on the context. It's not about "they won't even let us say hi anymore!" It's the circumstances. The older people are, the less time and patience they have for someone just texting them "hi." Also bots are an actual epidemic, and you're not doing yourself any favors by just saying "hi"
With good friends, it's not weird at all. It might get irritating if your text chains only consist of "hi" and nothing else....like, "hi" isn't a conversation, but you and your close friends don't need every conversation to be a long, meaningful paragraph. "Hi" is fine.
If you're on a hookup app? Sure, why not? "Hi" will get the job done. You're not trying to form a real connection with someone. You just want an opener that leads to a mutual goal.
With a new friend, or someone you don't know as well, you can try it, but it's probably not going to help you form a better friendship. Even if you're just texting because you're bored, there's no reason you can't just say "Hi! I'm waiting in line/at the dentist/doomscrolling and I'm so bored right now. Have you done anything/watched/read anything fun lately?"
If this is in a work capacity (even an informal one), it's weird and annoying. Please just say what you want. Messaging a co-worker/boss "hi" is more awkward and annoying then just saying "Hi, I was wondering about ____. Do you have a second to clarify some things?" Nobody's got time for a singular "hi." Just be up front.
If you're on a dating app, assuming you actually do want to try and get to know someone, PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES! If you've done this, and it's worked, then that's great. I'm happy for you. But this is not something that will work a lot, especially once you get into your late 20s and 30s. You should be old enough to know how to talk to someone by now. DON'T NERF YOURSELF IMMEDIATELY. I hate to be heteronormative, but when this happens, it's usually men messaging women, and then when the women don't respond, the guys get butthurt about it and wonder why they're getting ghosted when they've just demonstrated that they can't even start a conversation. At best, you will get mistaken for a bot, and you can rectify it. At worst, the person you want to talk to will think you're a moron, and you've ruined your chances with them because you can't think of anything to say to get a conversation going. The older people get, the less time they have for "hi" on a dating app. You have to ask questions that lead to actual conversations. Think about it, where will the conversation with just "hi" go? "Hi" "Hi" "What's up?" "Nothing"...........Just fucking say something. "Hi! How's it going? You seem like you're really into the outdoors. I go hiking/camping/other outdoor activity all the time. Have you ever tried ______?" There. At least you've opened the door for a conversation, instead of letting any potential die because you could only think to say "hi" 🙃
"But I have social anxiety!" As someone who also has social anxiety, nothing is worse than being on the receiving end of a "hi." What do they want? Why are they texting me? How long should I wait before texting back? Do they actually want to talk to me or will they let the conversation die if I don't respond? Were they just bored? Was the text a mistake? What am I supposed to say besides "hi" back? "What's up?" But if they say "Nothing," what am I supposed to say after that? I am the master of overthinking.
Obviously every relationship is different. Not everything fits into a neat little box, but there are times when "hi" is not going to work for you, and you can't sit there wondering why you're being ghosted if you're not actually saying anything.
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