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It's a gorgeous early summer night and I'm sitting on my porch with a joint the night before I finish a Master's degree in early childhood education and my husband just brought me snacks and I'm 32 and trans and spent a decade of my life wanting to die.
I guess what I'm saying is that to all my trans siblings who want to die: Impossible joy and peace can exist for you. Hold on. You deserve to live to see this. It's coming.
Okay, so when people try to speak on BIPOC's involvement in queer history, it is often simplified into just being about individual people like Marsha P. Johnson. While I am never going to say we should talk less about Marsha, I think it would be worth exploring more how BIPOC have a queer history of their own and often it's outside of just the context of the United States of America.
Prioritizing certain stories from QTBIPOC, can slip fairly quickly into erasure. So here is a reminder: colonial powers benefit when we only focus on individuals and erase the long complex queer histories of cultures that have been colonized. Cultures and communities that have been colonized deserve space in our discussions of queer history.
Maybe next time you hear someone boil down queer BIPOC's impact on the queer culture to the same short list of names, maybe question that. Challenge yourself to learn about lesser known stories, and even try to open yourself up to learning about cultural histories of queerness rather than just reading stories that are individual based.
This is a big reason I hate the modern conflating of drag and camp.
Drag is an art form with its roots in African American trans culture. Camp is a form of self expression based on personal over the top aesthetic outside the conventional norms. They are related but absolutely distinct, and flattening them into the same term does a disservice to both art forms AND minimizes drag as an explicitly queer and black part of LGBTQ+ history.
I don’t like how I’m kinda expected to rewrite the first 20 years of my life just because I’m trans. I was the eldest daughter in a black household. I can’t go back and edit my history to say I was the eldest son, cuz that doesn’t accurately convey the certain standards I was held to. I was the only girl in my engineering class. I can’t leave out the “girl” part. It recontextualizes the entire situation. I don’t think either of those facts invalidates my current gender and I don’t think trans people should be expected to rewrite their own history in fear of that
As a trans man I actually want to do a little reach across the transphobia isle and talk about "the butch shortage"
Because I believe the butch shortage is a real thing. The reason I believe that is because I'm a gay man who's into femboys and there is also a fairly gnarly Femboy shortage. But I think, if you're really a feminist, you'll understand me when I say that there's a fairly obvious reason for that that has nothing to do with trans people.
I know you spend 100% of your time obsessing over us, but trans people are not actually that common, we're common enough, but it's like demonizing red heads or twins. Additionally if you talked to a trans man instead of just deciding what our deal is for us the way that cis men do for you, you'd know that the "lost lesbian sister" thing doesn't bear out in practice. I like men. A lot of us like men. A lot of us also aren't very masculine, personally for me even if we lived in a post gender society where sex traits didn't mean anything I would still be on testosterone and cutting my boobs off because I just don't like those body parts. My life would be easier as a cis woman, I'd make more money, I'd have an easier time dating, I wouldn't have had to fight my family, but my body just wouldn't be right.
The point is that if I wasn't transitioning, I wouldn't be butch, I'd be dead or I'd be a feminine scene girl Instagram influencer who's boyfriend in a marginally successful screamo band who is holding her back from jumping and locking up the sharps or has joined a super goth 27 club suicide pact with her. Like you guys are not bagging me as your butch gf I've got long green hair and I'm paying luxury car amounts of money for a penis because I want to make a guy's masquara run down his face while I fuck his throat so bad it makes me look stupid.
No trans guys are not your enemy, some of them are masc and like women but those guys would have transitioned in any decade, there's evidence of them doing that going back as long as we've been writing things down. It's guys like me who have an easier time pretending to be female that are running up the transition numbers in the 21st century. In the 50s I would have just killed myself as soon as I got pregnant and that would have been that because as a feminine homosexual manhood wouldn't have been worth transitioning into at the time.
The butch shortage is actually happening because people who would be happier as butches are pretending to be feminine straight women. The same way the Femboy shortage is because all the men who want to be feminine are DL. I know this because I go onto Grindr and I see 12 men who are like "oh I like to cross dress please fuck my ass but I won't send you a face pic" and then if I meet up with that guy I'll find him in a frat house and he'll meet me wearing a hoodie and basketball shorts and he'll have a secret drawer where he keeps his lingerie. It's like, dire out there. The men that the gods put on this earth to be makeup twinks are not becoming women, they're becoming Brad. And so, because misogyny is reinforced with violence, I must assume that the women put on this earth to wear a pit stained wifebeater and a cut off jean shorts and cut their hair off are becoming Chelsea with perfect makeup and long bleached hair and entering undiscussed lavender marriages with Brad the would be makeup twink, when she should be dating you (well probably not you because you're deeply unpleasant, but a lesbian who's into butches) and he should be dating me.
