the stars are the same as ever

i have crossed the face of the universe, i poison it to match my grief 27 - she/her - nonbinary butch lesbian 🏳️‍⚧️

[thisaintasceneitsfob]

[probuccalfat]

god forbid you’re a nurse on any form of social media

[probuccalfat]

people will project the entirety of their medical trauma onto you caused by failings of capitalism onto you and feel absolutely convicted in it as if it’s revolutionary to put the punishment of a system’s failing on those who work in an industry that, let’s be real, is largely women.

[probuccalfat]

very rarely do people go into nursing as a profession to harm others. like any career where you are given some form of authority over the vulnerable sectors, there will be weirdos that want to use the field to get access and proximity to people they can abuse, which is a terrible thing to happen in healthcare more than any other field because it’s your health and it’s so vulnerable, but it’s not like… a thing where mean girls or abusers come in droves to this field to exert power. nursing school is not fucking easy and a lot of these weirdos get weeded out pretty fast. most of the bad nurses i know are people who don’t take it seriously enough or understand the complexity of caring for another in that capacity, but it isn’t like… intentional where they get euphoria from abusing patients. they’re just kinda shitty because they probably should have gotten another job but they liked the job security. a lot of bad nurses are also just people put into unsafe patient to nurse ratios or failed by lack of adequate safeguarding. idk. i also wonder if y’all can find a way to talk about your medical trauma and your valid distrust of the system without shitting on a whole population of people uncritically.

[gothhabiba]

men make it absolutely impossible to practice humility

[gothhabiba]

what you say: “I think this is the case”

what men hear: “I have no idea whatsoever, but here’s a totally random guess”

what you say: “I’m not an expert on this subject”

what men hear: “I don’t know anything about this subject and need its bare fundamentals explained to me”

what you say: “I could be better read in this area”

what men hear: “I have never read anything in this area”

[gothhabiba]

like okay fuck it nevermind I’m actually an expert in every subject I’ve ever read or heard about. in fact I know everything.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

If anyone's ever wondering why I come across as such an arrogant bitch on Tumblr it's because I used to work in science with a lot of men and never readjusted my communication style afterward.

[respectissexy]

This is one of my biggest seemingly low-stakes feminist soapboxes. Women are often encouraged to take hedging, consensus-seeking, and checking-in phrases out of their speech in order to seem "more confident". And listen, of course you do not need to say "I think" when you actually know for pretty damn sure, or double-check every little thing you say, or apologize for things that are out of your control.

But there are men in my life who I respect, who I think are generally good communicators, but who have admitted to me that if they do not know the answer to something they will just state their best guess in a confident tone of voice, with no hedging or clarification to warn the listener that what they just said was pulled from their ass.

I once asked my high school boyfriend what noise a platypus makes and he confidently told me "oh they quack" and I said "really? that seems like they'd have different noise-making structures than ducks since they're not birds" and he said "oh yeah you're probably right. I was just guessing." And had no idea why I was mad! I was like, so if I ask you a question you might just bullshit me?? What if I had believed you and gone and repeated that to other people? I could have looked like an idiot. I could have spread misinformation to a ton of people! But I have told that story to other men and had them say "oh yeah I totally do that."

This is so much worse communication than just saying "I don't know but I think..." There shouldn't be campaigns training professional women to sound "more confident," there should be campaigns training professional MEN to stop doing whatever THAT is!

[gothhabiba]

[ID: Chidi Anagonye from The Good Place saying “okay, but that’s worse. You do see how that’s worse, right?” End ID.]

[meat4meat]

"I just can't keep track of the characters in Gideon The Ninth" They are both numbered and color coded.

