Nonbinary pregnancy wish

[letters-to-lgbt-kids]

Anonymous asked: Wait, I signed up for a trans kid when I decided to become pregnant? Are you joking or are you really that crazy?

Hey there, 

I’m not joking at all and I don’t really see how this would be a laughing matter to you. 

Yes, you signed up for a trans kid. And while we are at it, you also signed up for a disabled kid. Autistic kid. Gay kid. A kid who doesn’’t look like you. A deaf kid. A kid who will have interests that don’t match up with yours at all. You signed up for a shy kid and a loud kid and a kid who wets the bed and a sick kid.  

That’s the beauty, the miracle of parenthood, don’t you agree? You decide to care for a little person you don’t even know yet. You decide to open your heart and home to them, you promise to nurture and love and protect a tiny human being. How can you promise that, if not unconditionally? 

You can’t pick and choose your kid. Maybe even more importantly, they can’t choose you. They depend on you to keep that promise - and not only if they live up to whatever expectations you had. 

With all my love, 

Tumblr Dad

[electricheart]

[nbpotatoparent]

Dpo1! So happy that I had a spontanious ovulation 😊 the meds I've been using haven't made me ovulate so when the cycles are long and I still catch ovulation on cycle day 26 I feel like a winner😅now it's just 2 weeks to see if we get a +

[strippiluolamies]

8 months into TTC and I'm beginning to slip from all the rules. For 8 months I cut down coffee, pain killers and transfats, I lost weight by dieting and exercising, and I ate the vitamins and supliments. Now? If I feel like that 3rd cup of coffee I go for it. Having a head ache but deadline around the corner? I take that pain killer. I feel like shit so I open that chocolate bar. I'm so fed up with all the rules when I'm not even pregnant yet. (And the clinic said that there is no need to follow any diets before pregnancy, only vitamins and supliments are a must)

[death-mogai]

intersex bodies are just as natural and regular as perisex bodies, the only difference is that perisex bodies are more common. being intersex is not a birth defect in the same way being a perisex woman is not a birth defect. nothing broke, nothing is "wrong" with us, we are just less common.

being a perisex woman or a perisex man isn't a medical condition and neither is being intersex. when our intersex conditions cause other health complications it is not because we are intersex, it is because of a medical condition associated with being intersex.

a person with a uterus who has endometriosis isn't experiencing a symptom of having a uterus they are experiencing endometriosis.

intersex bodies are heavily medicalized. they are treated as problems that need to be solved, but being intersex isn't a medical condition. we don't need to be diagnosed and forced through "treatment" to make us as close to perisex as possible, we need support, awareness, and acceptance.

tldr; intersex bodies are just as natural as perisex bodies. intersex existence needs to stop being medicalized

[nbpotatoparent]

Diary entry

12th of April 2022

I’m feeling sick, which tells me that a single ice cream is too small for a breakfast. I always feel sick if I don’t eat enough or skip eating alltogether in the morning. I hope this passes quickly. I took a second serving of coffee and I’m eating a baby meal (it’s called “sunny”).

Tomorrow the mother-child clinic will call me to inform me of the doctor’s decicion. The doctor will decide whether they will take me as their patient now or wait until it has been a year since we started TTC. A year is a stantard here, you have to TTC at home for a year before the public health care system is required to help you with infertility. I called the clinic last week explaining my situation: I have diagnosed PCOS, I’m on two fertility medications and we’ve been TTC for 6 months and 16 days. The meds have made no change to my cycle but the doctor (in the private clinic) insisted that it should be confirmed with an ultrasound. Which I cannot afford right now. So the nurse told me she’ll ask the doctor if they can take me in already, since I have the diagnose and medicines but no chance of getting a doctors visit and exams. Kind of sad if I have to wait until August (and super sad if they have long waiting lines and I wouldn’t even get an appoinment in August but later in the fall) but I am glad that they said they will take us and help us. It’s just a matter of when.

Today I’m trying to get some uni work done so I’ll have less to do on Easter holiday. I returned to uni work 2 days ago (I took a break because we moved and it was stressful) and it’s been fine. Today is also the day of once-a-month medicine, so I’m surprised I don’t feel any worse than this (I’m usually in quite a lot of pain around the time of the new shot).

[glumshoe]

The other day I watched a little boy get knocked to the ground by an older kid who was running by. He burst into tears as his mother hurried over.

