Media By Non-Binary People

Welcome!   This blog is dedicated to Media created by Nonbinary people and for Nonbinary people! We accept submissions and will be posting original works from the mods as well as boosting the work of awesome Nonbinary creators! Blog creator is Mod Tristen, Blog runner is Mod Skye   ~ Askbox is open! ~

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QUESTION WEDNESDAY!

Sorry for the absence last week y’all!

This week I wanted to ask:

What are some great costumes for Nonbinary folks? Additionally, if you celebrate, what are you dressing up as for halloween??

If you really wanna go hogwild I’d love to see some pictures of y’all! Feel free to submit :D

I look forward to seeing everyone’s response!

~Mod Skye

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Answer Sunday!

It’s time for Answer Sunday!

This Question Wednesday has been undoubtedly the most productive one so far, I’ve been so beyond excited to be getting these music recs and it’s so lovely and special to be able to share them. 

That said, lets get into the responses on the post!

@muggle-the-hat​ , that’s awesome! I’m right there with you on the whole playlist thing, maybe that was my ulterior motive this week, just accumulate all the nonbinary boogies lol. Keep making music friend!

@rainwindandstars​ , this is such a really weird and interesting song, thank you for the rec! It’s definitely not the type of music that I myself listen to, but I’m honestly so glad that nonbinary rep is present in wide range of musical styles. How much would it suck to only have a single genre of music represent a huge culture of people? Hooray for the musical diversity, and I hope this song is something a follower might love :)

@morganthefae​ This is the hot take I needed!! David Bowie is an eternal idol, and due to me not living my best life I have somehow not listened to these songs so I remedied that immediately and hoo lemme tell you. I wish people from my parent’s generation talked more about the gender non-conformity of the icons of this era, because these are such wonderful ‘fuck you gender’ songs. Thank you so much for sharing and I’m going to go fall down a youtube rabbit hole of David Bowie now. Links: Rebel Rebel, Lady Stardust

If you guys have any further music recs feel free to send them in, I love getting them any day of the week!

What an amazing week, thank you all and I’ll see ya next Wednesday! 

~Mod Skye

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I Am Her by the amazing and wonderful soul that is Shea Diamond is like a personal trans anthem she wrote for herself, and it's SO GOOD. It's about taking pride in yourself and being confident about who you are and not being afraid to be you even if that means being different. "Don't care too much what other people say / I get along swell by my goddamn self / Never asked for no one's philosophy / It's obvious I'm proud of me" YESSSS

Now this is an ANTHEM wow, it’s so hardcore and also so heckin groovy. It’s safe to say I’m a little in love. 

If you need a trans power song this is it friends, what a legend.

Thank you so so much for sharing this anon!

~Mod Skye

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The song Bird, You Can Fly by Eyemèr is so soothing and comforting imo.

This song made me feel so many emotions and genuinely made me tear up a little bit. I read Eyemèr’s comment on their own video about coming out and I would recommend checking it out. 

Thank you for this lovely song rec anon, what a lovely lovely piece. 

~Mod Skye

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there's an iffy reading of girls/girls/boys, the obvious one, which sounds like a guy saying "I wish this girl wasn't a lesbian; she still likes me right? I'm available, girl!" but I like to instead interpret it instead as the narrator is an amab enby and likes a bi girl who only likes girls and boys, but the narrator is still willing to pretend to date her if necessary so she doesn't have to face homophobia (I get enby from "I don't wanna hear you've got a boyfriend" combined with "I don't(1/2)

(2/2) ever wanna be your boyfriend" from different times through the chorus. and the song is clearly about being in love with this girl.... alternately trans girl lesbian hoping a fellow lesbian sees her as a girl but as an enby I obviously prefer the enby reading.)

Oh this is a super interesting take on this song! This one I’ve heard quite alot and I’d never put that spin on it before, thank you for sharing!

I love finding ways to queer popular music, sometimes it’s really easy, sometimes it a stretch, but it’s always a fun and vaguely rebellious little thing to do. 

