Stuff &Things

this is mostly so i can keep track of artists i like.

[tieflingkisser]

[animentality]

[bobcatmoran]

I absolutely blame Facebook for this shift. Words cannot describe how freaking WEIRD it was in the mid-00s when there was suddenly this popular website where you were required to use your real, brickspace name and encouraged to post photos of yourself. Every single bit of Standard Internet Safety prior to then said that you should never ever ever do either of those.

[nariarts]

Longtime readers may be aware of how much I relish an excuse to bully a company, so I'm sharing the wealth;

Clothing company Patagonia is currently sueing drag queen Pattie Gonia for "irreparable” harm to their brand.

To be clear; Pattie named herself after the region in South America.

So Pattie is asking people to politely ask Patagonia to drop the lawsuit.

I'm extending the invitation to all of you, because sueing a drag queen for 'infringement' in the current political cultural landscape is vile. Especially a drag queen who has raised millions of dollars for non-profits, uses her platform to raise awareness for climate activism, and fully aligns with Patagonia's apparent climate-conscious mission statement.

They're claiming they're sueing for $1. They're actually asking her to stop using her name, and pay over $1 million in legal fees. They're straight up harassing her.

In contrast, drag queen Jan Sport has a Jansport bag line. It's that easy to just... work with a queen.

Anyway. Be respectful(ish), but feel free to be annoying on Patagnoia's socials, asking them to 'DROP THE LAWSUIT'

I think they have a twitter and tiktok too!

[gobusto]

saw someone mix up "abysmal" and "abyssal" today, so as a reminder:

her skills are abysmal = she is unskilled

her skills are abyssal = her abilities draw upon the forbidden power of the dark void

[chaotic-neutral-knitter]

never be good at your job. it's a trap. they'll just give you more and harder stuff to do and it'll pull you away from your true passion of writing gay fanfiction for people on the internet

[thingsfromthedirt]

warming carafe with a stained glass pattern (ca. late 50s-early 60s)

[red-eye-radio]

So I thought y'all would like this too This great white comes to the jersey shore every year and this year they named her and have been tracking her hella so this is Mary Lee and she decided to show herself under this rainbow for pride month A true gay icon

[victoryyodel]

#This is the representation I’ve been looking for

[hoffmanjonsson]

DAVID JONSSON Photographed by Greg Williams for Hollywood Authentic 2026

[hcnnibal]

also look at this beautiful shimmering mushroom i saw in the woods today

[hcnnibal]

ah thats my bad, shouldve kept this on onlyfungi

[oliveoilcorp]

Happy Pride.

My werewolf-western-horror-romance story DARLIN' AND HER OTHER NAMES is now a weekly webcomic.

The first 6 pages of Part 1 are up now. 🐺❤️🌿 darlin.webcomic.studio

[bigbigbigtruck]

A couple weeks ago, on bsky Trung Le Nguyen said (paraphrasing) "if it feels like the wrong people are dying it may be because there are more beloved people than bastards" and lord how I have been clinging to that sentence

[fredrix03]

flat horse

more of a thumbnail for an idea i may or may not continue on

[theshitpostcalligrapher]

ohoohoohoo y'all need to look at this round motherfucker @naomiknight-17 snapped at the subway station the other day

[curiositysavesthecat]

Do you think it's weird and/or predatory for a 13 year-old and a 30 year-old to be best friends if they're not family members or related by blood? Assuming everything is innocent and platonic. Nothing romantic or sexual.

Yes, it's weird and predatory

It's weird. But not predatory

It's predatory. But not weird

No, it's not weird or predatory

Voting ended onJun 9

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[creelson]

unpopular opinion but I don't think there's anything weird or predatory about an innocent friendship

[dianxiacantastemolecules]

The question is why the fuck is a thirty year old hanging out with a 13 year old if not in their family?? The only other relation that could have them interact is through teacher/student and bring friends like that would be weird as fuck

[creelson]

found family? the kid not feeling safe in their house? the adult wanting to help? family / teacher / school isn't always a guaranteed safe place. should the kid and adult each have friends that are their own age too? sure. but if their friendship is genuinely innocent then I think the problem isn't them but people who project their weird and predatory thoughts onto them

[the-bar-sinister]

Don't forget shared hobbies?

A 13 year old and a 30 year old could reasonably meet at a tabletop gaming store, a fiber arts group, a book club....

[audacityinblack]

They could literally just be neighbors. This whole isolationist thing of never even talking to the people you live closest to is new and weird.

[olderthannetfic]

When I was 13, an art teacher who worked for my mother (who ran after school programs) got into the X-Files. This was season 1. Neither of us knew anyone else who was into it, and she wasn't very online given that this was 1994, so she had nowhere else to discuss it. I'd call her every Friday night after the episode, and we'd obsessively go over it.

I'd probably have called her my best friend at the time, though I very much doubt she'd have said the same, partly because having One Single Best Friend and being super weird about which of your friends gets this coveted spot is not something middle-aged people care about.

