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[marshemillow]

still cant beleive some antis are in their 30s and even 40s. that's waaaaaayyy past tantrum age.

One hard lesson I've had to learn over the years is that there's no age limit to tribalism and reinforcing cultlike cycles of shame and fear.

Insecurity is a well-known fallacy of childhood thinking and inexperience, but if you're infantilized enough by groups who want to control you even to the point of thinking for you, you will end up seeming childish even when you're old enough to know better, and that's the tragedy of high-control groups; It's an abusive relationship where previous victims become new abusers.

Christopher Hitchens famously said, "Religion makes kind people do unkind things, and it makes smart people say stupid things." Obviously, I don't think this applies to all religion, but it DEFINITELY applies to all cults, and not all cults are religious, even if they're informed by religious thinking, like the antishipping cult.

This is why critical thinking is so critical; Childhood indoctrination is a type of grooming, as grooming is a precursor to abuse that prepares a person to accept abuse. If you teach a child critical thinking skills, you can persuade them to believe whatever you can substantiate with evidence, but if you terrorize children with shame and fear, rewarding their submission and punishing their dissent, then you can make them believe whatever you want them to believe. There's no limit to the cruelty of childhood indoctrination.

The antidote to this abuse of power is real and proper education, which is why the right is so against it; It would compromise their power if everyone else was informed and united.

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." —Fredrick Niechzte

[problematic-faves-appreciation]

Does anyone else take issue with certain people saying "this sends a bad message" with regard to media criticism?

I saw someone say something along the lines of "How can the good guys trust this character again after everything they did to them — especially while knowing the kind of power they possess? That sends a bad message."

It's such a didactic-leaning take, which fearmongers about people (usually women and children) "getting the wrong idea and making bad decisions" as a direct result of the story not showing every single danger associated with trusting a reformed criminal or whatever.

People aren't passive sponges who accept everything they see on TV, guys.

[saint-starflicker]

Sometimes a term in literary analysis, film theory, or psychology breaches containment into the general population and then “death of the author” and “male gaze” and “executive dysfunction” gets bandied about in a way that it becomes noise without meaning. A media “message” is another one of those things.

[ Thoman, Elizabeth and Tessa Jolls. Literacy for the 21st Century. CML Center for Media Literacy, Encino Los Angeles: 2008. (previously incorporated in 1989 as the Center for Media and Values) via Zoe Bee ]

Instead of saying “I don't like how this theme or character arc was handled” and then to describe personal reasons for it or leave it at that...it’s tempting to sound more legitimate and puffed-up in importance by claiming “but others will see that represented and then they're going to think—” And then it's not a personal preference, or a disparagement of how everyone else is susceptible to propaganda, but a civic duty.

I personally do find it interesting to examine something like gendered power dynamics in tropes so common that they overwhelm the media landscape, or in-world things that should realistically have dire financial/legal/social consequences that get handwaved for the plot, or the clichés related to race and disability—but “other audience members will see that and think” just sounds condescending and wrong. The representation emerged from the cultural climate that usually deserves more criticism than an individual artistic work.

[cheacegirl]

The average straight monogamous person will expect their partner to never talk to half the world population ever again out of jealousy then turn around and genuinely ask you to specify "ethical polyamory" because otherwise they can't help but assume the worst

[cheacegirl]

Happy pride to the post that turns the average Tumblr user into a pearl clutching conservative

[cbk1000]

As a society, we need to go back to understanding that strangers on the internet are, you know, strangers. I feel lately that I'm seeing a rise in 'An author I love blocked me because they took my comment the wrong way' posts on the ao3 subreddit, and then the comment is them calling the author a fucking bitch or something like that.

Don't do this. Tone doesn't translate well in text, and if you don't have a rapport with that author, they are not going to interpret, 'You're a fucking bitch' as, 'Author I hate you for being so talented and making me feel so keenly.' They're going to interpret it as you being an asshole. You can shit talk with your friends because you have an established relationship with them and can distinguish between playful banter and genuine anger. You do not have this with a stranger, no matter how much you like their fics. You will have a much more pleasant time in fandom and not get cockblocked from interacting with your favorite writers if you remember this.

[mama-qwerty]

Also keep in mind that you don't know if the author is familiar with slang or the meaning of net speak terminology. That can sometimes move really fast, and some term that you think "everyone" knows may be completely new to the author. (And the author may also not be from where you are, so that could be a wall between understanding, too.)

Generally speaking, when you're talking to someone you do not know (and no, just because you follow someone on socials or read their fics, you don't know them) you use language that is clear and easy to understand. "I love this, it really made me feel for MC" is much more clear than "I HATE YOU HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME???"

Be polite. Be clear. Be friendly. Take a moment and think if you'd tell some stranger on a bus whatever it is you're about to send in a comment. If you couldn't say it to a stranger in real life, then don't say it to a stranger on the internet. It's really not that hard.

Not everyone's your friend, not everyone understands your 'playful' insults. Err on the side of caution, and just say it clearly.

[camifornilla]

It’s crazy that I looked away for like 10 seconds and all of a sudden huge chunks of people hate Lore Olympus.