Society is not convincing butch women they're men it's convincing them they're trad wives. As it had been doing for centuries. This is obvious to anyone who understands how the patriarchy works.
personally I think if your first response to "have you considered transitioning" is to list the ways women are expected to perform in society that you don't want to be expected to comply with, what you need is estrogen plus feminism, not more experience with makeup
like girl let's be be so for real right now none of the dykes I know are shaving for anybody. that is not a mandatory task. you could be so free all you have to do is reach out and take it my friend
i talk about transitioning and all anyone ever says is "I hope you don't regret it" what if instead we said I hope you love it. I hope it's everything you ever wanted. I hope you live the rest of your life in utter bliss. etc etc.
I hope you transition and I hope it's the best thing you ever did and I hope you never look back and I hope you finally feel comfortable in your own skin
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lesbian couple on their wedding day after 72 years together, photographed by Thomas Greyer
When I was born, there was not a single country in the world where they could have gotten married.
In the year 2000, there was not a single country in the world where they could have gotten married.
The first country to legalize same sex marriage was the Netherlands in 2001.
Now, in 2026, there are thirty-eight countries with same-sex marriage, with another two on average being added every year (x). Including three of the most populous countries in the world (the US, Brazil, and Mexico, x).
Altogether, over a billion people now live somewhere that same-sex marriage is legal. Twenty-five years ago, that number was zero.
Things are hard right now, but in so many ways they are so much better than they have been for a very, very long time.
Never lose hope, never kill yourself, love wins.
Queer joy detected!
Okay, so when people try to speak on BIPOC's involvement in queer history, it is often simplified into just being about individual people like Marsha P. Johnson. While I am never going to say we should talk less about Marsha, I think it would be worth exploring more how BIPOC have a queer history of their own and often it's outside of just the context of the United States of America.
Prioritizing certain stories from QTBIPOC, can slip fairly quickly into erasure. So here is a reminder: colonial powers benefit when we only focus on individuals and erase the long complex queer histories of cultures that have been colonized. Cultures and communities that have been colonized deserve space in our discussions of queer history.
Maybe next time you hear someone boil down queer BIPOC's impact on the queer culture to the same short list of names, maybe question that. Challenge yourself to learn about lesser known stories, and even try to open yourself up to learning about cultural histories of queerness rather than just reading stories that are individual based.
This is a big reason I hate the modern conflating of drag and camp.
Drag is an art form with its roots in African American trans culture. Camp is a form of self expression based on personal over the top aesthetic outside the conventional norms. They are related but absolutely distinct, and flattening them into the same term does a disservice to both art forms AND minimizes drag as an explicitly queer and black part of LGBTQ+ history.
I think it’s time to fully deprecate LGBT/LGBTQ/etc and fully roll out “queer” for all purposes.
We need to stop letting them cherry pick the letters they care about and realize that an attack on the most marginalized in our communities is actually an attack on all of us. They're just testing the waters by coming for the most vulnerable of us first.
I used to get a lot of hate for using the word "queer" in the title of this project. One of the justifications I gave was that LGBT+ was too easy to take apart. Just drop whatever letter you don't like and go on with your day.
My posts have gotten tagged LGB more and more often lately. Usually accompanied by the worst additions imaginable. People are starting to whittle down and choose who they think of as disposable, so let me say this:
Queer as in trans people
Queer as in asexual people
Queer as in aromantic people
Queer as in nonbinary people
Queer as in bisexual people
Queer as in unlabled people
Queer as in anyone who counts themselves as queer.
Queer as in no questions asked, just an open door and a place to stay.
Anyway, I was queer before it was legal and I'm still queer now
I grew up not knowing a single trans person til I was in my twenties and I still turned out trans as shit
There's millions of us and we're everywhere and we're better than ever at connecting with each other.
join your local queer discord / signal / affinity space / community center wherever and whenever you can. as always link up with each other. c'mon out to OITO if you're local to us. go to that cheesy meetup for old gay fogeys if that's all you can find. whatever!!
that's how we've always survived. the joyful histories we have are of small groups loving each other closely. find you one.
YEAH BUD first thing you do is you get yourself to CenterLink!
