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I'm so glad media like Heated Rivarly exists for people who enjoy having fun. Personally, I hate fun so this show is not for me. If a movie or tv show leaves me happy it's simply not for me. In fact, it should make me feel worse than I did before watching it.

mrsdewinter

ok for fans of # alison rumfitt there is going to be something that is sort of an annoucement soon. it maybe involves a new book. there is a kayfabe element to all of this.

i am in the process of redrafting Hyenas i said i would do this in 2 months but i think i can do it in 1 month. we shall see

EDIT; the announcement is seperate to Hyenas

#eden book society maybe?

closet-keys

I think all my hopes and fears about medical transition can be summed up as

hopes: how I'll feel fears: how I'll be treated

starbuck

i say i like tragedies and everyone’s all like ‘why do you like sad stories? are you depressed?’ and never ‘how was the catharsis? was the catharsis fun?’

penny-anna

Whenever an artist who makes dark content gets outed as a sexual predator people will be like 'aha it was obvious something was up because their work was so dark and nasty' and whenever an artist who makes wholesome content gets outed as a sexual predator people will be like 'aha it was obvious something was up because their work was so aggressively wholesome' and it's like you know I think maybe you can't tell whether or not someone is a predator based on their artistic output.

thelightfluxtastic

I have a research background in weight stigma and I currently work in mental health, often with LGBTQ+ clients.

I've met nonbinary people who struggle with disordered eating because they only ever see androgyny depicted as featureless thinness.

I've met trans women who struggle with disordered eating because they've internalized the idea that girls are meant to be thin, dainty, and delicate.

I've men trans men who struggle with disordered eating, because they feel women are allowed to be soft/curvy but men need to be muscular or thin and flat.

So many trans people are convinced that weight loss is the key to appearing as their desired gender, even when they want radically different gender presentations.

The societal idealization of thinness and fatphobia falsely invades and derails people's idea of what their "ideal body" should look like.

thisisthinprivilege

The social effects of privileging thinness are so damaging. Like, it's hard enough to deviate from expected gender roles and binary sexuality but now fat people have to do it on hard mode

aevios

Having ADHD is so fun because sometimes youre looking for something that you use regularly and definitely put away in a smart and reasonable place and you have absolutely 0 hope of remembering where and finding it. And then other times ur like "hmm I need a some kind of small pointed object. I feel like i remember seeing a paperclip under the left couch cushion a month ago, i wonder if its still there" and it is

aevios

"wait but if u saw the paperclip why would u just leave it there?" its the adhd. Also if i had put it away then i wouldnt have been able to find it a month later when i needed it. So. Checkmate neurotypicals.

closet-keys

honestly, if I could go back in time and give my closeted self advice, closeted me would absolutely hate to hear it but I’d say, just do the thing you want to do. It doesn’t have to mean anything unless you want it to, so getting caught up in the meaning isn’t going to help you decide whether to do the thing or not. So just do it. Date women. Start HRT. stop waiting for a verifiable psychological or identity based reason and just do what you want.

closet-keys

the thing with transmisogyny is that it really is based in assignment (a legal structure) rather than specific traits of the body— the focus on the body is a rhetorical decoy.

I have no uterus and I have a testosterone dominant system right now, and I still occasionally get TERFs reblogging my shit. I’m sure that will be true even when I have no breasts or vagina either. Even if I don’t have any of the traits they go on about as the supposed basis of sexed based oppression, they will view me as potential recruit because of my legal assignment.

Similarly, as much as they will obsess over various physical traits that they associate with trans womanhood, the traits themselves are never the actual reason. And you can tell because they will engage in the same demeaning sexual harassment to trans women with extremely diverse bodily traits. A trans woman’s actual individual body is vulnerable to abuse but the target on her is structural, not individual.

Transmisogynists go on and on about bodies, especially areas of the body that are private or provoke common insecurities, because they are engaging in sexual harassment and/or sexual abuse.

It’s the exact same dynamic as an abusive husband talking about how “smelly” his wife’s vagina is in front of friends— the point is to publicly demean and humiliate. The more sexualized and objectifying the comment, the more she’s supposed to understand that her body is owned by him, her social circle is owned by him, her life is under his control.

That is the function of transmisogynists talking about “genital preferences” or “not wanting to be around penises” or “open wounds” or whatever the fuck. It is sexual harassment.

The harassment is a social act of flexing and flaunting their already existing structural power.

This is why if you were assigned female at birth, no matter what your body looks like, even if you are mistaken for a trans woman and experience sexual harassment on that basis, you are not going to be a fully transfeminized subject.

The harassment is to reify a material structure, it is not for its own sake.

