WARNING FOR APHOBIA AND HOMOPHOBIC RHETORIC!
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Aphobic comments and the reasons they don't make sense:
'Nobody cares that you don't have sex, you aren't actually an orientation!'
Asexuality is not a rejection of sex. It is a lack of sexual attraction.
Claiming that aces shouldn't disclose being asexual is kind of like recycling 'don't ask, don't tell'.
'Romance without sexual attraction is just friendship!'
This straight up is ableism as it infers disabled people who can not physically have sex, people who have suffered mutilation, people with hormone issues/lack sex drive as they age etc… can not be in love with someone.
Sex is not required for romantic love.
'People aren't actually attracted to strangers, everyone gets to know someone first!'(this is used against grey-aces and demisexuals)
So people can feel romance without sexual attraction?
Either romance exists outside of sex or it doesn't. Pick one.
Hm if this is true then are romance movies lying? Cause I am pretty sure every couple in every film shows sexual interest before even saying hello.
Anyone who says this is either a demisexual and doesn't know it or is lying.
'Aces are cishet infiltrators!'
Stop calling an entire marginalized group cishet when less than 20% of aces are cisgender heteroromantic. It's called research!
Ah yes because 'het passing' is such a privelege. I totally want every person I meet to assume I am a hetrosexual. It's not like being ace is part of who I am.
'The SAM is an evil homophobic invention!'
The SAM was designed to help aces and aros. It was meant for them to differentiate that not all asexuals are aromantic and that aros could still be sexually attracted to people.
'Aces hate sex and attack everyone who enjoys sex!'
No we don't. We respect sex and sexual agency.
If an Ace has been aggressive about being anti-sex then they probably have some issues. Remember never judge a demographic on the few bad eggs.
This world is drowning in sexual content, subtext, and inuendos. An Ace commenting about how exhausting sex culture is, is not an attack.
'It's all misogyny, there's no such thing as aphobia!'
So men who get bullied for not partaking in sex are victims of misogyny? What about gay aces?
So being attacked for creating an ace/aro pride post is under the assumption a woman made it? (Because if that's the case then you aphobes are literally outing yourselves as misogynists.)
'Sex without romance is abuse!' (Against aromantics)
So what the hell are friends with benefits and one night stands?
Apps like tinder exist for a reason, stop trying to deny sex culture so you invalidate people you hate.
'Romantic attraction doesn't exist!'
This one is so laughable, so humans fall in love with every person they are sexually attracted to? Because that's what this statement implies.
'You just hate everyone you narcissist!'
Narcissism requires a medical diagnoses.
'Get your hormones checked!'
Hormones aren't the cause. Most aces don't see any issue with not feeling sexual attraction.
Stop pathologizing everyone. Society still considers homosexuality to be a medical condition requiring 'a cure' in many parts of the world. Also this is ableist as it creates an extremely narrow measurement for 'normal' humans.
'Love and Sex go together and you can't have one without the other!'
I already addressed this kind of thinking above.
Again just invalidate a number of people with any number of varied relationships I guess.
Wow did you come up with that all by yourself? Are you a 5th grader?
Ah yes because calling people ugly isn't the most childish thing a grown adult can say to someone.
'Stop glorifying being a virgin/incel/loser!'
Stop sending mixed signals about virginity. Either it's seen as a pure, good thing, or it is seen as childish. And both are wrong.
Incels are known for rampant misogyny and fetishizing fictional women, especially in gaming/anime/comics. And often to the point they have lost any understanding of real women.
Loser is an insult for 10 yr olds. Grow up and find a better argument.
'You just suffer from internalized homophobia and would rather pretend you can't feel love!'
Sure, that's it… for the record I am a biromantic asexual.
From my experiences most people with internalized homophobia tend to vehemently claim they are cishet.
Also labels can change, people experiment with sexuality.
Feel free to add more ridiculous aphobic rhetoric and why it doesn't make sense!
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