Find a CenterLink Member in our LGBTQ Community Center Directory
Find your closest one. Get to their website and sign up for their mailing list. Then go over to Programs or Events or Offerings or whatever they got and pick one. Put it on your calendar. Show up.
If you don't have transportation, if you don't know which one to pick, if you're not sure about any of this: EMAIL THEM. Introduce yourself. Say "hi, I need my people".
I'm so serious, there are people employed by centers all over this dang map whose job is to check their email and go, "oh! Hello, a new queer person near me! How can I get you hooked into our network of support and care? Here's three suggestions you tell me what works!"
If there isn't one near you, email the nearest anyway. Say "hi, I'm located here, you're the closest one I got, what you got for me?" The answer may be "sorry, nothing", but it may also be "here's a meetup right next to you! It's offline but we know about it because that's our job. Go say hi."
That's probably plenty for now. But just in case you want another way in, here is the NEXT THING YOU DO. Check the EIQ map:
and find you a gay third space near you. Coffee shop, bookstore, comic shop, what-have-you.
Go. Sit in the corner and be shy the first time. Check the bulletin board for events and meetups.
The best way to find good online spaces, too, is to show up offline and ask.
Good luck frand.
#be shy however many times you need but keep going
^^^ EXACTLY THIS.
Show up. Go to the thing. You don’t have to be a sparkling socializer, you don’t have to forge deep and lifelong bonds on day one. You will still benefit from going, and the space will be better because you are there.
And, one more possible way: join your local community theater group if you’re a theater gay, or if you ever thought you might be. See if you can find your people there. Make friends and tell stories. I have never bonded with people faster and stronger than when I built a story with them.
Last week I talked with the playwright of the play I’m directing, who was gay in the 1950s and lived through bar raids when the fash were arresting us for cross-dressing. “Impersonating”. Her stories are going up on stage this weekend because my cast is telling them again, and in so doing we’re connecting more deeply with each other.
I also sat for an interview about Shapeshifters with a local historical society. They recorded my stories for the future. I talked about the play too. Carrying it forward.
The way we get through this is together. Caring for each other in messy close-knit chaotic networks of care and favors traded and stories told is how we see the next decade. I posted this last November and it’s a year later now and it’s grim out here but there are lights in the darkness. And they are us. We hold candles for each other.
Hi, I'm Eli Coughlin-Galbraith. I owned and ran, with my part… Eli Coughlin-Galbraith needs your support for Support Shapeshifters through a
Hi everybody. Eli here.
Here's that second part of the post I promised.
On December 19th, the day after signing that sale contract, we received word that the FDA had sent Shapeshifters a letter, and sent similar letters to eleven other companies that sell chest binders. The gist: they allege that chest binders are medical devices, and are subject to a large host of regulations. The FDA Commissioner also made a series of statements at the same time, which appeared to target the same set of companies, but did not align with anything said in the letters. (Source)
And of course: not every shapewear company received a letter like this. Underworks is absent from the list of recipients. So is Spanx. So is any company that sells compression shirts, rash guards, or sports bras.
The target is clear. In all posted letters, any phrase that contains the word “dysphoria” is cited. In one case, “gender euphoria” is cited (source). If you use these words, you’re in violation. If you sell binders for cis men, you’re not.
This is a targeted action against transgender folks, just like every other targeted action against transgender folks that this administration takes. No-one we have consulted has been surprised, only grim. The only real option available to us is to respond within the system, with professional help, in expensive and stressful ways.
On top of all this, Shopify, the current store platform, just disabled its built-in payment processor because we have been anonymously flagged as “predatory or deceptive” by anonymous “banking partners” whose decision is final. If you’d like to let Shopify know what you think of them cutting off the income of trans people without process or recourse, I suggest sending a message to the “Trust and Safety” team at [email protected]. To be clear, this will probably have no effect.
A lot of really kind and wonderful folks have reached out to ask how they can help. So we set up a legal fund to defray some of the costs of responding to the FDA while the store income is down, and that is here: https://gofund.me/4dd707af7
All proceeds of this fundraiser will go to covering legal costs of responding to the FDA. If we exceed the goal, the excess will cover lost business income from Shopify cutting off credit card processing.
Bryce and Gwen are doing an incredible job of getting up to speed on all the regular operations of Shapeshifters amidst all of this shit, and I could not be prouder or more impressed by how they've taken the helm. I cannot wait to see how they run Shapeshifters when given a damn minute to breathe. Thank you all for your support in helping them get there.