If anyone hasn’t heard this song here is the lyric video!

~Mod Skye

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Am I A Girl? by Poppy isn't my typical jam but that feeling of wanting to just be the gender you're assigned and everything making more sense but it making less sense because it's just not who you are definitely feels familiar.

Oh wow yeah this song is a whole nonbinary mood, it’s not something I would necessarily consider my style either but I really love it.

“Don’t evaluate me as woman or man” mood Poppy, mood. 

Thanks so much for sending this song rec in!!

~Mod Skye

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I LOVE the message Jinkx Monsoon sings in Gender Binary Blues, but it's absolutely one of those songs I can't subtly throw at people around me since it's not covert at all. Absolute anthem, though.

Another absolute BOOGIE of a song, but you are so right it is not subtle at all lol. 

Linking here to the audio-only version as the music video is fairly nsfw. 

Thank you so much for sharing this song, what a great rec!

~ Mod Skye

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Mal Blum is a nonbinary musician. They toured with Welcome to Night Vale, and I got to see one of the live shows where they performed. They/them are sometimes my pronouns and this was the first time I'd ever seen someone using them and having them just be completely respected and normalized and not treated as a big deal. I cried there in the theater in the dark, trying to hide it from my mom and sister (I'm closeted), but I felt so connected and alive. And I love Mal's music.

That’s such a lovely experience to have, thank you so much for sharing <3

I looked up some of their music and I am a new fan of theirs, here’s one of my favorite songs I’ve listened to so far! 

Also Welcome to Nightvale is amazing for inclusivity they’ve always done a great job and I love the show. 

~Mod Skye

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Body Was Made by Ezra Furman has been my enbe JAM ever since someone recommended it to me. I just listen to it on repeat for hours when I'm feeling unseen or invalidated.

This is a great recommendation!! I had never heard his music before and this song is a straight up boogie. It's got almost a motown feel, it's so enjoyable and fun! 

It's also a bit discreet without mentioning anything explicity nonbinary which I kinda love because not only is it a safe song to jam out to around other even if you're not out, but it can be uplifting and lovely for all sorts of people. Thanks for sending this in! 

~Mod Skye

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So you guys CAME THROUGH with the music suggestions, I’m listening to some of them tonight but I’m gonna take my time (and also not post all of them this late at night lol) and start posting the asks tomorrow. This is legit the biggest response I’ve ever gotten on a Question Wednesday so thank you <3

~Mod Skye

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!! QUESTION WEDNESDAY!!

Hello friends! Sorry for the silence on Sunday, there were actually no answers to post as all the responses had been sent in via our askbox! 

As for our Question Wednesday Question:

Let’s talk about nonbinary music and musicians! Shoutout yourself or talk about some of your favorite songs or artists! 

Are there songs you feel encapsulate the nonbinary experience even if they’re not specifically about it? Are there nonbinary or ally artists that you want to support? Are you nonbinary and want to tell us about your music?? 

Reply to this post, send in an ask or submission, or reblog this post and tell us about it! Asks and submissions will be shared as they come in, all other replies will be collected for Answer Sunday!

I look forward to seeing what you guys send in!!

~Mod Skye

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About the mental health + gender question, for me complex PTSD makes it hard to trust my own judgment about my gender due to general gaslighting experiences. Also ADHD + recurring depression left me with really low self-esteem so it's hard in general to feel positive about myself, including my gender, not feel ashamed of it or too scared of rejection and actually come out to people. I'm also afraid people won't take me coming out seriously bc they know I have mental health issues

Hiya Anon,

Thank you for sending this in. It can be really hard to talk about this stuff and I appreciate that you’re willing to add to the conversation. 

That sounds like a really tough situation to be in, one I can sympathize with. Mental health OR figuring out your gender on their own are confusing, but trying to deal with them at the same time is just a fuster cluck. 

I really hope you can find support in the community and in people around you. Even if it’s hard now there are always people who will listen, and this blog always tries to be a safe space to be yourself. 

