Micro's Blog

Hi! I'm Micro! I'm aroace, non-binary, and trans-age (no, I don't think it's okay for physical adults to date physical kids). I'm also pro-ship and a CSA survivor. I use they/them, BTW.

[manderley]

Happy Together (1997)

Directed by Wong Kar-wai 

[read-and-be-merry]

List of Books to Read Before You Die

1. Any book you want

2. Don’t read books you don’t want to read

3. That’s it

4. Congratulations you did it

[iammewhooaryou]

I really like this list. All my favorite books are on it.

[read-and-be-merry]

Thanks I worked really hard on it

[neil-gaiman]

An excellent list.

[deviika]

Jane Austen // Bao Phi

[micromap]

gay

Gay

[lullabylyssa]

Bedtime, little one! Oh? You’re not ready for bedtime? Why is that, sweetie? Nope, you’re just a little baby. You’re not an adult. You’re not tired? Hm…I think I know a way to fix that. Would you like some angel milk in your bottle? Would my sweet little one like that? I think we could manage that. No baby, you’re too little to use the stove. I’ll make it for you. All done, baby! Could you please pick out three bedtime stories for me to read to use? We’re going to read them while you sit on my lap as you drink your bottle. Yes, of course we can use the rocking chair. I would love to rock my precious baby to sleep. Now, drink your angel milk while I read to you, little one. Goodnight sweetheart. I hope that you have wonderful dreams.

[bunnysthighhighs-deactivated202]

Non-Verbal Little Communication:🍼✨

Grabby Hands = “Please pick me up”

Whining = “I need your attention right now”

Grabby Hands + Whining = “Im upset and I need to be close to you right now”

Huffing = “I didn’t get my way” or “I’m embarrassed”

Pouting = “I’m feeling fussy”

Pouting + Stomps = “I’m feeling extremely fussy and I’m going to throw a fit if I’m not calmed down”

Pats = “I want your attention” or “I’m excited”

Pulling your sleeve or pant leg = “I want your attention” or “I want you to get something for me”

Bounces = “I’m very excited or happy and I’m trying to contain it”

Wiggles = “This is my uncoordinated version of a happy dance”

Yawning = “You should put me to bed because I won’t do it myself. And yes, I will fuss when you try to tuck me in and tell you I’m not tired”

[assholeboi]

Excuse me if you identify as transage you need to grow up because there’s literally no fucking way that anyone older than 13 could legitimately nonironically identify as something as dumb as that thank you for coming to my Ted talk

[micromap]

[writing-prompt-s]

You’re a time traveller who can’t control your powers and keep accidentally slipping through time. Thankfully, you have an immortal friend who keeps you up to date whenever you appear.

[micromap]

Ok but me and who

[chrishallbeck]

Happy #internationaldogday!

Hug every pupper you see!

[dunmertitty]

gay men’s bodies aren’t jokes, twinks are awesome, bears are awesome, otters are awesome, hunks are awesome, unaligned men are awesome, top and bottom aren’t personalities, there’s no way to “act” like a top or a bottom, top doesn’t mean masculine, bottom doesn’t mean feminine, men showing femininity isn’t sexual, every feminine man isn’t a twink, gay men don’t have to want sex to be real gay men, gay sex is epic and holy and beautiful

[a-sort-of-femby-philosophy]

Me at the start of 2020: I am a pansexual, cisgender male. My name is leonard and I am also a berniecrat and a democratic socialist. I'm so glad we made it out of 2019, and can't wait to see how I improve in 2020.

Me now: I identify as an omnisexual/bisexual/queer person, an aprogender anti-boy, and I'm fine with all pronouns except for he/him/his, and xe/xim/xys (though xe/xer/xers is fine) My name is now Sori, which is short for sorcirere, which means witch in french. I am an anarcho-communist, syndicalism, communalist, and leftist-nonsectarian. I also probably have adhd (I'm getting tested for that), have psychotic episodes on a bi-monthly basis, and am a satanist. I also have opened a portal to hell in my room (at least according to my sister) and I don't plan on closing it.