All my love,
Eli
I know things are tight for so many of us right now, but I've been blessed to know Shapeshifters and the amazing queer people running it from nearly the beginning and it would mean the world to me if we were able to chip in to keep them from being unfairly shut down.
reminder that "allies welcome" was once secret code for "those not out yet can still participate without putting themselves at risk", and for those who aren't out yet to comfortably exist in these spaces you have to let allies exist in those spaces too.
this is also important for queer people who don't know anyone else there. let them bring their friend, even if the friend is cishet. many would rather not go at all, rather than go somewhere alone.
It is always better to let respectful cishets into our spaces than to try and police who is queer enough to be allowed.
When I was in high school (2004 - 2008, not that long ago), we had exactly one out person. One.
We also didn't have a Gay Straight Alliance chapter yet. Virtually every support group you could find, even in navy blue states, was a local chapter of the GSA. You were much more likely to find that acronym than LGBTQ+.
Our school decided we wanted one, but we wanted to be inclusive, because we knew there were other letters. We called our group "Spectrum", because it would cover everyone, including allies.
It took three meetings in front of the school's board of directors to get permission for the club to exist. Again, this was a private school, in a mid-Atlantic state that has been navy blue and "progressive" for decades (even at that point).
Other than the one (1) kid who was out? Every single other member said we were Allies.
Nearly 20 years later, almost every single one of us is out as some flavor of queer.
A lot of us knew we were huge supporters of queer rights, we just didn't quite know all the reasons why yet. Asexuality wasn't discussed the way it is now, neither was any type of gender nonconformity. Hell, bisexuality was barely acknowledged, and even then it was mostly only given a nod as "girls who turn guys on by kissing girls" (biphobia was strong, and unfortunately still is).
Making sure allies have a space at our table ensures that people have the space to explore their own identity, to question if one of our labels might work for them too.
It also allows people who may have some baked-in prejudices realize that those prejudices are wrong. That we're not evil and hateful, that we are actually pretty nice and friendly.
One time, some friends and I were at a pretty famous local gay bar, and this guy walked in looking like he was ripped out of the pages of Redneck Magazine. He looked super uncomfortable, but he was polite to the hostess and she sat him alone, near us. A lot of people were tense, and watching him out of the corner of our eyes, because we all knew what happened at Pulse.
But one of my friends is the person who knows absolutely everyone and goes out of their way to make new friends. He's also a cis straight guy. He leans over, compliments the guy's Carhartt jacket, and asks if he's ever been to the place before.
The guy, who is still kind of tense, says his name is Johnny and no, he's never been to no queer bar before, but his sister just came out to the family. Their parents were awful about it, and while he "didn't understand it", he didn't think his sister should be disowned and hated the thought of seeing her cry, so he wanted to try and understand.
I remembered the story that's made the rounds here- about the guy named Earl who went to a drag show and everyone made him feel welcome because they knew he needed to have a good time to prove we queer folks were safe.
So I invited Johnny to sit with us. "It's more fun than sitting alone. Here, have some of my fries, I'm probably not going to finish them anyway."
He sat at our table, and when he found out that my friend was also a cis straight guy, he visibly relaxed. So did a lot of other patrons, once they realized he wasn't there to cause violence.
Over the next few hours, he ate great food, had a couple beers, clapped and smiled at the drag shows, and asked a LOT of questions. At first, he was using language we might call "un-PC" (the kind that would get you cancelled on this webbed site). But he realized we were using different words, and asked. He asked why the old words were wrong, why the newer ones were right, and how not to be offensive.
The staff found out what was going on, and eventually a card got passed around the whole joint and everyone wrote supportive messages for Johnny's sister Lila. This big tough man felt safe enough to cry a little in front of us queer strangers, because we instantly accepted his sister as one of our own, as family, even though we'd never met her.
I'd later found out from the staff that Johnny had returned, more than once. A couple times with Lila herself, and a couple times with his friends... who were gruff and suspicious at first, but won over by the end of the night.
We need to be a safe space for allies. For people who may not use all the Correct And Accepted Special Words but genuinely want to understand and accept us. As someone who is both asexual and nonbinary, I felt way safer with Johnny (despite him using outdated terminology for a while) than I do with a lot of people on THIS QUEER ASS WEBSITE.
Allies are sometimes members of the family that don't even know they're in the closet yet, because they don't know the closer includes people like them.
Allies are sometimes people who don't know the right words or behaviors, but still want to support someone they love.