Some of you have very weird ideas about 13-year-olds living in hermetically sealed bubbles. Frankly, many neurodivergent weirdo 13-year-olds who grew up to be Tumblr users were far, far better at talking to adults at that age than at talking to other 13-year-olds. Many of you would have had a way happier year if you'd also had an old-ass "best friend" to talk to back then.

[katanahime]

People really need to be more normal about intergenerational friendship.

This concept that it is still "weird" even if it isn't predatory is cutting kids off from community and from the concept of safe adults. And I think it's really really important to have that outside of spaces where people can legally control you.

And as far as what the adult gets out of it. Basically the same thing you get out of any other friendship? Teens are people just like adults are people. You may not be on the same maturity level, but that doesn't mean they aren't fun to hang out with and talk to.

[avayarising]

Also, is ‘friend of the family’ not a thing any more? At thirteen I was good friends with a 27-year-old whose family had been friends with mine for three generations at that point. Our generations were a bit out of sync (due to differences in when people had kids) but it didn’t stop us being friends.

[bramblepatch]

I don't think there's anything weird or predatory about them being friends, intergenerational friendships and social groups are great, more 13 year olds should have regular interactions with non-family adults especially in a peer setting.

I think the specification of "best" friends pushes it into territory that is weird, and while not necessarily predatory, certainly potentially deeply unhealthy for one or both parties. It suggests that one or both does not have equally close friendships within their own age cohort, which in turn suggests a deeply isolated child or socially stunted adult. Neither of which is someone that the other should be looking to as a primary confidante or companion. Intergenerational friendships do not negate the need for socializing with similar-aged peers.

[thepioden]

Yeah, it's the "best friends" that is weird. It's not necessarily bad, but a 30 year and a 13 year old being mutual besties is weird in the sense that it is very unusual.

[pragnificent]

The "best friends" part is weird, as noted in the comment above.

A kid definitely shouldn't be an adult's best friend, because that implies that the adult has forgotten about the power imbalance between them.

If an adult is the kid's best friend, then obviously that kid is not getting the social interaction they need with their peers, and ideally something should be done to correct that, but a friend is better than no friends.

But it's absolutely Normal and Good for adults and kids to be friends, and honestly there's something weird going on with our society that anyone thinks that's a controversial statement (though the responses on this poll are a lot better than I might have expected).

I know part of it is that so many millennials and the generation coming up behind us as well simply cannot afford children, so we aren't used to them being in our social spaces, but children require socialization, mentorship, and support and care of their entire community.

[lycanthology]

wish ppl understood the power nowadays in not giving something attention. things today are so focused on attention and reaction and #memes that the best way to shut literally anything down is simply not give it exactly what it wants. like you arent going to own that bigot on twitter youre going to boost their original message whether thats your intent or not and you arent just playing with ai for shits and giggles you are giving it free learning and data. just stop engaging with things that dont deserve it

[bannertanks]

[ghosthierophant]

[revizyonist]

med people are so annoying "This family's 8 year old child who was about to go through a major surgery and kept crying that she was hungry so they pitied her and gave her food, she then had a heart attack in the surgery. They're so stupid 😒" girl they didn't know that could happen or why it happens. it takes so little time to explain to them that will happen instead of telling them "no food" with no explanation 10 times

[revizyonist]

"Before surgery, your body’s reflexes that protect your airway are relaxed by anesthesia. If there’s food or liquid in your stomach, it will near certainly come back up and go into your lungs, which can cause choking, a severe lung / heart infection or even a heart attack. That’s called aspiration, and it is life-threatening. It's hard, but it's only a single day to prevent near certain death. Not eating or drinking beforehand massively lowers the risk and helps prevent these life threatening situations under anesthesia." <- TIP: patients have brains which allows them to receive information just like you

[ancelineonline]

I have four kids. I’ve had one or another of them need some kind of surgical procedure that requires anesthesia four or five times over the past 15 years.

This Tumblr post is the first time someone has explained to me *why* I couldn’t feed them before those instances.

I’m not stupid. I understood that just fine. Hell, my kids would have understood that just fine. But no one bothered to tell us.

[bowditch]

i did know this before having kids (i have six). we have a kid that's needed multiple procedures requiring anesthesia. and every single time, i am asked multiple times if i'm sure he was not given any food or water after a certain point.

every single time i have had to say, "i understand that if he had food or water, he could aspirate it into his lungs under anesthesia. i am not lying to you." THEN someone would make a little note and i would stop being repeatedly asked.

not a single time was that risk explained to me. the only reason it came up was because i already knew. i still don't understand why it isn't standard pre-op counseling or pre-op check information, when me as a parent acknowledging the actual risk also put THE MEDICAL STAFF at ease because i conveyed that i had informed understanding as reason to not lie about giving my kid food.

"maybe some people will get nervous and refuse surgery" okay so they need more counseling about risks and anxiety, not less information in a way that actually does endanger their child or themselves!

[arctic-turtle-cassiopeia]

Reblogging to save a life and teach medical professionals basic communication skills