My old self: Jesus Christ, what happened.

My current self: A lot of shit, also we say Lilith the first now, this is a Satanic Minecraft server.

[micromap]

2020: I am a trans male. There are only three genders, and genderfluid is bullshit. Pansexual is fake.

Now: Anyway I’m multi-gender, gender-fluid, abrosexual, autistic, a radical inclusionist, therian, an anarchist, and an age regressor

[micromap]

I unironically want a neopronoun set related to plants just to reclaim the whole “you don’t experience X attraction? What are you, a plant?” thing

[micromap]

I’m going to try and work on a theme for a bit, so my blog may look weird for a bit on desktop

[angelsbloodd]

Your F/O loves you.

Stop thinking about if your F/O would "look better with someone else" whether that be in canon or someone irl that looks different to you.

Your F/O looks best with you, you look cute together! And don't you forget it, they love you for you, no matter your "flaws", they love how you look, how you act, and they love you through everything, your past, present and future.

They chose you, they don't want to be with anyone else, and even if they don't say it all the time, they care about you, they look at you and wonder how they got so lucky, and they wouldn't trade you for the world.

<3

[idratherhavecake-deactivated202]

Okay, we're fed up with this 'all endogenic systems are faking' bullshit. Why do so many systems say that endogenic systems are automatically fakers when they have no evidence to support their claims other than their mistaken view that systems need trauma to form?

Listen. Let's say that you, a singlet and a horrible piece of trash, have decided that you're going to pretend to be a system. You have two options: pretend to be a traumagenic system or pretend to be an endogenic system. If you pretend to be a traumagenic system, people won't question the validity of your system. Well, at least not in regards as to whether your system could have formed, anyhow. People will fakeclaim pretty much any system, but it's undeniable that endos get told they're faking more than their traumagenic counterparts.

So you could make up some trauma that allegedly caused your fake system to form, or you could pretend to be endogenic. Let's be honest here: if you're already willing to lie about being a system, you're definitely willing to make up a bit of trauma so you can call yourself traumagenic. Why would you lie and say that you're quoigenic or neurogenic or anything-other-than-traumagenic when you could just call yourself traumagenic and save yourself a little bit of fakeclaiming? And sure, some fakers pretend to be endogenic for one reason or another, but we're willing to bet that there's just as many, if not more, that pretend to be traumagenic.

Where's our proof? We used to know a 'system' that turned out to be a singlet who was faking. And guess what? Not only did she pretend to be traumagenic, but she was also vehemently anti-endo. She nearly got demoted and banned several times due to how openly anti-endo she was. Then, of course, she revealed that she was a faker and was demoted and banned. There are very few people that I genuinely wish pain on, but I really do hope that one day she finds herself on the other end of the equation and knows how devastating it is.

But back to the topic at hand. You have no proof that endogenic systems are inherently fake. Suck it up and face the facts: endogenic systems are real, just like traumagenic systems. Sure, there's fakers who pretend to be endogenic, but there's just as many that pretend to be traumagenic.

[system-therian]

The people with bad intentions are more likely to be in the against x groups.

What I mean by that is fake systems are more likely to say traumagenic and to seem more seperate, be anti endo.

Nazis and altright love minorities being seperate so are likely to have some people claim to be ace exclusionists, to be transmeds, etc. To divide and conquer.

Predators are more likely to say they are antis. Because then they claim to be against "nasties" and are trusted as good by other antis (so easier to prey upon).

I was in various against x groups and saw a lot more bad people in those groups then outside.

[queeranarchism]

Trans history: whatever happened to the other T?

I don’t know how universally relevant this is (I guess no part of queer history ever is) but I wonder how many trans people know the history of T&T groups.

Like, in the 90′s and 00′s in the Netherlands almost every trans related groups was a T&T ‘Transsexual and Transvestites’ group and that seemed to also be a quite common thing in other north-west European countries for as far as I can see. Maybe beyond Europe too? I’m not sure.

