I really need attention!

\( He / They )/ Completed 1 year DBT therapy. Self DX and LGBT+ friendly.

[recomvery]

One of the most dangerous things in the world is not being able to say no to people because you don't want to upset them or dissapoint them. This will completely ruin your life in every way possible, at work, in your private life, your sex life and your friendships. It's a way of removing your own consent in your own decisions and go against your wishes, it is always a crime against yourself. Let yourself have a say. Upsetting people is better than traumatizing yourself.

[thegeminisage]

bro im gonna CRY i didnt know this 🥺

[viss-and-pinegar]

[mymentalillnessvents]

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[mymentalillnessvents]

You ever enter a group chat and everyone suddenly stops interacting/ talking, every time you enter it 🙃

[nagichi-boop]

I think it’s important to remember that executive dysfunction doesn’t just apply to doing chores (work, cleaning, etc). It also makes it difficult to engage with your hobbies.

Some people don’t seem to understand that when I say that I don’t have the motivation to do something that I have said I want to do, it has nothing to do with not being interested enough in said thing. It is just that my brain is not allowing me to do it even though I want to.

[mymentalillnessvents]

I'm on my up (good moods, getting more shit done) but by god drawing is STILL difficult to just DO!

I'm drawing more atm, but sitting down and just getting it done is impossible. I spend my day slowly chipping away at art coz my excutive dysfunction keeps dragging me away. It's a fight to get myself to keep going back but it is made a bit easier because its good days.

[disableddyke]

people with adhd, psychosis, brain fog, schizophrenia or anything that affects memory, recall and perception of reality are so at risk of gaslighting. even when you’re pretty sure you did/didn’t do a thing, if someone suggests that it didn’t actually happen that way or you’re skewing the facts or you’re just misremembering of whatever, you start to question yourself and your own memories and that is very easy to take advantage of. and it’s so incredibly difficult to get anyone to believe you or take you seriously because not even you are 100% sure you’re recalling things correctly. it sucks so bad not being able to rely on your own memory and to have to worry about people using it against you (because they can and will)

[chaos-in-one]

Normalize being professionally diagnosed and supporting people who don't have a diagnosis actually

[mymentalillnessvents]

Esp now more than ever as public systems are starting (or already) flooded so private is really your only option - which prices and waitlists are increasing!

[c-ptsdrecovery]

[rottenbutrecovering]

It's my birthday today - I'm turning 25!

For my bday, I'd love for people to submit/reply/reblog with pictures of their pets - especially cats! Pet pics always make me happy 🥰

[mymentalillnessvents]

Happy birthday! Kitty is very new to the family so few good photos of her, but here's also most of her family 😊

[leafinthebreeze-deactivated2026]

[noshameinoursickness]

repeat after me:

crying is a HEALTHY release of emotion AND a great way to complete the stress cycle

[lemememeringue]

it also grants you a tiger

[mymentalillnessvents]

Can increased anxiety stop your ADHD meds from working?

Can ADHD meds slowly stop working after 4 months of working fine? (Over the course of 2 months, lasts half as long then doesn't work at all even when taking a break from them)

Got a blood test done and everything there seems fine (maybe not B12 but NZ standards says it's fine at 494 so idk)

[penthousepussy]

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Saying "I can't do that" isn't always self depreciating negativity. Sometimes it just means that you've come to terms with your own limitations and learned to respect and accommodate them - which is actually a good thing!

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

I see a lot of positivity posts saying things like "you're not less intelligent/capable/productive if you struggle with xyz" and they're often right! But some people genuinely ARE less intelligent. Some people ARE less capable. Some people ARE less productive. And we don't have to be considered intelligent or productive or capable to be worthy, valuable, good people!

[borderlinebastard]

there are 4 elements to improving your mood: relaxation, stress management, cognitive control, and exercise (RECS for short). and I think people who struggle to do so don't realize they're focusing too much on one area, or aren't doing them effectively.

like as my therapist told me, using your phone or watching TV to relax doesn't really work because your brain is still "on" and processing a shit ton of information, or doesn't really engage your mind while still requiring concentration.

me personally, I think I wind up relying on cognitive control to tackle emotions instead of addressing them in the other ways.

here's how to do your RECS:

Relax: Read, write, listening to calming music (but don't rely solely on this! and don't listen constantly) going into nature or a park, meditation, puzzles

Exercise: walking, yoga, weight lifting, dance, gardening, cleaning the house

Cognitive control: self control/stop & think, self monitoring/evaluation, emotional control/managing feelings, flexibility, task initiation, organising, planning (and the things they teach you in CBT)

Stress management: breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, talking/venting

you can pick one from each and see how they affect you when you’re feeling a strong emotion, you might need different techniques for different emotions.

[psyched-for-you]

You can't choose not to be angry, but you can choose not to take your anger out on other people.

You can't choose not to be sad, but you can choose to manage your sadness in a constructive way.

You can't choose not to be jealous, but you can choose to work through it in a healthy manner.

You can't choose not to be anxious, but you can choose not to make it someone else's responsibility.

Controlling what you feel is an impossible mission, but you can and should work on controlling how you act on your emotions.

[cheaphalloweencostume]

not to get too deep on main but did anyone else have such deeply rooted issues with their self worth for so long that they thought as a kid/teen that their only redeeming feature was being “low maintenance” and now as an adult you give yourself guilt pangs asking for any more than the barest minimum in virtually any relationship because asking for things might negate your only good quality which is just “doesn’t ask for things”