If you’re TME you will be TME forever. The goal is not to shed this status but to structurally dismantle transmisogyny (and I’m talking literally, not symbolically) so that no one is subject to it.

We probably cannot do this within a single lifetime, but we can do work that will position the next generation in a better place when they pick up the fight. No one is a bystander in this.

closet-keys

honestly the more I read & live in this world the more I’ve come to the earnest understanding that the expectation of “natural” femininity from women often translates into even visibly feminine women who do not sufficiently hide the labor and money that goes into femininity* being essentially treated as gender nonconforming.

like take the expectation of shaving for example. The construct of “natural” femininity is that you’re supposed to shave certain areas (and “naturally” not have hair in other areas).

if you silently shave these areas, there are zero questions about why you’re doing it, and you’re never expected to have a political reason for it.

however if you do not shave, or others are aware that you spent a significant amount of money on laser hair removal, then that suddenly becomes something you need to politically justify.

Both of these options are gender nonconforming in as much as they make the labor/time/money required for supposedly “natural” femininity too obvious. You’re rewarded for hiding it, and if you draw attention to it you’re doing something “political” (whereas the expected default is framed as apolitical).

(*not exclusive to femininity btw— effort, time, and money also goes into masculinity and all other gendered behavior to various degrees)

scientia-rex

Me: Exercise does not cause weight loss. This is a fact that has been demonstrated so robustly in research that even doctors, who hate and fear evidence, are grudgingly starting to admit this.

Someone reading that post: Cool, but have you considered that exercise leads to weight loss?

Me: I am going to eat you

scientia-rex

lololol "does too"

does it? not for women after childbirth

does it? not if you want to see an effect size of greater than 1 kilo (2.2lbs)

does it? not if you'd like to see a maintained loss greater than 3.3% of your body weight

does it? not for people with type 2 diabetes

does it? not for people exercising for their non-alcoholic fatty liver disease

Interactive computer-based reminders to diet and exercise are useless.

I mean, I literally went to Cochrane Reviews, one of the best-respected sources for massive meta-analyses, and I just input the keywords "weight loss" and "exercise," and I'm tooling through the results. Every one of the damn things shows that we do not have high-quality research indicating that exercise leads to weight loss. So no. I'm right, and you need to adjust your worldview--ask yourself, if not for weight loss, then why? Re-read those sources: exercise improved muscle density, insulin sensitivity, and cholesterol. It's good for your blood vessels, it's good for your strength, it's good for your brain.

But it won't make you thin. Maybe two pounds, maybe five, but that's about it. If you're looking at short-term, like a year, sure, you can lose weight--but the effort will almost always result in your body going "oh shit, we're living in a famine" and you will regain it, and now, with your body at a new set-point, losing it will be harder. Regaining will be easier. Welcome to the life-destroying yo-yo.

scientia-rex

#then what the fuck are we supposed to do?

Exercise and eat lots of fruits and vegetables and whole grains because those things will keep you healthier longer, regardless of how much you weigh, and pick up your pick-axe in the ongoing horribly slow and frustrating fight of chipping away at the idea that being fat is a bad thing that means you’re a bad person. I recommend the book Fat Talk for a good place to start.

spiderbitesandvampirevenom

i feel like people dont really acknowledge or appreciate how much patience transitioning takes

spiderbitesandvampirevenom

like, social transitioning require immense patience with others. countless long, circuitous conversations with family and friends who "dont get it." unwanted stares, confrontations, and sexual harassment from people in public spaces.

and its not just other people you need to have patience with, which sucks! medical transition is one big long-ass waiting game! HRT takes months to even start working (whether you take E or T), and years to really kick into high gear. surgeries have massive waitlists, and prep/recovery can take months.

sweatermuppet

closing statement from an article about being intersex & the possible connection of gender expression and sexuality in intersex individuals, published in The Gay Liberator, 1970s

tiredyke

[ID: a picture of an article that says, “Hopefully gay liberation will continue to raise confusing issues until the world at large becomes so confused and befuddled about sex and gender and all that people can finally stop worrying if "it's a boy or a girl" and get around to being free to be and to love people.” /end ID]

What I see when I read the words "spirit attraction flags"

#the grandmaster of demonic cultivation #mo dao zu shi #the untamed #chen qing ling #wei wuxian

tamascotchi-deactivated20190101

some ppl who grew up with siblings didnt rly Grow Up With Siblings. like if you and your brother are 10 yrs apart u just dont get it… if you had siblings within 3yrs of your age you had the genuine experience of primitive undeveloped human brains pummeling the shit out of each other because none of us have developed frontal cortices and the laws of man don’t apply in the confines of this house

#siblings #family