i wish we were able to talk about women's rights without someone mentioning how much they do or don't want to have sex with them. i don't care if you're a lesbian Stop finding worth in women purely from their perceived attractiveness
"I think women should not be expected to shave for societal respect / to avoid discrimination" "yeah🤤 i love bush" ok well that's not what we're talking about is it.
i hate how many posts about trans women deserving respect always devolve into "I love girldick" or "trans rights but I don't want to date a trans person" because that's entirely unrelated to the topic at hand. you should not respond to feminism with "YESSS I loveeee you because I see you as nothing but a sex object" you people sound like other men I get stuck talking with that end up saying "free the nipple so I can see boobies in public" and thinking they're feminists. why can't we just respect women regardless of your attraction to them or not. why does it need to be brought up in every conversation regarding their rights
if you want to dress gay but aren’t sure how, you need to focus more on finding clothes you actually like and that make you feel good when you look in the mirror. develop your style independently of what you think looks gayest and trust the homosexuality will follow. it goes where confidence and self acceptance are
Free service with ads: Well, if I'm not paying for it they have to foot the bill somehow.
Paid service with no ads: Well, if they're not funding it with ad revenue, they need to charge us something.
Paid service with ads: Well that's bullshit.
"We used to be a paid service without ads, but now we're putting ads in it! If you want the ad-free version you have to pay more for preeeeemium": Fuck you fuck you fuck you
I cannot stand the parodies of modern major general, they're overdone and simply not as good as the original. They've done them about everything, whatever topic, big or small.
And when i notice one of them my eyes will always start to roll.
The diction's always slurry when they rush the complicated words, and adding many fricatives will turn it so cacophonous. The slanted rhymes are silly and they keep just making more and more, please someone stop the parodies of modern major general.
The scanning of the lyrics in the meter is unbearable, they emphazise the syllables in ways that are untenable, in short in matters musical, prosodic and ephemeral, i cannot stand the parodies of modern major general!
"yes you may be (insert minority label) but you also benefit from (insert perceived privilege) so that means that I, as an (insert minority label) who does not benefit from that privilege have more oppression points than you. this means i can call you slurs with zero backlash"
We all fucking LOVE fibers. We wear them. Eat them. We use hypothetical fibers to explain the unexplainable. We make ART with them - not just the obvious crocheting or needle felting or sewing. Guitars, brushes, all these things. STRING THEORY. And all the media tropes, like the red string of fate. Humanity is obsessed with fiber.
i am often asked 'chuck how did you write POUNDED IN THE BUTT BY MY HUGO AWARD LOSS so quickly?' after ten years i am finally ready to reveal the secret of my speed: you write both
happy disability pride month to mean cripples, nasty addicts, people with down syndrome who arent nice and talk constant shit, wheelchair users that WILL run you over, autists that dont care and arent about to pretend to, people who lie to their psychiatrists, people that sit on the floor in public places with no benches, amputees that lie profusely about "what happened"; to the "noncompliant", the "drug seeking", the "mean", the "difficult" and the "undeserving", and so on and so forth, i love us all and we deserve the world actually mwah mwah
This is going to be a bit of a meandering yarn (pun intended), but hear me out.
As someone who has taught people to crochet, and has had some great mentors and peers, I personally belief that the biggest barriers to people getting good at handcrafts (knitting, crochet, embroidery, etc.) are frustration tolerance and insecurity.
I've had some tantys with my yarn. I've thrown projects accross the room. I've sworn I would never pick up needles again. It's very normal to experience frustration as a crafter. There are enough memes out there that I feel like it's a prerequisite.
I've also had students tell me they are just bad at working with their hands, that they're clumsy, that they can't count (join the club), that something about them is uniquely flawed in such a way that they will never be good at crochet.
And what I've noticed, is that every single person I've met who feels that way is a complete beginner who hasn't given themself the chance.
So, consider the following,
Because handcrafts require persistence and muscle memory in order to become proficient, you will likely not experience the feeling of 'being good at it' for many years, and even then most people experience some amount of imposter syndrome. If you cannot handle the idea of not being good at something after a couple of tries, it might be worth investigating your relationship with instant gratification. Persisting with crochet is a fantastic way to start!
One does not become proficient by simply reading a pattern and completing an object. You become proficient from hundreds of hours of your body doing the same movements until they become second nature. The feeling of your body catching up to you is honestly amazing, and there have been several times during my crochet journey where I could actually feel my metaphorical skill bar go up a little bit.
The hand movements of crochet are very complex (there's a reason why machines can't reproduce them), which makes it hard to pick up. Especially if you've never done handcrafts before. So it's natural it would take most people a bit to get things like tension right.
If I had a dollar for every beginner who told me they're not good at tension...
So, everyone's tension sucks when they're beginners. That's not a secret, you're not uniquely afflicted, your tension sucks because you just started a new craft.
Exceptions including disability, of course. I have mild dyspraxia and I genuinely really struggle with tension in every craft I do. My hands don't work that way. I know people who can't crochet full stop cuz of their disabilities. Trust me, I get it. If you can't do it the way you're taught, find another way. Find something that helps. You're allowed.
Your tension will get better over time, but it will not get better at all if you give up because you're self conscious about being a beginner. You will not be able to read patterns if you tell yourself that you can't read patterns. You will always be stuck if you do not push past your discomfort and challenge yourself.
Please believe that pushing through the beginner anxiety is worth it. Changing your mindset about learning new skills is worth it. Persisting past the frustration is worth it.