People who called themselves transsexual and transvestites at the time felt that they had many experiences in common that made organising together valuable and many agreed that there was a large grey area of overlapping identities. With very little information available, a lot of trans women identified as transvestites first, before identifying at trans women (in that period often using the term Male-to-Female transsexual and transwoman without the space between the words).

Then, in about 2007-2012, things changed. Transgender became more popular than transsexual and crossdresser largely replaced transvestite. In those early days, the term transgender was often understood to include crossdressers. The transgender umbrella is from that time:

Back then, the word transgender was seen by many as the umbrella term that would unite all the struggles against gender roles. But that grouping together was far from uncontroversial and a lot of heated debates took place over how broad or narrow the transgender umbrella term should be. Some feared too wide an umbrella would take attention away from transsexuals, others feared it would be confusing, some groups that had previously only had transwomen and transvestites did not appreciate the new presence of transmen and transmasculine people in their transgender community, some felt that it was very important to distinguish binary-identified transsexuals from all sorts of weird non-binary identities.

Those who took part in the debates probably remember the specific standpoints in more detail. For me, I just remember how in 2008-2012 all the T&T groups started changing their names to ‘transgender groups’ and then slowly but surely focussing more on only those transgender people that wanted some kind of transition, physical or social. Eventually, transvestites (or crossdressers, as the common term was by then) disappeared entirely from the transgender groups and a lot of transgender people forgot about the earlier wider meaning of transgender as an umbrella term.

Within that same period, there started to be a LOT of new and fairly positive media attention for transgender issues, specifically transition related atttention. The media was no participant at all in the ‘what does transgender mean’ question but the questions they did ask were ‘are you on hormones yet?’ and ‘did you have the surgery’? Since that was a lot better than ‘so are you mentally ill because you want to be a woman?’ a lot of people who fitted the hormones + surgery narrative eagerly accepted this ‘positive visibility’ and did not question the narrow focus. This further cemented the view that transgender meant transition.

And the transgender activists? Well, let’s just say many of them, knee deep in a struggle against terrible health care and cruel human rights violations, leaped at the opportunity to seize the momentum and finally make some changes and many didn’t really give much thought to the slow disappearance of transvestites from the newly named ‘transgender’ community.

So where are we now, in 2018?

The transgender community seems to have largely forgotten about their T&T history. The terms transvestite and crossdresser both seem to be in decline, as are the communities that meet around those identities. Younger people who don’t fit the gender binary but also do not desire social or physical transition, are now more likely to identify themselves as some kind of genderqueer and nonbinary or just ‘not into labels’ or just to wear whatever they want and rock it. Some of them find their way back under the transgender umbrella after all. Which I guess is some kind of a happy ending.

But then theres the question of recognizing our legacy. I don’t think a lot of these young people realise that, had they been born 20 years earlier, many of them would probably have found a home in the transvestite community. I don’t think a lot of young transgender people recognize older transvestites as their elders, who paved the way for them. I often get the impression that they view the dwindling groups of 50+, 60+, 70+ transvestites with an element of disdain, as people who held on to a regressive binary identity, instead of as like - their badass grandfather-mothers who build parts of trans history.

[queeranarchism]

Over the last 24 hours, some trans people have responded to this with some truly nasty comments about transvestites and crossdressers, mostly accusing them of stuff like ‘degrading femininity’, ‘fetishizing’, or ‘giving trans people a bad name’. Invariably, the people writing these comments were young. Invariably, their only frame of reference seemed to be stigmatizing media portrayals and they clearly have no idea what they’re talking about.

I am not going to dignify these comments with a response because they’re too disgusting to reblog, I do not think they would listen and frankly reading them fills me with far too much emotion to write coherently.

