thank you for asking for clarification: no this is not a joke (and I'm not even sure what it would be satirizing)
this is me expressing frustration about the lack of resources or media involving CSA victims that are targeted AT the kids themselves.
like, even pamphlets or lectures about CSA can use frustratingly vague terminology like "stranger danger" or "bad touch" and a lot don't even mention that it's your parents/family or someone you know and trust who's most likely to take advantage of you. PLUS they are BORING. They're boring lectures where an adult sits you down and talks at you about stuff they don't really wanna say, so they keep pussyfooting around shit and half the time you come away not even really understanding what that was ABOUT.
If it was discussed in a show or something kids could get invested in (a show that isn't just an adult sitting down and talking at them) it would probably lead to a lot more kids realizing the situation they're in !!!! !!!!
I JUST FEEL LIKE. this lack of discussion is more for the adults benefit than the kids. you want to say you warned the kids, but did you REALLY? I learned what COCSA (child on child sexual abuse) was because of a FANFICTION.
Kids are constantly taught that they have no say over of their bodies and aren't allowed to say no to an adult when it comes to ANYTHING. but people don't wanna change that because it means you can't force your kid to do all kinds of shit like, hug their aunt they don't like, and that's just UNACCEPTABLE for some people.
CSA belongs in silly stories for kids because silly kids who like silly stories have been victims of CSA and they deserve to see themselves reflected in their favorite characters. Shows like the owl house can touch on topics like child abuse (Amity, Hunter) and the death of a parent (Luz's dad) but I really can't see any show, even a more serious story based one like that, being given the Okay to even consider the idea that CSA exists.
which is like, what is that saying to your audience?? that if you're a CSA or incest victim then you're existence is so gross that other kids need to be shielded from the fact you EXIST??
I DON'T have examples of CSA survivors in silly or funny kids shows. aside from like, all ages sitcoms that have "Very Special Episodes" where an abused person shows up to teach the main cast a lesson and then is never heard from again. which, as important as those probably were to a lot of people, just aren't good enough for me.
And that's kind of the problem for me!
But I do have examples of it being silly irl! I have examples of laughing about how ridiculous some of my abuse was, how weird it seems in retrospect. I make jokes about myself or my characters having "molested kid swag" because i think it's genuinely really funny and it makes me feel better to know that what happened isn't too horrible to joke about. it's not worse than the deaths or tragedies other people joke about. it's only serious if and when i want it to be and otherwise it doesn't have to hang around my neck like a weight.
when I was 9 I remember thinking that it was kind of surreal that i finally had a secret I would take the grave. because I'd always wanted to find someone to share EVERYTHING about myself with. A best friend, a partner, someone, ANYONE. But the shame was overwhelming at the time. i genuinely thought I'd never tell anyone and just die with no one knowing.
if I'd had a cartoon or book series or SOMETHING that had a character who was a victim of incest, but the story wasn't ABOUT that? if that was just a thing that happened to them, and sure it hurts sometimes, but they're mostly here to STUDY MAGIC or SAVE THE DAY or something. Gold star shit. woulda changed my life i guarantee.
I didn't even KNOW I was a victim of incest because there's no nuance about the way the subject is portrayed. it's always adults taking advantage of their kids, it's always violent and graphic and there's blood and in my head that just didn't match up to my experiences at all.
i didn't even know sexual abuse counted if it was OTHER KIDS who did it! I didn't know any of that shit and I only found out because a fanfic tipped me off and I started looking into it more.
ok this response has gotten pretty long. sorry GUH, i'm passionate about this subject but like, in the frustrated kind of way that makes you go on rants.
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