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[ikemoths]

A very famous moth, the African death's head hawkmoth :) Named after the skull shape on their back, though honestly i dont care about the skull, i care about the fact that they can SQUEEK!!!

I LOVE THEM SO MUCH

[19thcenturyfuck]

not to post even more Villains Discourse on main but it really bugs me how people read giving villains tragic backstories as inherently excusing their actions and/or demonizing trauma survivors.

the actual message of Tragic Villains is (almost) always “people who are never taught or given any healthy, constructive outlets for their emotions will often find unhealthy, destructive outlets.” it’s that people who are traumatized and never learn how to cope with that trauma can become a danger to themselves and others. the message isn’t “trauma makes you evil!!!!” or “genocide is okay if you’ve been sad before!!!!” it’s “people need compassion and help to recover from trauma instead of becoming increasingly angry and harming themselves and others in the process.”

this site takes an alarmingly behaviorist and punitive approach to everything and it’s literally the most annoying thing. y’all have this concept that “if we just punish people hard enough, if we just scare them enough, if we just make them feel guilty enough.” that people just Do Bad Things Because They Do Bad Things, I Guess, and Because We Didn’t Threaten Them And Shame Them Enough. but humans are an innately social species. at our very core, we need compassion and kindness. we need healthy relationships with other humans.

you can keep looking at traumatized villains and being like “haha this dumb pathetic sadboi thinks murder is okay because his parents died” but as a survivor myself, unaddressed/untreated trauma absolutely can make you ragey and destructive. i was lucky enough to have support and eventually get the treatment i needed. but it’s not hard at all for me to imagine how, if that hadn’t been the case, that could’ve been me. obviously not on a movie-villain scale like murder or war crimes, but it’s so irritating as someone whose trauma has always manifested as anger to watch people on this site be like “this is just bad writing!!! real survivors/good survivors don’t end up like that the writers just hate survivors and want the audience to condone murder!”

[sheathandshear]

[replicariku]

[raedmagdon]

You’ve got to understand that this was 2014. I’ve seen some younger lesbian, bi, and queer folks today going, “So what? They held hands. They didn’t even kiss.” Or people watching it for the first time, saying, “I don’t see what the big deal is. There wasn’t any build-up!” 

But the landscape of children’s TV was very different six years ago. Like, that moment when they looked into each other’s eyes in a beam of golden light was revolutionary. I was living in a house with other queer people and we ALL screamed and cried, just like this.

Korrasami paved the way for Steven Universe and She-Ra to do what they did in the following years. And, yes, those were leaps forward whereas this was a step. But I saw it on another post, and I’ll echo the sentiment: Korrasami walked so Catradora could sprint.

[korra-comics]

Same-sex marriage wasn’t legal in the US in 2014.

Not until 2016. Before that, the marriage was only recognized in a few states.

It might not seem like much now, but HOLY FUCK this moment in the finale was huge in 2014.

[mentalisttraceur-long]

The first norm-penetrating precedent rarely looks like some great achievement or change. It looks like a small violation of an established norm, radical only in how public it is. Sometimes you use tameness to buy the publicity needed to make progress.

[prismatic-bell]

Yo. I was born in 1988.

My canon queer couple?

WAS TRANSLATED INTO ENGLISH AS COUSINS.

Cloverway gave one of them an offscreen boyfriend and, any time an uncuttable kissy scene came up, they started calling each other “cuz.” Another queer couple from the same show suffered the fate of being heterocized by one of them literally being genderswapped.

(Guess who became the girl. Go on, guess. At least it’s not as bad as France, where they became … brothers.)

That was my mainstream queer rep.

Oh. Until this came out.

… . yeah.

I’m not even in Avatar fandom and when those first gifs popped up on my dash, I started crying. I was 24 years old and crying over a show I had never watched because a pair of women held hands.

You can’t possibly understand what it was like before that.

You don’t want to understand what it was like before that.

I don’t want you to understand what it was like before that.

But there’s a reason we reacted like this.

I pray you never have cause to learn it yourselves.

[sonneillonv-deactivated20220218]

I do actually want y'all to know and understand what it was like before that because some of the hot takes coming out of younger community members make it staggeringly obvious you know nothing about our history.