Scooting over and making a safe, welcoming space for allies will always be important. And it will help us get closer to that world of acceptance we want to see.
i think there are more aros and aces in the world than we realize. i think it's a far more common thing than most people consider it to be.
i think there are millions of aspec people who are in normal romantic relationships because they're just like me. because love is a choice to them, not a feeling, and they've never been in a position where they've had to question how they experience love. because the way they've learned to love is enough. because i'm enough. and that's a world i enjoy living in
and i'm going to say this before this post leaves my tumblr circle:
yes i am saying that being asexual and/or aromantic is probably more common than we think
yes i do still believe that actively identifying as aro or ace makes you queer even if the experience of being either of those things is likely more common than we think
no i am not taking questions
What is transandrophobia and why is it called that? By the guy who coined it and is kind of tired of seeing it defined in the opposite of what it's meant to describe.
In it's most simple definition. Transandrophobia is the way that the fear of men impacts the material reality and mental/physical health of transgender men.
Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men and/or masculinity effects transgender men’s ability to access queer and transgender spaces, sexual assault survivor resources, and reproductive health care.
Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men and/or masculinity holds back transgender men from transitioning or from presenting as masculine.
Transandrophobia, is the way the fear of men and/or masculinity results in the disowning of transgender men from previous found families and the isolation of transgender men in general.
Transandrophobia, is the way the fear of men and/or masculinity has resulted in people using their trauma as an excuse for abusing transgender men, physically, sexually, and emotionally.
Transandrophobia, is the way the fear of men has resulted in people refusing admittance to “male identified people” to certain queer events and safe spaces.
Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of masculinity has led to people assuming that butches across the gender spectrum are inherently violent and hyper-sexual.
Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men and/or masculinity results in the forced feminization of transgender men in queer spaces, with the insistence that those who refuse to feminize themselves to make others more comfortable should not be allowed entrance to certain queer spaces.
Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men has led people to assuming that butches who were assigned female at birth, are at risk of becoming the enemy (a man) and should not be given the same amount of trust as a feminine presenting cis woman.
Transandrophobia, is when that the fear of men being in women’s spaces prevents trans men and non-binary people who present as male from accessing gynecological care, abortions, and birth control.
Transandrophobia, is when transgender men must make themselves smaller to be seen as “one of the good ones” and it is when a trans man who is loud or sexual or Black or Brown or too masculine is seen as a threat to the safety of other transgender people.
Transandrophobia, is when transgender men who speak up about how the normalized way of speaking ill about men in feminist and queer spaces has made them activity suicidal, de-transition, or prevented them from transitioning, are told to “shut up and sit down” or “good.”
Transandrophobia, is not when trans men face misogyny – that is just a trans man facing misogyny (which all trans men face, because misogyny and sexism effects everyone, not just women). However, transandrophobia is when someone says that trans men don’t face misogyny because they are men, make claims that trans men benefit from misogyny since they are men, or insist that trans men’s experiences with misogyny aren’t as valid or as bad as when a woman or non-male person faces misogyny.
Transandrophobia, is when trans men’s struggles are dismissed as being less important, because men don’t need help or men already have help or men don't face real struggles.
Transandrophobia, is when people refuse to acknowledge that the patriarchy see’s transgender men as failed women and not men, which is why transgender men do bot benefit from the patriarchy but are instead violently and systematically punished by it.
Transandrophobia is that and a whole lot more, I would need a book to describe the entirety of the issue, I have been writing a book on it for over six years and re-writing it over and over because if I say it wrong, or say it with too much emotion, or not enough emotion, or with too many numbers, or not enough numbers, and publish it without using perfect wording, trans men might not get another chance to speak up for a long ass time and we will once again have to find new words to say "Pretty please treat me like a human being and let me have access to the things I need in order to survive." and "Pretty please consider that if a large group of people from a minority are telling you they are being oppressed by these actions and fears, then maybe you should believe them or at least the material statistical evidence of that oppression, since you probably trust journals more than us describing our reality and lived experiences."
A question!
When you say that transandrophobia is not trans men facing misogyny, are you saying that you don’t think that misogyny is a part of how transandrophobia functions and that misogyny and transandrophobia are separate things, or that there are experiences of trans men which would better be discussed as ‘misogyny’ than ‘transandrophobia’ because transandrophobia is more specific than misogyny + transphobia for trans men (which can be described as misogyny against trans men and transphobia against trans men) and more an intermingling of those two forces with anti-masculinity.
Because I’ve seen a few people interpreting it as the former, while I had an interpretation of that paragraph more like the latter.
I mean: There are experiences of trans men which would better be discussed as ‘misogyny’ than ‘transandrophobia’ because transandrophobia is more specific than misogyny + transphobia for trans men.