I just wanna say: this is what happens when we are so quick to forget our very recent history. Despite the many debates and divisions that have existed in the past, few trans people could have had these completely off-the-wall misguided ideas 15 years ago because if they travelled in trans spaces they would have met so many transvestites and crossdressers. They would chat and hang out and probably make friends. They would swap experiences, share hardships and learn to recognize transvestites and crossdressers as siblings in the community of gendernonconforming and marginalized people.

My heart breaks for the young crossdresser out there today who might enter a trans space looking for their community of supporting likeminded people, only to find out that they are not welcome and even despised. I can only hope that if this happens, some older trans people will talk some sense into their younger community members and remind them of the long road transgender people and crossdressers have walked together, the battles we fought together, the crossdressers who fought for trans rights and the trans people who fought for their siblings too because we understood those struggles as interconnected.

When we forget where we come from, we fail to recognize members of our own family, and we are all lonelier and more divided as a result.

[queeranarchism]

#huh this is fascinating#does anyone have any sources about this stuff beyond that image?#i mean i believe op just fine but it’d be neat to see more about these sorts of groups#google was….extremely unhelpful

Actually, I have more! But first, a little google advice when researching recent post-internet history: type in phrases from the time you want to find, in this case stuff like ‘transsexual’, ‘transgender’, ‘transvestite’, ‘transgenderist’ (no really that was a word people used). Click Tools > time > custom range and set a range you want. Like maybe 200 to 2010? See if that helps. 

ok, now my stuff, ill start with some more from the Netherlands

This is a 1975 party ticket to celebrate the 5 year anniversary of the Transvestite and Transsexual workgroup and contact group (meaning they did activism and community meetings).

This is another 1975 document: a brochure of the National Contact Group for Transvestites and Transsexuals, which, according to the content, strives towards self-acceptance, emancipation and education. Their ‘target groups’ are listed as transsexuals, intersexuals, transvestites and men who wear skirts. Believe it or not, for a while man-in-skirt was treated as an identity label for gendernonconforming men, who formed communities with other men-in-skirts.

There’s more recent stuff to be found too. 

This 2012 poster has it all. It announces a transgender information day with information for transvestites, transsexuals, crossdressers and part-time women.

Something in English? Alright, here’s an image from 2014 when, for a short time, people tried to make trans* with a * the most inclusive term like the + in lgbt+:

Something older in English too?

This is a 1994 transgender umbrella, from when the concept was still quite new. You’ll notice that the language here is pathologizing. This is the only source on my list not written by a trans person but by a cis therapist.

And here’s a 1990 leaflet showing some terms considered ‘respectful’ by many community members then.

Even older?

Here’s a beautiful 1971 article from the Detroit Gay Liberator, (Volume 1, issue 8, January 1, 1971) titles ‘transvestite and transsexual liberation’.

There is a gap, as you’ll probably notice. A lot of 70′s stuff has already been archives and a lot of 2010+ stuff is easily accessible online, but the early internet stuff is harder to find and not as prominent in archives yet. Still, there is much more like this out there. www.digitaltransgenderarchive.net has a lot of it.

What you’ll find, again and again, is that the exclusion of transvestites from the language of trans community and trans rights is very recent. We walked most of this road and fought most of this fight together.

[queeranarchism]

Some people have been taking this post and interpreting it as “there’s a beautiful lost past when we didn’t have infighting and exclusionism” and I want to correct that.

The T&T communities of the 1970s did have constant infighting and debates about who belonged, what behavior was accepted in their spaces and how the story of what it means to be trans should be told. There is no ‘pre-discourse’ era.

The nature of internalized transphobia, the temptation of respectability politics and of striving for acceptance from cis people by meeting their standards, the envy experienced by people who can’t or won’t reach that level of respectability or ‘passability’, the marginalization within our communities of poorer trans people and of trans people of color, all these things have been in our community forever and we have had to grapple with them forever.

Our elders were not necessarily better or more compassionate than us. If we want to know our own past, we have to neither romanticize nor reject it and just accept that our elders were as flawed as we are.