“Here’s a bandaid for ya,” I said, producing one from my vest pocket.

“Oh, he’s not bleeding, thank you though!”

I lowered my voice and leaned in. “Kids think bandaids are health magic,” I said. “Ask him where it hurts and exploit that placebo effect.”

She did just that, and instantly the kid stopped crying and thanked her. “I’ll have to remember that,” she said.

Children: #HACKED

[tinyqueenusagi-chan]

Also if you have a crying kid give them a cup of water. You can’t cry and drink at the same time and it gives them a chance to calm down.

Tell them their going to run out of tears so they drink the water.

My mom does this at her preschool after awhile the other children start offering the crying child little cups of water.

[maxanaxam]

Stuff like this is also a great test to see if the kid is actually seriously injured! Because with how much some kids cry over tiny bumps and scrapes, it can be hard to tell. But if you slap a Band-Aid on it or give them a cup of water or a piece of candy and they stop crying, they’re fine. If they keep crying despite whatever little placebo or distraction you’ve given them, you might wanna look a little closer at that injury or seek medical attention.

[raincloudsandsunbeams]

With my two’s class we ask them “more hurt or more scary?” It takes a bit of practice but after a few times they can answer without more prompting. More scary gets a hug and more hurt gets a look over.

[markingatlightspeed]

That last one is so important because it validates the child’s feelings and tells them it’s okay to have these feelings and lets them learn how to deal with them, rather than just distracting them from them. I also helps teach the child to both communicate their feelings more readily and communicate when they’re hurt more clearly. All really important skills for a child to develop young.

[nbpotatoparent]

TTC

Hi. I haven’t written in a long while. It’s been hard. My husband and I saw a doctor in January because I rarely ovulate. Good thing we did go to a doctor after only TTC for 6 months, since the doctor knew to tell us that because of my autoimmune disease I have greatly lowered fertility. This was, of course, a shock. I cried for a week and then my husband told me to seek professional help. I did, and the talking helps. It really helps to talk things out with a professional. I still have 5 more appointments. After the doctor’s visit we began infertility treatmetns right away. The first treatment (medication at home, to force my body to ovulate) did not work. I have another appointment for the same doctor this following week. I hope to either increase the dosage or switch to another medicine. We’ll see.

[nbpotatoparent]

Not pregnant. I just cried all day yesterday.

[nbpotatoparent]

Made a positive test today, it's dpo 12 and my periods should start tomorrow but they wont since i'm preggo. I'm super scared tho, since last month was the same and then i had an early misscarriage. Scared it will happen again

[nbpotatoparent]

Had a miscarriage 28.9.2021

[kaity--did]

Tonight on My Husband Doesn’t Know How to Baby Talk

“Ma’am, are you aware that these, right here are your hands? They belong to you. And you get to decide what happens with them. So when you use these hands to pull your binky out of your mouth that is not necessarily a dad problem. I’ll fix it obviously i just want you to acknowledge it’s not my fault”

[kaity--did]

Husband: ma’am it has been reported lately that you do in fact have tiny little toes and a little button nose, do you care to comment?

Penny Rose: Babbles in Baby

Husband: RIVETING!

[kaity--did]

Penny Rose: Does that High Pitched Baby Yell ™️

Husband: Let it out friend! Feel your feelings!

[kaity--did]

Me: Hehehe silly husband doesn’t know how to do baby talk

All of tumblr collectively at my husband:

[kaity--did]

Penny Rose: does a sad baby scream

Husband: you don’t even have to understand taxes yet! I can explain them but you’ve got several years before that’s relevant!

Penny Rose: wide eyes, staring at her father, almost intrigued

Husband: I lied to you Penny your mother does our taxes. Do you want to know about arbitration? I know all about arbitration.

[nbpotatoparent]

Dpo3 and somehow coping with the wit. Why does days go by so slow

[nbpotatoparent]

Began ovulation testing today! Used the Clearblue digital test. Negative, but since it's the first day I expected that.

[nbpotatoparent]

I ordered Clearblue digital ovulation tests for this cycle. I didn't like having to try read the cheaper tests' results so I hope these digital tests will be easier to read and less stressful to use

[brainsanalysis-deactivated20210]

Hello please reblog this if you're okay with people sending you random asks to get to know you better

[nbpotatoparent]

Period started today. Welp