For example, if a trans man is told he shouldn't enter the STEM field because his brain is hardwired for humanitarian studies instead of math because he's afab, that's sexism and misogyny. However, if a trans man is told that he shouldn't transition while he's in his STEM major because it will ruin his reputation as being an educated female and that his transition will break the hearts of young girls who want to enter STEM that's transandrophobia. Or if a trans man has a scholarship for women in STEM and transitions, only to get his scholarship revoked because he's no longer a woman in STEM, that's transandrophobia - because it's the removal of a needed support system that would have allowed an under repsesnted gender minority (men of the trans experience) acsess to a field of study that aggressively blocks people like him for entering, under the assumption that "now he's a man, he doesn't deserve this support".
Transandrophobia was coined to talked about a specific topic. Most queer people are willing to admit that trans men face misogyny (though they will usually insist that it doesn't effect us as much or that it's only if we're not passing, which isn't true) however, rarely will people admit that trans mens issues do not begin and end with "basic vanilla misogyny" or they will refuse to acknowledge that some forms of systematic oppression and lateral aggressions directed at trans men have nothing to do with being perceived as or assumed to be a cisgender woman, but instead have to do with us being perceived as a transgender man. (And being perceived as a transgender man means being perceived on a spectrum that includes everything from failed/broken woman to violent male threat, or often both at the same time by the same person)
@boreal-sea
So, firstly: I fully support Saint in clarifying how he defines the word he coined. I think that's great! I can absolutely see the usefulness of this term.
A-polite-melody is tagging me here because I made a post saying that due to Saint's clarifications, I will not be using transandrophobia to describe my personal experiences, and instead I will be using anti-transmasculinity and/or transmisandry. This is because for me, anti-transmasculinity IS when I face misogyny. For me, misogyny is not separable from transphobia or from a fear of men and how that affects my livelihood as a transmasc person.
Some people find it useful to only talk about the way a fear of men influences transmascs. That's great. More power to everyone! I fully agree that "the way the fear of men affects the material reality and mental/physical health of transgender men" is 100% a thing transmascs deal with! And I think including that is absolutely vital to any definition of anti-transmasculinity.
I personally need a term that is broader. I need a term that includes everything covered by Saint's definition of transandrophobia, plus more. I need it to include misogyny and sexism, a fear of men/masculinity, and transphobia, and it needs to incorporate how all of those intersect to affect me as a transmasc person.
I was among the people who thought misogyny was an inherent part of transandrophobia, and I was defining it as such. I will stop doing that moving forward!
For folks who like transandrophobia as a term, please continue on!! I support you!!!
Thank you!
There is 100% room for multiple terms that overlap in out community to discuss our issues. Transandrophobia is a part of anti-transmasculinity. I don't use the term anti-transmasculinity, because for me it's too broad of a topic and too vague (for me to be able) to write about in a way that is effective at tackling the material issues that trans men face. (Again, for me specifically. I'm sure other people out there are utilizing it in a productive way that advocates for change. And I'm sure many other are just happy to have it as a way of having a word to use when you need to vent!!)
Transandrophobia, as a word, is specific because it's meant to allow people to effectively discuss how to make changes in our communities to prevent the intentional erasure of trans men in queer spaces while providing a dialect on why those issues exist (because people are afriad of us or of who we might hypothetically become like, due to patriarcal trauma being unchecked and allowed to manifest into its own oppressive force).
Having a strong vocabulary of words to create a productive dialect is an important part of any movement and words will naturally develop as people find ways to explain our shared experiences and our communities needs.
Pornography remains an important part of queer expression! Queer people deserve space to explore/express their sexuality. Rejecting the expression of sexuality because some people do it in an exploitative way or get addicted would be like closing the Stonewall Inn because they were run by the mafia at one point or because they sell beer which can be addictive. Sexuality is an important part of the queer community and stopping queer people from expressing that is a form of oppression. Queer people deserve to enjoy their sexuality without shame!
Porn can and does exist ethically. I am so grateful to know queer sex workers, and I love not only them but also their work. I'm not ashamed of the ways queer porn has been a part of my development. I am so grateful for works from Elana Dykewomon which includes explicit sex or erotica from authors like Kathryn Moon who express sexuality in a beautiful and emotionally powerful way. Shutting down human sexuality is not something I am interested in engaging in.
In a world where our very existence is inherently sexual to the people trying to strip us of our rights, your porn phobia will not protect you.
You cannot be acceptable enough for these people. So just be a freak about it.