“It’s not mythologically accurate” ya think? lol. Modern interpretations of mythos are hardly ever ‘accurate’ (tho how accurate can you be when the original story tellers have been dead for over 2000 years). “The age gap is egregious” and we’re suddenly against May-December romances? Have they stopped making YA Vampire boyfriends? “The art is samey” weekly comics tend to do that.

It’s Really Not That Bad. In fact, I think it does a really good job of doing what it was intended to do. Some of yall need to chill.

Anyway, read Lore Olympus (or don’t, I can’t make you)

[insertclevermonikerhere]

Might be showing my age here, but…

Don’t like, don’t read

Pretty simple

[kyri45]

Pride Sticker Collection by @Kyri45

Here’s my absolute best-seller coming back ONLY for the month of June!!

[mwokozi369]

I’ve seen a resurgence of people calling out Lily Orchard’s horrid videos regarding Steven Universe and I remember her going after the storyboarding for Steven Universe. I don’t know if the video I linked shows official storyboard material but to be fair storyboards tend to just be rough sketches that give a layout of a scene. Look at storyboards of Disney shows like Tangled and you’ll see just how storyboards work and how Lily Orchard shows a complete lack of understanding regarding storyboards.

Character sheets are important. Animators don’t just use storyboards to get everything down. Storyboards do vary greatly in quality but it’s just rough sketches that help things up and give an idea about what is going to happen but they aren’t set in stone.

Think of a storyboards as a skeleton and although it gives a rough idea of what something will look like you won’t know what it looks like until the very end. The character reference sheets are used to tell the animators what the character looks like. If you look that the Centaurworld storyboard the scaling is off but they have character sheets. Also sometimes scenes change from storyboard to final product. A lot of people just like to pull things out of their butts to hate on Steven Universe and like to criticize the show for an aspect that is an industry standard. If you have a problem with this then I hate to break it to you but this is how the animation industry works.

[genderqueerpositivity]

Minnesota’s Giant Rainbow and Leather Pride Flags

June 28, 1998. Both flags measured approximately 50 feet wide and 75 feet long.

[ryuutchi]

Friendly reminder that the leather flag predates almost every other flag. We owe this community to leather daddies and kinksters

[nightmarechamillian]

In the era of corporate sanitization never forget it was leather daddies and S&M folks who protected some of the earliest pride parades.

[vaspider]

“Almost every other flag” is not an exaggeration. There is literally only one Pride flag older than the Leather Pride flag, and that’s the original 8-stripe (and then 6-stripe) rainbow flag.

A quick timeline:

1978: Gilbert Baker (z’‘l) creates the 8-stripe Rainbow pride flag.

1979: For production reasons, the flag is reduced to the 6-stripe version most people know.

1989: Leather Pride flag created by Tony DeBlase & presented at the International Mr. Leather event on 5/28/89.

1995: International Bear Brotherhood Flag designed by Craig Byrnes. Introduced at the Chesapeake Bay “Bears of Summer” events in July 1995.

1995: Red/black/blue polyamory flag with yellow pi symbol debuted by Jim Evans.

1998: Bi Pride flag created by Michael Page. He introduces it at BiCafe’s first anniversary party on 12/5/98.

1999: Monica Helms creates the Transgender Pride flag. She debuts it the next year at a Pride parade in Arizona.

2010: AVEN creates a flag to represent the organization. It is later used as the ace pride flag for the community as a whole.

2010: Jasper V. creates the pan pride flag. This Pride flag debuted on Tumblr!

2011: Marilyn Roxie designs the genderqueer flag.

2012: JJ Poole debuts the Genderfluid flag.

2013: The Intersex Pride flag is created by Morgan Carpenter of Intersex Human Rights Australia.

2014: Kye Rowan introduces their creation, the non-binary flag.

And on from there.

So it’s pretty clear that the Leather flag has been an accepted symbol within the queer community for years - and in some cases decades - before more recently-designed flags. This isn’t a case of the flag being “better” or whatever, but it’s kind of undeniable that yes - the Leather community and the queer community have always been undeniably entangled.

[fierceawakening]

The attempts the community is making to distance itself from leatherfolk continue to REALLY bother me.

“Leatherfolk do not belong at Pride” boggles my mind every time I see it. We’ve been here from the beginning!

[curiositysavesthecat]

Do you think it's weird and/or predatory for a 13 year-old and a 30 year-old to be best friends if they're not family members or related by blood? Assuming everything is innocent and platonic. Nothing romantic or sexual.

Yes, it's weird and predatory

It's weird. But not predatory

It's predatory. But not weird

No, it's not weird or predatory

Remaining time: 2 days 10 hours

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[creelson]

unpopular opinion but I don't think there's anything weird or predatory about an innocent friendship

[dianxiacantastemolecules]

The question is why the fuck is a thirty year old hanging out with a 13 year old if not in their family?? The only other relation that could have them interact is through teacher/student and bring friends like that would be weird as fuck

[creelson]

found family? the kid not feeling safe in their house? the adult wanting to help? family / teacher / school isn't always a guaranteed safe place. should the kid and adult each have friends that are their own age too? sure. but if their friendship is genuinely innocent then I think the problem isn't them but people who project their weird and predatory thoughts onto them

[the-bar-sinister]

Don't forget shared hobbies?