[lizznotliz]

#if there are too many for you then just give it a hot sec

[raichett]

liking a ship but disliking the distinct set of stock fanon that they have been assigned is like one of those punishments dante came up with when he wrote the worldbuilding for hell in inferno

[mewvore]

"we detected a mature post" yeah I'm in my 30s

[purple--starrrs]

By the way it's like. Really fucked how society's thoughts on epilepsy is just "get over it." Seizures can cause permanent brain damage. Seizures can kill people. Seizures hurt like hell. Allow me to reiterate that seizures can kill people. And you're just gonna casually put flashing lights, a common trigger for seizures in your advertisement, in your animation meme, in your edit, on your billboards, without even thinking about putting a simple disclaimer? That's unbelievable. Your little anime edit could deadass cost a life and you're not gonna put a warning because it's "inconvenient" or "people like that shouldn't be on the internet" (ableist) (the problem exists outside the internet also). Or you'll give insufficient ones like putting it in the captions or only giving like one second before the flashing lights appear, meaning that the trigger's already in motion before anyone who needs the warning can read it and save themselves from literal physical danger.

We need to start commenting under other people's posts about how to properly warn for flashing lights and eyestrain. We need to be emailing and calling companies about their possibly triggering advertisements that could induce seizures. We need to stop tolerating ableism and start speaking up for the more vulnerable.

Also, stop putting epilepsy warnings. That's like saying "warning: schizophrenia" on a post including unreality or "warning: dyslexia" on a post with a typing quirk. First off, the disability mentioned isn't the only group of people that this could trigger. Second, it doesn't truly get the message across and instead makes it worse for those with the disability-- scrolling through the epilepsy tag on Tumblr should get you to view the content of other epileptic people, but no, you just get a bunch of flashing lights and eyestrain, even though you could instead tag for, oh I dunno, flashing lights and eyestrain.

Anyways this Disability Pride, and for every month that comes after, think about epileptic people and others who are triggered by flashing lights/eyestrain. Happy pride to those who experience seizures too frequently due to the unaccommodating and ableist societies we live in!

[chiarrara]

why was messi lowkey serving saddam hussein hiding spot

[eskildit]

okay well i guess we're all just fucking around at this point

[nepenthean-sleep]

what jerma stream was bert mentioned in?

oh god i can't fucking remember, but it was one recently (like within the past few months?) where jerma was complaining about his hair. like "eugh i look like bert mccracken" and i cracked up

[teathattast]

[cheaphalloweencostume]

good morning to horror fans, fat bitches, people with psychosis, they/thems, people who can’t drive, trans women, witches, and single dads. the rest of you... you’re on your own

[creekfiend]

also not for nothing the region we refer to as Appalachia is fucking huge. I live in Northern Georgia which is a very very specific part of Appalachia. even when talking about "southern Appalachia" the landscape and the conditions where I live are often very different from the landscape and the conditions 50 miles away even. I really can't overstate how big Appalachia is. it's not... like, I think in a lot of ways when people talk about Appalachia like that they're telling themselves because they are using "Appalachia" to define a human cultural region, which is how you know that they are just being fucking classist xenophobes who are unfamiliar with any part of what is a huuuuuge fucking region of a huuuuuge fucking continent.

please this post does not address all of the issues with people being weird about appalachia like this because those are frankly infinite

[crematedequally]

Op yes thank you!!! Appalachia is not just a synonym for “the south”! It’s a huge branching area encompassing many cultures!!! This means so much to me because my mom’s family were Appalachian from both the central and southern New York region as well as the Ohioan region and they had more in common culturally than they ever expected.

[fellshish]

a lot of writing is sort of watching the film in your head like oh sorry can’t write the chapter yet i have to repeat hallucinate the dialogue first

[loveridden1999]

if i was a soccer player i'd simply kick that ball in the goal instead of wasting everyone's time

[probuccalfat]

amusing how many united states citizens think that immigrating to another country is as simple as like… wanting to live there and doing it or signing a paper with some processing fee and you’re all set, here’s a passport. it’s really difficult and it can take decades to immigrate to another country or get a firm no. i know people who have children together and they’re stuck in the immigration system. you think you’ll get to move to italy or denmark or whatever because your great great grandmother was born there? genuinely get the fuck outta here, don’t be silly

[xoxominks]

"Rhéaume" by Richard Harrison, 1994.

Manon Rhéaume is the first woman to have played in the National Hockey League. In 1992, she signed a contract with the Tampa Bay Lightning and played in two pre-season games: one against the St. Louis Blues and one against the Boston Bruins.