Like, I don’t want you to experience it, but I really am going to need y'all to move into Formal Operational Cognitive Development and start considering that yours isn’t the only perspective and that things have changed drastically for queer people WITHIN MY LIFETIME and I am a relatively young queer who was born AFTER like ¾ of our population died of AIDS and we lost nearly an entire generation along with all their history.

[30knight]

A comic about the spectrum of responses to stress - we talk alot about the more extreme ends of this and trauma, but the more subtle and every day responses can be harder to spot. if we can understand our own and other’s responses better, problems Are easier to confront and blaming is less likely to happen :) hope it’s helpful!!

[obsidian-fragments]

blood, it falling down my arm into the floor, making little spots i will have to clean later, no one can know, just patch yourself up, hide the bloody kleenex in a bag and let the ants find them, let the trail be a constant remainder as well as the pain that you are not brave enough to just make a decision

you are a burden and those ghosts will constantly haunt you, wherever you go, whomever tries to help you will just see themselves afected by your lies and constant chaos

[two-thirtyy]

Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Look buddy, i’m just trying to make it to Friday.

[taykoutmccleod]

reblog if its friday and you made it

[nuggsmum]

[obsidian-fragments]

Not dead, but wish i were

[aspiringwarriorlibrarian]

Password sharing is not piracy any more than loaning your friend a DVD or watching a movie with your family is piracy. The service is already paid for. Execs just consider sharing to be eeeevil because they can’t exploit every individual person. 

[funhomo]

if they tried to invent libraries today it would get shut down

[timemachinetyrant-deactivated20]

and the fun in executive dysfunction *dabs*

[greensea-iza]

“Well what do your dads say when you cry?” 
“They say it’s okay to cry and that I shouldn’t feel bad about feeling bad.”

[whitepeopletwitter]

[sindri42]

So I looked this up and the whole story is wild.

Basically, market research for japanese bakeries determined that a) they sell more breads and pastries the more different varieties they have, and b) japanese bakery customers prefer items which are not wrapped, because individually wrapped things give the impression of being like, preserved or something instead of fresh and good I guess? So the obvious solution is to sell as many different kinds of unwrapped breads and pastries as you can.

But! In actual practice, that’s a nightmare. No packaging means no barcodes to scan, so the cashier needs to know all like 200 different (often very similar) items by heart and add them up manually, which means training new employees is a slow and painful process and customer service in general suffers badly. And having a person handle all those un-packaged foodstuffs to count them or examine them, in addition to being slow and clumsy, is unsanitary as fuck.

So one bakery chain owner approached this computer guy in 2007 asking for a system to automate the checkout process. It took five years and the company barely survived a financial crisis in the middle, but long story short they developed a highly specialized AI that will look at the pile of bread a customer picked out and automatically identify everything, tally it up, and charge them correctly, while the live cashier is free to make small talk or help people out or whatever. The whole process is simple, fast, sanitary, and pleasant for customers and employees alike, and to an outsider it looks like fucking magical bullshit.

But then in 2017 a doctor saw an ad for this bakery scanning system and it occurred to him that cells under a microscope don’t look all that different from weird loaves of bread. And it turns out that yeah, you can use almost all of the same code to analyze a tissue sample and pick out any potentially cancerous cells in it. Other people have started buying the same program for everything from analyzing the readout from big physics experiments to labeling charms and amulets for sale at shrines to detecting problems in the wiring on jet engines.

[senritsu]

I hate the whole backlash like ‘you say touch starved but you actually just mean horny’ NO I mean when I was getting my hair cut there was a moment where the hairdresser tilted my head to the side and the top of my head brushed his chest and my brain short circuited with endorphins because it thought I was being held

[evilphrog]

Because casual, platonic affection is so taboo in our society that whenever anyone wants to hold a friend’s hand or snuggle on the couch, it is automatically assumed they must be after sex.  This is especially true if the person in question was socialized as a man. 

[greenreticule]

relating all physical affection to sex really messes with people’s need for physical contact with others. it teaches us to isolate ourselves and deny ourselves critical interactions lest we be mistaken for pursuing sex. this is really isolating for people who are sex-indifferent, sex-repulsed, or asexual, but it affects everyone.