A 13 year old and a 30 year old could reasonably meet at a tabletop gaming store, a fiber arts group, a book club....

[audacityinblack]

They could literally just be neighbors. This whole isolationist thing of never even talking to the people you live closest to is new and weird.

[mstrickynici]

The thing that makes it weird is the "best" friend. If it's just friends ok, but best friends requires some form of equality.

Like theres no question the kid could go to the adult with their problems or if they need help, but you can't expect a kid to deal with an adults problems and/or be their emotional support.

Being best friends doesn't just involve having fun together, its helping each other as well.

[decemberwinter]

I mean my best friend is literally my cat so

imo "best friend" isn't necessarily always about someone you can reply on emotionally or someone you must share your experience or your trauma with. if you have a good time and are comfortable with their presence then you can consider them your best friend. that's why I voted not weird or predatory.

it would be weird if the adult started trauma dumping on the kid. but this poll didn't say anything about that so the best friend part alone is still not weird or predatory

[estrogirlie]

call-out post for my 5 year old cousin:

i just caught her “playing pretend” with her hot wheels and simulating high speed car crashes. not only is this disrespectful to people who have died or been injured in a car crash, but it also likely indicates that she will go on to intentionally cause car crashes in the future. please everyone reach out to her friends, extended family, and possible future employers to let them know she’s an irredeemable monster and is contributing to real world harm!

[proship-shuujuu]

You can ship every character ever, actually.

Yes, even an asexual character.

Yes, even an aromantic character.

Yes, even an underage character.

Yes, even a nonhuman character.

Yes, even a character in a canon relationship.

Yes, even a character uninterested in dating.

Yes, even a canonically dead character.

Yes, even an "evil" character.

You can ship every character ever, there are no exceptions. If you don't like that — scroll and block the people who do! Or, if you can't manage the very simple act of blocking/scrolling, just gracefully stop participating in fandom spaces.

[replicated]

i'm not really into blondes but this is an objectively absurd connection to make

[not100bees]

In order to be properly non-pedophilic you have to want to fuck somebody old but not with gray or white hair because that's too close to blonde which as we've established is the hair color of children. So ideally somebody old as fuck but bald. And obviously wanting to have sex with a man is misogynistic so it has to be a woman. And it can't be a white woman because that would be racist and it can't be a woman of color because that would be fetishistic, so ideally a woman with some unnatural skin color, oh let's say, purple. But it can't be an alien, because we don't know anything about alien life cycles so it could be an alien child or an alien that looks like a child. So it has to be an animal from Earth, but obviously one of human level intelligence that can communicate is otherwise that would be bestiality. So an old purple female animal that can speak English. I think the only creature you can be hot for is the Ant Queen from A Bug's Life.

[kholdseid]

[marshemillow]

HOW THE FUCK IS THIS BATSHIT DISCOURSE STILL INBREEDING!?!?!?

[noob-handler]

Something about Tumblr specifically makes people go feral in ways that other sites don't. The constant moral grandstanding, nonstop circlejerking, black-and-white morality, a general ouroboros of purity, blatant normalized bigotry (such as hate towards aspecs, polyam folks, and transmascs)....even posts I would otherwise agree with have this whole holier-than-thou mentality where they go "oh if you do X you're pure evil and should be violently executed. "

At least I block liberally on here.

[boringkate]

You listen to music regularly? Why? Have you even tried quitting? Could you quit? You get music stuck in your head? Wow. You're so ruined and music brained. I bet you make your partners listen to music with you when you have sex. Music addiction has really ruined a whole generation. You know it's not realistic to expect reverb in real life, right? You're probably so desensitized that you don't even feel anything anymore when you hear a bird singing that it wants some fuck.

[paradigm-adrift]

I don't have a problem with people listening to music per se, but I do have a problem with the music industry exploiting & mistreating artists.

Personally, I abstain from all music in order to keep my hands clean but really music should just be illegal outright to protect musicians from abuse.

[terramythos]

holy shit this person in the notes

[changeling-spoonie-selfship]

LMFAOOOOO

[marshemillow]

If anyone is curious about why I've started signing off my posts with, "I hate every single one of you..."

[wizardarchetypes]

so annoying that in 2026 mono queer people will still try to justify hating polyamorous people on poly-positive posts by randomly bringing up how badly they were abused and traumatized by a poly ex. which is genuinely awful so not to sound callous but when i’m like ‘stop hating on poly people for no reason’ and ten people are like ‘uh my poly ex abused me!’ i’m like okay. good point. i forgot that monogamous relationships are inherently and historically safe and free of abuse. can you imagine if domestic abuse happened in monogamous relationships? that would be so scary…

[statisticalcats2]

You're not "pro-kink" if you're against some of literally THE most popular kinks and support the increasing censorship and banning of them in online spaces.