How long is too long to stay in a relationship?
So I’m going to do something a little bit different, and share some personal information about my relationship online. Feedback is welcome, of course!
So to start out with, I have been with my current BF for five years now. Six months ago, we got into a pretty heated fight/discussion which ended up with him telling me he doesn’t want to get married or have kids.
Why? He said he doesn’t want the commitment.
When we first started dating, I knew who he was. He wasn’t the kind of guy who was going to shower me with gifts... I didn’t need that. I don’t believe in material gifts to make someone happy. I knew he didn’t like to travel, that he was a homebody, that he didn’t like to go out and do things... and that didn’t bother me until now.
Now, I’m starting to feel kind of suffocated. Every time I ask him if he wants to go out... he won’t. His answer is, he doesn’t feel like going out. I sometimes work weird hours, so the days we do get to spend together, he ends up sleeping. We can got days without talking. Days without even sharing a kiss... and it seems as if he’s comfortable... and I guess I’m just wondering if this is normal?
Our “fight” started six months ago, because he never goes to any of my family functions. If there’s a birthday part, I’m going alone. If I’m going to dinner with my parents, I’m going alone, and what I told him was, that I don’t expect you to go with me to every dinner or family function, but it would be nice to go with me every once in a while. Shortly afterward, I texted him, telling him he needed to figure out what he wanted, because I want to get married, I want to have kids, and when we talked, he told me that if that’s what I’m looking for, I need to go find it. I’ve given him time to think about it, I thought that was for the best, and now, I’m starting to get things in order for the potential of me being on my own for the first time in five years.
I’m wondering if anyone has any advice? Any similar situations? I would love to hear them!