[clownburnout]

As someone who grew up mostly isolated and neglected as a child, this 100% contributed to a lot of problems I had as a young adult. I’m nearing 30 and I’m only just now realizing that I don’t have to openly offer sex to my partners/friends in order to receive physical affection. I find myself begging to be touched and when I’m denied I have to physically stop myself from offering sex in order to feel loved. It’s horrific.

[30-minute-memes]

I see his robot as an absolute win

[katsdom]

OK - a very tangential takeoff: Engineering prof assigns students this question: Explain how to determine the height of a very tall building using a barometer.

Obviously meant to use change in barometric pressure with altitude. But one student submitted the following:

There are several ways of doing this

1. On a sunny day, stand the barometer up in the sun, measure the length of its shadow relative to its height, then measure the length of the building’s shadow and calculate its height from that.

2. Go into the stairwell and climb the stairs to the top, marking off the length of the barometer on the wall, giving you the height of the building in “barometer units”.

3. Go onto the roof of the building and drop the barometer off the top and time how long it takes to hit the ground, then calculate the height using the well known formula of 32 ft./sec./sec.

4. Go into the office of the building superintendent and say “If you tell me how tall this building is, I will give you this nice barometer”.

[ablednt]

Hey dissociative friends! This may not be the case for everyone but be careful when taking stimulants such as coffee/caffeine, alcohol, or recreational drugs as they can trigger dissociative episodes!

[ladydrace]

Has anyone else noticed how, when you have a chronic condition of some kind, that there’s always the basic assumption from people around you that you’re not already doing everything you can?

[squidsqueen]

It’s all about the illusion of control. People who are healthy like to believe they can always keep being healthy if they do the right things. They don’t want to think about how good people get struck with terrible circumstances for no reason. So they keep assuming that if they got sick, they could do something to make it better. And if you’re still sick, that must mean you’ve done something wrong or not done enough.

[atalantapendrag]

Nail. Head. The same attitude can be seen in how a lot of people talk about poverty.

[fightingborderline]

I feel like I am not enough and too much at the same time

[dongoverlord]

sometimes I get so jealous of other people’s social skills. like damn. they can talk to people?? and people like them?? look at all those people who like them. wtf. illegal

[genderidentityfraud-deactivated]

IMPORTANT!!! READ AND SPREAD!!!!

I am a singlet but I find this ABSOLUTELY UNACCEPTABLE!!! This post was made by someone on Quotev.com who has given me permission to repost it here! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE reblog, we need to come together in support for all systems!

So this series (screenshot here) is being made. The Crowded Room is a series that has stuff about the first person with DID to be acquitted of a crime. Please do not support this, especially if you were one of the people putting safe or a dot in ur name to prove you support systems. It's time to prove that support. Get very vocally angry about it. Complain as much as you can, write to people involved with the project, stop giving them money. Most importantly, do not watch it. Do NOT even watch it to hate on it, because that is still a sale.  They don't care if you're watching to see how bad it is. They care that you watched it and gave them money. Do not give them money for this or they will continue to make things like this that are extremely dangerous for the DID/OSDD community. Please please be supportive of your friends who are systems now more than ever, especially when the series is released. And please, if you're a singlet, show your support by actively combatting stigma. Spread systems' voices, spread our posts, correct people on their misinfo. More info about the series and why its such a big issue beneath the TW BIG TW for r*pe (a) and su*c*de (i). . . . . .

The series is supposed to be an "inspirational" story about people who struggled and succeeded to deal with mental illness, yet contains a plotline about a (real) rapist with DID. They could have picked any other person with DID to portray, instead of a very real rapist. This is not inspirational, this is not helpful, this is DEADLY. After Split, a film about a murderer with DID (based off the same real person funnily enough), was released, things were absolutely fucking HORRIBLE for systems. They were being thrown out of jobs, out of homes, being harassed online And in real life, and it got to the point where a lot of them started committing suicide from the pressure. Some were murdered. Things like these that make them out to be evil are dangerous, and lives have been lost before and no doubt will be lost again.  Please please please support systems at this time, because their lives are now in danger more than usual.