Hang in there friend <3

~Mod Skye

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Hello! I have a quick question if you don't mind. A story I'm writing has (so far) all but 1 character using the xe pronouns, but as a they user myself I wanted to find the proper conjugation of xe. Unfortunately, each website was a little different. Do you know if there is a very reliable source/master post type thing for the conjugation of xe? Thank you!

Hey! 

So I personally don’t have a lot of experience with that pronoun set, my brief search led to this site which has the options sort of laid out. The set I’m most familiar with is: xe, xem, xyr, xyrself. But beyond that, I’m not sure that there is a definitive source? It looks like there are several totally valid options for conjugation. 

If any other folks either use these pronouns or know of a better resource please feel free to share!

~Mod Skye

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QUESTION WEDNESDAY

Hello friends! Sorry for the delay in getting this out today. 

This Wednesday’s question:

How do you feel that your mental health and your gender interact?

I know that my having depression/anxiety and being autistic definitely factor into my gender expression at times, and I’m curious about everyone else’s experiences!

Feel free to reply by reblogging, sending in an ask or replying to this post, I look forward to hearing from you!

~Mod Skye

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my untreated depression contributed to my gender feeling like a void, and anxiety and dysphoria can feed on each other or spiral quicker than either one alone, but even with getting both depression and anxiety treated I'm still thoroughly enby/genderqueer, just not necessarily agender like I first thought. it's been interesting to re-explore myself with less mental health obstacles

Hi anon!

I’m really glad you’ve now got access to treatment! 

Thank you for sharing that experience, I can definitely see where you’re coming from, and that’s a really interesting way to describe the two intermingling. 

Cheers to you exploring your gender identity in a supported and healthier place!! Best of luck my friend. 

~Mod Skye

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QUESTION WEDNESDAY

Hello friends! Sorry for the delay in getting this out today. 

This Wednesday’s question:

How do you feel that your mental health and your gender interact?

I know that my having depression/anxiety and being autistic definitely factor into my gender expression at times, and I’m curious about everyone else’s experiences!

Feel free to reply by reblogging, sending in an ask or replying to this post, I look forward to hearing from you!

~Mod Skye

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ANSWER SUNDAY!

Hello lovely humans! here are the additional comments from this week’s Question Wednesday!

@proudnb2 Ooooh that’s a really interesting point! I definitely feel the whole non-human entity thing, that’s sort of an ongoing complaint in the community that I’m aware of, but that point about Nonbinary characters seeing things from a different perspective is really interesting. I know personally I love the whole wise outcast trope a whole lot but you’re right, that is definitely one I’ve seen applied to enby characters! I also am a huge sci-fi nerd so *fistbump* Thanks so much for your reply!

@adhdisgay Wow that is a very good point. I am a mentally ill autistic enby so same hat there. I always love that those characters exist and get really excited to see myself in them, because hey, jackpot! But they really do need to be separated on a regular basis, otherwise along with the issues you mentioned we run the risk of sending the message that being Nonbinary is just another mental illness that shows up co-morbid with other issues. Which is for a lot of people v wrong and bad and so not the case it’s not even funny. And I do know that some people feel a v strong connection between being neurodivergent and their gender, but that connection needs to be drawn by the individual and not society at large. Really good points, and thank you for your reply!

@mcfkn Oof yeah that’s definitely hard. Beyond just being nonhuman being visibly different to everyone else is...not always amazing. There are so many different ways to be nonbinary and I feel like the one we see the most of is ‘hey lookit this weirdo!’ which if you wanna rock the stand out and be proudly weird thing, you go for it you funky lil enby, but also that’s not.....everyone. Thank you for your reply!!

These are some AMAZING responses thank you so much you guys!! So basically we need diversification in the representation of enbies is what I’m seeing. Which...I’m sure comes as a surprise to no one. It’s still really interesting to see what trends and themes other people have picked up on, and I love hearing your opinions on stuff!

Please feel free to continue the discussion in the notes of this post, and I’ll catch y’all next Question Wednesday!!

~Mod Skye